#trauma holder

[multiplicity-positivity]

Here’s to all the syskid trauma holders!

To the little or young headmates who were traumatized or who hold on to trauma memories:

✨ We know you went through so much, and it’s not fair that you were hurt by others around you or people who were supposed to take care of you. It’s okay to be upset about what happened. It’s okay to cry, or to feel sad, lost, angry, lonely, or scared. These feelings are natural and you’re not bad or wrong for feeling them! ✨

🧸 If you can’t talk about what happened to you or share your memories with anyone else, be it a therapist, loved one, or another headmate, that’s okay. You should never ever feel pressured to do things you don’t want to do, and that includes opening up about the memories you hold on to! You’re allowed to take your time, breathe, and process things at your own pace. 🧸

💖 If you do want to talk about your painful memories, we hope you can find a safe space to do so with a person you trust and are comfortable with. You deserve to have agency in your own healing journey, and that means getting to make decisions about when and how to talk about your trauma! 💖

🐶 We hope that you can find comfort and happiness in your lives, even if it’s only sometimes! It’s easy for kids who were hurt a lot or traumatized to feel like they never got the chance to have a childhood. We want to let you know that it’s never too late to enjoy being a kid! We hope your future is filled with toys, plushies, stickers, coloring books, fun games, pillow forts, tasty snacks, and playing pretend! 🐶

🍓 Please remember that you are so loved, cherished, and valued by those around you. And remember that the pain you experienced and have to hold onto is not your fault in any way! We promise, you are not to blame for the way others treated you, even if sometimes it feels that way. 🍓

🌈 We hope you can keep your chin up, distract yourself with something fun if you need to, and find comfort in your loved ones. Thank you so much for taking the time to read this (or listen if an older headmate is helping you). Know that we care about you, we’re rooting for you, and we’re wishing you the very best in all that you do! 🌈

#multiplicity #plurality #pluralgang #actuallyplural #system positivity #plural positivity #plural pride #system pride #trauma #trauma holder #syskid #system little #syskid positivity #system little positivity

[ijustwannamakeemojis]

[ID: Nine small pixel hearts of system role flags, in order trauma holder, caretaker, gatekeeper, memory holder, dissociation holder, pseudonaut, symptom holder, architect, and communicator. End ID]

Tumblr makes them bigger than they actually are click to see correct size or check out the rentry in the pinned post

#there will be a few posts of these they make me happy #trauma holder #caretaker #gatekeeper #memory holder #dissociation holder #pseudonaut #symptom holder #communicator #architect #plurality #endo safe #system roles #pixel #heart #discord emoji #rentry

[traumaholdercultureis]

Traumaholder culture is being comforted by traumacore stuff but feeling sad because so many people seem to hate traumacore, and I don't understand why. I just want comfort

#actually did #sysblr #trauma holder #traumagenic system #actually plural #did system #traumaholdercultureis #anti endo #endos dni #osddid

[moonpool-system]

funny isnt it. how a "community" for a disorder commonly induced by trauma actually retraumatizes people constantly for not "fitting in" properly. the osddid tag is not safe for disordered systems

#traumagenicinclusive #traumagenic system #traumaendo #osddid #sysmeds fuck off #you just want us dead admit it #eclipse #trauma holder #actually traumagenic #pdid #mixed origin system #plural community #syscourse

[belinhagamer999]

Childishness regressor/Immaturity regressor

[PT: Childishness regressor/Immaturity regressor /END PT]

This is a different type of age regressor who doesn't regress to an exact age but regress to the essence of it. they start to have childish behavior with their caretaker, without changing their body, or having a baby/child's way of being. it is the same way a transmasc person isn't exactly a boy or a man but they have masculinity.

Childishness regressors usually don't say that they regressed to age x, but to a behavior that sounds inappropriate for their body age to other people.

[IMAGE ID: a horizontal flag with 4 stripes in order from top to bottom, pale red, baby pink, baby lime, and baby cyan /END ID]

#sfw agere #age regressor #agere blog #agere community #age regression #tulpa friendly #plural system #endo safe #multiplicity #plurality #plural community #sfw regression #syskid #system little #trauma holder #trauma vent #trauma healing #childhood trauma #sfw petre #pet regressor #age slider #systeen #lgbtq community #anti endos dni #anti agere dni #agere little #safe agere

[companionplanting]

Hey

I know it's tempting, and I know it's hard to accept, but brute forcing your way to find your trauma isn't going to help you or your system.

