#without any accommodations

[kingproblem]

not to be tipsy and manic on main but I saw a post on here once about someone having to prove a disability they had to get accommodation at work and that’s like mad illegal bro 😭 No employer is allowed to ask you for any personal medical information under any circumstances. All that needs to be done in, like, a lawful work place is get a doctor to sign off on your accommodations. They do not have to know ANYTHING about your medical history, and it is illegal for them to ask you ANYTHING about your personal medical history in order to give you reasonable accommodations. And I’ve found in my own experience it is much better to not share anything personal and get documented accommodations because it will also make you a target. Stay safe out their surviving capitalism with a disability! 😭

#I’ve been thinking about this a lot #and how many times I’ve had to protect myself in the work place #protect yourself!!! #you do NOT have to share any personal medical information #that is super illegal #there are legal forms and FMLAs and shit you can get signed without sharing any personal medical information other than the accommodations #you need to properly function at work #blah #disability #disabled #disabilties #disability in the work place #capitalism #personal #lol #abelism #work #employment

[primrosebitch]

One upside to my many chronic illnesses and health issues is that when i go to an event or amusement park or something like that i get special accommodations that can do fun stuff like put me in the front row, or let me skip a line, and that's fun, I would like to be able to run any amount of distance without feeling like i'm dying but skipping lines is cool

#chronic illness #disability #disabled #like tbh i would have a lot of trouble doing any of these thing without the accommodations #so yeah i need them #but it is fun to brag about them #because it's like one of the few things i can brag about regarding my chronic illnesses #and all of the stuff i brag about regarding them all come with lots of downsides #like how my skin is so soft because of my eds #but it also gives me everything else that comes with a connective tissue disorder #or like how i brag about the storage space my walker gives me #but also i need to use a walker for long-ish distances

[fredthedemonpartner]

Having dissociation be your main coping mechanism for your entire childhood and knowing that you’ve had many traumatic experiences feels like your memory is a bookshelf that should be full. Each memory is supposed to be a book and your shelves should be full, but at some point you took out every book with the letter Q in the title. But all the books still stand straight despite the gaps and on a good day you can convince yourself that enough are there for it to be fine, everyone has books that get lost or damaged or never make it on the shelf to begin with, until you talk to someone and they say something that reminds of a book you know you had but when you go to pick it off the shelf there’s a gap where it should go. But you know the title didn’t have a Q so why isn’t it there, then you realize that as a kid you couldn’t really tell the difference between Q and O. And looking at the shelf suddenly it’s a lot more bare than you realized, too much to be explained away by your general untidiness and leaving books stacked to the side out of order, at least you can still find those ones if you remember they’re there. You can see the shape and size of the missing books and sometimes you can even guess what they contained based on the bits of titles or authors you vaguely remember, but the poor copies you try to make stand out worse than the original gaps. They’re like folders with what little information you can remember that are far too wide and thin to fit well on the shelf, leaning and sticking out past the spines around them. And your fingers catch on them as you run them along the spines of the books, interrupting and frustrating your browsing occasionally even giving you paper cuts. And now you find yourself shelving new books on the most recent shelf, holding a book with Q in the title, stuck between the urge to get rid of it asap and the fear of losing it forever that makes you want to sit down and read it over and over, annotating the pages and writing a whole separate copy just in case because you’d rather have a thousand paper cuts than look at another shelf with more empty spaces than occupied ones.

#in this example of course Q represents traumatic or upsetting memories #O being the ones that could’ve been happy or neutral but too close in time or feeling to something traumatic #ending up swept away as well by the numbness #this is just my experience #especially now that I’m in therapy and trying to figure out where behaviors and triggers come from oftentimes using context clues or guesses #dissociative amnesia #dissociation #I haven’t been diagnosed with any dissociative disorder at this point so I’m not going to claim any of them #but I am autistic and wasn’t accommodated until I actively chose to start doing it for myself at 17 #which means i probably wouldn’t have survived without dissociating near constantly #so ofc nearly every trauma got tossed onto the pile of memories and sensations I was already getting rid of

[caffeinatedopossum]

I'm still grieving the dreams I lost due to my disability and I just added another one

