#why don't we boys

[inkskinned]

one of the things about being an educator is that you hear what parents want their kids to be able to do a lot. they want their kid to be an astronaut or a ballerina or a politician. they want them to get off that damn phone. be better about socializing. stop spending so much time indoors. learn to control their own temper. to just "fucking listen", which means to be obedient.

one of the things i learned in my pedagogy classes is that it's almost always easier to roleplay how you want someone to act. it's almost always easier to explain why a rule exists, rather than simply setting the rule and demanding adherence.

i want my kids to be kind. i want them to ask me what book they should read next, and i want to read that book with them so we can discuss it. i want my kid to be able to tell me hey that hurt my feelings without worrying i'll punish them. i want my kid to be proud of small things and come running up to me to tell me about them. i want them to say "nah, i get why this rule exists, but i get to hate it" and know that i don't need them to be grateful-for-the-roof-overhead while washing the dishes. i want them to teach me things. i want them to say - this isn't safe. i'm calling my mom and getting out of this. i want them to hear me apologize when i do fuck up; and i want them to want to come home.

the other day a parent was telling me she didn't understand why her kid "just got so angry." this woman had flown off the handle at me.

my dad - traditional catholic that he is - resents my sentiment of "gentle parenting". he says they'll grow up spoiled, horrible, pretentious. granola, he spits.

i am going to be kind to them. i am going to set the example, i think. and whatever they choose become in the meantime - i'm going to love them for it.

#writeblr #i was doing a lot with high school students. over and over again #other teachers kept asking me what i was doing differently - why the kids listened to me. i am not particularly foreboding #and i have a pretty firm personal policy of never reacting in anger #godhelpme. #i was always kind of taken aback #because in general the kids were pretty easy. i explained i needed to keep everything “PG-13” because this was my workplace #and it was kind of their workplace #too. besides #i love swearing #and since i couldn't swear #neither could they - so if they were going to say “fuck” or become violent #they needed to choose a really specific time #because we only get “the one”.. sure enough - nobody wanted to waste the one very specific “fuck” utterance. kids listened. #i think just because - that rule makes sense. the kids understand that i don't want to be unfair to them #that censorship is stupid #but that i'm under these rules too so like let's ride it out together #also i look young and tbh between me and u nobody wants to make the nice english teacher cry #the way these kids defended me to their friends was really genuinely so heartwarming bc the Grouchy Frat Boy #would be like MISS RAQUEL DOESN'T DESERVE THAT KIND OF AN ATTITUDE BRO DON'T TALK BACK TO HER

[vaguely-concerned]

sometimes I think of all the on-the-surface warm, well-meaning but deeply ineffectual advice and attention john gives harrow through harrow the ninth (make some soup and get some sleep! get a hobby! don't be so hard on yourself! self care harrow! as long as I need take no actual responsibility in this relationship whatsoever I would have loved to be your dad!) set up against the stark truth that with his other hand he has been staging her attempted horrific murder again and again and again like a living nightmare on the logic that it will 'put her down or fix her'. and then I find that I wish there is a hell. a special hell where twitch streamers turned necromantic death emperors go

#the locked tomb #harrowhark nonagesimus #john gaius #harrow the ninth #this is why I don't buy john as misunderstood and initially well-meaning AT ALL #this is a pattern you see with him again and again and again -- right down to his interpersonal relationships #(and indeed it's in the more grounded interpersonal relationships you can most clearly see him as he is I think #the fantasy death empire of a thousand years doesn't register quite as viscerally because it's like. heightened; not quite real #but the emotional violence and manipulation that surrounds him? oh boy that is EXTREMELY real and scarily well-observed) #there's a premeditation to so much of what he does (contracts with planets that only end 'in the event of the emperor's death' anyone? #yeah john we get it you're hilarious and I wish you weren't) #the greatest trick john ever pulled was making anyone think he's just a lil guy. what does he know he's only god #when you first read the book the complete callousness of the other adults is so horrible that john seems like an oasis of care #(though you start to get this uneasy feeling when that care never seems to translate to like... relief or soothing or resolution) #and it makes it feel almost obscene when you find out what's actually going on #it's the mercy & augustine enabler hour but at least they're completely honest in their cruelty there #while john is -- well he sure is being john huh #this is just me being angry with him btw philosophically I don't think this is how the story will or should end #(with john slam dunked right into hell that is) #it's just... harrow is so vulnerable. and what he does to her is so insidious and fucked up #john is very deeply human. unfortunately the capacity to quite simply suck so much is deeply human too

[egophiliac]

couple more quickies, because I gotta work through my Shroud-family feelings before I can even begin to process the Diasomnias, please bear with me 🙇

anyway, I couldn't decide which composition I liked better, so I did both!

