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k-tarotz · 5 months

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Pick a Pile | what do you need to hear right now?

Disclaimer: this is a general reading for all people, therefore only take what resonates with you and leave out what doesn't~ this is made with tarot and intuition. Enjoy and thank you for any feedback, reblogs and likes! <3

10 of wands, 9 of swords

Pile 1:

You might be going through a lot of stress right now and perhaps even anxiety. You are carrying a lot of weight on your shoulders, you might even have nightmares or insomnia those days and can't even get to sleep well. Perhaps you are being hurt by someone who means a lot to you, people taking you for granted or things just don't want to work out the way you want them to. I want you to know that you are strong and you can go through this. I know it seems right now as if you are stuck while everyone else around you is moving on, but its fine. You are strong. You will pull through this even if you think you are alone right now, you aren't,there are people that truly care about you and those who doesn't..it's better for them to leave you. It's fine if you need time to heal, time to prepare mentally for things, time for yourself and time to find the right path. It's your life and you decide the pace of it. But please keep in mind that a bad day or a bad week doesn't mean a bad life. You can do this! You should spoil yourself if you can, you should take a relaxing bath or shower, perhaps lit a nice scented candle or even just doing a nice little skincare routine to feel fresh, clean and just better, do anything that will help you ease this stress and/or anxiety, you should have your joys in your life. You are doing amazing <3

6 of pentacles, 9 of wands

Pile 2:

You might go through some financial difficulties right now, maybe you spend a bit too much or didn't get as much money as you expected which is why you might have less now than you would like. Perhaps you feel a bit left out because you want to get more stuff or more money in general, especially if your beloved ones seem to do financially well right now. You don't want to feel left out which is completely valid. You want nice things for yourself just like everyone else. There is also some people who are jealous of you and some people who want to project their insecurities on you, don't listen to those. Even if you struggle right now, it's not forever. In fact very soon good things will come your way. You just have to be persistent and stand through this. You don't need anyone else for this, you can do it alone you are capable of it! I know you already went through a lot of struggles but this might be your final challenge for this year, until you can reach your dreams. Until you get better again, stable on the ground. You have a strong personality and strong will, which is very beneficial for you. You should also listen more to your own intuition, the first thought can often be the right on. You are doing well, jeep going! Don't let anyone stop you! <3

The magician

Pile 3:

You are on the right path right now. Right now is the perfect time for you to move forward on an idea you recently conceived. You shouldn't hold back right now noir let someone else hold you back for whatsoever reason. You have to br focused and have a clear mind for this, but if you success you can reach what you long for the most. Your skills, knowledge and capabilities that you gathered along your life path have led you to where you are right now. Whether or not you know it you are ready. If you want to manifest for something to happen that's the right time, you just need a clear vision of what you will create and why before you act. But it's not enough to be motivated by ego such as money, status or fame - you need to have a soul connection to your goals and intentions. You are creative and powerful. You need to focus on only one goal for this, the one that's the most important to you and if your vision and intentions are clear enough you will be rewarded with it. Just make sure that nothing distracts you from it. You are very near your goals and especially close with your spiritual guides who are trying to help you right now. You have to believe I'm yourself and not hold back your potential anymore. You might even have some physical powers, if you know how you should definitely use them and also trust your intuition. Good things will come your way because of your skills, willpower and your intelligence! I'm proud of you for coming so far and I hope you can go even further and reach your dreams, good luck!<3

The pictures were used from a moodboard I'd @ iluvrei and none of those pictures belong to me, credits to their owner just like for the dividers!

- Hun

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emidealia · 1 year

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☆ timeless what's AWAITING YOU next month ☆

Hey lovelies! Bienvenue! This is a PICK A CARD tarot reading is about what you need to hear about your upcoming month, starting pretty much from where you are right now. Choose a picture from the top 1, 2 or from the bottom 3, 4. Be kind and take with you only what applies. Take a deep breath ...and enjoy!:)

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pile 1

Nurture your Goddess energy

Main thing you’ll focus this month is bringing back rosy feeling(fresh, sweet, gorg). You have a tendency to not feel like a boss a— bitch and this is rooted in trauma from home/finances and results in lack of trust, confidence in yourself. Perhaps not feeling “clean” or not having a romantic lifestyle like others around you and on internet. It is affecting how you express your mind, the way you present yourself etc. Because you don’t really believe in yourself you treat yourself as such. The way back from this is from outward actions too. This month you’ll start prioritizing having a put together bedroom, aesthetically pleasing desk and thought-out hairstyles, makeup and outfits. Healing feminine energy will be truly empowering for you. Look into that! When you act confident you start gaining back your power, truly believing and feeling worthy and divine.

Don’t deny it, there’s a lot you could do in your situation. There’s absolutely no point in sitting in your despair, hoarding sadness, feeling pathetic. Literally no one else cares, no one will come feeling sorry for you and no one but yourself can save you. Be known for having built yourself up or are you envisioning yourself in the same pile of pity years from now, only more bitter? If you can change it, stop whining and change. If you can’t, then there’s no point in whining either, it’s out of your control. But be honest.

Back to what you can do. What is it that creates a spark in you? Even the smallest of desires to get yourself together. For example late at night on pinterest or the right tiktok hitting the spot, maybe the right friend or seeing what your interests can accomplish. Journaling, vision boards, meditating, working out, waking up early, podcasts. Gather everything that sparks the motivation to start something, change sth about yourself, chase your dreams and such. Use these things to your advantage, learn what helps your mind to stay focused, body to stay healthy. Learning about the way you can motivate yourself with your actions, you’ll trick your brain into being more confident as the brain changes everyday according to your surroundings. I do recommend notion for putting down your plan to renew yourself, music, habits, dreams, routines etc. This month you’ll be in your element and succeed babe. Love the process, love yourself, you are so goddamn worthy of living as you desire. You are divine as fuck, you lack nothing!