#ones id already lost: wanting to hold any job at all. wanting to be a doctor. wanting to be a gymnast. wanting to play bass #wanting to be a therapist (maybe still possible? this is due to my inability to hold any job but im still hopeful i may be able to do this) #i wanted to go to school... i can still learn things of course but its harder and there's no community #i wanted to learn everything. everything about plants and animals and quantum mechanics and languages #everything about history and culture and sciences. but i can't. i mean that was never a realistic goal of course #but I cant get as close to it now as i wouldve if i was healthy #the one i recently added is discovering my fingers have deteriorated so much that playing keyboard is nearly impossible #thats been a lifelong dream of mine... even drawing hurts unless i draw with my finger. i cant hold a pencil without pain #like im figuring things out. working through accommodations and making new goals #but that grief is still there and the wound is still fresh and sometimes it just feels like its growing and it will never stop #i need too much that i cant have. I have so few options #i really dont know what kind of future there is for me if my pain and disability is already this bad in my 20s

[littlest-rhythms]

me scrolling thru any online clothes store: this garment is made for people with no boobs. this garment is made for people with no ass. this garment is made for people with no thighs. this garment is made for people with no waist. this garment is made for people with no boobs. this garment is made for people with no calves. this garment is made for people with no waist. this garment is made for people with no boobs. this garment is made for people with no boobs. this garment is made for people with no boobs. this garment is ma

#tops in my actual torso size never fit me well bc of my chest. do i really need to wear a sports bra under every single top and dress i own #just to get clothes that should fit me to actually fit me without weird tenting or lifting of fabric anywhere #ive had clothes fit me like a glove around my shoulders arms waist etc but still had to go 2 (!!) sizes up bc of abysmal room for my chest #as of right now i have a D cup. i have a VERY average build for my demographic. #and yet my measurements seem extremely outlandish for 98-99% of clothing manufacturers that dont charge 80 bucks for a tshirt #made this post bc i scrolled thru too many clothes i could very obviously see were not designed to accommodate any cup size #even scaled up in the larger sizes. which is just sad at this point. its almost 2024. cmon. #also i love me some boxy clothing but to get a nice silhouette in that you better not have any boobs. #woe. woe is me and all femme clothing enthusiasts #anyways i'm off to look for dresses without straps without necklines without cutouts without anything cool interesting happening up top #so i can wear a sports bra under it to have it fit me. and avoid popping the third button upon 5 minutes of wearing it #back on my bs #sorry for long post i'm utterly sick of everything for a bit

[bribes]

don’t understand the support for AI generators like MidJourney etc when it’s quite literally taking art from artists who have not consented to having their art replicated

u cannot copyright ur “AI art.” think abt why for just a millisecond. it is ok to say u like using programs or whatever but to claim it is “art” is insane to me

like it’s ok to just….. not create art. u don’t HAVE to be an artist. u can also create really shitty art & not share it anywhere. u rly don’t need to. there is nobody u need to impress with ur art. stop being a lil baby about not being able to play with ur new internet toy without ppl on the internet being a lil mean to u about it

#this isn’t like #in reference to any specific thing but omfg i keep seeing these discussions #nd so many of the opinions are founded on like #‘but i MUST create’ #…… do u rly need to tho? /: imo ppl who feel like that often ……… #find ways to accommodate their weaknesses without stealing anyone else’s art #also yeah sure AI art can be ethical whatever but MJ is not #& do not pretend like the bulk of ‘AI artists’ aren’t just ppl trying to make a quick buck #off of the exploitation of barely paid freelancers on twitter #will prob dl later but idk the state of creation is rly abysmal huh #also i have a hand-based physical disability/tremors too nd ummmmmm #stability for your mouse or pen exists for most art programs #most have accommodations built into their software #like bro are we gonna ignore the fact that artists r disproportionately affected by physical disability #bc they draw ….. nd it’s not exactly easy on the majority of ppl’s bodies to begin with…..

[lukewarmbreadatamoderatepace]

Always weird seeing people talking about violent crime statistics with Baltimore as this, like... "obviously unlivably bad" standard. As this cartoonish abstraction they've made up in their head. I saw someone on here literally refer to it as "hell on earth" and like... sorry no? That's just so... lazy, incurious, reactionary. It's like, you realize that real people live there, yeah? Real people with normal lives? Who live there and think it's basically fine, or even actively like it? You understand that such people exist yes??

