#ugly people problems

[drag0nashes]

You know who you are

#Adam KNOWS who you are #hazbin hotel adam #adam #hazbin #hazbin hotel #overture #hell is forever #ugly people problems #hazbin memes #hazbin hotel lute #adam hazbin hotel

[accidentalslayer]

TV and movies adaptations of books ruin things by taking a canonly awkward-looking crust of a character and giving their role to some unobtainably-beautiful celebrity who's never seen a double chin in their life and I hate it. Nothing can be ugly on screen unless you're the comic relief or the "bad guy" or the background character.

#things i hate #the marginalization of ugly people #spilled thoughts #spilled words #fat phobia #ugly people problems #the media is fat phobic #hollywood #celebrities #body shaming is a hollywood tradition

[cosmoticcousins]

ugly people in society

can people be nicer towards conventionally unattractive people? or just treat them with basic human decency? the amount of comments i get for having bad teeth, a big nose or just being an "ugly goblin" in general is honestly depressing. can the body positivity movement include us ugly folks and stop being so exclusive and hypocritical, thank you so much.

#lookism #ugly #ugly people problems #pretty privilege #body posititivity #tired #struggle #inequality #uglyphobia #uglypositivity #body neutrality #ugly liberation #its ok to be ugly

[notdelusionalatall]

I know this because when I was a teenage girl the girls I used to hang out with at school would make me take pictures of them together, but they never wanted to take a picture with me. Sorry sorry sorry, fucking sorry for being ugly, I will hate myself forever. SORRY!

Also being told that you are ugly all the time didn't help. Fuck this bullshit.

#i am so fucking sad #i might as well not be here #if you know what i mean #ugly people problems #bdd #ugly or body dysmorphia #ihatemyself #i will never be pretty enough #extremely sad #self destruction #self destructive behavior #self destructive thoughts #self destructive tendencies #self hatred #insecure #insecurities #back to being sad #i wanna hang myself

[pitapevatra]

I’m ugly or Tinder is broken

#tumblr #ugly people problems #wtf is happening #wtf is wrong with me

[blue-echinacea]

crying in the morning before work because im ugly. I want to skip doing makeup because my eyes are inflamed and my cheeks are wet. but im ugly. so I do my makeup.

this happens at least once a month.

#ugly people problems #not poetry #2023

[strawberryoverlord]

Does anyone else go through that thing where you start thinking about the person you're attracted to (real or fictional) and immediately feel extremely disgusted by your own body and existence?

#haha me rn #tfw a new fictional crush but you feel super gross about yourself #one of the reasons i dont understand the concept of fictional others #i know for a fact none of my favs wpuld ever feel any form of attraction to me if they were real #ugly people problems

[reallesbiancorn]

Being a fat girl, there's only one thing worse than your crush having a a girlfriend. Your crush having a girlfriend who's fatter than you. What does she have that I don't? Heart disease and type 2 diabetes?

#fat girl problems #ugly people problems #just my opinion

[sillysexysoul]

I'm normally assertive with the fact that I'm ugly, usually denying compliments to my overall looks (e.g. hot, pretty, etc.), because that is how people in the world have seen/treated me and do see/treat me.

You could even say I'm a little proud of the fact that I've survived the general disdain/mistreatment that's present in the world for ugly people. With pride comes shame in how I've seen/treated other people based on their looks, whether or not they were the kind of person I experienced attraction towards.

I forgive myself for (maybe some, maybe all of) that shame because I came from a society which encouraged, taught, inbuilt that shame. Our heroes are beautiful, our villains are ugly; the social circles I grew up witnessing, the social circles formed in the world around me, were separated (partially) by attractiveness levels.

However, what spurred me writing all this out today is discovering another thing which distinguish my life from the life of someone seen/treated as not-ugly:* some people make people nervous because they're not-ugly, because they're generally attractive, because they're pretty.

I don't think anyone has ever gotten nervous around me for that reason. As someone who is big (plus size and slightly above average height); as someone incredibly aware of my body, which is read as male (by many people - I'm transfemme); AND, because I am ugly, I have more need for worrying about whether someone is nervous around me because they see me as a threat; which is something I am constantly avoiding whenever I go outside.

I avoid causing that worry in others because it is a negative kind of nervousness, whereas nervousness in attraction is generally seen as positive, or at least natural (though I am sceptical about whether it should be). This is not to say that people do not perceive attractive people as threatening (but it is important to me that I note my observation that ugliness does seem to play into people's threat perception).

When I say what spurred me to write this was "discovering" this distinction, it is more like I finally thought about it for the first time; I finally thought about how it is an alien fantasy to me for people to get that nervous, giggly feeling because they think I'm pretty. I had already had a similar realisation about how people don't get excited by looking at me (in the way they would if they saw someone with nice muscles, for instance).

