#unrealistic expectations

[itsbansheebitch]

How to Word THIS

I tried rewriting this post so many times. I'm going to try bullet points instead.

I think all of these are good/true:

From my experience as an afab person raised similarly to a boy due to my father wanting a boy, I can confidently say that the emotional suppression that men and boys experience on a daily basis is frankly, inhumane.

Parents shouldn't speculate their kid(s) gender/sexuality/etc just because their kid is showing certain behaviors/having certain interests that aren't stereotypical for their assigned gender.

Parents should allow kids space to explore gender/sexuality, but make sure not to push them into anything.

Parents should allow their kids space to explore gender/sexuality, but make sure that their kid is first and foremost SAFE and HAPPY.

Emotional suppression is expected of men/boys, but science agrees that emotional suppression is in short, BAD FOR YOU.

"Be a man" is often used as a slap in the face to keep men/boys in line. You can imagine this isn't ideal if a boy is reporting bullying in school or a man is trying to bring up unsafe working conditions.

A lot of women have trauma about men (including myself), but this doesn't mean that a whole marginalized group should be excluded from sports (We're not going to re-segregate sports just because some people have trauma related to black people, are we?)

Men & boys' emotions should not only be accepted but ENCOURAGED!

Black men's emotions have been demonized for CENTURIES. Make sure to raise an eyebrow when you hear a black man experiencing anger described as "animalistic" or described with any other dehumanizing language.

Stop expecting men to do things you don't expect women to do! If you don't expect women to chase CEO positions, don't ask why a man isn't a CEO yet! Just like how you shouldn't expect a woman to be a wife and mother by 25 if that's not what you're expecting of men. And if you are having those kinds of standards then maybe lower them because both sides and both genders are extremely unrealistic!

Men aren't given the tools to describe their emotions! If you are wondering what a man thinks about a topic, a decision, etc, give them time to respond and let them know they have time to think! Give them time to think about their answer. If they want (ASK) you can offer an Emotion Wheel or a few (metaphorical) Mad Libs for them to start their answer with.

Alexithymia (also known as emotional colorblindness) is a phenomenon when someone has trouble describing their emotions. They feel all their emotions normally, but they struggle describing them or giving them detail.

Normative Male Alexithymia is a type of Alexithymia. It is called "Normative Male..." because in a lot of cultures (specifically western cultures) it is normal for men to suppress their emotions to the point of having trouble recalling names of emotions or describing them in detail when asked.

Alexithymia/Normative Male Alexithymia is a BIG reason why a lot of men struggle in therapy. It is also the reason why I, myself struggled (to communicate my thoughts) in therapy. Because I was raised to suppress my emotions and not communicate my thoughts.

I truly believe that if my upbringing was even a HINT a SLICE a BREATH a WHISPER a TINY BIT of what the average boy's upbringing is like, then our collective, societal treatment of men and boys is inhumane and inexcusable.

I know any boy or man that makes a post even hinting something like this would be attacked. This isn't me being a pick-me, this is me telling you that my dad was prepared to raise boys, he got girls, and I got a VERY different perspective because of it. I'm telling you right now that if how I was treated was even a hint of what the average boy gets growing up, then we owe men an apology. I'm not joking. This is not satire.

People talk about intersectionality, but rarely actually NAME boys and men as being a part of the discussion (unless they're the "villain"). I think we should do so more often. They are ALSO getting the short end of the stick. (Expecting to be part of an "Atom Family" and work ALL DAY??? NO THANKS)

#lgbt #lgbtqia #lgbtq #lgbtq+ #queer #trans rights #nonbinary #intersex #intersectionality #genderqueer #gender #politics #us politics #world politics #feminism #mental health #alexithymia #normative male alexithymia #unrealistic expectations #suppressing emotions

[cherryobsession]

This video is where I am at life with my AuDHD.

#personal #audhd #actuallyautistic #sensory issues #unrealistic expectations

[reetheking]

Gender neutral sub- masc dom.