It's... mostly just a very affordable city with bad public transit and an abundance of vacant rowhouses, ime. I lived and worked in Baltimore for like 5 years, took public transit regularly, and it was fine.* And like, I was in some of the shittier neighborhoods because that's all I could afford, not the isolated island of rich white people** that is Johns Hopkins-- which is its whole own separate thing! Did the guy calling Baltimore "hell on earth" know the first thing about the makeup of the city, the different dynamics at play? I'm guessing not.

(My impression from living there was always that if you're not personally involving yourself in gang stuff then your risk of violence is about the same as any city, it's mostly just gangs doing violence to each other that throws off the numbers.*** Now, I'm a bit of a shut-in so my experience isn't completely unbiased but I had plenty of friends who weren't and they felt basically the same way. Like even in real cheap neighborhoods it's basically just. Fine. I wonder how often it's like that, really.

#*I am not cut out for city living (I like nature and don't like there always being other people around) so like it was BAD for me #but basically any proper city would be bad for me without a lot of specific accommodations #and 'bad infrastructure' = 'no natural spaces' was SUCH a bigger factor than abstract information about crime rates #**the way baltimore's class division is so intensely along racial lines is SO STARK and SO BAD #***I would not be surprised if the picture looked pretty different for kids growing up in those neighborhoods! #but the convo was specifically about adults with autonomy and the ability to move wherever #oh hey it's actually not that hard to bring the tags over from the drafts after all #squirmy

[waywardsalt]

anyways i consider this worse than the weird volvagia backstory but as far as i can tell the oot manga does not at any point actually tell you that impa is the sage of shadow. she’s shown in panels with other sages but like. she never says anything about it there’s no narration for it link never actually learns that impa is the sage of shadow. shadow temple enjoyers got fucked in the oot manga

#salty talks #bitching about the loz manga #this paired with the two bonus stories at the end of volume two. what are you doing genuinly #obviously it couldve been mentioned in the og japanese or something but like. idk #granted im like four books in but for both oot and ph they have problems where sections of the game story was cut out but the manga story #wasn't changed to accommodate that. #impa isnt mentioned being the sage of shadow but she's still shown being a sage #the part of ph that includes most of linebeck's arc was cut but he still ends in the same spot without any of that buildup

[saintbleeding]

i literally have it so so so hard in my life (<- is dealing with a standard amount of uni work)

#though to be fair. ( ^ is doing so without any disability accommodation because getting the paperwork thru takes forever) #(my wrists are bound with red tape which is nowhere near as sexy as it sounds) #not magnus content

[sweet-alt-lillacs]

One of the greatest joys of a tall woman is finding a pair of jeans that not only fit appropriately, but come all the way down til they touch the top of you feet.

I am 5'10 AFAB she/they, I have a 35 inch inseam and and 43 inch Foot to Hip Ratio. My legs themselves are 3'6. My legs on their own are the height of an American 1st Grader. I have the average inseam measurement of a man who is 6'7. At least according to bikecommuterhero.com (the only source I could find).

Today, I was at Walmart browsing the clearance rack with very little time. I saw a beautiful pair of dark wash flare jeans in my size for $21. They looked super long so I gave them a chance without trying them on. I got home and they not only came to the tops of my feetz but they also almost hit the ground on the back of my ankle. I would pay $100 for a pair of jeans that made me feel this beautiful.

#tall girl #tall girl problems #tall queen #10000 #long jeans #feeling pretty #body postivity #clothes that fit #omg #so happy #don't get my started on shirts #i have g cup yiddies #and a 34 inch waist #my breast measurement is like 44 #10 inch difference #so many shirts are made with barely any accommodation between waist measurement and chest measurement #this is way worse if you are a smaller sized person #for those without yiddies cup sizes go a b c d dd ddd g h i j.... #nothing fits #dresses are so tight in the armpit #don't get my started on vintage fashion #and shoes

[starshineyellow]

What I say: hey, back when we were discussing the importance of timeliness, that comment about “people who are always late to meetings also never miss a flight” has really stuck with me.

