peter parker and sam wilson have something in common.
when peter comes out to tony, telling him he’s a trans guy and was biologically female all this time, tony’s first reaction is “i know???” because i mean he did a full background check on peter, right? he probably knew. and it was never that much of a big deal for him. but he notices its a big deal for peter and tony finds himself so so so out of his league he doesn’t even know where to start
Tony: you okay, kid?
Peter: i’m fine, mr stark, thank you. my binder was just a bit too high so it kind of hurt, but i fixed it now.
Tony: a-ah, yes, your... binder.
Tony: *under his breath* friday define binder in this context
Peter, thinking he’s being awkward because he’s uncomfortable that Peter’s talking about being trans so openly: uh. i’m sorry, sir, mr. stark, sir, i didn’t mean to-- i’m sorry, i’m just- nevermind. uh, forget i said anything, please.
Tony, trying to read the definition on his StarkPad: what was that, kid?
Peter: *leaving the lab* i’m sorry, sir, won’t happen again!
Tony, with the vague feeling he fucked up: ????
he mentions it to pepper and she assures him that he’s doing fine, he’s doing his best, he just needs more research and time.
truth is, writing all the paperwork for the accords, pepper found sam’s file, and that’s how she finds out that sam was assigned female at birth and started his transition at seventeen.
behind tony’s back she goes to sam and asks him to meet her for dinner to discuss something and sam’s like Oooh I Fucked Up. I Did Something Wrong And They Found Out. Oh No. but then he’s there and pepper just takes a deep breath and asks “are you comfortable talking about your gender identity?”
and sam’s whole brain. reboots. because. oh? um. “y-yeah, i am, why?” sam’s never exactly hidden the fact that he’s trans, it just doesn’t come up a lot. but he’s out and proud and loud and he has so many people supporting him, he’s not uncomfortable talking about it at all. he likes informing people and breaking all that taboo of “can’t insult, need to step on eggs”, all that bullshit. and pepper explains it to him and he’s like “oh, spider kid’s trans too? aight bet imma give him some hints”
and it turns out peter is actually from a whole other universe when it comes to topics like these, he likes pronoun pins and he considers himself a social justice warrior, he’s the type to write papers on the biology of trans identities and sam actually learns a lot with him! sam never knew there were nouns that were used as pronouns! and they/them! that’s all so cool!! and sam gives him passing tips and talks about dealing with bullying and answering transphobes’ invasive questions, and its all so wholesome and awesome and both of them learn so much
and many, many uncomfortable talks later, tony learns more about binding and passing, pronouns, gender expression and identity, and both him and sam (and pepper) learn that peter goes by he/they/web and they try their best to use all his pronouns, and tony explains to peter that he was just so lost to which sam says “he’s a little confused but hes got the spirit” and peter laughs
and by the end of the week tony decided that he’s going to pay for peter’s transition and he buys him new, safer binders and sam teaches him how to use packers (which was supposed to be uncomfortable but ended with both of them laughing on the ground and a very confused tony) and pepper holds peter’s hands during his t-shots because he’s not a fan of needles, and everything’s perfect and nothing hurts i just really need this okay
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So I'm not too sure if any trans men follow me but I found a thing that could be of some use to you guys.
Basically, they make underwear with a built in stuffer at the front and I think that's a fantastic idea to help deal with dysphoria a bit. "Pretty cool" is what you mught be thinking but it gets better.
Fuckin' pre-packed swimming shorts.
Now, idk if there's other companies that do this but I have never seen this before so it is some news to me.
Also worth noting, I'm not trans nor am I sponsored, because why would I be, I just want to spread that there is a thing that can maybe help you with stuff.
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Nov. 2nd, 2021 Urgent Help Needed
I am a black & mexican, neurodivergent trans non-binary person.
I was homeless for a while and now I am staying in a broken down house where there is no hot water for me to shower, no easily accessible bathroom, and no a/c. It is still horribly hot where I live. Because of my disability, I already overheat often, and the heat in the house has been extreme. I have not been able to sleep from the heat, and I've been working doubles and the lack of sleep and the exhaustion from the overheating itself has worn me down both mentally and physically. The other occupants in the house do not care that it's not livable there, and there is open hostility. I don't want to provide too many details, but this living situation is extremely toxic and bad for my mental and physical health to an extent that I struggle putting into words.
on top of this I have worked doubles every day for a week now, and will be working doubles for another week. I have been approved for an apartment and my coworker and I can move in soon, but I still need the money for the first two months rent, the deposit and various fees. I also have also been struggling with a flare up of HS (hidradentitis suppurativa) and I need medical supplies. The welts and bumps caused by the flare are out of control. They're extremely painful and itchy, and they leak pus, blood, and plasma constantly. They're also now infected and that can lead to the need for amputation, or death. I am also diabetic and haven't been able to afford the insulin I need. I can only afford the smallest vial every 2-3 weeks. Because of all of this, I am asking for help funding my move out of this hellhole, and also getting a hotel for a night so I can actually rest on my day off. Please, the exhaustion is terrible, and worsening my health. This is not a house anyone should be living in. I need help desperately and d*nations and reblogs just haven't been happening despite my trying as hard as I possibly can. Even $1 helps, and just reblogs help too.
please donate straight to my cshapp or pypal, as gofundme takes out a lot of fees and i need funds urgently. thank you so much.
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