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A long period came to an end. School term, finals, relationship, friendship, lease on sth or a project? Even though it’s over, rather than being grateful, glad, you visit the situation and feel a bit guilty, uncertain, could you have changed the outcome, said/done it better or been more present? Yeah, no, stop, it’s useless. Maybe you could have, how about that? Nothing to do about it anyways. Find peace for yourself human! You are in the now, it is certain that storm is over and be glad.

MOVING ON. Too much overthinking, man, this time about the future. You are tiring your mind, so much is going on, like the 13 open tabs and there’s music, screaming, a random question about lemurs and existensialism video essays. A lot of escapism, wishing someone would make the decisions for you or being far away from here, doing nothing. No no no. You can’t give away your oppurtunities and potential, you’ll learn a lot from this. You are destined for greatness. I’ll be honest this month there are a few days of feeling shitty but it’s in your control and nothing you couldn’t deal with. Also nothing you haven’t done before so this may be a reoccurring lesson. Main question is, how tf to sustain yourself? In healthy-ish coping mechanisms please. Learn to find something stable in your life that doesn’t fall apart if everything else does.

Main focus this month is about concious progress, intentional advancements. Things will get better, you’ll keep pushing forward, along with much success and enjoyment. You can shape your career, hobbies, plans in according to your own timetable, if you make the needed choices. In this upcoming period you need to be grounded and ready to jump at oppurtunities. You are ambitious, career-driven, but a step back does not kill you. It’s actually essential to sustain yourself. Your brain is a resource, for too long you have used it only for work, being in survival mode, resulting in feeling drained out of power.

I know how hard it is, but take a break, several breaks, a vacation even. Learn to do nothing more than just exist for once. Loving yourself for you, not just for your work validation. That’s also something you should tak einto consideration this month. Separating yourself from performance statistics in your job. If you give it so much control it can really eat you up and destroy you. But you are more than that, am I right? I bloody am, you are an amazing person. Reconnect with yourself, with more humanity. Get rid of the need to be perfect. You really don't need to. Truly okay if you couldn't do your best, or just didn't. It's okay.

Being mentally ready, feeling present and being truly glad to wake up to experience the world is pretty awesome. You’ll be ready for anything then. Love you for you!!! Kisses and hugs, muah :)

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Right away, when starting this pile I was full of the feeling YOLO, let’s do it :D. Spring is coming. Oh the cards made me smile right away. Attracting like a rose, receiveing abundance, you have a right to your joy. Screamiiiiing in joy. I’m obsessed. You have noticed how easily you manifest, right? The little things just flow to you. This is your time: vision boards, letters, writing down your wishes, affirmations, being grateful. You’ll receive everything you manifest right now.

Fall into the mystery, when you receive oppurtunities take them. Your manifestations come in different forms, what you might gain may be hidden but you will receive what you desire for sure. If an offer sparks feelings in you, the ,,what if ;)” type. DO IT! It’s your soul calling. If you want to advance creativity, learn new skills or gain a little money, you might do it in a different way you anticipated. I sense some workshops or little jobs, it might not be exactly what you thought about when manifesting but it’s like such a cute opportunity to also take some time off. It will be easy and safe to you, in a good way. Your boss or the manager and colleagues will be such great people, you’ll gain so many connections. I hear some teamwork is in order. I feel you will be receiving abundance in the form of what your inner child loved to do. You’ll be connecting to that forgotten side of yourself. I think you are aware of the hobby, but forgotten the potential of it, the joys it can bring you. This can turn out to be first of all an amazing way to connect to yourself, but also a way to gain mental well-being and little side cash. It will offer emotional and physical things, like the joy of creating art and having paintings in your home or selling prints on internet.

I just need to put this out there that it will be something you can connect over with your future significant other too. This shared joy for a hobby is truly pure, healing and sweet. You may even meet through this. Yep they are amazing, but don’t take your focus on romantic validation, you know better. There’s this beautiful saying. If you spend your time chasing butterflies, they'll fly away. If you spend your time making a beautiful garden the butterflies will come to you. And if they don't come, then you still have the beautiful garden.

STAY LOVELY!

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I started the reading with bits of confusion and come clumsiness but in a free nonjudgemental chill way if that makes sense? Pfft oops:D anyways … You are the essence of confidence, self acceptance, at least you are perceived that way. You know your needs, you don’t resist when you need a break, you ask and you receive. Great standards, others must accept you like u do. Just like it should be. I am enchanted by your energy and I’m not the only one. This month you’ll keep on shining like you are, taking it to another level. Others will be greatly motivated by your ability to be in total control of your life, caring for your wishes and needs with trust. Main focus this month is advancing your everyday things: style may be the most prominent, also smaller things like a new type of go-to food or coffee you swear by. You’ll have great luck in finding new items for your wardrobe and new ingredients for recipes. So saying yes to going thrifting or buying mysterious exciting things will be rewarding.

Traveling to a neighboring city or country most likely alone. A great refreshment for you. I see you safely wandering in the evening, finding cool bars, cafes, museums, talking and hanging out with strangers but essentially making new friends and learning about people. This is something that really interests you, finding out about different subjects, talking to strangers, learning about different opinions and world views. At the same time, you will also develop your own hobby, photography or filmmaking, writing or doing remote work.

So to sum up, this month is about great curiosity, travelling, charming, communication with new people, developing your style and pursuing a hobby. Life is a grand adventure!

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numinously-yours · 3 months

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Pick a Hippo: What do you need to hear?

I know I say it all the time, but I DO want to do more readings for you all. Today's is a simple "what do you need to hear"?

I know you may be finding it hard to define your life’s purpose, but don’t be hard on yourself because it’s taking longer than you thought it would/should. You are doing a lot of introspection and soul searching. Perhaps you are about to embark on a new adventure and having your sense of self makes you feel like you’ll do better. Having an open slate can be just as great a tool going into a new part of your life, though. Keep holding on by Avril Lavigne came on at the end of the reading. Just keep believing in yourself and your journey. Trust that The Hermit’s lantern will light your path. You’re getting there!

