#wouldn't hurt. just ignore it

[theartthatleavesthemark]

i realize this is something of an obvious sentiment to express in a certain light but the more times one rewatches the show the more it becomes glaringly clear that there are very few individuals who actually ever express a philosophical commitment to flint's war to overthrow england. charles does. billy does, although he has his own motivations as well. madi does. jack and anne don't though! not ever! blackbeard doesn't! max, certainly not. and silver? even before he decides to betray flint he never ever says anything even a little bit committed to any sort of animosity towards england. you hit that 3x10 battle and you realize just how few people are actually in it for the same reasons as flint. and you realize that just like flint, just like the crew, just like madi, john silver has also fooled YOU into believing that everyone is on the same page.

#black sails #you just sort of assume! you just sort of go along because everything seems to finally be going the way you want it to #3x10 in a certain light is the narrative high point of the show! but only if you ignore the numerous enormous cracks in unity #john silver stands with flint. john silver is worried! he doesn't want to hurt his partner! john silver wouldn't betray for money anymore! #and yet we still don't know what john silver really feels about any of this. in fact #even at the end #we NEVER know. #i think its also quite powerful that JACK does not actually care about overthrowing england in the same way as flint either #jack tells flint at the beginning that he plans to leave with his treasure at the end #it makes his actions in s4 that much more delicious #and as max says at the very beginning: you realize that the foundations of this revolution are built on sand

[augustheart]

mr. e unhinged bits compilation

#what if you knew a magician who wouldn't stop doing bits and trying to kill people. what would happen #phonetic southern accent mr. e isn't real and he can't hurt me (mantra i repeated to myself while making this and ignoring the new 52) #still don't know how i'm tagging this dude #mister e #a few of these are edited for cohesiveness btw. like there's another panel in between the first two and the third in the second to last set #i just cut it out because it wasn't related to his insane bit #long post

[thecruellestmonth]

Normal Batman fans: I don't want to engage with parts of canon in which my fave is an abusive asshole. I choose to engage with other stories instead, and I ignore stories that I dislike.

Nasty toxic Batman fans: Ooh, Bruce is being totally gross again, don't mind if I do~

Good Dad Bruce™ stans: Yes, I fully acknowledge that every single one of Bruce's kids is deeply—at times suicidally—traumatized by his parenting failures in canon, but he is NOT a bad parent! Bruce LOVES his family. Sometimes COMPLICATED PARENTS make their children feel WORTHLESS and ISOLATED, and then don't do anything to fix it! It's totally NATURAL, Bruce is just a COMPLICATED parent! He's COMPLICATED! Bruce LOVES his family. COMPLICATED, I say! NOT ABUSIVE! Would an abusive parent put a hand on his child's shoulder in a vague display of warmth once every few years??? Hm??? Yeah, I DIDN'T THINK SO, YOU STUPID ABUSE VICTIMS!! Bruce LOVES his family. He does nice things—why are you ignoring all the nice things that he's done? He is just an IMPERFECT person, he has made some teeny tiny mistakes repeatedly with 5+ separately acquired children over a twenty-year period. Bruce is just a regular IMPERFECT human being—which means that you critics are the UNREASONABLE MONSTERS imposing PERFECTIONIST standards on a poor innocent middle-aged baby adult man! Bruce LOVES his family. How could we expect exceptionally privileged hyperintelligent parents NOT to regularly use their position of power to make 4-6 children feel inadequate, unsafe, and alone?? What ridiculously high standards! Bruce LOVES his family.

#I hope you impressionable youngsters are learning the warning signs of abusive families and cults during your time in this fandom. #Bruce Wayne hate club #COMPLICATED PARENT BRUCE WAYNE #You know I personally like my own cobbled version of Bruce Wayne too. I like to ignore canon as I please. #But some of you stans work overtime to come up with the cruelest most hurtful insensitive and vomit-inducing IGNORANT opinions about abuse. #So eager to sanitize decades of a grown rich white male hero living his power fantasy on the backs of vulnerable and traumatized kids #--in your zeal to make sure that the world's most popular superhero doesn't suffer a whisper of criticism-- #you choose to echo the excuses given to powerful people who use their power to hurt and control smaller people. #'He is complicated—' His behavior is abusive. #'He didn't intend to—' He did something abusive. #'But he LOVES his family!' He is an abusive piece of shit and he needs to do better. #'Well he is just an imperfect human—' Nobody is asking him to be perfect. Not everyone perpetuates abuse and refuses to change. #'But you have to understand that he had a very terrible childhood.' Every single one of his kids has had an inarguably worse childhood. #'Hm. That version of Bruce really is an abusive asshole. My homebrew isn't and he wouldn't do that.' DING DING DING! WINNER WINNER! 🥳👑👑👑 #'Bruce is an abusive asshole. He is the perfect meow meow for my fiction about toxic families and dark themes.' YES. YOU WIN. 💗👏👏👏😘😘😘 #IMPERFECT PARENT BRUCE WAYNE #negativity #fandom discourse #anti Bruce Wayne #child abuse mention cw #The funny thing is that this blog discusses Jason Todd the most but I'd say he probably suffered the least abuse. #At least he's a villain. What is Bruce's excuse for the way he mistreats and neglects the others?

