Is it just me or is there an extreme lack of transmasc positivity
Every time I see a trans positivity post in my for you page it's always either about the entire trans community or trans women? I believe these people need positivity but god damn I had to search for transmasc positivity
and don't get me started on the stereotyping of transmen!
I'm to lazy to find it but that meme of "trans men gender goals: [pictures of soft pink femboys] trans woman gender goals: [crazy shit]", memes like these can be funny yeah but this one just felt wrong and fetishy. Transmen are always either skinny fluffy haired frog lovers or femboys, yeah i know transmen like that exist but god. it sucks
little trans boys, closeted trans men: i want you to know that your transness is beautiful. your fear of the unknown is okay. it's alright to be scared. it's alright to worry. it's alright to feel lost and alone and unmoored.
you're not unsupported. you're not a mistake. you're not by yourself in this. you're not disgusting. you're not damned.
there are things about you that will change. there are things your loved ones will need time to understand and learn about. they will need time and sometimes explanations to adjust. but that doesn't mean they don't love you. sometimes they just don't have the background knowledge yet, and we have to meet them halfway so they can walk with us hand in hand for the rest of the journey.
i wish i could go back and tell little jordan about the employers and coworkers that would one day use his pronouns without question. the mom that talked openly with him about top surgery and hormones and binders. the friends that are transitioning right alongside him and get to watch him grow into the man he was destined to be.
i love you. i see you. i hear you. i am kissing you on the forehead.
"Although important discontinuities separate lesbian butch experience and female-to-male transsexual experience, there are also significant points of connection. Some butches are psychologically indistinguishable from female-to-male transsexuals, except for the identities they choose and the extent to which they are willing or able to alter their bodies. Many FTM's live as butches before adopting transsexual or male identities. Some individuals explore each identity before choosing one that is more meaningful for them, and others use both categories to interpret and organize their experience. The boundaries between the categories of butch and transsexual are permeable."
-"Of Catamites and Kings: Reflections on butch, gender, and boundaries" by Gayle Rubin, The Persistent Desire, (Joan Nestle) (1992)
I had a cathartic, but upsetting rant on Twitter. What I said I think is important, but with the energy it took, I’m not sure my Tiktok followers will be getting a proper video today.