You got all kinds of songs with your reading! Starting with Fireworks - this is from Harry Potter & The Order of the Phoenix. In the scene that this song is in, Fred and George Weasley are officially embarking on their own adventure. They are no longer tolerating Dolores Umbridge’s regime or abiding by anyone else’s standards. They are making fun, bright, beautiful magic with their fireworks. Human by Christina Perri started once I was about to interpret the cards; it made me think that right now you may be subscribing to other’s wants of you. Since this song started after I began my notes, I think this cycle is ending and your magical side is about to burst through. Then the Brave soundtrack started… You are meant to start this individual journey!!

The first thing I read that resonated with me for your cards and for this reading is “don’t keep pushing forward”. You may be finding it difficult to trust your own intuition or to do your own thing without the comforts of the people you are used to following. But The Hanged Man tells me that separating yourself from the wants and needs of others is going to do you SO well. Continuing to push through the discomfort, anxiety, and unsureness that comes along with this is only doing to delay your progress. Your inner strength is going to propel you to the life you deserve.

My biggest piece of advice on this day is to be mindful about your intentions – especially concerning finances. You have a business opportunity or you’re planning a major event (trip, wedding, moving, something of the sort) and you need to be cognizant about how much money you’re putting into it. Be responsible with the spending habits. As I was reading keywords for the King of Wands, I read “you are inspired by long-term, sustainable success” and at the same time Eminem raps, “Success is your only mf-ing option.” There’s no better way to interpret this than Sustainable success is your only mf-ing option. You can absolutely invest in this venture, but do it smartly. Remember the long term affects and what will make the biggest (and most positive) impact.

If money is not on your mind, the cards can also be referring to relationships and the part you play within them. You are a strong leader and have a vision, but don’t make decisions which are paid for by the foundation of the relationship.

Lastly, music in general may be a good meditation tool for you. The main line of this song is "lose yourself in the music". Let yourself be lost <3

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tarotmama · 1 year

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Pick a card: What you need to hear right now

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It's pick-a-card time, and today's topic is what you NEED to hear right now, so we're gonna dive deep into the cards to find out what's up. Please reblog & share, it really helps ya girl out!

So, here's the deal. I want you to scroll through these gifs and choose the one that speaks to you the most. Don't overthink it, just go with your gut. Got it? Good. Now, keep scrolling to find your reading and see what the universe has in store for you.

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Group 1:

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Group 3:

Group 4:

Group one:

Alright group number one, this is what you need to hear right now. Your card is the the 10 of wands reversed.

First off, this card is telling you that you need to chill out, sis. You've been running around like a headless chicken trying to do everything, and it's not working out. I mean, who are you, Superwoman? Let's be real, even she has her limits. So, it's time to take a break and relax. Maybe take a bubble bath or binge-watch your favorite show on Netflix. Trust me; the world won't fall apart if you take a little break.

Now, I know what you're thinking. "But, I have so many responsibilities! How can I just chill out and relax?" Well, my friend, that's where delegation comes in. It's time to start sharing the load and letting other people help you out. Don't be afraid to ask for help; we all need it sometimes. And, if someone says no, just remember that's their problem, not yours. Ain't nobody got time for negative energy.

But, hold up, wait a minute. Are you afraid of success? *insert dramatic gasp here* Yep, I said it. You may be holding yourself back because you're scared of what might happen if you actually achieve your goals. Well, let me tell you something, sis. You are destined for greatness, and you need to believe that too. Don't let fear hold you back from living your best life. Remember, if one person can do it, so can you!

On the flip side, you might also be afraid of failure. *insert eye roll here* Look, we all make mistakes. It's part of the process. You can't win them all, but you also can't let that fear stop you from trying. Don't be afraid to take risks and try new things. Who knows? You might surprise yourself and actually succeed.

Lastly, it's time to let go of the baggage. Seriously, I'm talking about the emotional baggage and toxic relationships that are holding you back. It's time to declutter your life, both literally and figuratively. Let go of the things that no longer serve you and make room for new opportunities. Trust me, your future self will thank you.

In conclusion, group number one, it's time to slow down, delegate, and let go of the things that are weighing you down. And, remember, you can do anything you set your mind to, even if that means taking a break and binge-watching Henry Cavill and The Witcher on Netflix. So, embrace the journey, and don't forget to laugh along the way. After all, life is too short to take everything too seriously.

Group two:

Group number two, this is what you need to hear right now. You card is the Hierophant reversed.

Alright, so The Hierophant reversed is telling you to break free from tradition and do things your own damn way. You don't have to follow in your parents' or society's footsteps. It's time to be a trailblazer and make your own rules. After all, who said you have to be like everyone else? Be a rebel with a cause and show the world what you're made of.

But, hold up, wait a minute. Are you worried about what other people will think? *insert eye roll here* Girl, bye. Other people's opinions don't pay your bills or bring you happiness. So, stop seeking validation from others and start validating yourself. Trust your gut and make choices that align with your values and beliefs. And, if people have a problem with that, tell them to take a seat and mind their own business.

On the other hand, you might also be feeling lost and in need of guidance. And, let's be real, who hasn't felt that way at some point? But, here's the tea, you don't need anyone else to tell you what to do. You already have all the answers within yourself. So, trust your intuition and let it guide you on this journey. And, if you need a little extra support, call up your closest friends and let them lift you up.

Are you worried about being alone in this journey? Sis, you are not alone. You have a ton of people who love and support you, even if they don't always understand your choices. So, surround yourself with positive energy and people who uplift you. And, if you can't find them in your immediate circle, use the internet to find your tribe. Trust me, they're out there.

