#tw patient abuse

[suffersinfandom]

I feel for the Izzy fans, I really do. It sucks to have your favorite character killed off, especially when you feel like their death serves no narrative purpose. It genuinely hurts to lose a character that you identify closely with, and it's okay to be sad and grieve. The character might not be real, but the grief is. Let people mourn. Don't be rude to the ones who are just being sad in their little corners of the internet, yeah?

That said.

Some of the stuff I've seen in the OFMD fandom today? Worst shit I've seen in a fandom that I love and care about, and grief is no excuse. I know I'm a no one in this fandom and I'm mostly typing into a void, but I've got to get some things out:

The show doesn't deserve to be canceled. None of the creators, producers, or writers deserve to be canceled. Nothing queerphobic, homophobic, or ableist happened.

Izzy's death was not an insult or a cruelty or a targeted attack.

David Jenkins and the rest of the writers did not gaslight and abuse anyone (yeah, those are take I've seen).

It wasn't "objectively" a cheap or meaningless or badly-written death. You can hate it and that's okay, but that's still subjective!

Izzy was not the main character or the "heart" of the show. The heart of the show -- the show itself -- is Ed and Stede's relationship. We have been told as much.

"Ed hasn't faced any consequences for his actions." He has though? He didn't gaslight girlboss his way back into everyone's hearts. Izzy is not Ed's hapless and helpless victim. He was almost beaten to death and ran around in a penitence onesie with a catbell on; I think those were consequences.

"How do you feel when gay characters are randomly killed off to help a straight couple progress their narrative? Not good, huh? That's how disabled fans feel." It's okay to feel that way, but don't make any sweeping assumptions about disabled fans. I'm disabled and I'm gonna say that's not what happened here.

"How dare you kill off this character who's abused, flawed, suicidal, disabled, and queer!" Ed is still right over there, yeah? Check, check, check, check, and check. (Little note: I've seen a lot of "he's not disabled!" Even if you don't buy the kneebrace ((Ed Teach with bad joints is so important to me, shhh)), what about invisible disabilities? What about mental health issues? I'm not here to diagnose a fictional character, but it's clear to me that Ed has mental health problems that dramatically impact his life.)

"It's sick that Izzy died in the arms of his abuser apologizing to him." I don't even know where to start with this one, but I get the feeling that some parts of the fandom only consider physical abuse valid. Mental, verbal, and emotional abuse are pretty fucking damaging and I think it's sick that some folks think they aren't actually abuse.

People who enjoyed the last episode of season two aren't media illiterate. People who love Gentlebeard aren't abusive narcissists.

I just.

I really, truly feel for Izzy fans for I too have lost a blorbo. I'm giving a huge hug to the Izzy enjoyers who aren't out there making threats and calling everyone abusers and being outright hostile to anyone who had the nerve to enjoy this season. Like, I genuinely hope you guys are doing okay, and if you need an ear, I'm game.

#ofmd #ofmd s2 spoilers #cw: abuse #tw: abuse #i'm just frustrated and sad #fandom critical #day two: still bad #but i've seen some very cool izzy fans out there talking down their friends #as well as some kind and patient words from neutral parties #this fandom is still mostly good and kind #day three: i think we're doing better! #day four: backsliding :( #me typing things

[uncanny-tranny]

I think a lot of people are frustrated sometimes when somebody expresses that therapy just "doesn't work" for them, and I used to feel that way, too, until I realized that the therapy that I was doing just wasn't right for me.

When people think therapy, I think many just assume it's all cognitive behavioural therapy and that that is the only kind of therapy out there. However, this isn't true, and CBT can absolutely be ineffective for certain situations. If you are confused by this idea, here's an example: when I was in the midst of my most recent abusive circumstance, not only was my therapy weaponized against me by my abuser, but also, the therapists I had were ill-prepared to treat ongoing abuse. They had the tools common for CBT, but there is only so much a victim can do before their circumstances are completely out of their control. In a case like this, CBT can be an unhelpful tool alone, which is why you have people who blanket statement say that all therapy is unhelpful (understandable why one would say that if they haven't had any helpful/good experiences).