[yuriyuruandyuraart]

Opinions on Dream? :^

SO many feelings about him omgg rant under cut please forgive me

okay so i don't really talk or draw him much cause honestly,,,most of the times i just think he's a bit....boring? or more accurately plain? not in a mean way either but just in a 'fades into the background' type of way like don't get me wrong!! he's a really nice friend to his peers, his feelings about his powers and aura making his relationships harder to navigate and trust along with his whole conflict with nightmare and morality about what's good and bad IS very cool!! and i love it whenever they write him to be complex and not on this black and white mentality or when he's just straight up following along his friends with no free will or with a dubious purpose without ever addressing his issues or feelings! it's just unsatisfying to me :')

or when they're making him the 'naive' and oblivious, (sometimes childish?) character being marked as the obstacle and villain along with the other star sanses from the fic's pov, always talking about doing good things while fighting his brother and not hearing him out about the balance, (and for weak reasons most of the time. like it's been so long and you STILL haven't sat down with him when he's, generally, basically begged you to just have a talk? guys please :'( ) or when they go for the victim sad dream always missing the old nightmare, where corrupted nightmare is the incarnation of evil, with no sympathy or emotion except anger and sadistic glee, killing and hurting everyone and dream's just trying to protect the multiverse and dream's always been in the right. such extremes!!!

LIKE!! i hope i'm not the only one that thinks a 500+ year old should have had enough time to idk. learn things? about people and manipulation and deceit? after knowing what the villagers did to night? about the bad things in the world and how there's a lot of grey areas in life and that he maybe reflected on his past enough to process and ask himself if there should to be a convo to settle his differences with nightmare (and you can make nightmare the stubborn one too! or have them BOTH be petty and imperfect and have some things wrong and some right at the same time like why do i always see the good guy vs bad guy cliché with these two when they're the perfect example of why positivity doesn't have meaning without the negativity!! as long as there's a satisfying evolution or growth that doesn't leave me empty i'm good yknow?)

plus i believe dream really isn't as dumb as people view him. i do get some of you saying he probably can't read or write since that's actually a pretty interesting idea to explore! but in general please let him have emotions other than pure sunshiny happiness or endless sadness like he's gotta have more depth than that! let him make mistakes, have flaws that don't just make him the bad guy that's always in the wrong by default, and be angry or suspicious or jealous or bitter or battling his mental health problems/depression or malicious or smart or witty or mischievous and silly or sarcastic or ANYTHING dude i just want him to be put into different scenarios where he can be serious or lighthearted like it doesn't even have to be long or perfect but make him feel real.

it could definitely be that i don't read or see much art about dream or really look for it hard enough but also i just. i feel bad for even saying this fr and i wanna be honest about why i don't enjoy most stories about him cause he always gets the worst treatment along with ink!!! especially ink omg the poor guy has it the worst i think like wow do they mess him up :'(

always one dimensional in non shippy fics, or too plain or easily replaceable by other, more entertaining people in the significant other's life in most of his ships like man. i have read fics out there that made me genuinely FEEL and root for him and love his character so much it restored all hope for me!!! but i can only name one on top of my head and the others? it's been so long i don't even remember their names i just legit feel terrible cause i love him still and i can't find many headcanons that fit my interpretation of him yknow?

not to say people who write him very happy, mislead or sad are ruining him like that's silly- if i see something i don't like i just. move on bro i wouldn't force people to feel or think the same way i do about him cause anyone can have whatever headcanons they want!!! just talking about what i personally look for in him and why i can't exactly find it since most of the stuff out there just isn't my cup of tea :')

hopefully i didn't set anyone off with this rambling opinionated essay i just pulled hhh xD i know i know he's a popular character and i know a lot of people like dream so *sobs* please please recommend me artists and fics about him that you think is good it's been so looong since i've read or seen anything new that makes me attached to this little guy aughg<33333