Last but not least, it's time to find your own spirituality. And, no, I'm not talking about becoming a yoga guru or joining a cult. I'm talking about finding what brings you peace and connecting with something greater than yourself. Whether it's dancing, singing, or just being in nature, find what makes you feel alive and embrace it. And, don't be afraid to try new things until you find what works for you.

In summary, group number two, it's time to break free from tradition, trust your intuition, and find your own spirituality. And, remember, you are a boss ass b*tch who doesn't need anyone else's approval. So, go on, my queens, and live your best damn life.

Group three:

Alright, group number three, it's time to see what you need to hear right now. Your card is The World reversed.

Now, before you roll your eyes and think "great, another tarot reading telling me to confront my problems," hear me out. This card is telling you that you've got some unfinished business to take care of before you can accomplish your main goals.

First things first, let's talk about those problems you've been avoiding. Honey, it's time to stop running away like it's your ex at the club and face those issues head-on. Whether it's a bad breakup or a project at work that's been sitting on your desk for months, it's time to take charge and handle it like the boss babe you are. You can't expect to level up when you've got a bunch of unresolved mess lurking in the background.

Now, let's talk about your future. The World reversed might be telling you that it's time to get out of your comfort zone and start exploring new opportunities. Have you been feeling stuck in your career or unsure about what the future holds? It's time to take a chance on something that excites you. Don't be afraid to take that leap of faith and see where it takes you.

Speaking of leaps of faith, let's talk about your relationships. The World reversed might be telling you that you're surrounded by some negative vibes that need to be cut out like yesterday. Are you hanging out with people who don't appreciate you or bring you down? It's time to reassess your circle and make some changes. You deserve to be surrounded by people who lift you up and make you feel like the boss babe you are.

On a more personal level, The World reversed might be telling you that it's time to invest in yourself, too. Whether it's taking a dance class or practicing self-care, you need to focus on your personal growth. You can't expect to slay the game if you're not actively working on improving yourself.

Last but not least, The World reversed might also be a sign that you need to let go of control. I know, I know, it's hard to let go of that tight grip you have on your life, but sometimes, you just gotta trust the universe. Stop trying to micromanage every little thing and learn to go with the flow. Who knows? You might be surprised at the opportunities that arise when you let go and let the universe do its thing.

So, to sum it up, group number three, The World reversed is telling you to confront your problems, explore new opportunities, cut out negativity, invest in yourself, and let go of control. Remember, you are the boss of your life, and with a little bit of hard work and a whole lot of faith, you can achieve anything your heart desires. So, take charge, let go, and slay the game, baby!

Group four:

Alright, group four, it's time to see what you need to hear right now. Your card is Temperance.

First off, let me just say that Temperance is here to remind us that life is all about balance, and sometimes that means making some tough choices.

So, you've been grinding away at work, huh? Working late, taking on extra projects, all that good stuff. I gotta say, that's impressive and all, but let's not forget that you're a human being and not a machine. You need to rest, recharge, and take care of yourself if you wanna keep up that work ethic in the long run.

Now, I know what you're thinking. "But, if I take a break, won't I fall behind?" Well, maybe in the short term, but in the long run, you're gonna be more productive if you're well-rested and energized. Plus, you'll be a lot happier if you're not constantly burning the candle at both ends.

And let's talk about relationships for a minute. We all know that maintaining relationships can be tough, especially when you're dealing with different personalities and priorities. But here's the thing: if you're constantly giving and never receiving, that's not a balanced relationship. It's time to speak up and let people know what you need from them.

Now, I know that can be scary. You don't wanna rock the boat or come across as needy. But let me tell you, it's better to address the issue head-on than to let it fester and turn into resentment. And who knows, maybe your friend or partner just didn't realize how their actions were affecting you. Communication is key, people!

And last but not least, let's talk about self-care. I know, I know, it's become kind of a buzzword lately, but hear me out. Taking care of yourself isn't selfish, it's necessary. Whether it's taking a bubble bath, getting a massage, or just binge-watching your favorite show on Netflix, do something that makes you feel good.

And if anyone tries to make you feel guilty for taking time for yourself, you tell them Tarot Mama said to back off! You deserve to prioritize your own needs, and anyone who doesn't understand that can take a hike.

So, there you have it, group four. The Temperance card is all about finding balance and harmony in your life, whether it's at work, in your relationships, or with yourself. It's not always easy, but with a little bit of effort and a lot of self consideration, you can make it happen.

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casual-tarot · 1 year

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Pick a Pile: What You Need to Hear Right Now

Pile 1

So immediately I'm hearing, "You don't need to do this all on your own." You refuse to accept help when need it, and refuse to acknowledge the people around willing to lend a hand! Things are overwhelming for you, I know, but sometimes even talking about it can lift some if the burden. You're stressed, you're overwhelmed, but I promise that letting someone else help you carry those crushing burdens will do wonders for you. There is always someone willing to help, even if you don't think you see them. They are there, I promise. Ask for help, it will help bring things back into balance.

Signs, Symbols, and Phrases; Tornados, storms, dirt and cobblestone paths in nature, clocks, compasses, 10, 40, 9, 6, 666, Mercury, Jupiter, The Sun, waning gibbous moon, big poofy clouds, rivers and bodies of water, Gemini, Aquarius, Leo, Libra, Air Signs in general, wolves, fireflies, crows, crocodiles, message in a bottle

Extra advice: You see your emotions as a burden to others, but it's not, you're "holding yourself together" but you dont need to be. If you have to cry, then let yourself cry. Stop shootings yourself in the foot and let yourself do that creative project you've been holding off, don't dampen your creativity and imagination just because the world thinks you should. Talk to someone you, new or not, you might make a new friend or you'll have a good time with a loved one.

