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cinamun · 8 months

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#ts4 #black simblr #indya #welp...#so much for that #what will she do now?#focus on raising the twins for now prolly #we love the support #ts4 story #sims 4 story #simblr #ch23

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ohstylesno · 2 years

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Olivia watching Harry receive the permanent banner for 15 shows at Madison Square Garden

#🥺#we love the support #we love to see it #she loves him sm #olivia wilde #harry styles

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nat-20s · 5 months

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Shaun Temple is a fucking real one actually. You meet a woman who has allegedly just had a mental breakdown so severe she's lost a year of her memory. She's loud and brash and is NOT taking your name and you are like ohhh I can't not marry her. You two have a kid, the most amazing daughter in the world. Your wife has a hole in her heart aching for something that she can't identify and your daughter feels like she's from another planet and both of them have dreams they can't explain and you probably chalk that up to them being extraordinary but in an ordinary way where their hearts are too big and their minds are too brilliant to not carry some grief. And then it turns out that oh your wife has a best friend who's a ????? years old Alien that's the last of their species and also your daughter IS part alien bc technically your wife genetically is also part alien but also maybe not now? And then your wife is like. The happiest you've ever seen her and she fucks off for two days but and the world literally starts to end but she fixes it and she brings back her ???? years old alien best friend forever and is like WE'RE KEEPING HIM AND ALSO THIS WOMAN THAT I MET LIKE TEN HOURS AGO and now he's calling you his brother-in-law and is definitely co-parenting now you're like. Just cool with all of that. Not a single hint of jealousy or nothin. Honestly king shit.

#dw spoilers #shaun temple #we didnt see much of him but we LOVE a supportive husband and father #donna noble #rose noble #tennant doctor #melanie bush #doctor who

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jay-wasstuff · 6 months

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The funniest scene in the movie.

#the bitch please stare #also can we talk about how Lillian was so supportive of Mike and had Abby's best interest? i loved her so much #fnaf movie spoilers #fnaf movie #fnaf #five nights at freddy's #mike schmidt #josh hutcherson

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triona-tribblescore · 1 month

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Concept from a few days ago that has been ROTTING my brain. BIKER ANGEL BABYYY!!! Something I didn't know I needed in life-

Hes so cool and like, idk I just need to consume more media where angel is being badass. DGMW!!! I LOVE HIS PRETTY FEM SIDE. But also I think ppl forget he's a chaos maker/ prankster/ turf war participator who will run you down without hesitation if in a fight uvu

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andthebeanstalk · 11 months

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Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need.#the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist.#the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28!#a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents.#they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong.#and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives.#you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead?#or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of.#no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow.#i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong.#just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

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ottermatopoeia · 17 days

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Everyone's all "i'll fuck your dad" until they realize that means they'd have to fuck someone over 40. and those people are weak.

#some of us have and will continue to fuck actual fathers #we love and support daddy bottoms in this household

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louiemutton · 1 year

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sometimes i really love being an adult bc like if i was 17 and asked my mom for 7.99 to support one website slam dunking another as it goes down in flames she would roll her eyes and tell me to save my money for better things but now that im 28 i have full autonomy over my money i can just. spend 7.99 because i think a joke is funny and it made me laugh

#also i love financially supporting tumblr bc that means we get to be weird here #tater talks

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threadbareturnbacks · 10 months

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You know what? Happy Disability Month to those who were disabled by accident. Cars, skis, ice, sand, rocks, horses, just plain bad luck. Broken bones and backs that never heal. Shoulders that can't lift or move right. Wrists that don't turn. Hands that can't grasp. Brains that don't work right anymore. Legs that don't move anymore and eyes that won't recover.

