Instead of always judging yourself, why not just judge the outcomes of things instead, using wisdom to perceive whether such thoughts, feelings and actions are positive or negative?
Take the "me" - that which must be defended, protected, valued or admonished - out of the equation and leave only the causes and effects themselves to be judged.
Do these things serve you or hinder you? Are the results pleasant or unpleasant for yourself and others? Are they skilful or unskilful?
This is not to say you can remove yourself from any responsibility for your actions, but simply that when it comes to the evaluation of your habitual patterns, remove the "self" and see it objectively. Without the little "me" distorting our view it is far easier for us to see the movement of karma just as it really is, and develop healthier and better habits to benefit ourselves and others.
Remember: do not judge the "self" for an action, evaluate the outcome with discerning wisdom instead.
Make a habit of scheduling in (and defending!) your break time 📖 🧘♀️ And I don’t mean running errands while you scarf down your lunch 🥪 🏃♀️ Take a break that revitalizes you, that helps you regain your energy and peace of mind. You don’t need to earn your breaks, you deserve them, and your work and well being will be better for it! 😌
sometimes self-care isn’t booking the gym or library or scheduling out all your work and life to help get productive and healthy and out of a rut. sometimes it’s acknowledging you’re not getting things done because you’re crushing yourself under expectations you realise you enforced on yourself because you thought that’s just what was required of you and couldn’t be any other way.
It is okay to feel angry, frustrated, hurt or lonely. They may be negative emotions, but that does not mean that they are bad. Feelings like anger, frustration, hurt or loneliness occur when there is an imbalance in your life. They are indicators of what parts of yourself need attention and healing. Rather than seeing negative emotions as something shameful and something you need to suppress, it is so much healthier to see them as your body's language - your body's way of communicating with you and telling you that something is not right. Every emotion has a meaning, a purpose. It is so important to feel all of these negative emotions out and really sit with them in order to figure out what they mean. We are taught that feeling moody, jealous, down etc. are things we need to hide, because it is bad and weak to feel this way. Here is your reminder that that is absolutely wrong. It is human to feel this way and therefore it is right. Listen to your body's language and just sit with it for a while, because everything that these emotions 'want from you' is attention, so that you tend to yourself.
please stop putting pressure on yourself to do work! please stop telling yourself that if you’re not working or if you have this little in-between pocket of time like moving from one location to another you should be spending that time doing something mildly productive or stimulating like listening to a self-help podcast. you are allowed to melt on your phone! you are allowed to just lie down and stare at the wall! you are allowed to exist in a way that is easy for you even when you could be doing 50,000 other things. there is a difference between being motivated and energised to complete work and dragging yourself from task to task with limited energy and capacity simply because you feel like you need to and feel bad for wanting to stand still for a moment.
Because the nature of all things is that of emptiness and impermanence, life will never be perfect.
You may have fleeting moments where all things seem to come together just the way you want them to, but this moment will also pass.
This being so, we should seek inwardly to find lasting contentment and peace. We already hold within our hands that greatest treasure of all, if only we would look to see it. Incomperable to any other pleasure or treasure we may find anywhere on Earth or in the far galaxies, our own Unborn Mind stands above all else as the greatest source of unending joy.
Being blessed with this rare human existence, we should seek to realise our true Unborn nature like a desert wanderer looking for water; rather than be turned around and about endlessly by transitory attachments and illusory pleasures that offer us no lasting comfort.
Burning desire and the Law of Assumption/Attraction.
When you desire something strongly there is no peace and relaxation in it. There is no trust in that state. The feeling of lack and enoughness cannot exist together.
So acknowledge your desire. Know what you want. Then slowly and with care work towards stabilizing yourself into knowing that you are going to get it. Enter the feeling of trust, balance, taking care of yourself every day. Once you focus on showing up as the best version of yourself, focus on thriving, your reality will become what you have been imagining all along.
screw everyone else!!! if there are things you need to do to help manage your disability, chronic illness or neurodivergence then you go ahead and do them!! aint nobody understand what it’s like to be you!! you gotta do what you gotta do no matter how strange or weird it may seem!!! their opinions don’t matter but your health does!!
My idea, when photographing Inka, was to approach in the same way as with any other woman who’d ask me to create nudes.
I came to this, after I made a research on the visual representation of women after mastectomy. In many cases, they are pictured in a dramatic or a gloomy way, with the scars covered by their hands, flowers or otherwise. Such a gesture implies to me the feeling of shame, which does not go along with our purpose to empower confidence in women who lost one or both breasts due to cancer.
Inka’s body tells a story, but it’s not only a story of the scars. It is also a story of the rediscovered joy of living, the inner sense of well being, the natural beauty of a woman and many more.
Love, stop rushing, stop running. You’re not missing out, you’re not behind in the race. The race is only in your mind. Take a deep breath, and relax into the depth of your inner being. There is only you, and deep stillness, a deep peace that cradles you always and forever. Whenever you feel caught in the whirlwind of daily life, remember this anchor exists, and it is within you. All you have to do is close your eyes, and you are home.