Pile 2

You are bright, worthy, and creative person, but I think there is something throwing you off, something that you may be guilting yourself about. Or maybe you're frustrated at someone else. It may have to do with your job or a creative pursuit. Either way, a certain person or mindset is holding you back and preventing you from getting that done. If you had a disagreement with someone recently, or felt that they were putting their input where it didn't belong, talk to them! Tell them what is bugging you and confront them. It doesn't need to be another argument, although sometimes those are inevitable, it could also just be a discussion. You both sit down and have a talk about it. Why was it so frustrating to you? Why did they feel the need to give you their input in the first place? Listen to both sides of the story and you may come out with a stronger relationship because of it. If this is an internal struggle, know that any insecurities you have about your performance are false. Like I said before, you're creative and passionate, if you really want to, you can accomplish anything! Sometimes asking for help from others is just what the doctor ordered. Or you may need to stop focusing on the what if's and just go for it! Don't let your fears stop you from accomplishing greatness, because that's what you are. Great. Don't beat yourself up over your insecurities, let them exist and prove them wrong! It will lead to great things! Don't throw a pity party for yourself either, being down about ideas of failure that hasn't even happened yet will get you nowhere(harsh as it may sound)! Remember; You can do this! You can accomplish great things!

Signs, Symbols, and Phrases; Fairies, magic, evening skies, strong women, the full moon, night skies, stars, large or antique clocks, "ghostlands," sheep, the color blue, messages from past loved ones, soft flowing clouds, acres, farmland, single trees on their own, big random patches of grass, 2, 17, 29, 51, 12, 1212, 21, 7, waxing gibbous moon, Rain(especially at night), Neptune, Mercury, North Node of the Moon, Fire, pentacles, pentagram's, Ares the God of War and Courage, Aries, Cancer, Capricorn, Owls, Bats, Nocturnal Animals, Turkey Vultures, Vultures in general, Lone Wolves, Whales, Blue Whales, Mountain Goat's, Fireflies, Skunks

Extra Advice: Stop boxing your productivity and/or creativity in! Just let it out! Let it do its thing! You're good at what you do I promise! Some of you may be experiencing a broken heart of some sort, maybe a loss, I am so sorry and I feel like those loved ones lost ask me to tell you to look for them in the sky. In the stars and the clouds, the moon and the sun, the planets and everything else in between. They are there, they are watching over you, and they love you, so so much. Some of you are not putting in as much work into other facets of your life that need focus too, go check on those and do what needs to get done! Ask some friends for help, there are some always willing to help you get something done. Some of you need to be weary of some people in your life, they may aim to harm or sabotage you in some way. Take that last message with a grain of salt, it is not for everyone. If you do take that message, look out for ringing in one of your ears, as it may be a sign. Stop putting your energy where it doesn't belong, and by that I mean Stop overworking yourself and/or procrastinating! Do what needs to get done and take a break when you need it, you will thank yourself later. Break away some bad habits, stop eating so much junk food, get your sleeping schedule back in order, take time to check and plan for your calendar, check on friends and loved ones, and send that damn email! Another fairy popped out for me, so keep an eye out for images and mentions of them, they may be very important for you.

Pile 3

This wasn’t in your cards, but my cat just came to cuddle with me, so immediately I'm hearing, "cuddle with your cat!" Or spend time with any pets or animals you have. I have a feeling you might be stressed and could use the company and comfort. Now, on to the rest of your reading!

You may be defensive and/or closed off. You might also think all of this is bullshit and needed someone to acknowledge that thought in order to gain confirmation. That message is only for some of you. Anyways, you may also be in denial of something, likely your own emotions. You feel that if you let your guard down, you will get hurt. You think that pretending to be emotionless like this means that things can't and won't hurt you. But in doing so, you are only hurting yourself. You miss out on all the opportunities of making new friends, spending times with loved ones, and enjoying outings with other people. The hard truth is this, things will always hurt you. You cannot stop the world from being the world, you can't stop humans from being humans, and you can't stop yourself from experiencing inevitable things like death and reality and so much more. And that's ok. Life is meant to be lived, and you can't live life without getting a couple scratches and bruises along the way. Let yourself experience life! Let yourself open up a little more and live. You will be so thankful, so happy, that you decided to let yourself out of your shell, even just a little bit. One step at a time, not everything needs to happen at once, not everything needs to be rushed. Go at your own pace, but just remember to go. I also get the feeling that you are used to carrying other people's burdens. You take on their problems as your own, you wear their emotions like a cloak. I get the feeling that, despite being so harsh and/or closed off, you are a very empathetic person. My back started straining when I realized that and I think that empathy puts a lot of strain and pressure on you in many ways. In some ways, you strain yourself by taking on everyone else's problems. In other ways, it's simply because you feel so strongly. I'm going to suggest something I heard another tarot reader once say, swap your empathy with compassion. Empathy is taking on the emotions of others and feeling them as if they were your own. Compassion is understanding others emotions and being there for people, but not at your own expense, you don't take on their emotions, you simple see them. I think you may think of your empathy as a weakness in some ways, but it's not. Being empathetic is so important to you and to the world. Let yourself feel. The world needs more hearts like yours, hearts that care. Just don't let it burden you, don't take on too much. Set emotional boundaries. You don't need to be there for everyone and that's ok. And if the people around you can't understand that, then you need to spend a little less time with them as a whole. Now I'm not saying you need to cut people out(some of you might I'm sure, take what resonates), but you may need to distance yourself from people who are draining to much of you. Some of these people need room to grow and they can't do that with you coddling them. I don't mean to sound harsh, but taking on their emotions, being their major or only support system, not letting them stand up on their own, it only does more damage. These people may need help at times, sure, but they are also not your responsibility. They need to grow on their own and figure out how to heal themselves as well. Help them if you must, but remember to step away when it's important. Things need to change. Now I feel like our last message here is saying simply this; do these things and your life, your relationships, will thrive. You will have so many more and better opportunities and relationships. You contemplate too much in your mind and don't act, don't live. Go, live life. You will have such a great one. I promise.

