#white feminist

[papirouge]

friendly reminder that to White women, not caring about them means we support their abuse :)

Please read meticulously this post. Don't get distracted by its abrasive tone, but stay focused on OP choice of words.

Now tell me whether OP said that Taylor Swift "deserved" what happened to her.If anything she just said that 1)she refused to CARE about 2) lumped her with mass murderer enthusiasts. That's it.

Now look at those ILLITERATE whitefem clutching their pearls

What's interesting with those feminist, is that they say it's unrealistic to expect Taylor to "stop the war". But that's NOT what OP said, and the criticism around Taylor is acknowledging how INFLUENCIAL her speaking up about the genocide would be.

Those feminist who are for the most part anti pornography, would NEVER use the excuse of powerlessness to act like their fight against porn and prostitution (who are multi BILLIONS industries) was pointless. They wouldn't accept "what makes you think that you, random women can "stop pornography?""as valid criticism - and they would be right. But somehow they use the same rhetoric to remove "feminist" Taylor Swift from accountability.

Their influence is minimal compared to Taylor, but they still acknowledge that we can still individually play a part to bring a positive change to society. But Taylor? ..... oh but what she can doo???she's just an entertainer~ uwu And this excuse would make sense if Taylor didn't posture herself as a political relay...but she did. By calling herself a feminist - which IS a political statement in and of itself. It creates a set of expectation from her. So this flip flopping around personal accountability from radfem to remove Taylor from those expectations doesn't make any sense and shows how hypocrite they are.

They pretend fighting against the image of soft feminine fragility but look how HARD they cling to Taylor's fragility to defend her like there's no tomorrow and consider like an ATTACK the simple fact of not "caring" about her.... Radfem will be quick to appeal to the damsel in distress stereotype when it becomes convenient to them. Very far from their "Empowered Independent woman" narrative...

The nail on the coffin is OP reblogging a post criticizing Taylor, but giving her stamp of whitefem approval in the tag. "Now *this* is valid criticism "

Remember what I told you about white radfem being the feminist-washed version of white saviorism. "I will accept this criticism but only if *I* approve it". Those women posture themselves as position of (intellectual/moral) superiority from where they can distribute good or bad points. Remember the anti natalist one who said true feminists were people (like her) calling to the end of hetero sex - and not regular activists calling for a ceasefire.

#deconstructing radical feminism #<-new tag I guess #whitefem be whitefeming #white feminism #white feminist #taylor swift #papi watch #papi truths #radical feminism

[cowboylikeghost]

I am a big fan of Taylor Swift, but i also aknowledge that she is in fact far away from perfect. She's a white feminist and the perfect exemple of capitalism, i'm not even surprise that she is the celebrity polluating the most. Once again disappointed but not surprised.

#Taylor Swift #White feminist #performative activism #Taylor #Swift #Swiftie #pollution #rich people #eat the rich

[intersectionalpraxis]

I documented multiple cases with @/ EuroMedHR of Israeli soldiers abducting blonde children from #Gaza claiming they might be abductee Israelis. As Israeli forces are nearing my area of refuge, I just actually told my brother’s wife to dye her blonde daughter’s hair black! [@/ MahaGaza on X. 01/07/24.] Read this twice, took me twice Zionists are kidnapping blonde Palestinian babies and pretending they're isra*lis, Palestinians are being told to dye their children's hair black [@/ Lamis_Deek on X. 01/07/24/]

Thank you to a mutual for sharing/alerting me to this. This is absolutely horrifying. Like WHO was it that said blonde and blue-eyed babies were superior??

This also makes me think of white European colonizers kidnapping Indigenous children and bringing them to "residential schools" -which were mass genocide camps. If ya'll even know a little about this history, that's what it reminds me of. Indigenous children were forcibly separated from their families and cultures. They were forbidden to speak their languages and were violently abused, and many were killed in heinous and cruel ways -there are still MANY unmarked graves in the white-settler nation of Canada.

This is beyond disturbing. I can't even imagine the horrors behind something like this. The IOF are depraved.