What I mean: that comment has driven me nuts for days because I know the preparation and effort I put into being on-time for a single flight isn’t sustainable for getting into work every day no matter how hard I try and I wrote a multiple paragraph rough draft with all my thoughts about it but I feel like I can’t talk to you in-depth about these feelings because I’m afraid you’ll think I’m making excuses

#text post #adhd #late #time #I have no idea how to tag this #the just of the paper was ‘so you know how often I fly? like maybe once every two years. do you know how often I wake up? every single day’ #‘the sacrifices and concessions and preparation I make for a flight only have to be done for a single day not every day without fail’ #‘my strict routines tend to not accommodate enough time for savoring pleasant moments’ #‘the more days I sacrifice something in exchange for productivity means the more days I accumulate consequences for not relaxing’ #or showering or cleaning my dishes or any other consequence of my actions I have to face #long story short the quote is true but it’s not the whole story #and I know the person meant well #I still respect them #oh and for the record #the opinions stated here are my own and not reflective of the person I was speaking to

[decepti-geek]

i wonder how many panic attacks from how i'm treated at the GP surgery is my limit before i develop an out-and-out phobia of medical appointments

#3.5 and counting #the .5 is an accumulation of all the times the receptionists treating me like im difficult for seeking any accommodation #has ratcheted my anxiety up without inducing panic

[payphoneangel]

i think i stressed myself out so much abt grocery shopping i actually killed my appetite

#vinny types #i have not eaten yet today which is strange for me #i think i need. well to eat for one #i think i may need to start making better accommodations for myself bc uhhhh #i dont think something as like. mundane as buying food should be this much of a Fucking Ordeal #its weird tho bc i dont remember grocery shopping being this difficult for me before i moved 🤔 #but idk if its just bc i live in a bigger area now thats generally busier + more overstimulating #or if the physical demands of my job just leaves me without any energy to do stressful things i used to be able to handle #well. nevertheless we persevere

[camptw1nk]

i am officially off my "gotta stick around with the hope of seeing taylor live" bullshit

#(this is not good news) #negative cw #suicide cw #i am now on my 'gotta stick around cause my roommates cant afford rent without me' shit #im not gonna get to see taylor realistically #i will get in line for presale and i will wait but i dont believe I'll get tickets #and even if i do the only shows anywhere near me are in another country #flights alone would cost more than my weekly salary and accommodation would be impossible #and since the person I'd go with works fridays and i work sundays I'd have to go into work with barely any sleep #bc we could only do the saturday night #so I'd either be late for work or arrive in the country and go straight there #bc i refuse to ask him to take a day off so we could see friday and I'd still be too early in employment to take time off #it just feels like god is shutting down anything that keeps me going #I just. i want. to feel alive #and to feel like theres a. reason

[friendlifyre]

i cant tell if its the autism tm that skews my perception or if ive just really been through enough shit these past few years that my emotional maturity is now explicitly above average

#personal #seeing people who clearly want and need help be all cryptic about how they feel and making it like pulling teeth to communicate with them #makes me wanna tear my hair out #I Am Here For You !!!!! just Talk to me !!!!!!!! god #trying to leave every figurative ball in their court but they just dismiss it and then act like im the one who didnt try #its so reminiscent of my last job where i always had to be the one bending myself over backwards to accommodate the other party #im getting anxious just thinking about it knowing where that led me after months and months of caving in to the other's needs #without any regards for my own #really trying to will myself not to go down that path but its hard when i care #and i Know if i did reach out and compromise myself to be accommodating it would Work #but goddammit i cant always be the bigger person !!! please !!! cut me some slack sometimes !!!! meet me halfway !!!! im trying dammit

[ssaalexblake]

what was the point of turning my tv off half way through my show so i’d get some sleep if i still can’t sleep bc my toes are icicles??? 

#and yeah there are ways to fix this #but sadly i cannot use any of them bc u can't use the kitchen in this house at night without #waking literally everybody up #small house. good hearing. #have to leave 95% of the doors open to accommodate mobility aids #not a good combo #might as well use a fog horn really