(Ps. It stopped raining at my house after I wrote all this, I feel this is signs for a brighter, clearer future for you. Good luck!)

Signs, Symbols, and Phrases; Angels, fairies, blue fairies, the color blue, daydreams, the words "sad" and "embrace," giraffes, couples, "rescue," flamingos, animals that mate for life, unity, birds, butterflies, hearts, crowns, balloons, nature, hot air balloons, stars,clouds, the night sky, a bright full moon, waterfalls, pyramids, the world, towers, big, wide, and/or tall trees, telescope, explorers, floating islands, mushrooms, pretty leaves, art, abandoned homes and places, sneaking in, redheads, little kids, bows, white, small Bunnies, orange leaves, nature taking back, doors, double doors, grand doors, golden doors, doors with intricate designs on them, pillars, sadness, helping others, vertigo, mazes, flying, wings, carousel, porcelain horses, toy horses, 8, 16, 25, 41, 45, 3, 33, 333, 7, 2, 5, growing plants, sprouts, Jupiter, Neptune, North Node of the Moon, Waning Crescent Moon, Virgo, Cancer, Gemini, Pegasus, horses, Bats, Fireflies, Mountain Goat's, Otters

(Lots of symbols for you Pile 3!)

Extra Advice:

Potential love may be in your future. A good unity you will trust. New relationships in general. For some of you, this will not be forever, but that's ok. These relationships will come and go and teach you things along the way. Do not mourn them. For others, these will be strong relationships and could have a big impact on your life and even be forever. You may find your future partner, a best friend, or a new job via new coworkers or new boss! Your heart us healing, it was broken in the past, for any number of reasons, but it's finally healing. That dark shadow you felt in your chest if finally dissipating. You are encouraged to put your energy into new ideas! New creative processes, hobbies, relationships, or even your job. Feeling sad again is inevitable, and when you feel it creeping back up, I suggest writing a little note or a letter to yourself, talking about everything under the sun and especially about how you feel and your problems, and doing one of two things with it; either put it in a bottle or time capsule of some sort and open it later on(could be hours, days, weeks, or years, it's your choice) OR write everything down, and then destroy it. You could tear it apart(angrily if it helps), burn it, soak it in water, anything really. Just get it out there and then destroy it. I also think you should check up on a few friends(remember, set boundaries emotionally) or tell people you trust about how you're feeling. Rant to them, I feel you feel guilty talking to others about your problems, but your loved ones will lend an ear, I promise. Do not make things work that can't or won't work, let them go and focus your attention on something else. Don't let go of your creative ideas, leave them be and let them grow! Do not mourn the loss of friends who never cared about you, let them leave and feel yourself heal because of it. I mean that in a more, metaphorical sense, of course you can mourn the loss of a friendship/relationship, but know it was for the best and that you will only grow because of it. Nowhere to go but up!

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rosedarkness24 · 9 days

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It's absolutely normal to not have your shit together.

Everyone goes through this. Building up your creations and having no organization to the now mess you made. That is normal. Please don't lose faith. Starting a project with no clear vision or plan laid out is how everything starts.

Take it one step at a time. Rise, fall, and pick your ass back up. Don't let the voice within spout negative nonsense to you. Take a pause and explain what you've made so far. Write it down and record it.

It doesn't really have to be everything right away, but start jotting things down. Small conversations, big ones. Even if you never use them, they are there for reaction references. How did that character react to this before, why did they react to it in that way, what were they thinking and feeling.

Slowly build a habit of fleshing things out. Even if it's something small. Like a minor detail, it could be a major plot point.

Let's start with something easy? How tall is everyone? This will help do a roll call and help you vision how everything visually is starting to look like. If you have to doodle, do it. For fuck sakes doodle if it helps, no one should blame you. If someone does, then clearly they don't deserve to have your attention.

Keep positive. You can do this. It's okay to cry, to feel overwhelmed, and it's okay to be a mess. No one is perfect. Everyone goes through this stage. Sometimes, it is harder for some, and sometimes, it is easier. You can get through this, be proud of your accomplishments, and when you fall, because we all fall, pick yourself up, and give the biggest shit eating grin because you are worth all your hard work.

Wise words said to me before:

It is ok to fall, but always remember to pick yourself right back up. Because you don't have to be perfect, you have to try your best and expect the worst. In the end, never lose yourself to the darkness. Always be who you are.

You are loved, remember that.

Y'all have a blessed day, and love yourself.

If you have any additional advice, please share it. Sometimes, people can't ask for help when they need it. Whether or not they are socially scared or worried they'd be a bother. They still need the help.

#artists on tumblr #art #self care #self love #motivation #reminder that you matter #love yourself #what you need to hear #stay positive #writing #writers on tumblr #writeblr #writerscommunity

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starrysnowdrop · 3 months

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What You Need to Hear

Hali Aloke 🌊✨

You Are the Only One Who Can Find a Way Out

You feel like your suffering will never end. You are aching for a new life, an escape or an adventure, an anywhere-but-here home. Don't settle for anything less than what you can give yourself. It cannot be anyone but you.

Aymeric de Borel ❄️⚔️

This Does Not Have to Be the End of You

You did not deserve that, you did not deserve any of that. One of these days you will feel safe again, you will open your heart and you will find it everywhere. Do not be afraid - there is so much love and warmth searching for a way to get to you.

Both of these got me very emotional, because both descriptions fit each of them so well! Hali’s fits how she felt about not being allowed to leave Sharlayan due to her parents, and this sounds like what her grandmother would have told her to do, which is to find a way out of Sharlayan without her parents finding out.

Aymeric’s description sounds exactly like something Hali would’ve told him following the events of the Vault, reassuring him that all will be well in time, and that he will find peace and happiness if he has hope for a better future.