The shame, the blame, the frustration, the wishful thinking that tears you apart. The beauty of small victories and simple kindness. The community you build. Reshaping a life with no warning. Mourning for the person you once were. Joyfully embracing the person you now are. Happy Disability Month to you too (even if you aren't ready to use that word yet)

#disability #disability month #i love that we celebrate disability month but i never see anything about actually physical accident disabilities on here #and irl most disabled ppl i know were hurt in an accident or event #it's most of the population tbh and thats why weve got to stand up for each other #bc we all end up here one way or another #community support #disability community

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hualianschild · 3 months

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#he's got good taste ngl #if your beloved isn't a little crazy and insane then what's the point ??#infact he'll help her in her craziness #we love supportive boyfies in this household #the apothecary diaries #kusuriya no hitorigoto #jinshi #maomao #jinmao

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somerandomdudelmao · 6 months

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Heeeey @tapakah0

Happy birthday:D

#I want to say thank you #I'm not even sure for what #for your love and passion and care and energy and support #I think I want to thank you for your presense #for being here #you know #for existing #I'm so so happy we can exist together #happy birthday lil bunny #I wish I could hug you and pick you up and spin you in the air

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ineffablemossy · 6 months

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Good Omens Fandom assemble! It's that time again...

Another Amazon Prime poll that we need to turn around. You know what to do:

https://www.youtube.com/@PrimeVideo/community

Currently at 25% in 3rd place, but I know we can change that quickly. NOTE: if you're on mobile open the link in your browser and choose 'desktop mode' to view the community tab (shoutout to everyone who put this tip in the comments of my last poll post!)

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artsymeeshee · 5 days

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More aroace Ford! Idea I had this time with Stan wanting to know what being aroace is. Even though he won’t fully understand, he understands it makes his brother happy and that’s enough for him.

#gravity falls #stanley pines #stanford pines #stan twins #sea grunks #my art #aroace #aromantic #asexual #comic #sketches #stan pines #ford pines #sorry I just love aroace ford so much TwT #we love some wholesome supportive bros in this house #makes my heart happy #artsy’s attempt to write dialogue #long post

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uncanny-tranny · 7 months

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I love you, trans people with intellectual disabilities. You deserve to have the same opportunities as everybody else, and that's because you are a person. You deserve to be happy. Intellectually disabled trans people deserve the exact same respect, recognition, and love that (should be) afforded to everybody else.

Intellectually disabled trans people, you deserve to make your own decisions about your transness. You are allowed to want for transition or to change your name, clothes, hair, pronouns, or anything else. You deserve support and understanding. I hope you are able to receive that. You belong in this world as your true self. Your transness and your disability/disabilities are not bad things - they are good, and they are important.

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #intellectual disability #disability #disability positivity #trans positivity #absolutely *so* tired of people 'forgetting' that intellectually disabled trans people; 1) exist and 2) are autonomous human beings #absolutely hate hate hate the ableism of 'but we have to protect ID trans people from themselves :('#no. YOU deserve to have a say in your life intellectually disabled trans person. you are a person first and foremost #you don't need to be 'saved' from the 'tragedy' of having an ID or from being trans...#...these things are neutral at worst. you deserve whatever support you want and/or need...#...but you aren't ever a bad person for that. you are loved. you are worthy. you are cherished. you deserve to be you

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exhaustedbadger · 10 months

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Hey, so I’d like to say thank you to all who are accepting us Reddit refugees. As someone who’s always wanted to get into Tumblr, I guess I never officially did, until the Reddit blackout. I mean I created an account a while back to lurk at awesome and lovely fanart but this recent controversy made me flee here.

Been kinda sad, disappointed, but not surprised that Reddit is heading towards the direction thanks to spez.

So, I’d like to say thank you once more for accepting us :)

Oh and I absolutely love how you’re all just unapologetically outspoken on your burning and fierce hatred of capitalism lol please never stop the momentum

#reddit refugee #reddit migration #reddit #reddit blackout #been obsessed with reblogging and liking posts #I absolutely love how we can reblog old posts and support artists

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snorzyy · 9 months

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“how have you already completely forgiven nandor for all the shit he did in s4? we’re only two episodes in to the new season!” bitch its wwdits im here to support gay wrongs not gay rights

#if u wanna support gay rights go somewhere ELSE #all these bitches are problematic at best #and i love them for it !!#wwdits #what we do in the shadows #wwdits s5 #nandor the relentless

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