#which is more aro

[tamymew]

gay lizards gay lizards

#honestly idk which one i like the most #maybe the aro one??? but the more i think about it the more i just #love em all #rain world #pride #pride month #tamyart

[redysetdare]

Some of you people need to stop acting so shitty over aspec stereotypes because it's starting to get to a point that you are just shitting on the people who experiences match the stereotypes and it's hurting a lot more aspects than it's helping.

#text #aspec #ace #aro #aroace #aromantic #asexual #aplatonics #loveless #loveless aro #afamilial #adding you guys heree too because aplato afamil and loveless ppl get shit on constantly #for embodying the 'doesnt feel love towards anyone' stereotype which is often seen as something aspecs need to fight against #too many of you are more focused on seeming normal to the allos #that youre willing to throw some of us who dont fit the mold under the bus #because we 'make aspecs look bad' or 'prove allos negative stereotypes' #and idk maybe we shouldnt be theowing experiences under the bus because aphobes throw a fit over them #shouldnt we protect eachother from aphobia not try to surpress those who 'cause it' by existing??? #aphobia

[aromantic-diaries]

Honestly I'm glad that the aro community is moving from "we still love our friends and family we're not heartless!" to "we don't need to make up for our lack of romantic attraction with other forms of love" because yeah, our platonic and/or familial relationships are not romance-lite or a substitute for romantic love and a lot of aros reject the idea of love altogether. So yeah fuck trying to appeal to alloromantic people with the whole "we swear we're normal" thing. I don't need to make sense to anyone

Either you accept me as I am whether you understand me or not or you leave me the fuck alone

#aro #aromantic #arospec #not to mention my already existing struggle with connecting to people which was a problem before i even knew i was aro #and probably isn't related to it and has more to do with my history of rocky friendships full of dissapointment and letdowns #so my lack of romantic feelings are not to blame for my antisocial tendencies #of course there definetly are aros who are lonely souls like me and their aromanticism is connected to that but guess what #they don't owe you shit either and are not ''proof'' that aromanticism is miserable and lonely #those of us who are alone are not ''proof'' that we're incomplete without romance

[angryaromantics]

There's a post making the circles about fanfiction that really reaaaaally rubs me the wrong way. It's essentially arguing that fanfiction is a small subculture of the internet and shipping is a small niche subset of that, and it's on you if you walk into fandom spaces and complain about shipping which lol.

Like the first point, sure, but to call shipping a niche in fandom spaces is ridiculous. Gen is the niche in fandom. It is difficult to downright impossible to exist in fandom places without engaging (even unwillingly) with shipping, and it's questionable at best to claim the only reason that people might have problems with this is homophobia.

Like, don't frame this as if it's so easy to engage in fandom and avoid shipping, and then imply there's no reason people would want to engage in fandom besides shipping. Just tell me you don't care about aro people and go.

#honesty i think it's less that these people don't care about aro people and more so that we never cross their minds as a possibility #and the place the referenced post started is that it's so easy to find and engage in fully platonic media in the (real world) which #once again lol #aromantic #fandom #arophobia #koko thinkin thots

[mx-misty-eyed]

that trope where a character doesnt want romance until they find ~the one~ but reverse it. give me a character that centers their life around finding a partner until they realize that amatonormativity is bullshit

#i was gonna say ‘bonus points if they’re aro’ but actually? #bonus points if they’re allo #because i think aros are generally more aware of this stuff than allos by like. a lot #by which i mean like every allo i know has an extremely amatonormative point of view #idk if i phrased that in a way that makes sense #aro #aromantic #aroace #tw swearing #crow

[aq2003]

"the doctor is aroace," i say into the mic. the crowd boos. steven moffat throws a tomato at me. i walk off the stage. then, several voices arise from the back of the room. "they're right", say over a third of the actors that have played the doctor over its 60 year long history

#dr who #misc #aspec doc tag #ok edit this got more than 3 notes so i will clarify the actors in question that im talking abt #are tom baker colin baker sylvester mccoy chris eccleston david tennant and matt smith #(who have all either a) said the doctor was ace or b) talked abt disliking romantic storylines w/ the character or c) both) #giving me a 5/14 batting average. also moffat is throwing a tomato at me bc hes on record #saying that sherlock being ace/aro would be 'no fun' and 'uninteresting'. Which i will never forgive him for

[shmaroace]

stop infantilizing aspec people. we don't deserve to be treated as inferiors to everyone else because we don't feel certain types of attraction. aspecs are capable of handling themselves and setting their own boundaries, others shouldn't do it for them.