Quiz Here

Tagged By: @reikatsukihana and @mimble-sparklepudding Thank you both so much for thinking of me! Sorry it took so long to answer this! 🥰

Tagging: since it’s been a while, I’m not sure who’s been tagged or not, so this is an open tag! Go ahead and do this if you want to and please tag me so I can read your results! 💖

#character quiz #character meme #what you need to hear #hali aloke #oc: drops of jupiter #hali x aymeric #ship: hold me closer

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cooki3face · 1 year

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What you need to hear + advice from spirit

Pile one 🤍

What you’re going through:

I see someone could be healing from a situation or an experience that may have deeply impacted them, it could’ve been a painful ending or some sort of loss. There’s also an energy of some of you isolating or sort of taking a break to recharge or taking a moment for yourself to heal. Someone could be directing their energy towards healing or making the decision to stop for a moment and heal. I hear someone’s higher self saying “I’ve been ignoring myself and how I’ve felt for a long time.” Or someone wasn’t really taking their hardship or their pain into consideration here. As if in the past you were convincing yourself that the things you felt, experienced or were dealing with were apart of “a process” is what I’m getting or were normal or expected. This could be a relationship. Something I’m hearing for someone or a couple of people about sticking it out to the end or forgetting the negatives or the parts that really hurt deep and putting the positive parts on a pedestal or having their head in the clouds or being unrealistic to cope.

Yeah, there’s something here about being disconnected from intuition, from your inner self, from your faith or from your spirit guides or the universe. You could practice a religion, you could be spiritual, but there’s this delay or this disconnection you were experiencing from yourself and from your faith (or either or) because of this person, this connection, and this situation where you were almost covering your ears, doubting your intuition, not listening to what your inner/higher self was telling you or what your spirit guides were telling you. I see you setting yourself free from this, from spiritual poverty, from settling, from your pain, from this relationship, from this situation or environment. For some of you this could be about where you live or who you live with. You could be staying with someone or staying in a place that’s toxic or weighing you down or keeping you in a place of negativity. I keep hearing “I’m gonna leave.” “I’m leaving soon.” “I’m done with this.” This could be about a relationship, a situation, or a place or all three. Take what resonates leave what doesn’t.

There something coming through here about being exhausted, being tired, being overwhelmed, or giving up on something. I keep hearing finding acceptance too, accepting something/someone isn’t going to change, isn’t for you, or isn’t helpful or healthy for you. I said to someone once, “one day you’re going to wake up and realize you don’t want to feel that way anymore and you’re going to stop.” And that may resonate with you pile one. I think you’re finding hope or faith in renewal. “Faith is being sure if what you hope for.” Or spirit is asking to have hope or have faith in what it is you want from yourself from this point forward moving on from this connection, this environment, this situation.

What you need to hear:

Spirit wants you to know there is power in being alone. You may fear disconnection (I hear some of you may fear the feeling of guilt if you’re going no contact from family) you may fear being lonely, some of you could be people who just want to feel loved by someone or miss the feeling of being wanted and that’s what causes you to keep putting yourself in harmful situations. Spirit is letting you know that you need to do the inner work and that it’s time for you to emerge out of old cycles or learn one of your biggest lessons and for some of you that has to do with spending time alone, being secure in yourself and in your independence, or putting yourself first. There’s peace to be found in finding acceptance when someone no longer serves you or when someone is not alignment with you anymore. Remember that if this person does not serve you or isn’t in alignment with you there is always more to be found elsewhere.

Spirit says it’s time you become closer with yourself and get deeply familiar with who you are, your needs, your emotions, and your desires. It’s time you start listening to yourself and how you feel. You could be an emotional person or someone who experiences a large amount of emotional highs and lows but there’s this energy here of you not valuing these emotions, not learning from them, or not serving them Justice or serving yourself Justice when you feel them. I hear “nobody can take your happiness from you but you.” I see someone looking in the mirror and seeing the perpetrator of their unhappiness in their reflection but it isn’t them. Almost as if you’re pointing the finger or placing responsibility for your unhappiness on someone else, on someone in your life or someone whose played a big part of negative feelings that were brought on.

Someone could’ve contributed to your unhappiness here or could’ve hurt you or caused you a lot of harm or trouble and I see you blaming them or trying to hold them accountable but you’re not paying attention to the part you played in all this by staying here longer than you were meant to, or by continuing to give them your attention or your forgiveness, or whatever it is that you did that prolonged or enabled their behavior in some way shape or form. Spirit wants you to know that there are so many things within this life that you can have. You may have the mindset that after this specific thing that you’re letting go of or losing that there will be nothing more for you or that you will no longer be able to accept anything more. I can hear someone believing that because things around them have been negative that thats all their capable of having in life and that’s untrue. You’ve built a habit of your discomfort. I hear, “you’ve grown to hate life as you know it not life itself.”

Spirit wants you to know that this person was in your life or you had to repeat this cycle so many times or you had to experience this pain and discomfort so many times or have this person continue to hurt you or harm you repeatedly for you to learn a lesson so you could grow. It’s up to you to see the purpose in it all and turn it into something you can take something from so you can improve your life, improve who you are and learn the lesson you weren’t meant to learn, squash this cycle and be done once and for all. You may feel like people are judging you. You may feel as though you’re confused and you’re confusing others. Spirit is telling you to make up your mind. I hear “you can’t choose your consequences but you can choose your choices” tread lightly here and be careful. Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is insanity and you don’t seem to understand that about this person, relationship, or situation. Stop letting this person in or letting this situation continue to cause you harm.

All of these delays, all of this frustration, all of this pain, and not being where you truly desire to be or having what you truly desire in life or from others has a lot to do with your inability to let go and find acceptance in this situation and move forward. Let go. So that things can begin opening up for you and you can have room for the things you really want in life. Your spirit guides, your higher self knows what you want and where you want to go and it’s time for you to step into that so you can be on the same page. Spirit says that they understand you feel stuck, that you’re tired, or in deep contemplation about a lot right now but it’s time for you to move. “You have to move.” It’s time for you to move on and move forward. You have to grow. Tie up those loose ends, close the door on this person, stop giving them access to you, allowing them to be your friend, allowing them to continue coming in and out of your life or hanging around in your space or in your energy as they please. It’s not benefiting you you’re just grasping for stability so you don’t feel unsafe.

