#what fucking choice do you HAVE THO

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[just-a-little-unionoid]

absolutely struggling to find a chara design for fem sinner Adam bc I just... can't figure out a body type

like canonically I guess Adam's supposed to be a little fat but I think it's mostly due to his robes? I mean look at those skinny arms there is no body fat or muscle on that, I think the robes really makes him look bigger than he actually is

and I guess as a sinner their clothes would be a little more revealing? I mean I don't really see the point of making a new chara design if it's to keep the same clothes y'know, so anyway point is, I kinda need to have a rough idea of what I want her body to look like

skinny is the to-go for the Hellaverse but I do see that as a flaw, so I would prefer not to do that too much, and also Adam is so round, that's cute, I want to keep that

but those fucking arms...

I'm not sure if I want to add muscles bc on one hand, big lady with muscles y'know, but on the other hand I really don't think this guy has any visible muscle in canon? again, the arms

I want to keep the pear shape but those damn skinny arms are fucking hard to attach to a pear shape (also, how the fuck do I draw the legs???)

anyway, I'm struggling but it's fun

#trans adam hc (hazbin hotel) #btw if you have any advice or opinion on this do tell me #in this au it's mostly that adam's sinner form is feminine/female but not my choice #just wake up in hell in a female body #so after that it's more about figuring why the fuck it happened and also why it doesn't bother them as much as it should #(im not sure about the pronous tho‚ they're enby technically but idk what pronouns they would choose‚ maybe alternate)

[angellurgy]

:]

#AAAAAAAAAAAAA FUCKFUCKFUCK #CONDTANT UNENDING SILENT SCREAMING #NO WORDS BUT FORCED TO UNDERSTAND STILL UNESCAPABLE I CANT I CANT I CANT #ill never be anything ill never be anything ill never be anything at all to any of you #too fucking tired to go out of the house for so long no way to stop being tired its all wearing down on me like a fucking curse. too much #CANT CANT CANT take 10 more days of this waiting itll just go back to normal after #TRIED TO LIVE BUT WHAT IS THE POINT WHAT IS THERE EVEN FOR ME NO LOVE NO CARE NO IMPORTANCE NO PLACE #FADING MEMORY REMNANTS OF MY SOUL DRIPPING OUT OF MY HEAD LIKE A GUTTER. NO ONE WILL REMEMBER. EVEN I CANT. #AAAAAAAAAAA rotrotrotrotrotrotrotrotrot wish i just had a fucking dad to hold me wish i had a brother to show me the loving care noone will #please. llease. please. nothing left nothing left everyone wants me less with every single post but icant stop #cooped up inside. tumblrs knly good when you have a life outside of it. i cant fight it tho bc of this fucking EXHAUSTION #caused by the emotional pain and exclusion. eternal loop. let me.out #NOT LIKE IT MATTERS TO ANYONE BUT THE FEW WHO CANT HELP. THE FEW WHO CANT MAKE MY SITUATION BETTER. I JUST WANT A GROUP. #I KNOW COMMUNITY ISNT REAL BUT I FUCKING WANT SOMETHING. PLEASE #LET ME OUT. GIVE ME LIFE. INSTEAD OF THIS CONSTANT FUCKING VOID GROWING BLACK MOLD ON THE CREVICES OF MY SKULL #aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa nothing is giving me life right now i want sometbing i cant create anything i dont wanna die but i have no choice #FIGHT THROUGH THE TIREDNESS WALK INTO THE FOREST IN THE NIGHT AND ROT. #SLIT MY WRISTS EVEN THOUGH IT WONT DO SHIT. LAY ON A BLANKET AND LET THE COLD TAKE ME #WOULDNT BE THE FIRST TIME IVE BEEN CLOSE TO IT. LEAST I CAN GO ALL THE WAY. GOD WHY DO I TRY. I WANT TO TRY. I HAVE NOTHING TO TRY FOR. #NO OTHER CHOICE.

