#unwanted children

[msfbgraves]

I'm a bit surprised that they're going "Midge Maisel was a terrible mother because of her career's influence on her kids"

No. Miriam Maisel would have fucked up her children whatever she did, she was literally a terrible mother from day one.

Not deliberately evil, but she could have stayed home and made brisket and her children would still have been unhappy because she never took to or wanted motherhood

And I understand why it happened

But it wasn't her job or her fame.

#mrs maisel #the marvelous mrs. maisel #midge maisel #unwanted children

[small-but-mightyy]

#vent #cptsd #ptsd #bpd #childhood trauma #actuallyabused #actually abandoned #actually borderline #actually traumatized #child neglect #domestic violence #trauma poem #poetry #unwanted children #traumacore #ventcore

[intelligentchristianlady]

What's Really Going On

Pro Lifer: Well the mother should just give the baby up for adoption if she doesn’t want the baby

Me: So who will adopt the baby?

PL: I don’t know there’s lots of couples who want to adopt

Me: Do you know any couple who is waiting to adopt?

PL: Um well not personally but like I know there’s lots of people waiting to adopt.

Me: Do you know what a domestic adoption costs?

PL: I don’t know. $15,000 maybe?

Me: The average cost of domestic adoption in the United States is $70,000 if you go through a private agency.

PL: Oh I didn’t realize it was that much

Me: Yep it’s really expensive. It can be more if you want a newborn straight from the hospital. Up to $120,000.

PL: Well all life is precious.

Me: it really is. I’ve adopted through foster care and am currently a licensed foster parent. Would you be interested in becoming a foster parent yourself?

PL: Oh no I couldn’t do it.

Me: Why not?

PL: It would just be too much for me right now.

Me: Why is that?

PL: It would be too hard to handle all the issues that came with it. I’ve heard horror stories.

Me: Yep it can be extremely difficult. But what if I told you that you were required by law to become a foster parent?

PL: what?

Me: what if you had to become a foster parent by law?

PL: they would never do that. That would never happen.

Me: Well, if a woman is forced to bear a child she doesn’t want, and she goes ahead and has that child, someone has to care for the child either through adoption or foster care. You have to do one of those two things.

PL: But I don’t want any more kids.

Me: So you don’t want someone forcing you to have a child in your home that you don’t want or aren’t able to care for?

PL: no, that’s not my job to raise someone else’s child.

There it is, folks. Have the baby, but we don’t want anything to do with it afterwards.

But, let’s ban abortion…

Author: Elizabeth Haney

#unwanted children #foster care #adoption #abortion #unless you adopt or foster it's time to shut up about how all life is precious

[internutter]

Challenge #03405-I117: With Two Kind Hands

"You are rubber, they are glue...." Normally it was the other way around, but not for THIS spell. The wizard, in secret back alley-ways and run-down shacks found the downtrodden, child Tieflings, child Kobolds, and other such children, and did a spell that ensured, if anyone should physically try to harm them and be cruel, it rebounded upon their abusers. But there's a catch, if THEY were to act in a cruel manner, they were the ones struck instead -- Fighting Fit

They called him Grampa Bless, and he was your best friend if you were orphaned, lost, alone, and despised. Older alley kids knew how to summon him for the little ones, and he was the next best thing to Father Winter. Every kid in need, regardless of species, could get two charmed pouches. One was a Bag of Lunches, which would permit the user to withdraw a wholesome meal to the betterment of their needs, and do so three times a day. The other was a Pocket Shelter, that could give the child a safe place to sleep.

Whenever one of the Reviled Races came into his attention, they got a special enhancement from Grampa Bless. As did any child who showed up with too many bruises and a trepidatious demeanor.

The latest one, a tiny half-Orc with just a shirt and dirt between her and public indecency, had a question. "Are you Wraithvine?"

