At this point, gender nonconformity is about what the person says their experience is.
If a woman with a beard or a man with lipstick and a mustache says they're gender nonconforming, then they are! If a woman with short hair or a man with long hair says they aren't, they aren't! And that's not even getting into the awesome nonbinary, abinary, genderqueer, intersex, and general genderfuckery that may both be and not be conforming.
So much of what is even considered gender conforming or gender nonconforming is based on a world of exclusion. When we start defining one's conformity with whether they fit into white cishetero perisex standards or not, we play into the idea that there's only a very narrow window of what is considered worthy of time and thought.
Keep in mind that since Musk took control of Twitter, use of the n-word and racial slurs increased by 500% but he hasn’t made any announcements about that, nor has he complained about people using homophobic, misogynistic or racial slurs
misandry is so not a real thing. any situation where women "have it easier" (which don't even really exist) are always because of culture the patriarchy created.
She's an Asian scientist and this was in response to Richard Dawkins insisting that the indigenous knowledge of Aotearoa was unscientific. But also pretty universally applicable to privileged white academics and cis dudes.
me trying to explain to cishet men that playing video games is a boring baseline interest for them because all men play video games and they need to develop a personality beyond being a gamer if they ever want to be taken seriously or considered their own unique person and not just another part of the male hivemind that is gaming
Ben Whishaw and Andrew Scott are both nominated at the Indie Spirit Awards this year! Hope they both win!
yesss i saw!!!! but i'm pretty sure they won't win, haha. i feel like charles melton is getting supporting, and greta lee will prob be best lead (don't quote me on this)
also ira (director) and franz (lead) were nominated, and passages for best picture. poor adele, the only one snubbed 😔😔😔😔
White boys . . . have no need to explore their identities, of course. What is there to explore? They are the neutral universal entity, the unhyphenated humans. I was pretty much all hyphen.
Richard Dreyfuss, in 2023: WHY CAN’T I WEAR BLACKFACE!!??
Honestly though, I think the whole, “nobody should be able to tell me what to do” mentality he’s got on full display here is what is quintessentially at the core of white privilege and white supremacy — nobody should be able to tell me I need to wear a face mask, nobody should be able to tell me to get vaccinated, nobody should tell me that I shouldn’t pollute the environment, nobody should be able to tell me that I should maybe be considerate of other people’s feelings, etc etc etc
That, and the whole, “well it’s not personally bothering me, so why should I even have to consider it?” mentality
It’s like the mentality of a child who hasn’t yet learned that there are others in the world
“Also, the Academy's inclusion standards are literally the lowest possible bar to clear. You'd have to be actively trying - and hard - not to have any women or people of color around to not meet this standard.”
I wasn't lookig for it, it just happened. This is more a vent then anything else.
I don't know how long it will last, she is a very nice woman. We've been going out for about 10 months now, he had sex a few times and I penetraded her twice during this time. She said to me more than once that she's submissive and likes rough sex, so she's definitely not dating me still because of our sex life.
The thing is I'm also submissive and before her I haven't had sex with a woman for almost 8 years, so I basically forgot how to penetrate, because I've been only bottoming for Black Men during all this time.
Whenever I try to fuck her I just make images in my head of Black Men fucking her, fucking me, etc. But I almost never get a full erection anymore (partly because of some meds I need to take). I loved eating her out, but she also said to me a few that times she wants to be penetrated, not just getting oral.
In the last years I've been trying to cope with my feelings about Black Men, being a submissive, etc. I've been learning to love it, so I'm kinda in doubt if it's right for me to have a relationship with a woman.
This may not make much sense, but as I said it's just me needing to talk about some things in order to organize my thoughts and vent a little
idk if i have the proper language to articulate this but the way people in fandom spaces use “white” as a means of leverage to make a point or win an argument is so incredibly frustrating. the constant positioning of white cishet men as opposed to women, when women can also be.... white, cis, and het? the framing of the most privileged man in the room in opposition to women, leaving out the fact that a white cishet woman is treated very differently to a queer woman of color. you can make an argument about sexism and misogyny without needing to bring race into it. if you do want to bring race into it, we need to have the conversation about how fandom also easily forgives and hand waves away white female characters who have been racist, while villainizing women of color who conflict with them.