#art #twisted wonderland #twisted wonderland spoilers #twisted wonderland episode 7 spoilers #twisted wonderland book 7 spoilers #eyestrain #sorry i know i've been posting too much in this style i just have FEELINGS #feelings that can only be expressed through high-contrast #anyway #i don't know why i never even considered he would go to rsa. of course he would. #ortho is cerberus -> ortho is a Good Boy -> ortho goes to Good Boy school #the math checks out #we have not even seen dreamworld ortho yet and i'm already obsessed. i hope he shows up just in time for a dramatic ortho vs ortho showdown

[literaryspinster]

I hear a lot of talk about how Hollywood isn't comfortable with showing romantic relationships, interracial or otherwise, without a white person involved. But I'm not sure that fans are actually comfortable with that either? And I don't think they're comfortable without a significant white (white male specifically) presence in their favorite genre shows.

#i'm not trying to start drama but i'm hearing some takes on gen v twitter that are making me not know how to feel rn... #like we have a show that doesn't go out of its way to center white men too much and yet i sense they wish they would do it more #and like #why? #because the combo of cate emma and sam can literally do the job of whatever new white character they think would add something to the cast #if you need a nice white character to be a man for whatever reason then maybe watch the boys? you'd probably like it. i do. #dm me if you're curious i guess but again i don't want drama and i don't want to automatically think the worst of people

[mikakuna]

save me "jason todd leaves batfam".... save me.... "jason does not give up everything that makes him who he is to please a mediocre family"... save me...

#the result of seeing too many headache inducing takes #i love when some batfam fans are like -ugh why is jason in everything we don't want that criminal in this- #like babe please most of us don't want him in that family either #let my boy grow up #let him realize his worth and recognize that his supposed family treating him like a freak is not normal #let him get over pleasing bruce!!!! #it's okay babe we'll find you a real father #jason todd #red hood #anti batfam

[cupophrogs]

How did drew and Daddy long legs meet dog day?

"Well..."

"I can't say for sure, but I've got some theories. All of them are fucked up."

#“Whatever happened to him he didn't deserve.” #Drew sees The Prototype and winds his fist like “WHY I OUGHTTA” #They don't get a lot of time to rest #but Drew forces everyone to take breaks sometimes. #Dogday is so touch starved and so is Drew #a match made in traumatized toy cult hell #The Boys(tm) #phrart #art #character design #ask phrog #ask the three d's #the three d's #poppy playtime #dogday #dogday poppy playtime #dogday fanart #drew poppy playtime #we love mutual comfort #poppy playtime chapter 3

[musicalchaos07]

Sighing in Steve & El have never interacted onscreen together so how exactly is he her big brother

Meanwhile, her ACTUAL big brother performed emergency surgery in a mall food court and drove across 3 states trying to find her

But y'all don't like him.

#some of y'all are watching an ENTIRELY different show #or you're just so wrapped up in your fanon #but like can we PLEASE put some respect on my boy Jonathan #also I love Argyle but we don't see him driving at all after they bury that dead body so it's heavily implied Jonathan drove the entire tim #that's why he's rubbing his eyes my blorbo is tired #and he's in the drivers seat in Hawkins now I hope he let argyle drive but uhhhh #bring back 20 episode season so we can have filler episodes with character building #stranger things #jonathan byers #el hopper byers #I am once again petitioning El & Jonathan to get their own tag like willel #hopper byers siblings #hopper byers family

[rotisseries]

who wants to hear my absolutely stunning ideas for atla soap opera aus

#I said katara was bi in these discord messages but if you let me think about it for longer than 5 seconds I'll make a lesbian out of her #anyway I think this is the funniest concept in the world actually going forward I'm a divorced z*tara truther #if I have any secret z*tara fans following me (IDK HOW??? BUT JUST IN CASE) btw I'm sorry about this #I don't like them. I think you're used to that response though #atla #zukka #I guess. they are not the focus but we did talk about them #ok well if I'm tagging that #kazula #let's talk about kazula actually that is SUCH an interesting concept to me why is it not a more popular ship for azula at least #(<- girl who will ship any two women in the same age bracket ESPECIALLY if it's toxic) #ANYWAY THINK ABOUT HOW FUNNY THIS WOULD BE THOUGHHHH #DIVORCED Z*TARA I AM LOSING MY SHITTTT #if it's not clear here we all think zuko is gay as hell that boy does not like women

[ghostlyarchaeologist]

How to easily distinguish the Stone triplets from one another:

Eliot:

Jacob:

Alex:

( Inspired by this post.)