Trust me, we get it. You just wanna know, you wanna understand and you don't want to have a guessing game each day but trauma holders formed for a reason. Your system formed from trauma for a reason.

What you should focus on is getting better, strengthening communication, and building a more comfortable and safer life for the whole system. Being out of the loop sucks, and I understand that nagging feeling to just know what's happened already.

But you would never try to force a friend to blurt out their trauma unprompted. You would never interrogate and cross boundaries with the people you love to make them reveal their trauma to you.

It'll happen in time. They will open up. You just have to trust them and be patient. You just have to heal from what you know now and be ready for when they do open up. They aren't your enemy in this, they do care for you, even if it may not feel that way.

-🌺

#blurry 🌺 #companion_planting #actually did #actually osdd #actuallydid #actuallyosdd #did system #osdd system #actually dissociative #did osdd #osddid #cw trauma mention #trauma mention #trauma memories #trauma recovery #healing from trauma #actually traumagenic #traumagenic #traumagenic system #trauma holder #system positivity #did positivity #osdd positivity

[ix-c-999]

system role blinkies, part 2

bonus sentipet flag blinkie but with the word "syspet"

[this post has no DNI other than not to start discourse or mockery]

#.txt #[venn] #blinkies #flashing / #systerms #system roles #system blinkies #trauma holder #caretaker #caretaker headmate #persecutor #persecutor headmate #protector #protector headmate #syskid #sentipet #syspet #our blinkies #our content #spacehey #plural

[heavyskysystem]

How to unstuck a trauma holder

First of, unstucking a trauma holder and grounding them from the persistent emotional pain and constant re-experiencing of trauma they suffer under can take a long time, but there are techniques that can be used to help ground them.

Breathing techniques

Breathing techniques have proven to be quite helpful in grounding an distracting from the emotional anguish. The focus on nothing but the breathing, and on being aware of how the breath moves through your body is very helpful in creating sensations that keep the alter in the here now. Yoga Breathing | Alternate Nostril Breathing (youtube.com) Box breathing relaxation technique: how to calm feelings of stress or anxiety (youtube.com)

Setting up an inner safe space

Setting up an inner safe space can be very helpful and grounding for the alter, they can set it up themselves following simple instructions to do so. This place can then be always visited to practice allowing positive feelings of safety. It can be a place filled with symbolism for their positive qualities, or be something very simple without many details. If they arent capable or willing to create their own inner safe space, you can also attempt to do it for them if they arent against it, this can feel like a gift to them because you do so with the best in mind for them, thinking of what they like, and what what might make them feel safe.

Grounding Exercise for Anxiety #7: Creating a Safe Place - YouTube

Somatic therapy/experiencing

To proccess their trauma emotions, and to feel more at ease with their body somatic experiencing can be very helpful guided and somatic experiencing that just comes to you. Like the alter that might not have spend years in their body using both of their hands to touch their legs, arm, belly to get used to their body again and to feel grounded within it. For them to explore how their body suits them and how it feels nowadays, to become aquainted with how the body differs in the present. Guided Somatic experiencing can lead to the processing of trauma and expression of it, since a lot of trauma-holders are stuck in one or more trauma responses doing this can also help heal their sympathetic nervous system and allign them to get out of their trauma response. A lot of the time trauma holders are in so much pain that merely speaking about their experiences will not help them, theres the rule that once your level of distress reaches a certain height you can only change emotions via emotional reasoning and no longer via rational reasoning, so you have to find other solutions than intellectualizing or talking.

Somatic Practice for Trauma and Stress Release (youtube.com)

Trauma informed Yoga

Similar to somatic experiencing, allows you to proccess repressed emotions and feelings stuck in the body that otherwise cannot get out and cant be intellectualized out

Trauma-Informed Hip Opening Yoga for Emotional Release | Trauma Informed Yoga (youtube.com)

Art

Poetry, drawings, music and every creative endeavour you can think of can be helpful in letting a trauma holder proccess their trauma and emotions. I have heard that one over and over again as being one of the most helpful ways of coping, their trauma holder didnt know where to put their anger until expressing it into art, and so on.

Following the emotion You lie down in bed, get comfortable and just let you and your trauma-holder in co-con follow the emotions and anxieties your trauma holder feels, this proccess can take a long time. You just let every emotion come and go and feel it to your fullest. This might cause strange bodily sensations like a current running through your body, body party to go numb, or sensations of pressure. Its important to be kind to each and every sensation and emotion. When you start feeling the emotion in the body like that you first start to appreciate how powerful your emotions truly are. At the end of this you may cry tears of real relief and feel a bit lighter.