#me when my friends are like ''oh my gosh you are just a little baby you can't handle sensitive topics like sex!!!'' #i'm usually more mature than the rest of them too which is soooooo annoying #anyway stop treating us like we're literal FUCKING children. #aro #aromantic #arospec #ace #asexual #acespec #aroace #aspec

[i-really-like-phrogs]

Movie Lydia Re-Draw from Last Year

Here’s an Old Vs. New comparison!

#beetlejuice #lydia deetz #beetlejuice movie #procreate #my art #redraw #draw this again #RIP Garlic Bread- you will be missed 😔🧄🥖 #All in all- Although this drawing leaves a lot to be desired- I am very happy with the changes! #The biggest I think is the sweater itself- It looks so much more pleasing and cohesive! #If I was Aro-Ace this would definitely be something I would wear in real life! #I also appreciate that there isn’t as much weird cropping as there was last year #I remember having to fiddle with the dimensions every time I posted it- and it looked janky no matter what! #With this one I just had to download and go- which makes everything so much easier on my part #Now if you all don’t mind: I’ve had a very long day of drawing and I’m off to whip up a cup of keto-friendly hot chocolate! #happy holidays folks!

[enixamyram]

I have a sudden random headcanon that Velvette is asexual in a romantic poly with Val and Vox.

#Hazbin Hotel #Velvette #Vox #Valentino #The Vees #Had a look but can't find any canon info on her sexuality #though I've seen plenty of poly headcanons and theories #which I totally approve 😆 #but since we've yet to see her be physical with anyone #I dunno I like the idea of having more than one ace character #plus we'd also get to see the variations of it #like Alastor is aro/ace #but Velvette's just ace. #I dunno 😆

[antihibikase-archive]

It is incredibly isolating to navigate through fandom as an aromantic person. Aro experiences are so varied, and there is no definite aro experience that encapsulates the alienation that fandom spaces cause for certain people.

Fandom is mostly built and structured on shipping. And if not, the blorbofication of characters, which tends to go down the shipping pipeline; where does that leave the romance repulsed aro person who genuinely does not want to see any form of shipping? Platonic dynamics, right?

Yeah, sure. But by platonic dynamics, it's only "best friends" or "family" right? Where does that leave the aro folks with undefined labels? No, qprs aren't a get-out-of-jail card.

And qprs- they have no rules or standards set upon them by society, not even having a clear definition for what it is, because not all qprs are the same. Yet, for some reason, it ended up becoming the "nonbinary" option to a lot of people- not romantic or "regular" platonic? Qpr it is, right?

But where does that leave the aro folk who don't want a qpr? Who don't wish to see characters depicted in pairs or trios or so forth- who embrace the lack of a partner?

And these concepts presented; when aro folk talk about them, do you care? And if you do, do you understand? Do you try to?

If you aren't aro, but wish to be supportive, are you a genuine ally? Do you raise the concerns of aro folk you share the space with?

Or do you take a look at these concepts- and decide you understand them "well" enough? Do you decide to speak for aro folks instead?

Do you depict relationships outside of romance because you believe in the importance of platonic relationships? Will you accept the fact that not all platonic interactions will be familial or "best friends"?

Can you accept depictions of qprs outside of "more than friends, less than lovers"? Are you willing to accept it is not just "best friends" or "romance lite"? Will you accept that nothing is inherently romantic- and characters in a qpr may fall under your standards of lovers?

Can you resist the urge to put every character in a pair or trio or group? Are you comfortable with the notion of characters finding more joy in being by themselves, outside of all those lenses you see them in?