It seems like people see this idea that "therapy doesn't work" as an automatic red flag, and certainly, I can imagine why one would think that. However, in a healthcare system that generally prioritizes CBT therapy as the "only therapy," it's helpful to remember that CBT isn't always the best option or the best option alone.

#mental health #mental health support #abuse #abuse tw #abuse mention tw #i just think it's best to not assume that people say this because they 'dont try' #i've had a decade's worth of CBT before i had to stop and it wasn't very helpful and i tried! #it's just that CBT doesn't 'need' to be specialized which means it tends to be cheaper than specialists #it's just really frustrating to navigate these spaces as somebody who's 'failed' CBT therapy #i think this therapy absolutely has its place and i think you can do cbt alongside specialized therapies #but i don't always think cbt alone is right for everybody - it wasn't right at all for me #and if i go to therapy again i'll probably explore alternatives or specialized therapy alongsode cbt #but that's probably if i get lucky #obligatory i am not a professional; i have just been a patient for a decade+ and speak with that experience in mind #actually the more i think about it the more fucked up it was that my abuser used therapy against me i never really thought about it as a kid #kept this one in the drafts for a bit but fuck it we ball

[nowritingonthewall]

I’m just begging you: Don’t make us go there again.

#oscar isaac #moon knight #marc spector #moonknightedit #chrissie gifs #tw: trauma #tw: child abuse #It still blows my mind how the people involved in this show seemed to have a better understanding of trauma #than most professional therapists do #It's so heartbreaking to see how you can literally see Marc being stuck in his freeze reaction #While Steven moves around and explores #Marc's feet are rooted to the spot #He doesn't get a word out and he is clearly struggling to breathe #He can't even move his body towards the threat (i.e. his mother banging against the door) so he mostly just moves his eyes #Until the door bursts open and Marc's flight mode is activated #There is so much evidence that talking about your trauma again and again does nothing to integrate it and heal from it #And Harrow is such a text book example of so called health care professionals that force their patients to be re-traumatized again and again #Marc literally shows Steven how he suffered the most horrible and painful injuries to his soul #And it neither helps him to integrate his trauma nor to balance the scales #The healing process only starts when he allows himself to start learning to be accepted and taken care of by Steven #I am sorry I just love him so much 🥺

[lunar-years]

🌹

“So I’m just supposed to step aside and let that abusive fucking cunt fucking hurt you all over again—”  STOP, Jamie tried to scream. Jamie tried to scream, but nothing came out. It was like his throat had closed up on him, and not only did his windpipe no longer seem to be working but the word was choking him. It was cutting off all his air, sudden and alarming like a slit to the throat, and Jamie couldn’t fucking breathe, and Roy was still yelling somewhere, anywhere, but it was all a buzz in his head now, impossible to understand the sentences. Abusive. A b u s i v e. And it was like that time he’d said traumatizing except not at all, and. And it wasn’t. It hadn’t been like that. The shape of it felt all wrong, and Jamie was choking on it ... “It wasn’t abuse,” he rasped out. And his voice was barely there, barely a voice at all. It came out so softly he couldn’t be sure that they’d heard him.  

#jamie tartt #roy kent #keeley jones #uhh do you ever think about how jamie probably doesn't frame any of his experiences as abuse #how probably no one has ever used that kind of language with him before and he has no framework for it #do you ever think about how Badly 'that must have been traumatizing' could have gone if Roy hadn't been Calm. #do you ever..... #no? just me? okay #my writing #ted lasso #tw abuse #tw panic attack #fic: rjk friends with benefits #asks #thanks for waiting patiently as a reward you get a snippet from the scene that prompted me to write the story <3

[crabussy]

