#women's safety

[redditreceipts]

how about the men who are apparently weak enough to "stumble" when seeing an underage girl's developing breasts are just not fit for Christian heaven and by constantly accomodating them, you are actually getting in the way of God's plan to send only the righteous to heaven? Because a guy who puts his own comfort over the safety of another person isn't that righteous after all and won't get into heaven either way.

(I don't really believe in Christianity btw, I am just trying to follow the argument of not cause men to "stumble" instead of teaching them how to be a righteous person. in my opinion, the latter would get them into heaven at a much higher rate than just making girls vulnerable to car accidents)

#ex fundamentalist #misogyny #feminism #christianity #religious trauma #religion #fundamentalism #fundamentalist christianity #women's rights #radfem #radfem safe #radical feminism #feminist #women's safety #women's liberation #women's lib #radblr #radical feminists do interact #radical feminists please touch

[alwaysbewoke]

My goodness!!!

#incel #violence against black women #violence against black girls #Samyia Spain #brooklyn #new york #deli #stabbing #twin sisters #veo kelly #park slope #assault #murder #criminal possession of a weapon #rejection #aggression #tragedy #violence #investigation #search #criminal history #robbery charges #community reaction #vigil #grieving father #women's safety #pressure to give phone numbers #public gathering place #neighborhood impact #emotional toll

[butch-reidentified]

#brock turner #feminism #male violence #women's safety #everyone in Ohio needs to see this!! #ohio #Dayton #dayton ohio

[k0kichiimagines]

this ai trend is sickening, ive seen so many tiktoks of girls having these non consenting porn pictures made of them. literally anyone, if a guy wants to hurt you it doesn't take long and boom it's out there. its already illegal, please please i hope police and etc enforce it because its plain sickening and disgusting, can't even exist online anymore. yes, deepfake was a thing, but ai just makes it even easier to do. the WORST part of it, is sick fucks trying to actually pretend they have a right to this. incels are absolutely vile, i feel sick. im so angry, i feel like misogyny is honestly getting worse, especially with andrew tate dick riders. its beyond ignorance or etc there's more men that just plain hate women, especially online. its so depressing, makes me so angry

'oo oo we'll get robot wives then you'll see--' good riddance. go fuck off with your ai wives and leave us alone, i will celebrate the day they're all busy with Elon musk brain chips and vr and robot wives so the rest of normal human society can function without them.

#makes me so angry #misogyny #women's safety

[booksandpaperss]

some ramble-y thoughts on men's social isolation and women's safety bc this has been on my mind for a bit

I do think it's really sad how men end up feeling so isolated bc of various social expectations as well as people being cruel, but as a fem presenting person I have to say that you can't just expect women and anyone who is fem presenting to just "start being nicer". ive seen a few posts on Tumblr essentially stating that but I have to reiterate it is about safety. I literally cannot afford to stop looking at men with caution and assumed violence until I get to know them really well bc if I stop that could genuinely cost me me life. its true that most men I see probably are not predators and im sure it hurts to be perceived that way, but I have no way of being able to tell who is and isn't going to harm me. I have to assume the worst because it is the only way I can stay safe.

it sucks, it really does, for all parties involved. I have so much sympathy for the men who are genuinely kind and would never hurt me that feel isolated, it isn't fair, and I myself certainly don't enjoy the *necessary* fear that the random guy im passing on the street could see me and decide to hurt me, but this is the reality of the world. there is no easy solution, but what certainly isn't a solution is expecting women to start being kinder to men they dont know because once again: that could genuinely cost someone their life.

The best solution right now I think is to continue to try to deconstruct misogyny and gender roles, and that takes time, patience, and understanding.

I have also seen the notion on here that men feeling isolated socially is misandry, but the reality is that misandry is simply not real on a systemic scale. men feeling isolated is a direct result of the patriarchy and a side affect of misogyny. a lot of things on this website that are perceived as misandry are either not real problems or they are but they're just the impacts of misogyny and the gender roles that come with it.