[girlscience]

good GOD this trip. I have loved the scenery and the hikes we have been on, but my family is about to drive me bonkers.

#literally none of them are capable of making a single fucking decision without debating it for hours #and none of them communicate clearly so there is an insane amount of confusion #and we have done next to nothing because they cannot do anything in a reasonable time frame #like we were supposed to leave at 8:30 this morning and we didn't leave until 9:15 #and then we got to the hike spot and my mom lost her glasses and instead of checking under her fucking seat #we had to spend a good half hour looking for them... guess where they were #and then we spent 10 minutes debating if we were going to do the hike we had already Fucking PICKED #and then my mom passed out halfway through the hike which is not her fault and I'm not upset about at all #but we decided to not do the rest of the hike and instead go to the town and look at the artist shops #which was totally good with me except we got there and they all decided they didn't want to look at the shops!!!!!!!!! #yes they were mostly galleries of art we can't afford but they were cool to look at #but nope. spent idk an hour wandering around OUTSIDE THE STORES #we did get the best chai I've ever had tho at a little shop there DELICIOUS #and then they were like beginning the dinner debate and I decided I was fucking done #so I just picked a place and said we are eating here and called and made a reservation and told them to get in the fucking car #like I Get It. it can be hard to pick things but at some point SOMEONE has to make a choice #we can't stand around going 'idk whatever you want' 'i'm okay with anything' 'what did you say?' 'did we decide?' ALL THE TIME #AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

[lolacouldnotcareless]

Rules: bold the ones that are true and tag some friends

tagged by @zeesqueere, tagging @ivy-lavender, @tootiredtoosadtooangry, @hyperbolicgrinch, @myriad-of-colors, @papangphromphiriya, @ambivartence, @avizou and whoever else wants to. tis not an obligation either

Appearance

i’m over 5’5” // i wear glasses/contacts // i have blonde hair // i prefer loose clothing to tight clothing // i have one or more piercings // i have at least one tattoo // i have blue eyes // i have dyed or highlighted my hair // i have gotten plastic surgery // i have or had braces // i sunburn easily // i have freckles // i paint my nails // i typically wear make-up // i don’t often smile // i am [most of the time] pleased with how i look // i prefer nike to adidas // i wear baseball hats backwards

Hobbies and talents

i play a sport // i can play an instrument // i am artistic // i know more than one language // i have won a trophy in some sort of competition // i can cook or bake without a recipe // i know how to swim // i enjoy writing // i can do origami // i prefer movies to tv shows // i can execute a perfect somersault // i enjoy singing // i could survive in the wild on my own // i have read a new book series this year // i enjoy spending time with friends // i [usually] travel during school or work breaks // i can do a handstand

Relationships

i am in a romantic relationship // i have been single for over a year // i have a crush // i have a best friend i have known for ten years // my parents are together // i have dated my best friend // i am adopted // my crush has confessed to me // i have a long distance relationship // i am an only child // i give advice to my friends // i have made an online friend // i met up with someone i have met online

Aesthetic

i have heard the ocean in a conch shell // i have watched the sun rise // i enjoy rainy days // i have slept under the stars // i meditate outside // the sound of chirping calms me // i enjoy the smell of the beach // i know what snow tastes like // i listen to music to fall asleep // i enjoy thunderstorms // i enjoy cloud watching // i have attended a bonfire // i pay close attention to colours // i find mystery in the ocean // i enjoy hiking on nature paths // autumn is my favourite season

Miscellaneous

i can fall asleep in a moving vehicle // i am the [designated by my own friend's parents] mom friend // i live by a certain quote // i like the smell of sharpies // i am involved in extracurricular activities // i enjoy Mexican food // i can drive a stick-shift // i believe in true love // i make up scenarios to fall asleep // i sing in the shower // i wish i lived in a video game // i have a canopy above my bed // i am multiracial // i am a redhead // i own at least three dogs