I want to take a bite out of someone's arm but I'm too shy

#it's ok to reblog this post and ignore the rant in the tags I don't mind at all /gen #hi guys #got another load of trauma from school #and I am not dealing with it well at all my legs have been shaking so badly for 4 hours now #had a panic attack so bad that my face went numb and the edges of my vision went black and my legs gave way #I hate my teacher she's horrible god I can't even go into it here there's so much #I'm tired of getting abused at school I've been to half a dozen schools and have not gotten traumatised at ONLY ONE OF THEM #I have no adults I can go to about this #whenever I try to talk with her and the head teacher about the situation and why I'm fucking terrified of her she acts so patient and kind #whenever I'm alone with her she will yell at me about everything I'm doing wrong and continue yelling even when I'm in tears #she will berate me and put me down and insult me directly #when she gives feedback she always puts effort into making it hurt #the language she uses for negative feedback is never what a teacher should say it's always personal and uses your weaknesses to hurt you #I get really bad intrusive thoughts about her hurting me physically because of how terrified I am of her #the worst part is she acts nice and sweet whenever she's not picking apart my weaknesses and being cruel about my disabilities #I felt so sick after that I haven't eaten since #vent tw #trauma tw #listen to my gibberish boy #ggod I hate this school

[deertism]

if i see 01 more " my mom / dad was a narcissist :( " tiktok / comment on my fyp im gonna lose it

#💊 ━━ 「Ⅰ」. casey #🫀 ━━ 「Ⅱ」. patient records #can people be normal abt npd for once omfg #tw “ narc abuse truthers ” gag

[scoutpologist]

and i did wanna say that, from experience: 1) many abusers can hide who they are very well when they want to, 2) that mistreatment still leaks out to the people around them and many of their other loved ones will end up victims as well, 3) it takes a lot of time to fully process that someone is an abuser especially if you were mistreated yourself, and 4) confronting an abuser personally once they're called out rarely goes well, but it's probably what's happening right now.

i'm not an expert on this sort of thing, but i do know that it's going to take time. be prepared to wait a bit, for better or for worse. i'm not defending complacency in abuse. fuck everyone who has been complacent. fuck everyone who told shelby not to come forward. i just want everyone to know that these things will take a bit of time to fully unravel.

#op #abuse tw #mmmm considering making this unrebloggable? #i hope everyone understands what i'm saying #expecting everything to come out NOW and everyone to talk NOW #while that would be ideal it's just not gonna happen yk? #i'm heavily side eyeing everyone and just waiting patiently for people to say what they want to say #in the meantime this discourse is getting to less than useless levels so i'm hopping out

[gorentaya]

“Angel’s feelings” Question from @/shiruka_etc

(Follow @/Patient.Zero_Ask.Box on instagram to ask questions and interact with the main cast of Patient Zero!)

#oc #original character #anime #manga #gorentaya patientzero #original work #original content #original ​project #doodle #sketch #patient zero ask box #tw trypophobia #tw body horror #implications of abuse #lore #original lore #indie comic #comic #indie comic artist #ask blog

[angrelysimpping]

October Prompt Day 19: Ghosts

GN Harper (they/them); GN Reader (you/your); again, Ivory Wraith is fucking with ya; set in the asylum; doctor/patient; implied past abuse

Words: 475

“You’re progressing well, but that’s all the time we have for today.”

That’s your queue to leave. If you stay, Harper will call in the orderlies, and you’ll get escorted out. If you’re lucky, that’s all that will happen. 

Harper quirks a brow, their smile never faltering as you fidget in your seat, fingers twisting into the hem of your patient gown as you try to make up your mind.

“Are you-”

“I-I’ve been having nightmares,” you cut in, trying your best to keep your voice steady.

Harper cocks their head to the side. “Oh?”

You keep your head down, eyes trained on their shoes as you try to keep the slight tremor in your hands from spreading to the rest of your body. “E-Every night. I, can I talk to you about them? P-Please, Doctor?”

If you’d been looking at Harper’s face, you’d have seen how their smile widened at your words, a faint pink spreading across their cheeks. 

The silence stretches on and you can’t bring yourself to look up, terrified of seeing disappointment in their eyes. 

Harper stands, and you can’t help the small flinch at the sudden movement, squeaking out an apology that the doctor only acknowledges with a hum as they walk past your seat. Poking their head out of their office door, they exchange a few hushed words with the orderlies.