Oh darling what’s wrong? You’ve hardly touched your 4 litre jug of water. Your bladder is full? Oh darling that’s no reason to stop drinking it. I know I haven’t let you pee in 18 hours but that tummy of yours looks rather empty and I’m sure it can handle four litres of water- it’s not like you want to pee anyways.

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Some time later,,,,

What’s wrong sweetheart? Why the tears? Your bladder aches and you think you ‘need’ to pee? Oh no no sweetie your bladder just is saying that it’s growing! It aches because the water in your tummy hasn’t hit it yet!

Oh sweetie stop crying, you’ll be allowed to pee soon. Just keep gaming, I’ll be in my office working. Just shout if you need something! No I know you want to pee but that catheter line is keeping everything nice and tightly in. It won’t be emptied until I say so and your bladder hardly looks big enough- let me go grab you that bottle of lemonade, that will help speed up the process.

Oh? You’ll do anything for me sweetheart? Well if you can make me cum twice in the next 5 mins, you can go after dinner.

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More time later,,,,

Hello sweetheart, what seems to be the matter? You wanted some attention? I see, come and sit on my lap darling- I need to send a few more emails and then we can head to bed.

No darling I know you’ve been holding nearly 20 hours worth of piss inside, but that bladder still looks too small. My mother thinks your pregnant and we need to keep up with the act of it. Yes I know it aches worse but we’re meeting with her tomorrow for dinner and you need to look 6 months pregnant in the next 15 hours. I know I said I would uncork your bladder but she called earlier while you were gaming.

Yes she will ask to touch your belly and she will press on it. I know darling- I don’t have the best relationship with her but we can break her little heart more next month.

Oh? You like the idea of being stuffed full of cum? You like that your bladder hurts and that you still can’t pee? Oh goodness! Well then, you know what that means! No bathroom for the rest of the week!

#extreme Omorashi #hyper bladder #omorashi #full bladder #omo #nonbinary omo #gender neutral mc #male dom #unrealistic holding time #unrealistic expectations

[safe-haven-safe-place]

#mental health #self care #healing #recovery #positive thoughts #positivity #self worth #self love #anxiety relief #expectations #high expectations #perfectionism #unrealistic expectations #feeling like a failure

[ineffablemossy]

Sometimes I feel down that I've always had so few friends.

Then I think about what friend means, what I want with a friend. And I wrote out a list of cool things.

Then I think wait that's the banal stuff. That's not really it.

What I really want is:

To be vulnerable with you, I want to look in your eyes and feel them strip my soul bare

I want your comfort, I want to drain you dry of it like I'm dying of thirst

I want to do crimes with you and make it cute

I want to know you biblically, sometimes, maybe, sometimes not

I want to disappear for years and come back to your face, unchanged in its brightness as if only a moment had passed

I want to leave for a two hour meeting and dramatically announce my return by draping myself over your desk like a renaissance sculpture

I long to BREATHE you in

To CONSUME YOU

And have you do the same

To go waaaay back and have that mean the World

And then I think

Maybe I have unrealistic expectations

Or maybe I'm just a demon, and you're just an angel I know

#real friends or bust #friendship #situationships #some kind of ship anyway #my fave ship is you and me #biblical buddies #good omens #ineffable husbands #anthony justkissmealready crowley #Aziraphale so hard #unrealistic expectations

[ladytarantula]

I wrote this while listening to Fallen Angel by Poison. This was inspired by something I went through 8 years ago.

Got your early morning text

Out of of blue

You began flirting

I thought all my dreams had come true

But I'm just that side chick

The one who's up for a booty call

You've always known how I felt

I feel like a fool

Knowing you really don't care at all

We hook up

Feelin' loved up

But then you say you gotta go

I please you in ways she can't

Faking a smile, I know the deal

I'll never let my feelings show

#my poety #original poetry #writing community #creative writing #the other woman #unrealistic expectations #unrequited love #loving a married man

[family-trauma]

The past few weeks, I've been really thinking about why I either over share or don't say much to people I consider as friends. Recently while talking to a friend of mine, he asked, "why do you talk about or share your feelings with those who don't understand you?" And that question hit me really hard. After hearing that, I started questioning my need to vent or talk about my stressors with my friends. I basically started questioning are these friends even the type of friends I thought they were?