It's good if you can.

And if you can't, at the very least, do you understand why some aro folk in your space are upset? Embittered by your favorite ships? Starving for representation?

Did you depict these characters with these concepts with the knowledge that aromanticism is fluid?

#antihibikase.txt #Long Post #((I'm sorry. I have been thinking about this for weeks and I am unhappy.)) #((Honestly? I have been feeling more and more isolated in fandom recently.)) #((It hurts. I know non aro folks are trying.)) #((And its hard to describe. It's alienating.)) #((And the typical fandom response is more representation- which is well-meaning.)) #((But. Specifically to non aro folk. When you depict these aro concepts are you normal about them.)) #((Do you do so respectfully.)) #((Reminder that qprs are not restricted to aro folks btw.)) #((I'm so so tired. It's easy to say you care but then completely miss the mark.)) #((And just in case- this is NOT alluding to anyone. Please allow me to let my rage be my own.)) #((Or to share this with those who understand.)) #((And if you as a non aro person feel attacked by this- sorry.)) #((I did my best to word this as firmly as possible without sounding angry because I am aware that-)) #((-many will read this in bad faith.)) #((Okay to reblog btw.)) #((This isn't one of my usual rambles despite it being under my txt tag.))

[arsenicflame]

oh also i Really hope that izzy in drag next week brings a new wave of transfem izzy content i love her so much

#ive said it before but izzy truly is. The Blorbo. the little black dress of the show #hes transmasc! shes transfem! hes aro! hes poly with everyone! aaaaaaaaa #god he consumes me #anyway. i love transfem izzy i so hope to see more art (various) around her #israel hands #izzy hands #nyxtalks #ofmd #ofmd s2 spoilers #idk theres something so compelling about his internalised masculinity which lends itself both to transmasc + transfem #is he covering for fear of being seen not as a real man? or is he compensating for feeling like he isn't a man #either way is so so good #just transmasc izzy is so popular i would like go see more transfem #also nb ofc. precious

[amalgamezz]

what i want: romance as horror

what i get: horror as romance

#aromantic #i recently found some fellow aros proposed the concept of romance being horror #which sounds p cool and funky thus i want to see more #but tumblr search is really a constant disappointment as it just yeets me to the alloromantic side of tumblr instead #/m

[redysetdare]

every time i see a post that is like "ughh why cant we have aspec characters who aren't aroace for once" I have to do a double take like "is the aroace rep in the room with us right now?" because genuinely....where is all this aroace rep y'all are complaining about? Why cant i find it yet it's apparently the only aspec rep we get?? You admit that TV never says the word aromantic so where is the aroace rep. So far I've pretty much only seen canonically asexual characters and not much else buddy.

#text #half the time i think these ppl see other aspec ppl saying that x character feels aroace and then they take it as canon rep #instead of an interpretation of the character which likely was never meant to be written as aspec at all #because majority of people don't even know what that is #this isn't me saying that we shouldn't have aroallo or alloace rep btw #this is me complaining about people throwing aroace ppl under the bus because apparently we are 'hogging' all the representation in media #and it just reads as people being aphobic towards aroace people specifically and it drives me insane #you can ask for more aroallo and alloace characters without complaining and shitting on aroace characters???? #like bro we are all on the same fucking team. we are all trying to get seen and understood. we all want to see ourselves in media #stop fighting like one of us is somehow way more privileged than the other because 'you have x rep' #we all have crumbs my guy. just because someone else is getting crumbs doesn't mean that its your crumbs being taken. #idk i see so many posts like this and it makes me feel so unwelcome in the aro and ace communities #im tired of aroace people being used as a scapegoat that you can target to pretend like you're punching up #when in reality you're just committing friendly fire against people who are on your team #i miss when the aro and ace communities used to like... work together as a big aspec community #now ppl r way too focused on separating them and acting like they have nothing in common and don't have the same goals #and both communities now tend to put a lot of blame onto aroace people because of stereotypes we never had control over in the first place #it's exhausting #like the aphobia is coming from inside the house #i didn't go through the ace discourse on tumblr to deal with this shit.

