#way to adorable

[ncutii-gatwa]

here comes the oncoming storm in his little coat and beanie

#dw #doctor who #fifteenth doctor #this man has killed millions? no way #he's too adorable #ncuti gatwa #3k

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[ssalballoon]

be a moon unto yourself 🌕

i took a long break btwn working on this one n this was the original idea... i do miss it but i thought the clothes were too unrelated to him :( goodbye leyendecker inspired gale 💔

- comp based on gale's datamined icon/waterdeep's coat of arms

- pose is from persona 3 protag's boss fight in p5r + listen to kimi no kioku if u haven't already ⚰️

- the flowers are roses!! i associate them with gale + his ambition even more after learning he burnt the rose bushes as a child

#baldur's gate 3 #bg3 #gale dekarios #gale of waterdeep #my art #bg3 fanart #idk the full waterdeep lore but i'd like to imagine that gale loves waterdeep in the same way disco elysium's citizens love revachol #“i love revachol i hope she loves me too” #smth about gale's adoration for a singular “perfect” goddess morphing into love for his home and its people in all its imperfections

[robintherobiner]

Love the idea of Gotham knowing there's different Robins and giving them titles (Flippy Robin, Happy Robin, WTF DID HE GET REBORN OR SOMETHING WAIT NEVERIND ITS ANOTHER DUDE LOL Robin, Girl Robin)

The batfam make bets on what Damian will be called. Angry Robin? Stabby Robin? SWORD Robin?

They're all wrong. They wake up after Damians first night of patrolling and theres a new hashtag trending on Twitter.

#CuteRobin

#that boy would give Superman a run for his money with the way he's saving cats #Gothamites find the new tiny Robin (who hisses at Batman insists he's an adult and saves animasl) utterly adorable #dc comics #dc universe #batman comics #batfamily #batfam #damian wayne #dc robin

[shadebloopnik]

Lucifer saluting Sir Pentious is everything to me.

Hats off to you Sir, you made it, in Heaven.

#killing me the thought that they dont even know he made it to Heaven #like #they're already so proud of him regardless #whether or not he made it #he is their sir pentious #he's the adorable snake who slithered his way into their hearts #he made it #and they don't even know to what extent he did #hazbin hotel #hazbin hotel spoilers #hazbin hotel sir pentious #sir pentious #hazbin sir pentious #sir pentious hazbin hotel #hazbin spoilers #hazbin hotel lucifer #lucifer #bloopnik rambles

[egophiliac]

C'MON TO THE THEATER!

I love these guys so much. forget NRC, I want to attend their terrible disaster school for disaster children that might actually be plastered on top of the smoking remains of an actively sinking ship. I may or may not actually learn anything, but I will have the time of my life.

#art #twisted wonderland #twisted wonderland spoilers #stage in playful land #stage in playfulland #unique magic posters #so it was fellow after all and not gidel? whoops #i was merely overthinking it #me? overthink fictional characters? surely not #god though #i can't not love a guy who gets the cutest most adorable power #and instantly goes 'i shall use this for Crimes' #also every time he was like 逃げる! my brain auto-translated it as CHEESE IT! #accompanied by twst's running-away sound effect which is just the quintessential sound of someone cheesing it #if i could have (1) twst spinoff it would be the adventures of these two idiots trying to do an education #they would have a stodgy bureaucrat antagonist who keeps trying to catch them in their sleazy corner-cutting ways and shut them down #(OF COURSE there would be a bit where they are trying to host an unforgettable luncheon but egads! their roast is ruined!) #and all while they're trying to evade being hunted down by the playful land investors #the hijinks would be SO wacky you guys #i've made myself sad now because this will never exist #it's real in my HEART

[kathegoose]

A fun little fnaf movie gif dump!

source! (thank you british fnaf youtuber)

Freddy Fazbear!!!

Bonnie the Bunny!!!

Chica the Chicken!!!

Foxy the Pirate!!!

...And here are two gifs of the whole gang, and the cupcake petting session (i love him!)

the people playing the animatronics (& controlling foxy) seem so fun, can't wait to see them in action with piper 'abby' rubio for those funny little shenanigans they're most likely gonna have!!!