*Edit: for context, I'm not saying that the history of cultural genocide of Indigenous people in settler-colonial countries like Canada and the United States is a direct parallel to what is happening or what appears to be happening to Palestinian children. It just brought up initial thoughts (in terms of my perspective) about the IOF kidnapping Palestinian babies for their 'perceived whiteness,' [which made me think of Nazi Germany's white supremacist discourses], and how very specific it is of them to be taking Palestinian babies/young children and saying they are 'Israeli' [which reminded me of how Indigenous children were forcibly taken from their homeland/cultures by violent settler-colonial states]. I think most of us can agree that the intentions behind this are nefarious, and no matter the reason -I am not trying to erase the severity of and atrocities behind nearly 2 centuries of anti-Indigenous racism and systemic violence against Indigenous communities. I saw a re-blog with commentary about this -and I just want to acknowledge what they had said because this is important to address.

#feminist #feminism #social justice #free palestine #palestine #freepalastine🇵🇸 #free gaza #settler violence #settler colonialism #colonial violence #us colonialism #current events #tw child abuse #indigenous history #genocide #white supremacy tw

[ftmtftm]

Genuinely I think the biggest actual theoretical terminology vs layman's understanding linguistic failure of the last decade is the way the word "privilege" has been ground to dust.

To have "privilege" is to have benefits in life granted to you by institutions of systemic power that in turn place you in a position of power or status over others in a way that is in line with and benefits the institution.

"Privilege" is also absolutely not cut and dry. Institutions of power don't take turns dissecting people into individual parts to decide how to oppress or give benefits to people at any given moment. They treat them as a sum of their parts. That is quite literally the foundational core of Intersectional theory.

But that's a lot of words that require you to actually think about sociological concepts and attempt to understand them in-depth. Unfortunately though, people love simplicity and they hate social sciences - especially theory in social sciences that have been proposed by anyone who isn't White. Which is extremely, dishearteningly ironic in a conversation on privilege.

#original post #intersectional feminism #intersectional feminist #feminism #feminist #kimberlé crenshaw #kimberle crenshaw #white feminism

[inkskinned]

there's this video you've probably seen already where a woman is shaking in front of a microphone and delicately tries to ask - how can i make my husband listen to me, i've tried everything, i don't want to seem ungrateful and the other man laughs - the problem is that you married a man, we're only listening 25% of the time and we only understand 5% of that! and the audience laughs and the woman laughs and you just sat there, phone in your hand, letting the sound of it echo

and the thing is that people make think-pieces about it (isn't this one of them) and satire versions and "flipping the script" which is good and fun but at the end of the day, there's some truth in that man's response about men-not-listening. and you have tried to language that feeling for years, this sense that you can only take up 33% of a conversation before others view it as being "dominating".

it's not that they aren't listening, it's that the action they're taking is purposefully silencing. it's different. you accidentally-don't-listen a lot; just because the world is loud and you're distracted. you don't mean anything by it. and the truth is that the man who spoke is relying on that to be true of you; the way it's true of everyone. but there is a different undertone to his kind of not-listening. what he means is they don't respect you and you shouldn't expect them to. there is a difference between oh shit i forgot to take the trash out and why didn't you remind me to do it, just like there is a difference between i didn't realize you wanted to go out this weekend and why do you expect me to plan things why can't you just tell me where we're going.

and the thing is that it isn't just him, and it's actually not just because of your gender - your skin, your class status, your weight, their ableism - it happens often. so often it feels like a tightness around your throat and a weight in your stomach. you're not even "really" allowed to be upset about it, because to them it's a joke. and they laugh. and you know exactly the amount of work that goes into every conversation. how you have to work to condense down your thoughts into intelligent, crisp soundbites; worried someone will try to swoop in and cut you off. and there's this sense from everyone else - oh stop being so sensitive, are you really upset just because they weren't listening and you don't know how to say the way that feels when it happens constantly.

there's that video of the science summit where a woman in the audience finally says let her speak please! and the whole crowd bursts into applause and the man leading the summit holds up his hands and bows his head and says oops, sorry! like what he did was awkward and embarrassing, a little social gaffe that happens easily. later in your meetings, you're asked to take notes, and you don't say anything, you just hear let her speak please! ringing in your head and know that you'll never be brave enough for that kind of thing. and besides. think of all the people who agree this was a one-off, he just got excited and all of the people who say one man is not indicative of all of society

at the dinner table you're talking about someone you don't like and how he's not good to his girlfriend and how she always has to remind him to put the effort in and before him, she was glowing with curiosity and passion but now she just seems... tired, unhappy. that he likes the way she burns out; she stays home and takes care of him and their 2 kids. and your father sniffs and says that men take a while to learn those kinds of things. and you just stare at him and think about your childhood and are like - no wonder i turned out like this

and you want to say - there's no fucking secret school or mystic form of communication. i was not sent to Rearing a Child University. i did not graduate from Getting Chores Done College. i ask questions and i listen and i pay attention, because that's basic fucking human decency. it stems from respect, and how i respect others and their agency. i clean the house because someone should clean. not because it comes "naturally".