I think alot of what I've been trying to work through since the conversation with my friend, has to do with this post.

#absurd #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mental wellbeing #toxicity #toxic people #toxic family #toxic #dysfunctional family #emotional abuse #emotional trauma #emotions #unrealistic expectations #feelings #selfhelp #self therapy #self reflection #reflection #trauma response #family-trauma

[coffee-system-uwu]

Andrew carries knives in one armband, and an entire first aid kit in his second. What the fuck else is he supposed to do? If there's a fist in a 10 mile radius, chances are it'll meet Neil's face.

#aftg #neil josten #shae #andrew minyard #tfhc #all for the game #the foxhole court #all for the gay #andreil #andreil trash #unrealistic expectations #shitpost #aftg shitpost

[howifeltabouthim]

Comparing him to these characters comforted her. For if she were to believe the novels they inhabit, these brooding men who seem to be hiding terrible secrets are actually madly in love with you, and all they need is your kindness and support to reward you with their undying love.

Anna Biller, from Bluebeard's Castle

#toxic relationships #byronic hero #romanticized #brooding #romance novel tropes #tropes #dark romance #unrealistic expectations #relationships #romance novels #quotes #lit #words #excerpts #quote #literature #anna biller #bluebeard's castle

[gently-decaying-flowers]

i want someone to like draw and write about my characters or something

#char’s art #unrealistic expectations

[kawasiki-jo]

Wookit, Trans Ussop. ✨😌

@bottomvegas

#my art #fanart #one piece #ussop one piece #unrealistic expectations #😂 #trans ussop #ussop #featuring tiny luffy #he just a silly guy #anime #anime fanart #straw hat pirates #straw hat usopp #straw hat crew

[squintingcats]

Bro, imagine someone giving you a blanket

#unrealistic expectations #whumpblr #whump #whump aesthetics #whump stuff #cold whump

[odinsblog]

TRUTH!!!

TERFs DNI and anti-choicers DNI

#relationships #advice #dating #unrealistic expectations #tiktok #misogyny #terfs dni #pro choice #feminism #womanism #sexism

[butterfly-95]

Say whatever you will of me. Because, in spite of everything, regardless of every tear I shed and every sweat of effort behind it all you would never have been content or satisfied, anyways.

#Toxic family #Toxic friends #Toxic parents #Expectations #Vent #unrealistic expectations #Writerblr #Heartbreak #Breakup #Grief #Separation #Divorce #Idk what else to tag here #Feel free to reblog.

[haystarlight]

I remember making a post about this but for the life of me I can't find it

#lgbtq #lgbt #queer #bisexual #pansexual #sapphic #nonbinary #genderqueer #gay #young people #sex ed #sex positive #sex positivity #sexuality #instagram #instagram reels #unrealistic expectations #queer community #lgbt+ #tw sex mention #cw sex mention #tw sex #cw sex talk #Instagram

[ladytarantula]

Mistakes

I turn an empty page

Nothing has really changed

Old habits remain

What can I do?

How do I break these chains?

I keep making the same mistakes

Hoping this time you'll stay

She holds all the cards

Even though it's my touch you crave

Every time I make a stand

Begging you to be my man

Gullible I believe your empty promises and lies

I'm the one to blame

I gave you all the power

You're driving me insane

I want to be with you

So I'll do whatever it takes

#poetry writing #my poetry #sad #unrequited pining #toxic love #affair #loving a married man #heartbreak #unrealistic expectations #secret lovers #forbidden lust #writing community #creative writing #poetry