Harper shuts the door. “Tell me about your nightmares.”

You relax, but only a little, taking a deep breath as you try to soothe yourself. 

“There’s a pale figure. Red eyes, long hair. They follow me, haunting me. L-Like a ghost, almost. Says I stole something from them b-but I d-don’t, I don’t remember taking anything, from anyone. I don’t-” you cut yourself off, taking another shuddering breath. 

“Is that all?”

You shake your head no frantically, eyes screwing shut as you try to think. “I s-see them,” you whisper. “I see them when I wake. On t-top of m-me. H-Hurting me. I-” your throat constricts, tears burning in the corners of your eyes. 

“Remember your exercises.”

Your eyes snap open, finding Harper only millimeters away from you, bright eyes boring into yours. 

Your exercises. Right. The things Doctor Harper had taught you to do when your emotions were spinning out of control. 

You lurch out of the chair, arms wrapping around the doctor. They chuckle, hand coming to rest on the small of your back. You press against them, tucking your face into the crook of their neck and breathing deeply. Harper always smelled clean. Clean and sweet. And something else. Something that you couldn’t place but it made you feel warm all over.

“How about I run a sleep study for you, hm?”

You nod, taking another deep, shaking breath as you start to calm down. Doctor Harper would take care of you, they always did.

#degrees of lewdity #harper the doctor #tw doctor/patient #cw doctor/patient #fall fluff #tw past abuse #cw past abuse

[and-stir-the-stars]

thinking about. saffron henry. does he realize how badly he fucked up? what would the boys' reactions be if he reappeared? does jem know about him? also, is he like. healing his own trauma from charlie n everything or is he just. melting

also. unrelated. does mike ever feel like he should be less fucked up because evan's trauma is just so extreme that he compares it? does evan ever feel like others shouldn't be so traumatized bc of his frame of reference?

(Answered the first half of this ask here)

These are awesome awesome questions about the extent of and response to the trauma Ev and Mike went thru, thank you for asking!

does mike ever feel like he should be less fucked up because evan's trauma is just so extreme that he compares it?

Yes. Mike has a lot of guilt over the fact that HE was able to escape and form a life of his own when Evan so clearly wasn't.

This is probably a problem Mike had even before finding out what happened to Evan, actually. Mike has spent some time listening to other runaways stories, hearing how bad other people had it, and he would have compared himself to their stories and found the abuse he faced 'lacking' because Mike is just. Deep down, he's just a kid who wants to be loved, and he wants to be loved by his father, so even though he knows he's been abused by William, a part of him still can't help but think "maybe it wasn't actually that bad" "maybe i just did stupid stuff to make him angry and if i just stopped, things would get better" "maybe I'm just weak and shouldn't be hurt by the stuff he did".

And this tendency to like. Downplay everything he went through affects his reaction to what Evan went through. Not in that he downplays what Ev went through (he doesn't), but it makes Mike downplay his own trauma.

There's a lot of nights when Mike roams listlessly through the house, hating himself for not being able to sleep. Because what problems does he REALLY have?? Yeah William hurt him sometimes and shitty things happened to him after he ran away, but some voice in his head snaps that at least he got out! Usually when Mike can't sleep, he goes on drives in his VW bus to calm his nerves, but in this case, he refuses to let himself do that as punishment for "being so freaked out over nothing". He probably does this refusing-to-let-himself-be-comforted and pushing-himself-past-his-limits thing because he thinks what he went through "wasn't that bad" a lot. It's something he has to work on in therapy.

It also doesn't help that Mike feels obligated to be Put Together for Evan’s sake; it def makes Mike's downplaying/hiding/refusing to acknowledge what he went through thing worse. But that's the good thing about Evan's arc where he realizes Mike is his own person who went through a lot of trauma of his own; it makes Mike acknowledge some of the shit he went through and actually WORK through it, too. It is it's own kind of validation and relief for someone close to you to look at what you went through and admit "it's shitty that that happened to you, and I wish it hadn't."

does evan ever feel like others shouldn't be so traumatized bc of his frame of reference?

mmmm, kinda?