#leverage #the librarians #almost paradise #christian kane #eliot spencer #jacob stone #alex walker #don't get me wrong they're all smart yet dumb badasses #but they all have subtle differences! #why yes i am of the opinion that the boys are separated triplets #eliot and alex are confirmed to be adopted so it's possible #i love them all #I'd been wanting to gif this for a while but couldn't find the perfect scene for alex #then season 2 provided it! #and so here we are! #ghostly'sgifs

[dootznbootz]

I'm happy that the "Helen is of Sparta, not Troy" post is getting seen and people are giving love to her as they should but I'm getting a wee bit frustrated by the Menelaus inclusion with the whole "She was a possession to others and never had a choice".

Yes, Helen is a victim of fate and multiple horrible circumstances. She gets kidnapped by Theseus and Paris. So much blame is being put on her when she really isn't at fault and doesn't have much choice.

A choice she made though? WAS MENELAUS!

The Oath of Tyndareus was all about how "If you want to have a chance of marrying her, you have to swear to respect her and her choice and defend their marriage if it's needed".

If anything, Menelaus was her "prize"! Not the other way around!!! And they are clearly shown caring for one another!!! uyfuygluhyutfugy

#we technically don't know EXACTLY why she chose him but that doesn't matter with this. She still chose him. #She picked the goofy guy!!! :D She picked the silly sealy guy!!!🦭 #Menelaus: Hello! I'm Helen's Husband🥰 #Not people erasing women's agency even when it's explicitly stated. #Mad rambles #shot by odysseus #menelaus #helen of sparta #helen x menelaus #tagamemnon #greek mythology #fuck it. I'll use normal tags. I'm getting sad about this. More for Helen. #She didn't have a choice all the time but the time we KNOW she did and people will act like she didn't. #That's not even going into her yelling at Aphrodite and Paris and her knocking on the side of the horse! #this is very semi-unserious btw. I'm talking about the Sealy boy. That's clearly for the silly.

[nzcronerd]

/steban's voice/ so what you saying is. you can read thoughts of your cop partner with that "esprit de corps" thing. but you've never read thoughts of your *actual communist comrades*. okay. i see. fucking class traitor

#disco elysium #steban the student communist #harry du bois #listen. if harry can actually know what kim is thinking about. #why don't we believe that mazov and nilsen were reading each other's minds during their last meeting #hypocrite much?

[doodleodds]

Happy Valentines, Akira. Happy Valentines, Asshole.

If you can’t read what Akechi’s secondary inner-dialogue says cause I obscured it too much behind his regular dialogue, here’s a transcription in panel order: Hello, you fucking- Ah- Hello, Akira! Fuck off, why should I tell you- Just a soda- there’s a new flavor.

I don’t want your shitty gift. Oh- haha! You’re so sweet.

I hope I choke. They’re lovely, thank you.

Like hell. Likewise. There’s no way it’s just a coincidence. Still though, it’s a funny coincidence.

#p5 #akeshu #akechi goro #kurusu akira #wow- me?? posting a valentines comic... actually on?? valentines????? wack. absolutely wack #it's a short one! I purposefully tried to keep it short. it was a challenge and it still ended up being 3 pages. but i blame my canvas size #also in case u can't see what akira is holding out to akechi: theyre chocolate covered strawberries on sticks! #i saw them irl and was like oh god i want those. i am going to project that feeling on my favorite characters so help me god #and now! here we are! but my shitty-ass coloring & line quality make it hard to discern them so. sorry about that lmaooooo #ANYWAY i don't do enough post-maruki stuff so. i made this one a little bittersweet. :) #why did i put akechi's scarf in a bow? honestly i dont know! i think i saw some art a while ago that did that too and i thought it was cute #well. plus i guess there's the symbolism of 'akechi being alive and reciprocating your feelings (however involuntarily) IS a gift' part #hence that hes wrapped up in a bow. like a present. :) #also god. the first panel is supposed to be akechi's reflection in a vending machine window. I could NOT get it to look right #so for reference!!! just so you guys understand!!!!!! thats what that panel is supposed to be!!! he is NOT in fact a ghost. (sigh) #hope you enjoyed and had a lovely valentines!! for my part i have eaten nothing but sweets today and hoo boy will that have been a mistake #ALSO in terms of the audience-participation comic...hopefully coming soon. if i can ever gain the will to draw it. #but at least tumblr has polls now so i can do the audience-choose-y bit without needing to use a separate website! so thats good i guess #anyway anyway anway thanks for listening to me ramble if you made it this far! have a lovely rest of your day and hopefully see u again soon