#let me ramble a bit here now that i'm finished dvfghsf #i actually prefer a combo of tight/fitted clothes vfshf #and by 'pleased with my looks' i understand. that i don't hate looking at the mirror? most of the time? i look at it's just. #'hi me. we're doing well today!' 'hi. oh god you look tired as fuck' #but it also helps that i focus on my face. not that i'm particularly beautiful or handsome but. it's my face! with emotions passing by! #with some light in my eyes! with dimples even! what's not to learn to like? #can i say i can still play the piano when i haven't touched one in years 😔😭 i want to play again tho. to learn again. #i have won a trophy!!! for a second place BUT i have a trophy! and a medal!! twas not a big thing but i still did it!! twas archery-related #yes i will consider this as my crush confessing to me bc if zee hadn't asked me out well. we wouldn't be here dbfskjdf #i am Obsessed with colours actually. especially how light and colour interact. you can imagine my disappointment each time i try #to take a pic of the sky with my shitty phone camera :pensiveclown: #and yes i am the mom friend but like. not by choice most of the time lol

[arcaneyouth]

here's to all the art that will never be known by anyone other than its creator. for whatever reason that is. i love you art that i'll never get to know, especially if it is intended to be that way. i love you art that exists in the nooks and crannies. i love you art that gets destroyed by the creators choice. i love you art that exists only for one. i love you art that will never be defined by anyone except the one who made it. i love you art that will never even leave the creators head. i love you art that simply is

#queued post #i have a lot of strong feelings about. well. art #and like mortality n stuff #there's this post on my dash that keeps coming back around about like. mourning all the art they'll never get to see #and it really just... irks me #the op can feel whatever they want it's fine but i just #why do you mourn it ? #it existed didn't it? isn't that enough #someone on the post added that 'this is why you archive everything. you never know when it'll disappear' or something along those lines #....on a post about art that was taken off the internet By its creator #the creator's choice #you don't get to make that choice. #that addition is what really ticks me off #i am all for art preservation. it's important. it's vital. #not all art is for you. #the post doesn't even consider the side of the creator. it has such strong 'well i wanted to see it and now i'll never get to see it again' #vibes. and like fucking yeah ok you can feel anything you want that's totally fine #....................it's not for you tho..? #so if there's any artists out there who are seeing this post and reading the tags. hey. you can do anything you want forever #you can do Anything you want. forever #you make your choice. hopefully it is your choice alone. you do not owe the internet or historians or anyone all your art #you can do anything you want forever and ever #your art is YOURS #it will ALWAYS. BE YOURS

[churchydragon]

oh hey a new Sun and Moon Show episode went up, I needed a break from trying to P rank Sheer Heart Attack--

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#very cool thank you #least Monty got that little bit of nanomachine #I doubt they're gonna kill him off for realsies. they'll bring them back like they will with Moon #they might be different but they'll be back #kind of a weird move to make tho?? I'm sure they know what they're doing but this is an. interesting choice to make #I'm curious about where they're going with this. very exciting! #the sun and moon show #sun and moon show #churchy talks #churchy tag rambles #ALSO! Eclipse's new model is so fucking pretty #also another thing. Eclipse and Lunar both have yellow eyes. fun little detail there

[gideonisms]

tamsyn could say two characters fucked nasty and people would still interpret it as platonic. And they might be right, depending

#harrow & ianthe fucked nasty and it was platonic on harrow's end. tbh #i truly do not get all the (redacted) hate tho. people who aren't interested in other ships just don't interact with those ships #like if you want cam corona friendship content you just make some! #but no one's saying they can't possibly be romantic etc #if it was just about the level of problematic content then we could have a field day with every openly abusive dynamic that ppl still ship #or. hell i saw augustine/ianthe the other day. i've seen john/ianthe #that woman is a whole lesbian hggjjklll #like this is barely headcanon. hanging onto *not* being canon by a fucking thread. she shows as much interest in men as harrow #i don't get what it is about this one ship in particular #just make platonic content! most of the shippers will enjoy that angle too #i really like platonic (redacted) as well it's just every platonic redacted post ends in 'and here's why they're canonically confirmed #to be exclusively platonic do not ship!!!' #and that's just factually untrue #nothing is actually confirmed and i think that was a deliberate choice #because that's not the point. the point is their weird ride or die codependent relationship and it #doesn't actually make that big a difference whether it was platonic or romantic imo? it's exploring similar themes either way #people just have their preferences