#ask #rambling #delete later? #probably xD i just wanna love him SO much but sometimes he's just *sigh*...forgettable #i tried to explain myself but also it's like 4 am and i skimmed through the proofreading so don't take this too seriously HHH #like really even when i do read good fics about him he's not on the forefront of my mind and it's painful to me :'( #i used to see him as my third fav but now? ever since i've read and seen characters who get heavier more in depth plots? #i can't say it with as much confidence :') and dream lovers out there i am not bashing your choice or even your headcanons #to each their own but i really wanna hear someone be passionate about him in my feed or askbox like TELL me about him #i've seen ink rants out there that are FIRE like so true!!! but where's the dream defense team??? #maybe it's just me tho :') btw i still like cream but not the same way as before if i'm being real #it feels the same...all of it and it makes me wanna bite something ARGHGG #i know i know i ship some stuff that's basic too hhh but dream and cross are always written the same and dream is too innocent #and nightmare is too weird in some of these fics like if MY brother ever tried to literally attack my hypothetical partner???? #i wouldn't give him the :'((( sad face and weakly tell him to 'please stop...you're hurting him'' like NO girl they're TWINS #they're the same age i would tell him to BACK off and not insert himself in my love life after years of ignoring and fighting LIKE #especially since most of the time cross is actually good to dream and all- so he doesn't have a good reason to disrupt his bro's dates #UGH i just have so many opinions but basically i would love him a lot lot more than i do now if they also let him be more flexible #and shake things up like with shattered and stuff! gimme alternate versions of him even if it's too ooc like we do for all the other sanses #jaa i am SO sorry you had to read all that dude thank you so much for passing by :'D

[itsnotacostume]

yeah <3

#ignore the numbers lol i compiled a list of writing prompts and kept coming back to these two. #imagine your otp #bc this can be applied to pretty much every ship out there?? like. the tough “unemotional” one who hasn't cried in years(or says he hasn't) #and the soft sweet one whom everyone loves and who wouldn't hurt a fly #just give me one of them getting hurt #and the other not knowing how to deal #so the tough one breaks down #because they can't lose their best friend. they don't know what to do without them #imagine the tough one being uncharacteristically soft because things are just That Bad and Scary; “don't you dare leave me. #i can't lose you. i won't.” #but when the soft one sees the other one get hurt? they SNAP. #just completely feral and ready to put themselves in danger if it means having even the tiniest chance of helping their friend #throwing punches. having to be restrained when help finally arrives because they don't realize they're finally being rescued #and they're still in the “i have to protect them; anyone is dangerous” mindset #just. man. i'm in love with this. #currently imagining my faves like this... wilson and house... crowley and aziraphale... #like the details vary of course but just. this. them. #i'm in so much pain so i hope this makes at least the tiniest bit of sense but this is my lifeblood atm #anyway! enjoy #writing #writing prompts #whump

[uselessnbee]

sometimes i feel so petty i want to make a big post about all the times Will and El weren't that great towards Mike just to ..you know.. balance it out a bit

#it's always here's all the times Mike hurt Will and El's feelings and never here's all the times Will and El hurt Mike's feelings #it's so unfair like i saw people hating Mike over fucking MILKSHAKES because they just had to find a reason to hate him it's so stupid #if i went on here and started hating on Will and El for not laughing at Mike's vomit green joke cause it made him sad yall would call me #absolutely crazy and delusional like be fucking for real Mike just breathes wrong in Will's or El's direction and he's the devil himself #but Will and El could literally call Mike a slur to his face and yall would be like hE dESeRvEd iT tHeY DiDnT dO aNyThiNG wRoNG like fr #there are so many small times when Mike tried to get Will's attention like the vomit green joke or the they're conspiring against me moment #and everyone always just laughs how Mike is a loser trying to get their attention but they always just ignore him or whatever but if it was #reversed? if it was Will trying to get Mike's attention only for Mike to either ignore him or yell in his face how it's stupid to be #concerned about something so small? oh yall would go ballistic suddenly yall wouldn't care how small these things are suddenly you would #want Mike fucking dead but when it's the other way around it's just funny and embarassing for Mike? and not just small things like this #when we point out how El invalidated his feelings and dismissed his bullying everyone is like oh she didn't mean that she meant it like #this she meant it like that she said it because of this and that and the situation is like this so this is why she said that #and blah blah blah she didn't do anything wrong but when it comes to Mike suddenly it doesnt matter if he meant it differently or if it was #the situation and messy feelings making him say something hurtful no he's just an asshole oh i am cursing you all #i hope you step on lego every day and your favorite snack is always sold out in every shop i hope every cat you try to call will ignore you #or hiss at you i am so tired of the double standards when it comes to Mike and willel i am so angry #mike wheeler #mike wheeler protection squad #blue's 'mike's extreme defender' ramblings #i got a little carried away in the tags but i'm not sorry i said what i said #and idc if i get hate for it cause i'm right anyways