Evan's sense of empathy is complicated, especially when he's put in Mike’s custody; he's still mad at Mike for everything that happened between them. He still thinks of Mike as this big, scary, untouchable monster. Of course an invincible monster like that couldn't ever be hurt by anything.

Then, Mike keeps trying to treat Ev with kindness and sympathy instead of being cruel and monstrous. At this point, the times when Ev sees Mike flinch away from touch or flinching from Ev yelling at him or from the smell of cigarette smoke on Ev's clothes, or the times when Mike gets sent into a panic attack, are all met with confusion and a level of self-satisfaction. He doesn't know why these things are having such an impact on Michael, but it's satisfying to see that the monster that hurt him so bad can be made hurt and vulnerable after all-- especially since Evan takes this as proof that William chose Evan over Mike as his successor because he believed Evan was Stronger. Evan starts to understand that Mike can be hurt, but does not empathize with Mike over this understanding just yet.

But I don't think Evan would have the thought "why should Mike be traumatized over xyz thing when I had to deal with abc" because Evan hasn't been thinking about what William did to him as something traumatic. That doesn't come until later. He thought what William was doing was normal & good. The time Evan has spent in psychiatric facilities has taught him that the murder/using violence to make yourself feel better thing isn't normal, but Evan hasn't gotten over the barrier of thinking that it made him Stronger-- that it was a good thing even if it wasn't Normal.

It's not until Ev realizes that William was using him, didn't care, and wasn't trying to help Ev that that particular barrier finally comes crashing down for Evan.

It's not long after that that Evan has his "oh, Mike is a real person with his own trauma" revelation.

During the time between Ev realizing that William was so horrifically abusive and having his realization about Mike’s trauma, I think it's possible that Ev would lash out in ways that come across as "why should you be traumatized by xyz thing", because Ev has so much pain and confusion around the idea that Mike just left him there with William. YOU got out and I didn't, I was the one stuck there because YOU left me there, so what exactly do you have to freak out over? You chose the new life you ran away for.

But I think this fades once Ev has his Realization about Mike’s past. Because the Realization makes him understand that Mike didn't choose any of this, either.

so, this brings me to how your question applies to Evan when he's actually had a chance to start healing.

Evan’s definitely had his sense of empathy stunted and repressed as a result of his trauma, so it's hard for him to understand what other people are thinking or feeling. But I don't think this translates to him thinking other people SHOULDN'T be traumatized (as much sense as that as a trauma response would make for someone who has been thru what Evan has) so much as Evan not understanding that someone IS traumatized by something, and later, WHY they would be traumatized by it.

But Evan is a naturally empathetic person, and a naturally curious kid. So i think his response to finally understanding that the reason someone is acting weird is because they're upset by something, it would manifest as curiosity since his empathy has been so fried. He doesn't understand other people's trauma, but I think he'd be curious to understand the why's and how's of other people’s trauma. Why are you upset. What about this specific scenario is sparking this reaction. What specifically does it make you feel. Why aren't you acting like you normally do. How do i stop this from happening again.

His attempts to Understand come across as... maybe not clinical, exactly, but definitely as insensitive.

Like, when Evan learns that Jeremy is still fucked up about their (singular) little sister dying when they were younger, Evan’s brain is like. MY sister went missing (he knows how Liz died but repressed it) and my brother used her disappearance as an excuse to torture me. In Evan’s mind, what he went through is Worse than what Jeremy went through, but he's not being judgemental as is implied in the question "why should you be traumatized", he's just genuinely Trying To Understand "why was that so upsetting for you when it could have been worse?" Once he finally realizes that someone is upset about something, he struggles to understand WHY, and he accidentally comes across as insensitive.

I don't think it's emotional so much as physical pain that would elicit that kind of "why should you be upset when xyz traumatic thing could have happened instead?" response. Evan has been trained to be less responsive to physical pain by this point, as in is less responsive to being in pain himself and seeing others in pain. If he were to see someone get visibly upset from stubbing a toe or scraping a knee or getting cut/scratched, he'd just look on in utter confusion. Evan has seen people--kids-- be physically ripped apart. William and younger Mike both did things to him that could low key be classified as torture. I think the part of his brain repsonsible for registering physical pain is always gonna be a little fucked up.