[the-kipsabian]

i just want everyone to remember that this platinum tier promo exists cause its my everything

#the tension. the feeling. the story #his face is a whole fucking ride from beginning to end #i could sit here forever talking about the choice of words (i do have posts about that tho if you really care lol) #i just looked through my gifs for a thing and the moment where he goes 'you have no idea what its like to be me' is so clear in one of them #i had to find this again and save it since i didnt have it at hand #and now its living rent free in my head again so. here #just listening him talk about this character and crafting it in such a loving manner tonight really did me in fam #wrestling musing #boxman saga #night truly is feeling in this club tonight yall oh gosh oh gee #xoxo

[rouge-the-bat]

*this would mean finishing the ending twice at separate times

#no guarantee if ill follow the majority votes in the end but im conflicted rn n maybe this could convince me in a direction #tho im also impatiently trying to figure out what i wanna do rn so if this doesnt really get votes soon i may just decide on my own anyways #LMAO #can you see that i have executive dysfunction #i wanted to keep playing okami and beat the game n collect shit later until i got to this 😭 #i wanna continue but i dont wanna have to go thru the ending a second time after collecting everything... #but i also dont really feel like going on a collection hunt rn... #and i wanted to start persona 5 royal after i beat okami so im like. fuck should i just go ahead n pick that up JGJDJFJDJ #im so !!!! indecisive !!!! #tfw choice paralysis when theres only 3 choices

[4giorno]

googles "will i be arrested if i play the exact same bg3 character for the third time in under 2 months"

#like again i know. i paid 70€ for this game i can play it however the fuck i want #but i still feel kind of. embarrassed?? esp bc im at my parents for christmas and new years and they know ive played this character twice #and like surely i should want to do something different after like 250 hours and yet... 😭😭😭😭😭 #and ive realised that i never found the blood of lathander and my character def would want to get it even if it destroyed an ancient temple #and ive seen even more dialogue that i missed bc somehow i couldve long rested more frequently even tho i made a conscious effort to do tha #the second time around (bc i started playing multiplayer with my parents and already we got long rest stuff i never saw 💀) #also dialogue choices that fit him more but i was still too scared to pick bc i was afraid id get insta killed #or a companion would get so pissed off theyd leave.......... #you could be like oh so you know what happens why would you play it but like why does anyone play sims or something #like sometimes you wanna see your little guys in scenarios 😭 #(OH also i wanted to see if i could give astari0n worms in the beginning since he wanted them so bad #and it was literally one of the things he and my character bonded over as in they were the only bitches who thought they should use them #i just never thought to give any to him even tho he asked bc i always forget i can do stuff with the companions #AND im always afraid ill fuck something up for them gfkfjdhfkgkf) #anyway the point is wow still i have an unreasonable attatchment to this character of mine and i love him sm #and somehow i dont get bored of playing the same character after two full campaigns

[nari-writes]

"Conner, don’t you get it? Clark is awkward because he loves you. He just has no idea how to deal with everything else. If he didn’t love you,” Lois says, “this would be easy.”