[Check the source for the rest of the story]

#instant story #just add prompt #magical mayhem #unwanted children #charity

[agenaroace-a-fucking-disgrace]

Ok so I just read a new chapter of a fanfic, basically dc characters had their dna taken and mixed to create children. And I think the author wrote something assholeish at the end.

One of the parents is Constantine and he doesn’t want anything to do with said child, it’s implied that it’s because he thinks it would only be a detriment to the child, and got drunk and sent a badly phrased email where he came across as a drunk prick.

The chapter ends with lots of evidence of fraud being send to law enforcement in multiple countries, basically making his life significantly more difficult just because he didn’t want contact with a child he;

A: didn’t consent to have,

B: didn’t consent to the act that created said child,

C: hasn’t interacted with in any way, shape or form.

I’m I the only one who thinks he’s being wrongly vilified as he hasn’t actually done anything wrong?

I’d understand if it was like with superman in young justice, where he’s a prick to the child in question but he isn’t, he just doesn’t want to interact with the child.

#fanfic #detective comics #children #unknown children #unwanted children #wrongful vilification

[sbeana]

soul permeability talk always going back to the lyctors and their cavs what about THE TWO HUNDRED FUCKING SOULS INSIDE OF HARROW

#tlt #harrow the ninth #HELLO ARE WE FORGETTING ABOUT THAT #what parts of these children are now part of her #was she ever herself #the unwanted guest

[tiffanyachings]

keeping my the unwanted guest commentary as incomprehensible as possible

#i will have to yell in the tags though look away children in 3 2 1 #camilla hect #the locked tomb #the unwanted guest #..................................................... #----------------------------------- #//////////////////////////////////////////////////// #====================== #IT WOULD HAVE BEEN VERY BEAUTIFUL. CAMILLA WOULD HAVE HAD TO COOK #<< has been bouncing around in my head like one of those screen savers for the past 24 hrs

[furiousgoldfish]

Today I am bothered by the fact that babies and toddlers are programmed to ask for attention and affection naturally, right, and if they don’t get it, they ask for it louder and louder, until they get completely exhausted and they can’t move anymore, which is when it sinks to them that there is no help, no attention, nobody coming, they’re not being cared for, which is when they go silent and numb and stop asking for it.

Natural progression for a human is to get as much attention and care as they need as a baby, then also as a toddler, and then at some stage later they stop needing it as much, they start desiring separation and individuality, and their desires for attention flow towards different people then, they want positive attention from their peers, then from the rest of the world as well, but not in that parental way anymore, now they want to be acknowledged and equal and needed and wanted, not fed and pampered and hugged, although a tiny amount of that isn’t rejected if offered.

If abused, these needs can developed differently. If as a toddler you’ve spent more time in that catatonic and numb state, fearing for survival because you’re a baby and there’s no caretakers, that leaves a mark on you. If you’ve been denied physical attention, hugs and pats and strokes on your head, as a toddler, that again leaves a mark, makes you feel undesirable, unwanted, disgusting, unworthy. And since you’re constantly feeling hurt, the desire for separation can come early too; because your instinct is to survive, and if your caretaker is a danger to you, you still love them of course, but you realize you have to be independent, have to take care of yourself, have to figure your own issues out without asking for help. It’s also followed by a dose of dissociation because the pain of being emotionally abandoned so young, is too much for anyone. Being neglected when you desperately need someone, will cause you to dissociate, possibly even develop a dissociative disorder to survive.

But what happens with all those needs for affection? If nobody fulfilled your basic needs for care as a toddler, do you ever evolve to wanting to be equal to others? Or do you, forever, yearn for parental type of care? Need to be pampered and reassured that you’re wanted and valuable and that someone will take care of you, make sure you eat, make sure you don’t die, make sure you’re safe? Does this ever go away, if nobody ever takes care of you this way? Do you ever feel completely comfortable being equal to someone? Do you not interpret intimacy as a way to get that positive touch, and crave it not in a sexual, but in a ‘i need to be held’ kind of way? Do you not assume they also want to be pampered, and offer it as a wild hope they might do it back, but they just accept it and take it and run off with it? Do you forever just end up a caretaker nobody ever took care of, who has no way to ask for it because it feels so wildly inappropriate?