hell, you had to google "how to boil an egg" the other day, just because you usually make them scrambled. you can never remember which of the 2 bathroom cleaners make chlorine gas, only that two of them definitely do. you've accidentally bleached your clothes. it took you like 3 years of self-teaching before you figured out how to actually cook things correctly - for that whole time, you burnt or undercooked everything. but you did teach yourself; just like you taught yourself how to listen with empathy. just like how you taught yourself to think before you speak. to be kind first, to be better at communicating. it seemed like a good thing, an adult thing.

the joke the man in the video makes is that women say i'm fine! when they are not fine. and you think about the 150 conversations that happened around that; about how she probably has had so many arguments with her husband. how she said i'm upset you don't take me anywhere and he got mad at her because of course i do, you made me go to that stupid restaurant like last week and she probably said that's not what i'm saying and he said now i'm supposed to be psychic or something and she said no of course not and he said how am i supposed to know what to do when you don't even like everything and she said i do like things and he said well how am i supposed to win? and her pastor probably told her to be more grateful because they do things at all, even if she has to plan them and her mom probably told her that's just how men are honey and she probably cried over her journal, trying to figure out why the fuck she "has everything" and is still so bitterly, horribly unhappy

and how, in your life, for so many reasons, you looked down the barrel of another argument; of explaining yourself and being vulnerable and begging for help again. how many times you just said i'm fine because it was better than doing that again; it was better than wringing yourself out when it's literally easier to just pretend. because he wasn't going to listen. your father wasn't going to be better and your boyfriend wasn't going to be better and your boss wasn't going to be more respectful.

and you sit in front of a video of a woman shaking, looking horrible and guilt-wrought that she's even asking this question. and you know; deep in your heart - that's you. in a different life, you are her. you've stood in her spot. and you had to listen while someone else cackled - why would we bother to notice when you talk?

#writeblr #warm up #this is something im legit still unpacking the effects of #btw this is one of those intersectional feminist blogs #gender plays a role but let's be honest - this silencing comes from disrespect which can come from MANY things #white women will do it to women of color #it exists in many forms and permutations #but fuck that video made my blood run COLD #you know it's bad out there when my HORRIFICALLY right-wing trad cath father even admitted ''it's bad out right now''

[redditreceipts]

what baffles me is that he doesn't even realise how stupid his point is when talking about white supremacy. yes, we are all socialised under white supremacy. but some of us are socialised as the supreme, and others are socialised as the inferior. or is he really arguing that there is no substancial difference in growing up white vs. growing up Black??

yes, we are all socialised under patriarchy. BUT YOU WERE SOCIALISED AS THE PATRIARCH omg are you really that stupid or are you pretending

#radblr #radical feminism #radical feminists do interact #radical feminists please touch #gender critical #feminism #gc feminism #gc feminist #gender abolition #radfems please touch #radfems please interact #radfem safe #autogynephilia #agp #listen to trans women #misogyny #jessie gender #patriarchy #white supremacy

[magnetothemagnificent]

Too many people think they'd be hanged for witchcraft in the 15th century and not enough people realize they'd probably be part of the accusing mob.

#looking at you white feminists #and terfs #and republicans #and white neopagans

[thearmyofgrunge]

#black and white #grunge #dark #grunge quotes #quotes #grunge aesthetic #aesthetic #quote #feminism #feminist

[aftabkaran]

Bless you.