#i just think!!!!!!! that clark and kon are SOOOOO interesting<333 #unfinished fic snips #spiderkon #like tbf this is the core thesis of spiderkon: HOW DO YOU LOVE WHEN THINGS ARE HARD !! #but ALSO. mwah. this is how I see them ok. ok!!! #if it were easy clark could hate his weird homegrown stolen dna clone #but he CAN'T<333 #he had no choices and no knowledge and no idea what to do so maybe if he ignores it it'll fix itself? he'll understand better? #but he doesn'ttttt #and it isn't until he starts trying. and gets to know kon. that it becomes easier. #because then he just gets to pick loving kon <3 and family <3333 over the fucked up nature of kon's existence #not to say it doesn't mess him up but it's Much better afterward #lol doesn't stop poor kon from having Issues about it tho :“) my lil guy #cause like obvi clark is the adult in this situation and its not Kon's responsibility but stilllll #wip fic snips #tagged it with both bc maybe this will end up. maybe not haha

[katnissgirlsmakedo]

jesus sorry for my favorite lancelot being from the shittiest movie ever made. show me YOUR favorite lancelot and see if you can do any better. yeah that’s what i thought

#see. my favorite lancelot is king arthur 2004. and my favorite arthur is alex naturally #unless you want me to get fucking serious and then my favorite arthur is guinevere choices sorry #and my favorite guinevere is excalibur 1981. and my favorite merlin is once upon a time. duh #i would never fucking forget where i came from sorry colin morgan ur number 2 tho #and all the other favorites of the major players remain under advisement #however i do have to say my favorite morgana is also once upon a time #don’t try to tell me she’s nimue. i know what her name is. i also know her characterization is clearly inspired by morgana #remember that in ouat it’s a TWIST that her character is evil. they couldn’t very well have named her morgana and had that be a twist #beth.txt #books not included because i haven’t finished any of them #hashtag illiteracy

[paigemathews]

@fullybeautifultheorist replied to your post “I know I have some drafts that at least mention...”:

Tbh the fact that Cole was possessed doesn't really change much. Cole was egoistical and obsessed murderer in season 3 as well as in season 5. There is literally no meaningful change in his behavior during all 3 season. And even un season 7 he is playing peeping Tom

​Hmm, honestly, I see your point, but I think I would disagree. I’m not a fan of Cole’s, by any means, but I think knowing that he did not purposefully become the Source of All Evil and he wasn’t in full control would change things for at least Phoebe. I don’t want to whitewash his sins, because there are many but there is at least some kind of inherent tragedy in his loss of agency and autonomy after he tried to redeem himself. He really was trying to become good, even if it was for flawed reasons. I also think that it could bring either more pain or comfort to Phoebe and the sisters, because on one hand, they hadn’t been tricked so badly that Cole had never actually changed sides but on the other, they’d still been manipulated enough that they thought he never did if that makes sense.

#fullybeautifultheorist #abi speaks #cole turner #anti cole turner #charmed #i have a LOT of issues with cole and his storylines and ESPECIALLY the way his fans treat him #but at the same time i do think that it still mattered. do i necessarily think he's redeemable? ehhh #but i still think that the fact that he did not voluntarily betray the sisters and try to take power #is something that would be important for the sisters to know #like yeah he was a bad person and abusive and it was of his own volition #but at the same time i dont really think its fair that what they see as one of his biggest betrayals was something he had no agency over #or even limited agency over. i dont really know how much agency he had over the source tbh bc they dont really show us but #but it's like. maybe you fail but your choices still MATTERED yknow? #idk if that makes sense #my original post is more about how the sisters deserved to know more than it really changed anything for cole tho like #idgaf about him like sticking the happy ending or whatever but i think that phoebe (and the sisters) deserved to know #idk man i have a lot of thoughts about cole and phoebe and s4 and 5 and they change all the time so #bc i actually never had that much beef with him when i first watched the show (at like fucking. thirteen lmao) #i only started actively disliking him bc of his fans and tbh a decent portion of it still is how so many people act like he was an innocent #when he still had that blood on his hands #and i also havent really rewatched like s3 thru s5 for a hot hot minute especially not consecutively so like #my opinions may do a complete 180 in either direction once i actually. do that #(we're ignoring that i've been saying that for literally two or three years at this point life is time consuming) #annnnnd we're back to tags being longer than the post whoops lmao

[symbioticsimplicity]

Oh man MHA sure is trying to make the audience like and feel for Endeavor.