You know you’re unhappy, you know this situation is making you unhealthy or affecting you in more ways than one, you know this relationship struggled or wasn’t working out the way it should’ve. Find acceptance.

Advice 📝:

Practice giving to yourself, being generous to yourself, showing yourself grace, forgiveness and kindness and stop giving them access to your energy, your love, your support.

Sit down and be honest with yourself about this relationship, how you feel, about this person. Sit down and become clear about what you want and what you need. Write it down. Something about limerence feels significant here. You may be not being realistic about this person, about how incompatible you two really are, about how this person makes you feel, etc.

Release your control. Trust in the universe. You’re so worried that there isn’t more out there for you, you’re so worried about the fact that this situation is falling about and things are shifting beneath you. None of that is your concern truly because your spirit guides have their hand and in all your experiences. Life is happening for you not to you.

Reconnect with your inner divine feminine. You have some symptoms of a wounded divine feminine. You could have expressed a desire to be more feminine or to delve into your feminine energy but you probably went about it the wrong way. It’s more than hair and makeup, body lotion, and signature perfume fragrances it begins from within. There are thing within you that need to be healed it’s for you to start doing some shadow work.

Spirit is bringing up again for you to cut out the indecisiveness and become clear on your wants and needs.

#self love #self care #self improvement #self discovery #self expression #healingjourney #dream girl #self healing #pick a card #tarot readings #tarot reading #what you need to hear

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sylvies-kablooie · 3 months

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i do unironically think the best artists of our generation are posting to get 20 notes and 3 reblogs btw. that fanfic with like 45 kudos is some of the best stuff ever written. those OCs you carry around have some of the richest backstories and worldbuilding someone has ever seen. please do not think that reaching only a few people when you post means your art isn't worth celebrating.

#i often wonder about how many things would be considered classic or high art had they only received the marketing #how many short films that were made for class could have been the most powerful thing you'd ever seen? if you'd seen them?#“you know the greatest films of all time were never made” etc etc #but like. these works of art ARE being made. it's just enjoyed by a smaller audience with equal impact though #i think about this one furry i used to follow on insta who had the coolest worldbuilding ever. it's been years.#thought prompted by that sketch of nimona from ten years ago that was just for a character design #posted to the creator's tumblr and now it's nominated for best animated feature film at the oscars #and by the genuine emotional reaction a fan comic made me feel. how much work had gone into it. how beautiful it was to me.#idk what to tag this but i hope whoever needs to hear it does #writing #writer #fandom #fandom culture #artist

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flawlessdreamlandrebel · 1 month

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Stop regretting the past.

Theres nothing you can do to change it.Learn from it and let it go.

Stop stressing over the future.

You're only wasting time and energy.85% of the things you are stressing will never happen.

Stop depending on someone else to make you happy.

Its absolutely impossible. Happiness is 100% an inside job.

#something to think about #hits hard #only facts #spilled truth #positive vibes #what you need to hear #life is short #gemini #getyouame #late night thoughts #GBI

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k-tarotz · 5 months

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Pick a pile | what people adore about you?~ ♡

Hello! We decided to do a pick a pile, we also might do this more often if you guys will like it,so in this choose the pile that you prefer the most and we will tell you what people adore the most about you! Feel free to reblog, leave w comment or like this to show us that you like those kinda things so that we can post more such stuff with different aesthetics and other important messages. Enjoy!

Pile 1:

people adore you for your ability to make others

feel comfortable and accepted. you are always there for others, even when you feel overwhelmed yourself. you care a lot about others and always go above and beyond to help those in need. you have the ability to make others smile and laugh, even when they feel the world is against them. you are the type of person who can light up a room with your infectious positivity, optimism and kindness. people adore you for your loving heart and your ability to understand and support those around you

Pile 2:

people adore you for your intelligence, wit and keen insights. you are always observing and analysing those around you, able to see through the masks they put up and understanding their true emotions. you are capable of keeping up with any conversation and have the ability to make others laugh and feel comfortable with your sharp humour. people also adore you for your creativity and your unique ability to think out of the box. you have a unique outlook on life and people around you find that fascinating. you always come up with new ideas and solutions to even the hardest issues.

Pile 3:

people adore you for your contagious and upbeat personality. you always bring a breath of fresh air wherever you go. people are drawn to your energy and positivity. you have the ability to make people feel happier and more hopeful, even in the darkest of times. you have the ability to make everyone smile and laugh, no matter what the circumstances may be. people adore you for your bright charm and charisma. you are the type of person who can brighten up even the dullest day with your radiant smile and cheerful attitude!

- Hun & Candy

#pick a card #pick a pile #pick a picture #intuitive reading #personal reading #what people adore about you #what you need to hear #aesthetic #aesthetic blue #blue #city #blue city #city aesthetic #kpop

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emidealia · 1 year

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pick a cat for advice

hi! thank you so much for your support and good words!

with access to media we are constantly fed tons of information, lots of advice and tips. but how often do we really hear what is being said to us? do we really implement change or even remember? with this pick a picture, you should hold yourself more accountable as you pick with your intuition something you need to hear.

i hope you receive something to guide you on your journey!

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be the change you want to see in the world!!

#tarot #tarot reading #pick a card #pac #pick a pile #divination #advice #what you need to hear #pac reading #2023 tarot reading #pick a picture #reading

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andthebeanstalk · 11 months

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Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need.#the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist.#the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28!#a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents.#they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong.#and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives.#you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead?#or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of.#no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow.#i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong.#just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

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