But it is very surreal to be walking alone at night, clutching my pepper spray and glaring whenever a man I don't know is near me, making sure to stay next to the street and make it obvious I know exactly where I'm going and still feeling the fear that it might not be enough and something horrible could happen to me anyway, only come back to Tumblr and see people saying misandry is just as prevalent as misogyny and women need to start considering how it feels for men to be looked at like they're predators. Touch grass seems like an applicable statement here.

oh and obligatory piss on the poor tumblr disclaimer: I know I am using binary terms so before any of you get on your high horse about it, I myself am non binary. I am not actually a woman, but I certainly look like one and therefore deal with misogyny. I fully understand that trans men and genderqueers of all kinds as well as even feminine cis men also fear for their life on the street so dont even think abt getting on my ass about that. oh and if any of you try to call this a terf post consider yourself blocked with a recommendation to get a refresh on what terf actually means instead of just throwing around the term when you see any post trying to talk about misogyny :D

final disclaimer bc I wanna cover all my bases due to Tumblr reading comprehension: im aware topics like this are very nuanced with lots of layers, please dont act like im obligated to cover all that in a random Tumblr post of all things, I cannot possibly cover everything nor am I obligated to. I simply wanted to remind ppl that actual lives are at risk and fem presenting people constantly and regularly fear for their life bc I feel like that gets left out a lot in conversations like this on here. <3

#elli's random thoughts #women's safety #mens mental health #feminism #no idea what else to tag this so im just gonna throw it into the void #plus I do not want this to end up getting around to actual terf blogs ugh

[feckcops]

There is so much more for us to worry about than men masquerading as women to access single-sex spaces

“With so many real threats to women’s safety, it is confounding that this much time and attention is being lavished on a largely hypothetical risk. Every single case of someone being attacked is unacceptable, and everything must be done to protect women’s safety. Many cisgender women who support trans rights, myself included, have personal experience of sexual assault and take the topic extremely seriously. But the main threat to women comes overwhelmingly from men, not from trans women, who should not be penalised for the actions of predatory men ...

“Men continue to attack women and children at home, in the workplace and in public, often with no repercussions; they have no need to resort to impersonating trans women. Far from making women feel safer, controversies about single-sex bathrooms have led to increased harassment and hostility towards cis women who do not present in a traditionally feminine way.

“Much discussion around trans identity tends to focus insistently on genitalia. But where exactly does womanhood reside? In your ovaries, your cervix, your womb, your breasts? There are women who, for all sorts of reasons – illness, surgery, rare medical conditions – are missing one part or another of the female anatomy (Angelina Jolie, for example), and yet they do not cease to be women.

“Excluding anyone on the basis of biological difference demonstrates a spectacular failure of empathy; worse, it reduces women to their reproductive systems, which is surely something we should be trying to move on from.”

#trans moral panic #terf island #terfs #transmisogny #transphobia #trans women #trans rights #trans #bodily autonomy #women's safety #women’s rights #feminism #misogyny #conservatives #conservatism #fascists #fascism #far right #uk #usa

[cyborgdragongirl]

I've thought about making this post a dozen times since december, but like

TIP your delivery drivers! at least $1 per mile. on average I can get 3-5 deliveries done an hour, and whatever you tip is all we get usually. sometimes on weekends DD will give an extra dollar per delivery but otherwise *shrug* 5 or 6 bucks always makes me happy as a delivery driver

ALSO RATE US 5 PLS

anything less than 5 actively pulls our rating down, and it is incredibly difficult to climb back up, at least in doordash, as your rating is based on your last 100 ratings. I think like 1/20 deliveries give me a rating? I got 3 1 stars in a row one week from people who messaged me and said they misclicked and then never contacted support to fix it.

and I've made 400 deliveries since then and they still haven't gone away soooo :PP

ALSO WITH JULY 4TH COMING

DON'T FUCKING FLASH YOUR DRIVERS

it always happens a ton around the holidays but like. please, put on a shirt and pants if you MUST answer the door. otherwise pls just let me leave it on your doorstep.

Because 1) mm yes thanks you're very pretty, but I just wanna hand you your food and go, I have zero energy for people and I have no idea how to appropriately react to this and also idk feels vaguely harrassey?? I certainly don't get a choice in the matter

and 2) YOUR OWN FUCKIN SAFETY?! like I'm safe, I'm not going to do anything, I'm just tryin to make a few bucks but like, girl. If I were dangerous I now have your first name and last initial, your address, if its a house and your car is in the driveway I've got the make model, and license plate number. THATS A LOT OF INFO AND YOU JUST MADE YOURSELF A TARGET

FUCK

I'm lucky enough I don't need the money and use it to pay off bills, but most of the other dashers out there are much less fortunate than me

#sprenposting #doordash #grubhub #ubereats #idk what the fuck else to tag this #women's safety #maybe boost if you see it

[vavandeveresfan]

#jk rowling #trans #TRAs #Cass review #Cass report #now they want us to be “nice” #JK #I support JK Rowling #twitter #women's safety #women's spaces