This is all more relevant in a world of dating apps where a good photo is one which gets you swipes, and what gets you swipes is attraction, what does is ugliness.

*(I don't want to create a new, strict binary of ugly beautiful since beautiful only makes up part of not-ugly)

#rant #ugly #ugliness #ugly people problems

[girlunionize]

I was chatting with this guy on a dating app, he asked for my WhatsApp number, and I gave it to him, my WhatsApp icon is a newer photo, from this year, on dating apps I used photos from last year and never bothered to change it i know i should but i hare taking pics. But this guy saw my profile pic and had a fit saying I catfished him because I was not as fat and ugly on the tinder profile. Now I can't stop crying

#fat problems #ugly people problems #i am legit crying #i hate myself #i gonna relapse and i am over 2 years clean

[scribefindegil]

Every character in Mob Psycho is so lonely at the beginning of the series, but they all express it in different ways so they don’t realize they’re all dealing with the same problem!

Mob makes himself small and quiet and blends in and does his best to never make a scene and never ask for anything and never think about what he wants. Reigen makes himself big and loud boisterous and takes up as much space as possible--but it’s all show, it’s all slight-of-hand, it’s a magic trick so everyone looks where he wants them to and he doesn’t have to risk anyone seeing through him. Ritsu makes himself perfect and dutiful and studious and pours himself into the mold of A Good Son, A Good Student, A Good Brother, and thinks that if he buries himself deep enough no one can touch him. Teru makes himself sharp and brilliant and frightening and puts himself at the top of the pyramid and convinces himself that it’s a feature that no one can get close to him. Dimple does the same thing--makes himself into a god and a monster, someone who only sees humans as pawns. Never equals. Never friends.

Everyone has walled themselves off from genuine connection, convinced themselves that there’s an important reason they’re alone that isn’t just that they’re afraid, and the series is about all of those walls being torn down, bit by bit. There are a million ways to be lonely, but the solution to all of them, every time, is vulnerability and kindness.

#mp100 #the Themes . . . #everyone can parallel each other because everyone has THE SAME PROBLEM #no matter how different the mask they put over it is #the only answer is to take off the mask! #and it's scary and it gets you hurt so you can't do it with everyone #but you have to trust people!! #you have to trust the people who love you!! #you have to acknowledge that the ugly parts of yourself are no worse than the ugly parts of them #and trust them with it! #god i wish i wasn't cursed i could be so fucking coherent about this

[iamacolor]

all is well in france! they didn't just lie about the teenager trying to run over a cop who was supposedly standing in front of the car to stop him (when in reality he was on the side at the car window pointing his gun directly in the car), most of the first media reports presented the kid as a recidivist delinquent to twist the narrative in their favor even though he had no record! also in the video that debunked their claims of legitimate defense, the policeman can be heard saying "open or I'll shoot you in the head". also it's not said here but most of the poc killed by the police in france are men and the numbers of killings by the police are steadily on the rise over the last few years (because of one law that was put in place in 2017 or around that time and gives policemen more situations in which they can use their weapons for legitimate defense or public security) if you still think France is the country of human rights and freedom bla bla bla, think again

#france #police violence #racism #death tw #violence tw #french stuffs #and now the police minister is calling for quiet over the protests and outcries happening in the streets especially where the kids was from #and he's sending more policemen to stop things when they're the problem like... sure people are going to be pacified now that they have 200 #colleagues of the guy who killed their friend/neighbor/co-citizen #some of this country is soooo ugly ugly ugly and so rotten #vinformation #police brutality

[cosmoticcousins]

are you a true body positive person or just someone who wants to be "fake progressive", fights for fat people whilst continuing to mock ugly people? are you a true mental health advocate or just someone who wants to be trendy, fights for "socially acceptable" mental disorders whilst continuing to demonize people who suffer from "unacceptable" mental illnesses... tell me who you are boo💖

#lookism #pretty privilege #ugly #ugly people problems #fat and ugly #the world is ugly #bodypositivity #mentally unstable #mentally ill #mental illness #politics #progressive #bodypositivitymovement #mental health #society #stop discriminating

[hella1975]

it's been pointed out on here before that a lot of terf arguments are actually rooted in sexist idealology that feminists fought and died to unnormalise decades ago and that's its own kettle of fish but one thing i also find very frustrating about this so called 'radical' feminism is that it's so... defeatist? like the moment you categorically label an entire section of society as Bad and Inherently Evil then there's also the implication that nothing can be done about it, and it completely takes all accountability away. saying all men are evil is just another way of saying boys will be boys. he raped her because he's a man. he hit her because he's a man. he didn't listen because he's a man - it's almost offensively oversimplified. there's no point trying to fix this issue in society because men are just Like That, okay! so now what? it's not like they're going anywhere, so you just accept that 50% of the population are evil and will forever treat you terribly and there's nothing to be done about it bc they're biologically predisposed to it? like is that fr the argument here? you're soooo radical for that