Grounding excerises

10+ Mindful Grounding Techniques (Incl. Group Exercise) (positivepsychology.com)

there are multiple ones to use, they often help redirect a little bit and to get you or them out of a flashback.

All of these things take practice and repetition, you cant do them just once and expect your trauma holder to be free of their symptoms! It takes dedication.

#DID #dissociative system #dissociative identity disorder #actually traumagenic #trauma holder #protector alter #persecutor alter #plural #plurality #plural community #did support #did resource #did help

[adviceforsystems]

This one is for trauma holders!

For those of you whose trauma overwhelms them,

Who feel isolated from their own system due to the trauma,

Who feel that it's unfair that you hold the trauma whilst others in your system are unaware of it,

Who are working hard on healing,

Who want to heal but feel scared to lose this part of you,

Who want to heal but feel scared about how knowledge of the trauma would affect the rest of the system.

It's also for those of you who are angry at your system for not knowing about what you've been through, even if you know it's not their fault,

Who aren't ready to heal or those who feel like you're stuck with your trauma,

And every other trauma holder or type of trauma holder.

You are real and valid, your trauma is real and valid, and you deserve credit for what you do. You are an important part of your system, you deserve just as much dignity and respect as every other alter.

#did positivity #osdd positivity #ddnos positivity #udd positivity #actuallytraumagenic #actually traumagenic #traumagenic system #trauma holder #posipost

[smoking-witch]

I unlocked a new creative interest last weekend... Never thought I'd be able to dance again, but apparently FUCK GRAVITY I'll tie myself into the damn rig and dance upside down bc I now understand that is totally an option, now everybody get ready to cry onto your erection I've got some serious things to dance in the air at you about, my first two routines shall be to While My Guitar Gently Weeps (acoustic Beatles) and To Love You More (Celine, but the original full album version, not this radio edit)

#shibari #shibari suspension #bdsmkink #aerial dance #aerial #aerial silks #bd/sm rope #roped girl #ropeart #ropebondage #le dollar bean #lez girls #femme lesbian #leg warmers #legs #le$bean #dance #disabled #disabled artist #dancer #disabled person #mental health #trauma healing #trauma holder #trauma art #ptsd recovery #cptsd recovery #did recovery #did representation #did system

[sysboxes]

[Text: This system loves their trauma holders]

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#userbox #system #did #did system #osdd #osdd system #trauma holder #anti endo #endos dni #mod morpho 🦋

[laurentlemonke]

I'm still just one person though. No DID. It's apparently a thing in complex PTSD. The mind splitting and different parts holding different memories of traumatic events. Or so I was told by the psychologist I went to. I don't know how common/uncommon it is though. Although I might suffer from a dissociative disorder, given the dissociative parts and different memory holders. It's comorbid with PTSD. No diagnosis of OSDD or DPDR though. I'll try to be careful when talking about this as I don't wanna spread misinformation about OSDD/DPDR, since I don't know if I have them. I'll tag accordingly.

#ptsd #actually ptsd #complex ptsd #osdd #dpdr #trauma #trauma holder #dissociation #dissociative disorder #mental health #a lot of disorders are comorbid

[misc-system-culture-is]

Trauma holder alter culture is certain alters stealing front in dreams to process their own trauma.

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#system culture is #alter culture is #trauma holder culture is #anon #plurality #actually plural #actuallyplural #plural system #pluralgang #alter #trauma holder

[traumaholdercultureis]

traumaholder culture is switching between “i can’t shower because if I shower I have to be naked :(“ and “I HAVE TO SHOWER RIGHT NOW IM DIRTY IM DIRTY IM DIRTY”

#actually did #sysblr #trauma holder #traumagenic system #actually plural #did system #traumaholdercultureis #anti endo #endos dni #osddid #tw repetition #tw repeating words

[neopronouns]

symtom holder | trauma holder

icon-friendly versions of these symptom holder and trauma holder flags for a request!

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#symptom holder #trauma holder #system #system flag #plural #plural flag #mad pride #mad pride flag #mad flag

[our-inspire-verse]

Hypersexual girlies who grew up entirely sex repulsed when their feelings and needs flare up again (I'm girlies) - Inthrum

#system babbles #hypersexuality #trauma holder #osdd #actually plural #introject #ptsd #triggers #flare ups #its that time again. why am i here to do this lmao #like what am i supposed to do #yearn?