#trauma suggestion

[recoverr]

i don't know who needs to hear this, but guilt, self-hatred and shame are not sustainable sources of growth and healing. you can't hate yourself into feeling better, or being better. you can't repeatedly punish yourself for your flawed humanity and expect wholesome results.

#mental health #recovery #self care #self love #positivity #reminders #healing #be kind to yourself #actually mentally ill #cptsd #actually cptsd #recovery suggestion #trauma survivor #trauma recovery #mine.

[rage-suggestions]

I hope whenever my anger rips from where its been boiling underneath my skin, it does not manifest in the same ways I saw in my parents. I do not wish to hurt those I care for like I was hurt, like I was burned. The thought alone scares me.

Ive been angry so long that Ive gotten so bone tired. Like a candle down to its last few minutes, flame flickering on despite the fact the wind is whipping at it. Maybe some day I can be remade into a newer, brighter candle, burned with something other than anger or despair. Something that would rather warm our house than see it burned down.

#rage suggestion #trauma suggestion #Its been A Day #and I was not able to say everything I wish I could in the moment that prompted this post #sometimes it really fucking sucks being (possibly) autistic #because my truth is incredibly blunt #and saying smth blunt to someone who has a tendency to blow up and get defensive is harmful and useless 90% of the time #✨ this is why my family needs therapy ✨

[ruporas]

please be true

[ID: Digital Trigun Stampede fanart of Vash and Wolfwood cradling each other. Vash is facing the viewer with his face buried in Wolfwood's shoulder, one hand grabbing at Wolfwood's neck and the other grabbing his arm. Wolfwood is facing away from the viewer and is slightly leaned away, one arm wrapping around to Vash's back, but his hand is hovering, not touching. The background is black with white and red confetti-like and petal-like shapes falling around them. ID END] ID CREDIT

#vashwood #vash the stampede #nicholas d wolfwood #trigun #trigun stampede #petals and confetti do look similar... #ive been seeing a lot of suggestions that vash might lose those memories permanently and considering how he started off amnesiac about july #in trimax it'd make sense... for some reason i have a drilled in part of my brain that the trauma of losing people (specifically rem) #literally in his arms might haunt him forever #if not the memory of it - maybe the instincts of it? #no matter how tightly he holds onto them they could just as easily disappear as they did before. #5.7.23 - thank you gnomebud for the id! #ruporas art

[desultory-suggestions]

People who love you shouldn't make you feel ashamed of your interests and hobbies. What you enjoy is wonderful, even if it's uncommon, complicated, stereotypical, etc. Please keep sharing your lovely energy with the world.

#des posts #hobbies #interests #special interests #hyperfixation #shame #shame reduction #suggestions #suggestion blog #desultory suggestions #mental health #mental wellness #self care #healing #wellness #trauma recovery #trauma #past trauma #recovery #traumatic experiences

[moonlit-positivity]

You deserve a happy ending. No matter what the situation is, no matter how hard it is to survive and cope. You deserve a true genuine happy ending.

#recovery #ptsd #trauma #mental health #boundaries #healing #positivity #suggestion #reminder #soft positivity #warm positivity #warm reminders #self compassion #self esteem

[saturnsocoolioyep]

In the same vein as "I've been taking my medication for long enough that I haven't experienced any symptoms in a while, I must not need to take it anymore! (Spoiler alert: the meds are why you haven't had symptoms)" I present to you a similarly clownish thought process- "I haven't experienced that trigger in a long time, maybe I was just exaggerating how bad it was and it'll be fine to engage with this! (Spoiler alert: take a fucking guess babes)"

#on a definitely unrelated note the contamination obsessive thoughts are in fact still there and still upsetting #turns out when you take care to avoid things that trigger and upset you... #those things still trigger and upset you even if youve avoided them for a while #😱🤯 #ptsd #cptsd #trauma #recovery #disabled #autistic adult #actually autistic #<- idk if thats a good tag or not it just came up suggested when i typed autism so #ocd #<- not dxed and not even sure if i feel comfy self dxing w ocd but i definitely have upsetting obsessive + compulsive tendencies + thoughts #that i struggle with a lot so #medication #trauma recovery #triggers #arfid #disability #neurodivergent #neurodiversity #audhd

[neuroticboyfriend]

hey you. im proud of you. im proud of you for overcoming all the obstacles you've faced to be here with us today. and i'll be proud of you tomorrow for the obstacles you continue to overcome.

you've put so much effort into this life, and that deserves praise. even though many of the things you had to work through should have never happened to you. you did it. you're here. you're right here. and you don't have to go anywhere.

so i hope you're proud of yourself too - or that you will be, someday. take all the time you need. everyone lives differently.

#positivity #mental health #mental health support #mental health positivity #positive affirmations #positive #posi #positive suggestions #mentally ill #mental illness #trauma survivor #trauma recovery #recovery #survivor #disabled #disability #chronic illness #chronically ill #chronically sick #disability positivity #disability pride #neurodivergent #neurodivergent positivity

[shitolodise]

medic's boobs please save me from art block

#my art #digital art #fanart #doodle #tf2 #team fortress 2 #art #tf2 medic #tf2 scout #suggestive #suggestive art #mediscout #medic scout #blunt trauma

[iaminsideyourwalls]

i'm thinking of posting more (censored for tumblr) "spicy" pieces, what do you guys think?

