Reading about your mother, I felt a little that deep down you want to have a relationship with her. Don't answer me, I probably won't see it and anyway I couldn't matter any less to you so who cares what I think / know. However, in my case, my father was the one that told me he doesn't want me his life (without even knowing I'm bi) and we haven't talked for 9 years. Of course I don't want him back in my life too. But maybe just maybe since our parents are different, just maybe, our stances towards them should also be a bit different. In the end of the day, you should absolutely do ONLY what makes you happy, but sometimes we don't know what that is, while, also, what's good in short term might not me good in the long run. My two unsolicited cents. Huge apologies for my indiscretion.
I get you :) I’ve thought about it. It’s something I’d like, to have a good/any relationship with either parent. I’d hate to take them for granted.
However, as I stated, my mum is incredibly stubborn. I could have a fake relationship (where we don’t discuss most things, keep it civil and keep her happy), but I don’t think I’m ready for that rn.
So during Crooked Kingdom was the Council of Tides on vacation or were they just like, "hey, Bob you think we should stop that morally questionable group of teens from impersonating us or what" "nah. They prolly exposing some previously unknown criminal activity by a city official or some" cause I personally think it was the second one
It's Friday! We made it. I have a relatively light weekend on the social side because meeting people irl sounds terrible right now. So i'll be here to reply and plot and all that good stuff.
More Craig Before the Creek designs! These are maybe my favorite creek-centric bgs from the whole movie, I think I finally understood what I wanted to do with the foliage shapes and terrain here.
I was just explaining the concept of a squick (a thing you have an intense dislike and perhaps even physical revulsion to, and yet do not judge morally) and I realized how strong squicks can be.
Like, if my favourite author decided to write something that I otherwise dislike or have no interest in, I'd still probably read it because they're my fave.
But if even if my favourite author on the planet wrote my favourite ship with a bunch of other tags that would usually have me ecstatic and ready to read - if they included one of my squicks? I'm going to avoid that work entirely (and maybe even block it from my search results)
I genuinely do hope that other people enjoy the fics that squick me out. I'll just never, ever read them 🤣 kinktomato, y'know?
Not gonna go out on this limb on a 25k post, but maybe it’s okay that kids today don’t know as much about using an actual computer as we do/did? Is it useful knowledge? Of course it is. So is using a sewing machine or being able to rebuild your VW with a copy of that one book every VW driver used to have. That’s not the right question—most practical knowledge is useful after all. The question should be “is it relevant to the way people live right now.” “How to Keep Your VW Alive” is a timeless fucking classic; my ex and I kept our copy long after he sold his VW. But I’m not buying a copy now because it won’t exactly help me keep my VW ID4 on the road.
And it’s funny, because I tend to read along with those posts and nod my head, because back in my day we HAD to know all that computer stuff. And then for some reason today, I remembered a conversation my mom and I had with my grandma in the mid 70s when I was a teenager. Grandma made my mom’s wedding dress. She worked at a department store doing alterations on foundation wear, which if you look at 1950s foundation wear, you’ll realize was both necessary and difficult. So she was shocked when I said most of my friends didn’t know their way around a sewing machine. “But how do you make sure your clothes fit?!” Well, Grandma, people don’t wear heavy foundation wear any more and clothes don’t need to be as tailored as they did back in the day—it’s 1975 and the only alterations I need to do is hemming my flares so they just touch the floor when I’m wearing platforms.
Now you can back up and look at the broader picture, the one that says, but your car should be repairable by you as long as you have clear instructions, and you should be able to alter your clothes or make your own, and yes, you should know how to organize the files on the desktop of your laptop. But the fact that for the most part it’s become easier and easier to just not do those things (if they can be done at all) isn’t exactly the fault of Kids Today. And it’s certainly not meeting them where they are or even trying to understand why they feel they don’t need that knowledge if, instead of looking at why they don’t have it and maybe even don’t need it, you just decry their lack of the Deep Wisdom.