[jorrated]

I'm so tired of sonamy being ship teased in stuff

#for a while i had hope that since sonic boom was doing the whole sonamy thing #we wouldnt see anywhere else #and i was like great the fans of the ship can get their cake and i wont have to look at it awesome #but i was WRONG. #they still do shipbait in the twitter takeover and shit #besides the weird age gaps #since now people wanna pretend these characters are ageless #and besides how much i think sonic is aroace #they just dont fit together as a couple dear hod #even in shows like sonic x in which i guess sonic says he loves her THEY FONT HAVE ROMANTIC CHEMESTRY #like sonic boom had to completely change the chracters personatilies so tht would work (? questionable. its still bland) #at this point id even take sonadow being more shipbaited even if im not a big fan #aro sonic forever and above everything else <33

[think-queer]

I've been thinking about why in so deeply bothered by people saying that afab enbies who don't look trans are less oppressed than other trans people. Part of it is just that it is either based in enbyphobia/misogyny (seeing afab enbies as women and seeing women as attention seekers with a victim complex) or it's erasing amab enbies (because if 'looking trans' is such an important part of the trans experience then why wouldn't the same apply to amab enbies who aren't visibility trans)

But I've realized that it's also because it reminds me of one of the most common acephobic arguments I saw back when asexuals were the targets of the "discourse" (aka the main target for bullies in online queer spaces) The argument was that no one can tell you're asexual unless you tell them. That mlm and wlw can be clocked in public by homophobes and thus are the targets of violence but asexuals aren't going to be holding hands with the wrong person so clearly we don't experience any type of oppression. At it's heart it's the same argument I see against afab enbies. It's this idea that going through life hiding your actual identity is a privilege, that somehow staying in the closet all the time is fun and easy, it's the idea that the only meaningful form of oppression is random violence from complete strangers, that non-violent bigotry doesn't really matter, and that violence from people you know is somehow less common or less important. It's people acting as though the only reason that someone might seek out queer spaces is to avoid that violence from strangers, and that seeking out queer spaces for emotional support or to form connections is somehow "taking up resources" or an "invasion" of a space where they don't belong. It's the same oppression olympics that I hate with every fiber of my being, that does nothing but turn us against each other and distract from our actual oppressors.

Afab enbies wanting to exist and be acknowledged no matter their gender presentation is not an act of violence against other trans people.

It took me years to come to terms with my asexuality because of the way asexuals were targeted when I was a teenager, and I hate to think that there are going to be people growing up now that struggle to come to terms with their gender identity because of the way enbies are being talked about.

#aromantics were also targeted along with asexuals but the arguments I'm thinking of i remember being directed towards asexuals specifically #aromantics faced lot more erasure if i remember correctly #i am also aro but i mostly see hatred specifically towards alloaros which im not #tqlk #I've just really been thinking about why these things bother me #I'm nb and not visibly trans but thats because I'm still mostly closeted except in certain situations #it bothers me how much people define enbies based off our agab #and that no one ever seems to acknowledge that sometimes people aren't visibly trans bc we're closeted #but i know that when people complain about enbies who 'look cis' they are usually thinking of people who want to present that way #since otherwise those things would apply to all closeted trans people not just nbs

[aro-culture-is]

Aro culture is buying pride merch with the agender flag because people always forget about us

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#Anonymous #aro culture is #aro #aromantic #actually aro #actually aromantic #ask #honestly i am always curious for widely available pride merch which demographics are more likely to be financially worth producing for #like. in the sense of 'if you could theoretically have infinite identities represented and every new identity who asked for a product had #a high quality image of their flag from which you could produce your product... which identities buy more? #i assume more well-known identities are... well. more accessible to the average person #but i've heard periodically that certain flags are hard to justify designing products for due to the cost analysis of design/production #versus the likelihood of them being bought #though i think that *primarily* effects small businesses in which you pre-order a certain amount of a product in order to sell #not made-to-order products #(science brain go brr)