#if tumblr nerfs this I'm gonna be so mad #not intending to post the full pieces anywhere yet bc twitter is a fuck. I mean you can use your imagination #tf2 #tf2 medic #medic tf2 #tf2 fanart #tf2 art #team fortress 2 fanart #tf2 scout #scout tf2 #medicscout #mediscout #tf2 blunt trauma #partial nudity #suggestive #the socks stay oN

[smuby]

this be the only thing im drawing today. time to play scream fortress for 7 hours straight

#i might do another version of this with pyro n pauling. depends on how im feeling #suggestive #i guess #smub art #tf2 #team fortress 2 #team fortress two #tf2 medic #tf2 scout #mediscout #quick fix #blunt trauma

[thesweetnessofspring]

Katniss actually said that if not for the existence of the Games and Panem's shitty state in general, that she, at 17 years old, could possibly be married and pregnant. Full-on teen mothering it with her dandelion in the spring if Panem could chill out for a sec and stop killing children. And then she proceeded to fantasize about Peeta and his child safe in the meadow. This thought alone gave her one of three nights of restful sleep without drugs post-Games during the series (the other two being when she was in Peeta's arms).

And yet when the Games did end permanently and Katniss indeed went ahead and married/committed to Peeta and had a family with him at about 30 years old, some people still did a surprise Pikachu face and complained it was out of character.

WHAT MORE DID SHE HAVE TO DO TO FORESHADOW THE ENDING?

#quote for those who want it: #(in reference to Peeta's baby bomb) #Isn't it the thing I dreaded most about the wedding about the future-the loss of my children to the Games? #And it could be true now couldn't it? #If I hadn't spent my life building up layers of defenses until I recoil at even the suggestion of marriage or a family? #(only change is the commas are taken out b/c tags) #girl basically acknowledged her trauma and said without it she could be married and pregnant at 17 that is WILD #having a secret toasting and then having sex with peeta (as this was the “it” she was referring to) #the hunger games #katniss everdeen #peeta mellark #everlark #catching fire

[recoverr]

i hope it hurts a little less. day by day. week by week. i hope the ache in your chest eases. maybe it won't entirely, maybe it will. may the thought of feeling joy again alone be enough to keep you going, even if for a while.

#mental health #recovery #self care #self love #reminders #positivity #healing #complex ptsd #cptsd #mental heath support #mental illness #wholesome suggestion #recovery suggestion #trauma recovery #trauma survivor #mine.

[whetstonefires]

See I don't necessarily disagree with what seems to be the primary reading that Yue Qingyuan's shifu fucked him over, caring nothing for his needs or preferences and only for whether he was useful. That makes sense, it ties into plenty of the generational and societal themes of the story. It fits.

But iirc we don't actually get enough information to know that's what happened.

And the thing is it would be so in-character and also thematically appropriate if Yue Qingyuan absolutely did not explain his goals or why he was working so hard, because it was private and shameful and he didn't expect any sympathy, and there was a high risk of losing everything if he blabbed.

And also if he engaged with the existing ruleset with which he was presented, i.e. 'can't go off on your own on personal business until you've mastered your sword,' in the most negative and controlling manner possible, as absolute commandments.

He's a different kind of guy but he comes from the same background as Shen Jiu! It fucked him up also!

He is very very very not a guy who trusts the system to make allowances for him--even once he has all the power he 'does what he wants' and 'makes selfish choices' as a conscious transgression; not something he has a right to do, just something he can get away with so he's gonna. (And ofc he spends almost all the latitude he grants himself on sqq.)

And even less is he a guy who opens up easily.

He isn't too proud to ask for help or pity, so much as he just doesn't expect to get any.

So in this interpretation, he understood that rule as a non-negotiable barrier in his path, the target to overcome, and focused all his considerable will and talent on overcoming it through the sphere of action he felt he had control over.

And fucked himself up bad.

Whereupon his teacher, possessing absolutely no context for this dumb shit their star pupil pulled, did the only thing they thought might work to save his life, paying in the process no attention to the raving of someone deep in a psychotic break.

Like, I feel like there should have been a better, kinder medical option, but I don't know for sure that there was, so I can't say with certainty this was the kind of cruelty that derives from not caring enough.

And it really would be kind of elegant and so typical of Yue Qingyuan's fundamental tragedy if the real mistake was 'not confiding in anybody' the whole time.

And he was just so deeply sunk into the understanding that explaining and asking were useless that, even looking back, it never really occurred to him that maybe his mistake wasn't 'fucking it up when trying too hard to solve everything on his own' but 'assuming there was no help to be had, and that he had to do it all on his own.'

Like. What if this really could all have been avoided if he'd just trusted and communicated with the adult in charge of him? But of course, of course his history of trauma (neglect, child abuse, exploitation, being the One Responsible for the younger kids whom he could not keep safe) meant he was absolutely not going to do that.

It was basically impossible. For the person he was, the person the world had made of him. And that's always been the core tragedy the whole novel circles back upon.

