[image description: two photos of a bouquet of small rolled paper roses in the trans pride colors of pink, white and blue. Then there are two photos of a garland made up of the same kind of flowers, attached to a leafy green ribbon.]
🌸🌼🌺 Pride flowers on Etsy 🌺🌼🌸
"Destroy gender roles!" I hope you're including trans people in that statement? I hope you're not shaming trans girls who want to be butch or trans guys who want to wear lipstick. I hope you're not accusing feminine trans guys of "not trying hard enough" or being "confused lesbians". I hope you're accepting trans femboys. I hope trans drag kings and trans drag queens are welcome in your spaces. I hope trans women with facial hair and trans men without are being treated well for their choices. "Abolish gender roles" means jack-shit if trans and non-binary people aren't included.
in case it hasn’t been obvious from my recent posts -- and, frankly, my years of posting positivity for transmascs in mlm spaces -- this blog is a safe space for all transmasculine people. this is not, “and yes, transmascs can show up.” this is not, “oh yeah, and trans people too obviously. and some nonbinary people, i guess.” this is not, and will never be, “you pass all of my invisible criteria for you to be invited here, with the threat of your invitation expiring whenever i feel like it.”
fuck you. this is not a place for exclusionism. this is a place of radical inclusionism. to any and all mlm: you are welcome here, no matter how anyone else tries to convince you otherwise.
Are we as the trans community ready to acknowledge that sometimes gender just straight up changes?
Obviously this doesn’t apply to all people, but for some trans people they were fine being their AGAB until they weren’t.
I used to follow an enby who proudly identified as a woman for years before one day they just went “actually… it changed. I’m not vibing with that any more. I was a woman, but now I’m not and I’m ready to open a different chapter of my life.”
Sometimes people who are genderfluid don’t have fluctuating dysphoria, and just have a changing gender.
Sometimes non-binary people will find that their masc/femme alignment changes.
Sometimes people who were binary feel more non-binary, or oppositely binary.
Are we ready to normalize this too?
Something that I have noticed is that many people read the first bit of my post and shut their brains off for the rest of the post. What I was trying to articulate wasn’t just relating to your AGAB as a child, but ALSO relating to your AGAB as a child.
I was trying to say we need to normalize gender changing in ALL stages of life in ALL forms. I’m really glad that this post gave some form of comfort to those who needed it, but what I’m trying to articulate that a changing gender doesn’t disqualify you from being trans or from retransition.
Several people have pointed out that, as of now, AFAB people feel the safest relating to this post and commenting on it. This is true. So if anyone is willing to have a conversation with me abt this please message me or send me an ask because I want to know how to adequately include all people in this conversation.
i want every single amab nonbinary lesbian to know that u belong in lesbian spaces, especially nonbinary lesbian spaces, just as much as any other lesbian, and you not being a binary woman doesn’t mean you can’t identify as a lesbian. the nonbinary lesbian label includes you just as much as it includes every other nonbinary lesbian
trans lesbians enrich lesbianism. trans lesbians are an important part of lesbian culture and community.
plain text: (in the gradient color scheme of the trans and lesbian flag) trans lesbians enrich lesbianism. trans lesbians are an important part of lesbian culture and community.
[ID: Fifteen edits of the Bugs bunny “I wish all a very pleasant day” meme. They are edited to include the trans flag on his left side. They read:
“I wish all trans men, trans women, nonbinaries, genderfluids, demiboys and demigirls, agenders, and more a very pleasant trans visibility day.” This edit includes the flags for the identities listed.
“I wish all straight, gay, lesbian, bi, pan, ace, aro, omni, polyamorous, etc. trans people a very pleasant trans visibility day.” This edit includes the flags for the identities listed.
“I wish all intersex people who identify with the trans label a very pleasant trans visibility day.” This edit includes the intersex flag.
“I wish all autistic, ADHD, or otherwise neurodivergent trans people a very pleasant trans visibilitiy day.” This edit includes the red words “(happy autism acceptance month! light it up red)”
“I wish all Jewish, Muslim, Christian, Hindu, and other religious trans people a very pleasant trans visibility day.”
“I wish all trans POC, especially Black and indigenous trans people, a very pleasant trans visibility day.” This edit includes the inclusive LGBT poc flag, as well as a trans flag with a brown and black fist.
“I wish all disabled or chronically ill trans people a very pleasant trans visibility day.”
“I wish all fat trans people, hairy trans people, and trans people who don’t “pass” a very pleasant trans visibility day.”
“I wish all it/its pronoun users, neopronouns users, and people who use pronouns that don’t “match” their gender a very pleasant trans visibility day.”
“I wish all trans people with little or no gender dysphoria a very pleasant trans visibility day.”
“I wish all trans people who are in the closet a very pleasant trans visibility day.”
“I wish all trans people who haven’t transitioned and/or don’t plan to a very pleasant trans visibility day.”
“I wish all questioning trans people/people who aren’t sure if they’re trans a very pleasant trans visibility day.”
“I wish all people who don’t use labels for themselves a very pleasant whatever you’re comfy with.”
“I wish all trans people a very pleasant you are wonderful, valid, and loved <3” /End ID]
heard it was trans day of visibility
(edit: my wording of “trans POC, especially Black and indigenous trans people” was poor, and i apologize. i wish all trans POC a pleasant trans visibility day, and i wish all trans BIPOC a pleasant trans visibility day.)
Yet another reminder that faking is a conscious choice that you make.
It is not something you can do accidentally, regards of what you're talking about.
You can't accidentally fake depression, or anxiety, or bipolar disorder, or schizophrenia, or any other mental illness.
You can't accidentally fake Borderline Personality Disorder, Histrionic Personality Disorder, personality disorders.
You can't accidentally fake ADHD, autism, Tourette's Syndrome, auditory processing disorder, aphasia or any other neurodivergence
You can't accidentally fake being trans or ace-spec or aro-spec or any other LGBTQIA+ identity.
You can't accidentally fake chronic illnesses like CFS, fibromyalgia or any chronic illness.
You also can't accidentally fake being good/intelligent at something. You didn't fool your peers into reaching your position.
You can't accidentally fake trauma, PTSD/cPTSD, DID/OSDD/DDNOS or any other trauma-based disorder.
Faking is a conscious choice.
You cannot do it by accident.
If you are worried that you are faking, that in itself is proof that you are not.