#mahsa amini #iran #white feminists learn #dua lipa

[lollobarcollomanonmollo]

Misogyny is still misogyny even if it's against a 'basic' 'cishet' white woman and I'm sick of people who act like it's any less bad

#misoginy #radical feminists do touch #radical feminists please interact #radical feminism #Placing 'white' in front of a misogynist sentence doesn't make you any better

[papirouge]

White feminist never beating the "i will always look down a discourse led by non White women as ludicrous and "stupid" because the only valid feminism has to be embraced by Western/White women" allegations 🤡

The only one being dishonest here is you🙄

#white feminist #no comment on unironically using 'woke'... #i had to explain to her the white feminist thing had to with whitefem hypocrisy on Palestine #homegirl doesn't even fully understand the point of the discourse yet felt the need to pull out her uneducated opinion on it I- #papi watch #white feminism

[vaspider]

Feisty Lady Anger and other things about me you hate

My mother prizes her anger, for all that she doesn't express it openly. I tell stories about her spiteful, steel-spined responses to people who told her, "You can't do that," and I point to them as Why I Am How I Am. Her father told her he wouldn't pay for her college because "women only go to earn the MRS degree," and she could "get married and have babies" without college. In response, Mom got her bachelor's in Mathematics in 1970 on her own dime, back in the days when in-state students didn't pay tuition at state schools (just another thing Reagan ruined). She worked and paid for her books and housing, got her degree, paid for her own wedding because he wouldn't do that either. Taught school, got her Master's, had three kids, started her Ph.D. with 3 under 6 and became a professor when the youngest was 5.

Tell me I can't, my mom told the world, and I'll show you that I can. I won't just do it, I'll become a department head and a Distinguished Professor and retire after 30 years of teaching other math teachers with a list of achievements as long as my arm.

There is an anger that runs deep in the women in my family. Tell me I can't, and I'll show you I can. Show me injustice and I'll tear at it with my teeth and hands, staring you down while I do. Backwards and in heels.

I can't tell you the moment I crossed out of Feisty Lady Anger in the eyes of the people close to me, but I can tell you the moment I noticed. Maybe it was when my voice started dropping or the growing muscles on my shoulders pulled my stance more square and upright. Maybe it was when I moved from they/them to he/they, and somehow I stepped from Diet Woman to Too Close To Man in their eyes.

It's a funny thing when all of a sudden your anger becomes real enough to be startling to people. Your anger is no longer feisty, charming, and attractive. This thing that people liked about you, that people who say they love you said they loved about you, suddenly becomes frightening, upsetting, and terrible. The way you didn't let people mow over you and fought back used to be a thing that people admired. It was actively attractive. It was one of your best qualities.

Now? It's ugly. It's disgusting. It's scary. The thing you were is gone, and now your anger is real to them.

It's in that moment that the blade cuts back towards you. You realize the reason your squared shoulders and set jaw drew people in couldn't be squared with the stubble on that jaw or the newfound strength in your arms. Feisty Lady Anger isn't real, not in the way a man's anger is real. Feisty Lady Anger is admirable, sure, but it is admirable because of its essential ineffectual nature. At most, Feisty Lady Anger fixes minor problems for the kids at school, gets the principal to back down from scolding your child when she politely asks the kid calling her a faggot on the bus if he knows what that really means, pushes a woman to achieve for her family, in appropriately neutered ways.

When you stop pretending to be a woman and become who you really are, when your anger becomes real, you realize both that the thing about you that people loved is gone and that this thing was attractive in the first place because of its ineffectiveness. Your anger wasn't scary because it wasn't real enough to be threatening.

Now you have Man Anger, and, you're told, you should apologize for that. It doesn't matter if it's the same anger you've always had, or that you're angry about the same things. It comes now in baritone, with belly hair and bellowing, and now it's both real and disgusting.

The worst part is watching it come from people you thought should know better, the people who should understand. You spent nearly 40 years being told to sit down and shut up because the men in your professional career were speaking, assured that if you just waited your turn, you'd be given a place to speak eventually, and now here you are being told within a community that claims to love and understand you, by people that claim to be in community with you and love who you are, that you actually don't have any real problems to speak about, also your Man Anger and Man Privilege (when do I get that, please?) are Scary and mean you should sit down and wait, and you'll be given a place to speak eventually.

It is the Transmasculine Catch-22: if you become Man Enough to no longer fit into Almost Lady, your anger becomes Real, which makes you realize that your anger wasn't Real before, but because it's Real now, you're not allowed to have it. And by the way, you're not allowed to be neither Man or Lady - now you're Man Enough, and that makes it all the more clear how you were simply Kirkland Signature Lady right up until the point you weren't.