#fnaf #fnaf movie #fnaf gif #gif #freddy fazbear #fnaf freddy #bonnie the bunny #fnaf bonnie #chica the chicken #fnaf chica #foxy the pirate #fnaf foxy #mr. cupcake #carl the cupcake #fnaf cupcake #HUUUURRGH the one with chica petting the cupcake AAAAAARGH it's just way too adorable

[fandomestuff]

#i love rocky #AND MICHAEL KOVACH VOICES HIM #I LOVE MICHAEL #i'll miss him so much in hazbin hotel my god #his angel dust was perfect #well high hopes for the new voice actor #ANYWAY #BACK TO ROCKY BECAUSE HE DESERVES ALL OF MY ATTENTION #THE VIOLIN?? #THE FUCKED UP PART?? #THE WAY HE FELL DOWN FROM THAT TOWER RIGHT ON HIS FACE LIKE A CARTOON CHARA... oh #LAUGHED A LOT AT THAT #AND HIS RELATIONSHIP WITH MITZI IS SO ADORABLE #LOVE THEM #LOVE HIM #LOVE THIS SHOW ALREADY #lackadaisy pilot #lackadaisy #lackadaisy animation #rocky rickaby

[weezeryuri]

#i need him so bad #spto spoilers #scott pilgrim takes off #scott pilgrim #wallace wells #spvtw #i love the way other scott (?) closes his eyes and sways with him. just unreasonably adorable detail

[canisalbus]

Real fan art is coming one day, but for now I really wanted to see if it was feasible to simplify their gradients into something that would fit a simple style like Bluey’s 😅

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#aaaaaaaaaAAA #they're so precious I can't ;m; #I still haven't watched Bluey so I can't really comment on show accuracy but to me these look spot on #if you ask me the gradients work really well #if you look at them and unfocus your eyes they look like their normal markings #Vasco might benefit from having one more band between the base yellow and the lighter brown but that's totally optional and might take away #from the simplicity of his design #their colors are so true to the way I color them which is both cool and kind of uncanny #like Machete's pink details which in reality are very peachy almost closer to light orange than true pink #and their colored linearts which use the same colors I use for my colored linearts #I don't know I thought that was really cool attention to detail #they're adorable #thank you! #gift art #apupcalyptic #own characters #Machete #Vasco #their lives would be a lot less stressful in bluey universe I reckon

[beanghostprincess]

"Sanji serves dessert to a mouse couple that just got engaged" do you want me to CRY????

#my heart my heart #i am sobbing #this is extremely adorable i can't do this #THE WAY HE'S SMILING HE'S JUST SO HAPPY TO BE THERE #I AM GONNA CRY #one piece #black leg sanji #op 1104

[barawrah]

beloved

#THEMMMMMMM #finally drawing them & colouring it #i always end up with fafa alone somehow #this actually started as xl alone for once and then fafa magically found his way into it idk how #but !!!!! them 🥺 #my wife and . guy i squish and he kills me #multiple times a day we do that #i adore these two with every fibre of my being i really need to draw them more #maybe its time to reread the novel its been ages #art tag #tgcf #xie lian #hua cheng #hualian #tian guan ci fu #heaven official's blessing #mxtx #mxtx novels #tgcf fanart #tgcf xie lian #tgcf hua cheng #mxtx tgcf #tgcf donghua #tgcf novel #hualian fanart #crimson rain sought flower #天官赐福 #天官赐福动画

[suokumi]

The green precious bby boi

#little thingy #it was a bit of an art experiment #i love him way a bunch #he's adorable #cult of the lamb #cotl #cotl leshy #cult of the lamb leshy #cotl bishops #cult of the lamb bishops

[fidgetspringer]

A selection of Leyendecker's dogs.

#Leyendecker #j c leyendecker #because i adore the way he painted dogs #man was a huge fan of scrappy little terriers apparently #this isn't even all his dogs #he's got so manny good ones

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Get Their Ass.

[First] Prev <–-> Next

#poorly drawn mdzs #mdzs #wei wuxian #jin ling #jin chan #Yeah that's right. This guy is a named character. All those nameless disciples in the yi city arc and *this* guy gets a name. #Jin ling finally gets his much needed outfit upgrade! Rest in peace double straps. #I adore how we get to keep learning about Jin Ling and peeling back the layers on him...It's also so sad to see him so alone and friendless #especially knowing he really was starting to build peer friendships in the yi city arc... #Jin ling really is one of my top 5 characters in MDZS and its absolutely in part because of how you can *see* how he ended up this way #and we watch him learn and grow! He's doing what most adults refuse to do: Consider that his opinions are skewed and need to change. #You are NOT immune to propaganda and I adore characters who reflect and struggle with that! #Just because someone with assumed authority says something that fits into what you want to be true does not make it true B*/ #In this series about rumours and warped perspectives - Jin Ling is a great example of how hard you have to work for the truth #+1 points of friendship with jin ling: He will self correct himself if he says a slur now

[avastyetwats]

The way Stede looks at Izzy when he comes out dressed and singing is everything to me.

#ofmd #our flag means death #stizzy #gentlehands #stede bonnet #izzy hands #ofmd gifs #rhys darby #con o’neill #the way stede smiles at izzy has me MELTING #he looks at him with such love and adoration it makes my heart so happy #i wish we could've gotten them talking about it. stede complimenting izzy and whatnot #also made this for #izzyeffinhands #<3 #cause they love this scene and so do i and it's so our stizzy #hold me close and hold me fast (stede x izzy) #the polite menace (stede bonnet visage) #the unicorn (izzy hands visage)