[palettesofrenaissance]

when I wake up to get ready for work, not a lot of things are on television, but today I happen to catch the episode of Black-ish that's about feminism. and that episode got me thinking a bit

they're completely right that there's been and still is a problem with feminism being White centric. feminism isn't "for everyone" because it's not feel-good club; it's for rights, liberation, and equality for females all across the board. but today, social media and big companies have convinced much of the general public to steer away from its original mission statement. big companies slap on a few subpar feminist quotes and have some smiling, conventionally attractive women and sell it as "feminism"

feminism is subpar today, and I truly believe that a lot of people forgot where it came from and what we've received from it, largely because it's commonplace and we all have gotten too comfortable. I thought that with the rolling back of women's reproductive rights it would reawaken women, but their anger was once again redirected and distracted them towards things that weren't the issue

feminism gave or helped give females voting rights, gave us the ability to wear pants, to go to work, to get a divorce, to own our own bank accounts and land property, to have full human rights, to have medical investigations to solve female-only illnesses and diseases, gave us accessible restrooms and washrooms and other places of privacy (which were also intended to protect us from males, because we all know that it's needed). of course, there's so many other things but that list is what's on the top of my head and I'm at work and I can't dwell on this for long

why is it that we haven't had any more women's marches? why do we not have any more things like pussyhats or widespread female liberation art, these things we no longer have which helped unify women of all races, religion, sexuality, and creed? ask yourself that, i challenge you to. we were making such grand progress and then, suddenly, it all evaporated. Why? Ask yourself. Now we're back to demonizing women, such as the victims being accused to be guilty (Megan Thee Stallion, Amber Heard), when everyone still remembers the #MeToo movement. Ask yourself why? What has distracted us?

I truly believe that our first and last global female unification were the women's marches with the pussyhats because there hadn't been a peep about another powerful movement since. and I truly believe that was intended and planned. women and girls everywhere have to unlearn the lies about sugar-coated "feminism" that it's for everyone and that it's a feel-good club. women who were true feminist were hardly liked throughout history, and today I think that's also the problem because everyone wants to be liked and seen as "right."

this is all a string of thought and I don't know where I was going with this because I was also thinking about race bs with it being Black history month and I was listening to a podcast too, but now I think yeah I need to get back to work. but yes, feminism has definitely straged bring being female centered in liberation, safety, and etc and has now focused too much on males' feelings and women being pretty, being partially distracted from the core issues of things that are still being influced by our oppressors (aka males), and has just generally hushed and calmed down. it needs to be fixed, in my opinion

#feminism #women supporting women #woman's rights #female rights #women's safety #female safety #female equality

[iseefireke]

Every time I have a deep conversation with someone AFAB, there always seems to be at least 1 point in their life where they were either personally assaulted/harassed or someone (also AFAB) close to them was.

Meanwhile, I talk to people AMAB and they don't believe or understand how it happens that frequently. They don't understand our fear or why we might be overly cautious. I was telling one person I didn't like windowless vans, and they didn't understand. They viewed it as a preference and not a safety thing. They don't understand why I want to lock the doors in a "safe" neighborhood. Or why I have the safety feature of my phone turned on (hit the power button 5x and it will send a front and back picture, my location, a short audio recording, and possibly something else to the people on my emergency contact list).

I once talked to a corrections officer who was pissed that I carried pepper spray on me. Basically told me I just need to leave it to the cops. Because if I spray the perpetrator, the officer could end up getting sprayed too.

#safety #safe space #police #all cops are bastards #cops #acab #afab nonbinary #amab #afab #safety tips #women's safety #men are trash #men are the problem #men are the worst #men don't get it #catcalling #just let us be

[savage-flirtation]

This is such a common occurrence! The police are investigating, what do you bet nothing comes of it! The harassment needs to stop! This behaviour is unacceptable!!!!

There is no deterrent!

Women's safety!

Stop the harassment!

#women's safety #stop the harassment #educate your sons #uk travel

[tounezz]

#women's safety #art #my stoopid little art #procreate #feminism

[knightingael]

I hate when guys who fancy themselves progressive get all self-righteous about how Cool and Chill homeless men in public spaces are. Like, that guy on the corner who told you all about his interesting life as an activist in the 60s? He catcalls me on my way to work. The dude you say should just be allowed to sleep in my apartment complex’s lounge because “he’s not hurting anyone” just assaulted the girl down the hall from me. That mentally ill guy you find so entertaining has a restraining order because one of his delusions is that all of the girls on campus want to sleep with him. These are not hypotheticals.