#I wish i could talk more about Evan's empathy in the time after the arrest but before being put in Mike's custody #During the time when he would have been in psych facilities #But i don't really know what that would be like. #If he was allowed to be around other (non psychologist) people and he heard about other people's trauma during that time? #He'd probably just be desensitized to it? #He'd listen to it w the same emotional reaction you'd have to listening to someone make boring small talk about the weather #If he cares at all it's only to throw other people's trauma in the psychologists' faces #''You can't tell me xyz thing isnt normal when this other patient went through it too. You don't know what ur talking about.'' #saffron pawn au #evan afton #evan afton support center #michael afton #tw child abuse #tw body horror

[lightasthesun]

How do I stop caring about my parents

#im so tired #i don't wanna give them olive branches anymore #i want to not care and not do my best and not be forthcoming and compassionate and patient and forgiving i want to let go #tw parents #tw abuse

[shmorp-mcdurgen]

Two questions about the lab au because I can’t help myself..

First, what do the patients eat, is anything different for anyone or do they eat the same food every day?

Second, what happens to the patients after they killed a worker, do they get punished and how?

1: They eat. most of the time, bland, tasteless food. but it is still food, like what you'd find at a school for lunch, and for the most part the food is different each day. though. Sam just gets bars that give him the amount of nutrients he needs for the day plus water so. I'd say he has worse food than the others-

2: Depends on the patient. Well regarded by staff? (ahem. Mark due to Gabriel. ahem) They may get away with very little aside from a threat and. possibly getting smacked across the face or something like that. Not well regarded? Well. good luck. Cause I doubt the punishment will be great.

#asks are neat #tmc labrats au #tw physical abuse #Plus it'll only push them to proving that the patients are “animals” and “unpredictable”

[funshinebf]

a nearby pet shelter recently took in a bunch of huskies away from a neglectful breeding operation, which already is fucked up and makes me emotional. but they just posted one's profile (pictures, name, age, breed, etc) and her name is Beloved 😭 ohhhh baby

#my post #animal abuse tw #ask to tag #i feel so bad for all of them cause they arent house trained #i dont think they have like. ANY kind of training #apparently theyve all been kept outside so they dont know how to live indoors #which is gonna make it hard to get them adopted!! theyll need houses that will be patient with them and put in the work to train them #it makes me so distraught #these poor babies. augh #its just not right. it makes me sick

[jamietarttsdaddyissues]

Ugh the classic trope of showing up at your enemies door injured and scared because “I didn’t know where else to go”

I’ve seen this in so many fics with Jamie showing up at Roy’s door and IT NEVER GETS OLD please give me more

#Roy immediately getting so protective despite he and Jamie’s history #asking who did this to you #or bluntly asking if his father did this #because Roy knows #who else could it be? #and Jamie’s just so shaken up he can barely say a word #just nods quietly or doesn’t respond at all #and Roy tells him to just get inside you prick before you catch your death out there in the cold #because it’s winter and Jamie clearly left his house in a panic because he doesn’t even have a coat on #Roy gently and patiently trying to get the story out of Jamie #and check him for injuries to see how bad the damage is #while also trying so hard to keep his anger in check because he wants nothing more than to get his hands around James Sr’s neck #Jamie trying to apologize for barging in on his night and saying he’ll leave #Roy telling him he’s staying at his place tonight end of story #and Jamie is embarrassed but So Relieved #ugh god I could read a thousand iterations of this plot and I’ll never get bored #jamie tartt #ted lasso #roy kent #abuse tw

[chaoticdesertdweller]

#life #photography #mental health #original photographers #on the road #virginia #staunton #children's asylum #tw child trauma #tw child death #tw child abuse #they practiced eugenics here #before it became strictly children patients #vintage filters #vintage aesthetic #psychiatric hospital