There will be a few people who Fucking Get It, who don't see you as either a Failed Lady or a Broken Man, and you'll love those people all the more for their rarity. It won't take the sting out of realizing that the things people you love loved about you before now disgust and repel them, but it'll make it enough to keep going.

You couldn't stop, anyway. You've never felt more yourself, and the people who don't love you, the actual you, the real you... the loss of that hurts, but not nearly as much as the idea of pretending to be something else did.

#transmasc #transmascs #transmasculine #transmasc issues #transandrophobia #personal #before someone says it #yes i recognize that this experience is very much a white experience with anger #this is a deeply personal essay #and if you come at me for it not fitting your personal experience as well #we will not talk #i will just block you #it not being fully universal doesn't mean it's not real or not deeply painful #this has taken me years to write #terfs fuck off #radical feminism has done more to neuter the ability of women to be meaningfully angry than any other 'feminist' movement #so just don't

[intersectionalpraxis]

If you want to know how bad the injuries caused by white phosphorus Israel is using in Gaza, just know that senior UK doctors shown images of children burnt by it had to sit down from shock. The burns are down to the bone.The agony is unbearable. Gaza is out of pain killers.KIDS! [@/ MyriamFrancoisC on X. 12/31/23.]

Lebanon: Evidence of Israel’s unlawful use of white phosphorus in southern Lebanon as cross-border hostilities escalate

Israel Allegedly Used White Phosphorus Munitions in Gaza and Lebanon. Here’s What to Know

Israel used U.S.-supplied white phosphorus in Lebanon attack

The IOF has used white phosphorus in Gaza and Lebanon. There was evidence it happened and was confirmed by Amnesty International weeks ago -the Washington Post even covered it, but there have been ZERO follow-ups for investigations in these blatent war crimes. The IOF is depraved and monstrous.

#feminist #feminism #social justice #free palestine #freepalastine🇵🇸 #palestine #free gaza #settler violence #settler colonialism #lebanon #white phosphorus #war crimes #war criminals #human rights violations #human rights #end the occupation #end the genocide #ceasefire now #ceasefire #current events #tw child injury

[violottie]

never forgive. never forget.

from Palestine Lobby, as of 21/Feb/2024:

#this is genocide #ethnic cleansing #human rights #human dignity #palestinian lives matter #i stand with palestine #palestine #free palestine #gaza #free gaza #rafah #save rafah #from the river to the sea palestine will be free #save the children #feminism #feminist #anti white supremacy #anti zionism #anti imperialism #anti colonialism

[guilty-feminist]

#guilty feminist #the guilty feminist #feminism #feminist #women’s rights #human rights #deborah frances white #woman’s rights #uk politics #uk news #trans rights #nhs #conservative conference 2023 #women and trans women #politics #fuck the tories

[blorbocedes]

when people try to argue that feminism is unnecessary, western import for bourgeoise women, that the wage gap doesn't exist, that civilisations are built solely by men in construction doing hard labour while the women are at home, show them the impoverished female bricklayers of India, who are 49% of the second largest industry (after agriculture) of 40 million constructors, and get paid less for equal work ($7/day for men, $4/day for women) because of gender discrimination and exploited due to being poor, illiterate, debt trapped, facing gender based setbacks (not being promoted to masonry or carpentry like men) and being unaware of their union rights

this work in general is exploitative, getting paid pennies on the dollar while corporations that build their mega complexes rake in millions, hazardous to health, no safety equipment, regulations, breathing in fine dust and construction pollution for both men and women. but women in particular face gender based discrimination such as getting paid a lower raw wage and lack of opportunities to get promoted from this heavy duty scaffolding work, in fact they often do more work than the men but aren't respected by their male peers. and the idea that only men historically have done hard labour, built civilisations is a false myth that erases the plight of the millions of women in the Global South.

#workers rights are women's rights #the feminism and discourse on tumblr exhaustively only focuses on women in the west #the 'men built civilisations' is a white supremacist and oft gender bioessntialist rhetoric #if you see these women carrying 20kg bricks on their head in sweltering hot sun and still believe in biological superiority thats your prob #this isn't a slay girlboss post but a reminder that women have and do exist in every workplace and how important the feminist struggle is #feminism #bricklayers and construction