#unmet needs #abusive parents #child abuse #emotional abandonment #lack of care #lack of positive touch #lack of nurture #child neglect #physical abandoment #making children feel unwanted and gross #causes of dissociation #sadness #i didn't do this to myself but i feel gross about it anway

[msfbgraves]

Anthony sees things. Things he isn't supposed to see. Like the way Sam tries herself on everyday before school. The way his parents' whole life strains with effort. The way they dress, the way they talk, breathe, live - some curated performance of succes, their whole selves smoothed over the cracks that everybody sees: the forced neutrality. Mom doesn't talk that way. Dad doesn't talk that way. They don't schmooze or play golf or give to charity but they do, because that is what success is, something they both chase with barely covered fear in their eyes.

It makes him angry, and upset, because his whole life seems like a bunch of mirrors, reflecting back what he's supposed to see into something that makes him want to scream.

Like the way he isn't supposed to like Louie.

Well, he does. Because Louie doesn't give a shit. The only thing he's lying to himself about is Anoush and that is funny. But Louie doesn't try, Louie is and Anthony can breathe around him, the way he can breathe around grandma and Ness, because they don't want him to be

gone

His whole life seems like a test drive, a plea to justify his existence, the screaming effort Dad puts into loving him.

Like, Mom just... takes him in stride, you know? Like it isn't supposed to rain on vacation, but you deal with it, and Dad is trying to convince himself he likes rain, he's here because of the rain, damn it, and he's going to enjoy it because he has to.

And Anthony doesn't want to deal with it, how loving Sam is something they don't have to work at.

Fuck that. He's sick of being lied to.

If they want him gone, he can be, and it's a relief to all of them, the way it drowns out the way Dad can watch him with some of the same anger Anthony feels and he is like, fuck yeah, Dad, come on, man, stop lying

Then he makes him waffles, and Anthony eats.

#anthony larusso #cobra kai #daniel larusso #daniel larusso meta #meta fiction #character study #unwanted children

[avaloque]

when people ask me whether i was a harry potter or percy jackson girlie, i would have no answer because i was an earth girl, a the unwanteds and a charlie bone girlie

#the unwanteds #lisa mcmann #charlie bone #children of the red king #jenny nimmo #i would choose pjo btw #fanon hp is way better #i wouldnt reread it like pjo #readers #books #published books #readers problems #earth girl series #janet edwards

[hairtusk]

i've been screaming from the rooftops about this for over a year and i hate to be proven right

#and this is in the UK where we have relatively free and easy access to abortion #apply this to other places - ones where abortion is banned or restricted - and we have an enormous rise in unwanted pregnancy #when the economy gets tough the first thing that happens is they force us to bear more children #don't listen to these influencer women. they don't care about your health.

[yuridovewing]

Thinking about those Violetshine designs where she’s basically Darktail but with inverted colors and that’s got me going. What if Darktail was her father in razorverse and it was a cycle of parental trauma situation… Darktail grew up scared and angry that his father Blackfoot had terrorized his mother, who died scared of him. And then he terrorizes Pebble, who runs away and hides their kittens from him, who dies scared of him. And now Darktail has hooked Violetpaw back in, using her as a pawn… showing that even though hes bent on revenge, he’s no better than his own father.

#makes the one scene where darktail tells violetpaw theyre the same bc theyre both unwanted children hit harder augh #altho id have to figure out how itd all work. like whether they know theyre family or not #they probably do tho #building up something in my mind where violet runs away to live with zelda and they take in victims of the kin in their backyard #showing that she really is the inverse of darktail. shes going to take what her father and grandfather did and shes going to make it right #and twig… maybe stays in the clan… ill have to figure that out. since theres no skyclan she may not run away #avos liveread #razorverse

[spellwing777]

Baby bats can sound similar to human babies, apparently.