The level of complexity going in with the moral grey area is great! Love that in a show! But dude I'm never gonna like that guy.

I can definitely see he's changing and while I love a good "Everyone can change, even the worst people" storyline, it's not gonna make me like him.

"But you're a Bakugou stan, aren't he and Endeavor basically the same??" Nope! Bakugou didn't let himself go NEARLY as far down that road as Endeavor did! While his treatment of Izuku was inexcusable, it wasn't unforgivable. (This is entirely due to Izuku too, had he actually stepped off that roof, Bakugou would have jetson'd straight to super hell with Endeavor for me, he got lucky in this regard) But he learned the error of his ways and put in the work to change before it destroyed the lives of everyone around him. (Wish they'd teamed this with the understanding that his own home life was not great and was causing some of his behavioral issues but that's a lot to expect out of the same dude who cannot seem to stop introducing amazing female characters only to immediately assassinate them)

I'm sorry but like....do y’all have any idea how much abuse it takes to drive two people insane??? It could have ended up being three, or possibly four without Midoriya's influence. Shoto was very close to his own tipping point at the beginning of the series, and even acknowledges how close he was to breaking. If he'd lost it, I don't think Natsuo would have been far behind.

So while I appreciate the story's dedication to showing multiple facets of its characters, and I absolutely love the development going on there, I'm probably never going to actually like Endeavor. Too close to home.

#mha #endeavor #enji todoroki #i have some fucking feelings about him and none of them are positive #also like it bears mentioning that he didn't actually like....*stop* abusing Shoto until they moved into the dorms??? #so its not like this is all the distant past from years ago #this was months ago and he never actually made the choice to stop #he was forced into it and then life rick rolled him from there #i appreciate Natsuo so fucking much in all this tho like goddamn #Fuyumi gets a pass because she's very obviously traumatized as shit too if you know what to look for #between fight flight freeze or fawn her survival strat was clearly fawn #its not like she's any less traumatized than the others and honestly her continuing to try to #defend Endeavor and keep them together as a family makes me so goddamn sad for her #I do appreciate that you can tell none of them necessarily forgives him its more that they know they need him right now #i very much hope they DON'T forgive him because what he did WAS unforgivable #at least not for a very long time like 15 years or more down the road #tw: abuse mention #tw: abuse #tw: suicide mention

[eccedentesian]

what’s your underlying motif?

the orange. whether it’s your warm embrace, your unwavering reliability, your smile that says “welcome back”, your motif is the home. your the equivalent to coming out of the rain to the fire on and your slippers waiting by the door. your uncanny way of making people feel alright, you’re treasured in these trying times. i respectfully request you take care of yourself, the world will never been as kind to you as you are to it. anne lammott said “lighthouses don't go running all over an island looking for boats to save; they just stand there shining” and though unconventional, lighthouses are inhabited and your cup runs over with generosity. because you probably don’t hear it enough, thank you.

tagged by: @redeulogy thanks this hurt a lot tagging: @firemourn @saintsdawn @viilein @longerhuman && you !

#im not totally happy with this outcome but the questions read him for filth so its fine #like i think this is probably the right answer but it fails to recognize that most people find him more abrasive than warm even tho he TRIE #god he tries #anyway hey. the question about forgiving others fucked me up so bad <3 #and then the one about forgiving yourself just kicked me while i was down <3 #i sat on the 'i wouldn't have done it if the tables were turned' choice for so long&then went with 'i think forgiveness is always an option #elmer existential crisis mode: activate #AND THEN THE DO YOU MISS SOMEONE QUESTION bro im gonna cry. none of the options were perfect for him but. #'when you daydream what is the primary focus?' 'i'm happy. i'm just happy' BLOWS YOU UP WITH MY MIND???? #— musing !