You can’t go, “You’re just projecting right-wing rhetoric onto the homeless!” and ignore the actual violence they’re inflicting on women in public spaces. You feel safe with them, we don’t. Don’t project your experiences onto us.

#it's a nuanced issue and that's how I want it to be treated #radblr #radfem #radical feminism #pseudo progressive #women's safety #the homeless problem

[thedashproject]

#women's safety #violence against women #assault #social awareness #poem #thedashproject

[butch-reidentified]

were you raised in a household with firearms or did you learn about them as an adult? if the latter how did you get into it?

Sort of! My grandparents always had them, and I spent every summer on their farm, so I grew up around guns and my uncle and grandfather taught me to shoot by age 11. My own parents never owned any. Then in high school I got too busy, and in college Pulse happened and it took me about 5 years to be able to shoot again after that. So I had to relearn a lot, but that was super easy. There are SO many classes out there, and people who would love to talk firearms with you, and youtube channels and subreddits etc. As soon as I got back into it, though, I remembered how insanely safe and confident I feel with a gun as a woman. It's such a game changer!!

#ask #mine #women's safety #female safety #female self defense #women's self defense #feminism

[cactusradical]

keeping yourself safe while dating: avoiding redpill and pickup artist tactics

I thought I'd put together a quick list of the most common tactics predatory men use to gain access to women and abuse them. if you're attracted to men, please have a look and keep these in mind. as soon as you're able to spot them it becomes so much easier to avoid these toxic men. this is not intended to be a post about abuse in general. if you would like more information about all stages of abuse including early red flags, explanations of behaviour, and exit strategies, I would highly recommend lundy bancroft's 'why does he do that?'. links to free pdfs are widely available, including on my blog.

negging

a backhanded compliment in order to gently lower your self-esteem, intended to make you try harder to 'prove yourself' to him, and be more likely to accept his male attention for the sake of validation.

an example of this would be 'you're pretty for a ______' (generally directed at ethnic minority women and fat women). you can see that while he is calling you 'pretty', he is also denigrating your ethnicity/weight, making you eager to prove that you're 'one of the good ones'. a similar example would be 'you're not like other women'.

if he does this you should probably just leave him there. coming up with a 'witty' comeback is pretty pointless and a waste of your valuable time.

touch escalation

men will sometimes try and create a false sense of intimacy with women they barely know by gently touching them in innocent places, such as on the arm, hand or back.

this is supposed to 'ease you into' more intimate touching (ie sex) and test your boundaries.

if a man does this, be attentive and remain firm in your boundaries. try and create physical distance. if he remains persistent, he is not safe to be around.

date-prolonging

if you are on a first date with a manipulative man, he may prolong the date by asking you to stay longer than planned or by moving locations (eg you planned to meet for a coffee, but then he wants to go to a bowling alley and then go for dinner). this is used to build intimacy unnaturally quickly in order to obtain sex, as well as to gain more information about you

do not allow this to happen, and if a man becomes upset at you asserting this boundary, he is unsafe, especially if you are refusing to go to an isolated environment such as his home.

hot and cold behaviour

this is pretty self-explanatory, and is done to create a heightened emotional state so that you become addicted to the attention. a person who is genuinely interested in you will never give you mixed messages or be this fickle. if a man does this, do not pursue a relationship with him.

triangulation

this is an obvious one: men will make themselves look like they have many 'options'. they may frequently bring up their attractive exes, regale you with stories about women who are 'obsessed' with them, flirt with other women in front of you or have an inappropriately intimate relationship with a close female friend. this is intended to make you feel like you have to compete for his attention. again, avoid men who do this. they do not respect you.

love-bombing

a man will shower you with excessive praise and attention to make you dependent on him. he may say he loves you inappropriately early on, ask you to live with him inappropriately early on, and begin discussing your future together inappropriately early on. this creates a stronger emotional bond in your mind and makes you more dependent on him. this is also often an early red flag of future abuse.

dread

this is a series of techniques employed by these men to 'keep you in line' in a relationship, especially when they feel they are being denied sex. it includes ignoring you, conspicuously flirting with other women or threatening the end of the relationship/divorce. it is incredibly manipulative and a form of abuse. please, please listen to me: if your partner does this, leave him.

this stomach-churning post goes into disgusting detail on the process of doing this. one illustrative quote: 'after yet another sexual denial just look her in the eye and say something like: "You know I need to have sex with you to have a relationship. You understand this is a biological need for men, right?"'

#domestic violence #feminism #radical feminism #women's safety #abuse #original commentary