[egophiliac]

innocently logging in to look at the Twst schedule for May like

#art #twisted wonderland #twisted wonderland spoilers #twisted wonderland episode 7 spoilers #twisted wonderland book 7 spoilers #twisted wonderland episode 7 part 8 spoilers #twisted wonderland book 7 part 8 spoilers #tsumsted wonderland #i-is that enough spoiler tags #anyway twst just absolutely obliterating me with the schedule again #i saw the story completion campaign ended in june and was like 'oh okay that'll be when we get the next part' NOPE HA HA #oh my god rook. oh my god savana rook is real. #w...why is this a story card. hey twst wHY IS THIS A STORY CARD -- #is rook dreaming of still being a rowdy boy or #and why is he...(squints) why is he in a pomefiore bedroom #never mind i'm actually terrified of this card now #god. the STETSON. i'm crying. #he really is just applejack huh #also vil i don't know what your problem was this man's mane is LUSCIOUS #and what's this? it's twst following up that first punch with the right hook of EVEN MORE of the best and silliest event #malleus is going to be in the middle of an angsty flashback while dangling us over a pit of spikes or something #and then we're going to cut directly to him having a charming little tea party with a small plush version of himself #oh twst your sense of pacing remains exquisitely incomprehensible #(no i love this though)

[blood-orange-juice]

People rebutting the "Childe is 34" theory, have you considered this.

No way he would have survived that long with his lifestyle.

#it's all the proof I need #honestly #have you seen him #boys like this don't survive past 30 #I get acute mono-no aware poisoning every time I look at him #childe #tartaglia #genshin impact #I still hc he's 19 at the time of liyue arc #he behaves like he's 19 #(my oddly specific headcanons) #and character stories put him somewhere in the 18-22 range #why are we even arguing #and we don't even need time fuckery for him to be declared guilty tbh #the whale 'left traces on him' as skirk says #and that could be enough for the oratrice to mistake him for the whale/willing accomplice #also #I don't know about you #but I prefer to see him as someone brilliant but very young #and not someone 34yo and incredibly stupid #(because if a person still behaves like that at 34 they are not smart)

[uncanny-tranny]

What I think is so important to learning how to truly appreciate life is learning how to appreciate the creatures and things we've categorized as "disgusting" or "gross."

When I learned to appreciate wasps, I realized how much they just... don't really care about anything, and they're not trying to be an asshole because they're uniquely cruel. If they have any wants, it is to live. Why would I punish that when I also want to live?

This isn't to say you need to fall in love with the creepy crawlies that stalk this world or to love what you cannot, but to recognize that in their arrangement of atoms, they are trying to persevere, and in the end... aren't we all?

#positivity #bugs tw #this is why i think science is a love language btw #learning to love and appreciate through study is still love and appreciation #i've always been fine with bugs which might make this ring hollow to somebody with a phobia #and this isn't saying that people who are phobic of bugs are Evil or dumb (quite the opposite- humans are Good at fearing things) #what this is saying is find something you don't appreciate and learn about why you should appreciate it - for whatever reason #i learned to stop being neutral about bugs when i learned how cool they are - how they live! #i stopped being neutral about this planet when i learned how ancient it is! #i stopped being neutral about humans when i learned about how we lived and survived and loved! #i stopped being neutral about these things because i started to love them because i saw just how intricate EVERYTHING is #when you learn to see things through an appreciative lens you sometimes direct that viewpoint inward #so now instead of viewing myself as outside the universe i see myself and every little bug as PART of the universe #i stopped believing that i almost... wasn't worthy of being Part of Nature when i realized just how big everything is in the scale of it al #you should see my google searches omfg #everything is an argument and boy does this world have the ability to argue so well

[fujimiiiya]

The stark contrast when Sukuna grabs the Itadori brothers:

With Choso: Sukuna just slightly grabs his vest, not even touching shoulder or arm, then throws him away to the wall with one hand.

With Yuji: Sukuna never misses out on using all parts of his body, grabs Yuji's collar, gropes his tits, waist, pushes him down on the floor, gets on top of him, and between his thighs.

And he won't stop till he rips Yuji's damn clothes off.

I see you have ulterior motive here, uncle 😏 we respect your preference in this house.

#he's been doing that grabbing collar thing only for Yuji the whole battle. #you think we would miss on how he never skimped out on touching Yuji's body all over the place since the battle starts?? #why don't you do the same with the other opponents? #you miss touching our boy that much since you haven't been able to for the last couple of months? #sukuita #sukuna #yuji itadori #choso #jjk 256 #jujutsu kaisen #and before he literally just grope Yuji's pecs in front of everyone present #he has clear priority and will try getting his hands on it as much as he can before he bites the dust