#suddenly witchers #mages tweaked the baseline settings of humans for 'protec babby' when making witchers #they knew the attrition rate for children is stupidly high because that's what predators-natural and supernatural-target #It also probably endears them a bit more to communities if they go out of their way to save children #which is a good way to NOT get your terrifying super soldiers lynched at every opportunity #well #usually at least #Plus since they take in unwanted kids and the attrition rate on baby witchers is high AF as it is #it would help if they y’know had incentive to readily bond with non-kin and protect the surviving ones they have #so now they have this habit of running full tilt towards the sound of screaming infants on instinct #or in this case screaming plumard pups #Cutagens | Cute Effects of Mutagens (The Witcher) #cutagens #the witcher #dettlaff van der eretein #detty the bathabber #lambert #eskel #geralt of rivia #witcher games

[hiddenbeks]

what is your oc's core theme?

tagged by @gwynbleidd to do this quiz, thank you jackie!!

tagging @hibernationsuit @nokstella @ravensgard @yrlietlanaevyss @ehlnofaey @feitanportor @katsigian @rosykims don't remember who has done this recently so. as usual. no pressure if u don't feel like doing this!

doing this for the once iconic poe duo that has faded into obscurity because i've neglected them for so long! time for a sura & viv renaissance babeyy

sura - the leaver

"there is nothing for you here anymore. you are being rejected by this place. it repulses you, too - you have no desire to stay here. yet, some nostalgic thorn curls into your side and keeps you bound here. there is comfort in a hell you once called home. but it is time to go. no time to stall. if you wait too long, this place will swallow you whole. then, you will have no chance to leave. you need to go; you've been waiting so long. the door is open. all it waits for is your first step. your painting is "artist's death. the last friend" by zygmunt andrychiewicz."

vivinna vellico - the popular

"the attention of outsiders is like opium. at your heart and soul you produce and create and you thrive on the love it gathers from others. it is like taking your first steps as a baby, and hearing the cheers of thousands upon thousands of parents, encouraging you to move a little more, to step towards mother or father. but when the cheers fall silent, you are lost, aimless, a boat in a turbulent sea with no lighthouse to guide you. you are no longer taking steps. there is no voice calling out to you, signalling where to turn, and there is no encouragement. you want to take the steps but you cannot find any good reason to - not without everybody waiting at the end of your path. your painting is "the birth of venus" by sandro botticelli."

okay first of all i love how viv got the least common result. if she were real and the one taking this quiz she would be so proud of that 😌 anyway. both results are spot on and illustrate the differences between these two quite well! sura longs for connection and a place to call home but feels out of place no matter where she goes and thus continues to further isolate herself. vivinna on the other hand surrounds herself with people to entertain - she has many friends and acquaintances but no idea who she is without the attention of others.. hm.....

#tag games #ch: sura #ch: vivinna #listen sura used to be one of my dearest most precious ocs..... i talked abt her a Lot...... #vivinna too. she wasn't as big as sura and i still havent gotten around to playing poe with her lol but i had a lot to say abt her too!! #i love them. both white haired unwanted children who have similar issues but deal with them in very different ways.... #initially they do not understand each other at all but they become great friends and learn so much from each other..... #i've forgotten a lot abt sura and i've been meaning to rewrite her backstory but i haven't gotten around to that either. sigh #but for now just know that her life sucks and she's never had a place to truly call home. and the companions she meets in dyrwood #are the first real friends she's ever had in her life. ok.

[binch-i-might-be]

I'm cleaning so hard I found floppy disks and some used camera film???

#my mother really said 'i will never throw away anything ever. and then leave it to my unwanted children' #goodbye technology of the past you're going in the TRASH #rayrambles