#this is coming from someone who used to very genuinely be a misandrist #ironically it was only when i started actually analysing my own feminism that i got MORE confrontational with men #and started respecting my boundaries a lot better BECAUSE i started holding them accountable again #like when men treat me like shit nowadays i dont just write it off as 'what did you expect? he's a man' i get MAD about it #because i EXPECT BETTER FROM THEM even if it's just tiny shit women have to deal with daily #i hold them to just as high a standard as im held to and i make them take accountability when they dont meet that #and whether you realise it or not even on a subconscious level the MOMENT you black-and-white blanket statement all men as bad #you stop holding them accountable. #like it is literally just boys will be boys. do terfs seriously not realise they're sending feminism BACKWARDS #like if a girl came to me with her trauma and people - other girls no less - tried to comfort her with 'yeah all men are evil' #id be fucking furious. like no he did that because he was a piece of shit that had it normalised to him that women arent to be respected #dont you dare let him off the hook with something as simple and uncritical as 'he's a man' #i promise you men like that will MUCH prefer a blanket statement such as 'all men are as bad as each other' #than actually being point blank told they're an abuser or a rapist. because being lumped together is comfortable and even empowering #wheras isolating their behaviour with words that are Bad and Ugly (LIKE 'rapist') is not comfortable at all and has heavy connotations #idk i dont think radical feminism is always bad on its own it can be v liberating. just terfs and misandrists that i have a problem with #dropping this post in a piranha tank and closing tumblr knowing im gonna have some thirty year old karen yelling at me within 5 mins #i probably wont respond to any terf comments bc they literally mentally exhaust me with their stupidity #but that also depends on my mood and ability to keep my mouth shut LMFAO we shall see

[ganymedesclock]

To explain The Goblin Problem and not go on a tag rant on someone else's reblog, I will explain it in the nutshell.

The Goblin Problem is when a story establishes a group of creatures to serve as recurrent antagonists (not necessarily all one species; in a lot of rpg games this can broadly apply to "monsters") THAT:

Are never negotiable, or the negotiable parties among them are Token Heroic Orcs- that is to say, they are seen as objectors or 'good' versions who have absolutely no connections to, and hold no objections toward you attacking, the rest of their brethren, who they have forsaken as the price to be paid for being good.

Have obvious unique technology; they may attack you with weapons found nowhere else in the game, demonstrate the ability to speak, have their own obvious language, tame a creature that nobody else tames so that it's thus impossible that they are stealing already-tamed specimens from someone else

Are characterized primarily or exclusively as raiders who attack others, with the justification this means they are inferior creatures parasitically dependent on Good, Civilized Settings, e.g. they cannot possibly be sustainably hunting, gathering, or practicing either nomadic or settled agriculture.

Are often defined as having no choice to be evil or are created by a greater evil to serve as thralls, and yet, will not under any circumstances be regarded as indoctrinated victims, or if that is mentioned, there will nonetheless be an overarching lack of narrative concern as to where or how the survivors should live after the greater evil is taken care of, or if effort should be made to challenge the indoctrination and give them the ability to choose their lives.

What this ultimately creates is that they are unambiguously people, who obviously check all the marks of sapience, who are quite possibly wearing clothes, but the goblin or orc exists as a stopgap. You want your fantasy hero to get into a swordfight but you don't want him to kill another human being. So you invent something that wields a sword but is in some way "not a person", which is senseless. Unless you want the nature of this swordfight to be that a chimpanzee picked up a knife, at which point they are not going to use reliable sword techniques.

#writing ruminations #the goblin problem #way too many fantasy stories take basically racist myths and then go 'well but it's different if this is Literally True' #'and applies to a species I made up that's also ugly by white western able-bodied standards' #and the underpinning motivation is you need a conflict token to move against your protagonists #and you don't want to suggest they're butchering animals- even scary ones- or hurting People #so you invent fake-animal-people whose job is only to be mean and have no apparent role in an ecosystem #and it's. I don't know how to tell you that's bad chief #even in a black-and-white good guys vs. bad guys clean cut narrative you should REALLY not split morality along race or species lines #hell in an extremely straightforward good vs. evil narrative you kinda gotta think about that MORE

[stewykablooey]

not to be skinnyphobic but i do thank god every single day that they cast sarah snook and her body ody ody ody to play shiv because if she was played by a 90 pound 5’10 white woman that shit wouldn’t feel right

#its really just about good casting in that they’re all hot but they also very very very much look like real people #like on bad succession everyone is gap commercial hot and thank god we escaped that #but i mean especially for shiv cuz obvi tv wont have a problem casting ‘ugly hot’ for men but. #also i say skinnyphobic as a joke skinnyphobia doesn’t exist #m