People can only ever be themselves, and so very often the elements of self that let them survive until now are that which dooms them, that means they need someone else to intervene if they're ever going to be saved. Because your personal doom is always the thing from which you can't save yourself.

#hoc est meum #JUST LIKE SHEN JIU #yue qingyuan #svsss #scum villain #meta #trauma #ambiguous backstory elements #tragedy #growing into your deathmask #the fact that shen jiu got in #and got promoted #tends to imply the former generation wasn't particularly inflexible #or unwilling to entertain deviance #the fact that yqy got made Sect Leader #despite his disability #suggests his teacher valued him #on a personal level #though not necessarily a level that gave a shit #about his happiness or wellbeing #but we srsly do not know

[desultory-suggestions]

Just a little reminder for you today. You are loved. I know you are trying your best, and I promise you that it is enough. Any mistakes you made today will pass, give yourself the kindness of admitting that you are just a person and people make mistakes. Take a deep breathe in, and let it out. You can do this hard thing.

#des posts #recovery #suggestions #positivity #self love #mental health #ed recovery #self care #love #anxiety #depression #GAD #generalized anxiety disorder #mdd #ocd #pics #trauma #trauma recovery #healing #abuse recovery #panic attacks

[moonlit-positivity]

How to recognize when you need to set a boundary

Physical signs of your body telling you "no":

Bile in your throat

Panic

freeze response aka frozen or paralyzed w fear

Heart paced real fast

Anxiety

Unsettled stomach/gut feeling

Head fuzzy

Head & chest feels tight

Face might scrunch up in disgust/disbelief/pain etc

"ick" or "ew"

fainting or feeling weak as a result

crying

feeling like hurting yourself

cheeks hot, face flushed (embarrassment out of fear or humiliation)

fight/flight/freeze/fawn response gets triggered

body feels "charged" or "activated"

wanting to yell or shout back

wanting to run away

wanting to hide

wanting to stuff yourself with food/substances/alcohol etc to numb the pain

heart feels heavy or pounds at awkward intervals

not being able to eat

head shakes "no"

backing away

asking or screaming for help

feeling scared

feeling "on alert"

not knowing what to say

arms protecting yourself

not being able to move

Emotional signs that you are not safe:

Unsettling environment

Fawning aka "going with what they want" even if you don't feel good about it

Uncomfortable

Knowing the other person doesn't like it when you express things different from their own beliefs

Knowing if you spoke up you would be either mocked or downplayed or told you're being too sensitive

Being told you're "disrespectful" or "not allowed" to talk back or disagree in any way

Being told you're too chicken or being forced to feel dumb or stupid if you don't join in

Being openly mocked or talked about by the whole group

Expressing a concern and they get mad at you for being mad at them

You're always the one in the wrong even when you were the one being hurt

They use grandiose words and phrases to assert dominance

"walking on eggshells"

They continue to do the things you asked them to stop doing even after countless times asking them

They don't care about how you feel

They make no effort to acknowledge your feelings or acknowledge how their behavior is affecting you

They force you to participate in drugs/alcohol

They hold their power and good deeds they have done for you over your head and threaten to stop helping or support you or even take back what they have given you

They are physically aggressive/ violent

Rage

Rage during substance use

Touching you without asking

Downplaying anything you need as not important

What to do:

Take a deep breath

Take your time figuring it out

Remind yourself this isn't your fault

Stay focused on the behavior- because they WILL try to detract from it & turn it around on you

Gather your resources

Consider leaving or cutting contact

Consider therapy or online support groups to help yourself breathe and find safer spaces for yourself

Have an exit plan

Do not engage with the arguments & emotional bait

Cultivate your privacy

Cultivate your security

Cultivate yourself a safe space

Prepare yourself for the backlash

Ask someone safe to go with you

Call someone safe and ask them to stay on the phone with you if you do not feel safe

Self defense tools like pepper spray & brass knuckles

Know you're worth the exit

Take yourself seriously when they dont

Honor the gut feelings

Restore faith in your judgement

Honor your voice

Honor your body

Honor your "no"

Ask for a pause- "I need a break."

Ask for clarity- "Can you clarify that?"

Ask what their intentions are- "Are you being helpful or hurtful?"

Bring attention to the behavior and how it's making you feel- "I'm not comfortable with the way you're ignoring my concerns."

Make direct eye contact & deepen your voice- "You need to stop."

Do not apologize

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Hope this helps!

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#recovery #ptsd #trauma #boundaries #mental health #healing #bpd #positivity #how to say no #setting boundaries #communication #relationships #toxic relationships #toxic friendships #toxic family #reminders #suggestions #compassionate reminders

[calmmyfears]

hi, if you are struggling with not knowing who to be or what to do with your life this year just like me. i want you to know that it'll be alright, we will figure it out along the way. breathe deep and take my hand, we are going places you've never imagined. the world is waiting for us and we will get there in our own time, slow but steady. one foot in front of the other with kindness and patience in our hearts. we're not lost, we're on our way. 🤍

#purpose #you're enough #positive suggestions #motivation #chronic illness community #spoonie #trauma survivor #for you #and me