[treasure-goblin]

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#dont like it #its bad and its scary #i wanna go back to when Cal was just some silly person no one really payed attention to #not someone that people knew and relied on and cared about #not someone with any degree of importance #and the kicker is #it feels like im only here to provide some form of entertainment #if im not providing what people want then im ignored by most people #and that fucking sucks #it wouldn't hurt so bad if i hadn't let myself get used to actually having people care about me #so yeah #the ever growing struggle between the terror of being known and the void of being forgotten #goblin vents

[xlillilith]

I try not to be to focus on ships much cuz they really not and shouldn't be important at all but I really haaaaaate lord and miller for teasing the possibility of margo and miles when I know they're gonna most likely just gonna turn around and force him and gw*n together despite everything that's...not good about that ship, thus making margo into the disposable black love interests which many black female characters sadly fall victim too 😔

#I have to keep in mind these are cishet WHITE men first and foremost so i shouldn't get my hopes up #But...it just hurts to imagine how margo will be treated by them and I'm scared for it #Because the fandom already treats her like shit and overlook and ignore or hate her #And I don't trust them to give her a proper arc or exploration either I just can't trust them at all #Like my biggest fear is she'll be used as a tool or an obstacle to push fuckass gwiles together and just...ughhhh makes me #Mad just thinking about it cuz 1 I know they not gonna shelf the yt girl in favor of the black one because again #these are WHITE MALES #2 they wouldn't force gwiles down out throats so much if nothing was gonna come of it (ew) no matter what that may be sooooo #Just makes me sad but...who knows maybe I'm wrong and they'll end up surprising me but the bar and my faith in them is extremely low #Atsv critical #Ship critical #Ship hate

[chronomally]

The contrast between Clytemnestra's prayer for Agamemnon to come home safely from Troy vs. Elektra's...

#please feel free to ignore this #I'm reading Elektra #Elektra misses her beloved father #Clytemnestra wants revenge on her daughter's murderer #The description of her grief on her return to Mycenae is almost like overwhelming #Originally I got the impression that Iphigenia was the favorite but she's also just like #How am I supposed to look at my children and know I can't protect them? Am I just raising more cattle for slaughter? #Better not to have precious memories to hurt me someone else raise them #Also her description of like looking at Orestes and feeling nothing #She wishes Iphigenia had died as a child so Clytemnestra wouldn't have had to hear her daughter's wishes for her own future #Jennifer Saint gets it

[queseraphita]

I hate when parents get so hung up on their children not liking choices they made

#i wouldn't call her transphobic but she does actively call me the deadname i dont like bc she chose it #well i liked that name and wanted to call you this (nickname) #and i go well i dont like that name and it upsets me that you make fun of the name i chose or ignore my wishes #even if i werent nonbinary i hold alot of disdain for my deadname #maybe it is transphobic but it just hurts to say it cause i love her so much #I'm sorry you like that name so much but I'm the one who has to live with it so have some respect #you can call me my middle name but you know damn well why no one calls me tanabah #i love my sister so much for always being in my corner against our parents #mikh talks #you can call me mikh or jun either one is fine

[problemswithbooks]

Okay, so maybe I'm just a stickler for terms, but it annoys me when people call Criston Cole an incel. He's just not.

Incel was coined by men who were 'involuntarily celibate" aka they couldn't get laid even though they wanted to. They hated women because they wouldn't fuck them and hated men who could get sexual and romantic partners. Not all misogynists are incels.

Criston doesn't hate Rhaenyra because she wouldn't have sex with him, at least in the show (and in the book it's unclear what happened either way). Criston came to hate Rhaenyra because she slept with him, something he was breaking his vowels as a Kingsguard to do, and it turned out it didn't actually mean all that much to her. She still wanted to have sex with him, but wasn't willing to give up her place as heir to run away and be in in a full relationship with him (which is why communication before sex is important).

Does he say misogynist things about her later and act bitter--yes. But it's not because Rhaenyra didn't want to have sex with him, or because no women in general want to have sex with him. He took the Kingsgurd oath of celibacy willingly and given that he didn't immediately jump at Rhaenyra's offer to have sex it doesn't seem like he's bitter about it (again if he just wanted to have sex Rhaenyra was fine fooling around on the down low).

Again he's uses sexist language when he talks about her afterwards and that's not good, but in the GoT's universe you can't throw a stone without hitting someone who has done or said something sexist. Viserys has sexist double standards, Daemon calls his first wife the 'bronze bitch', Otto sees Alicent more like a chess piece than a person. Criston's not uniquely sexist, and his sexism isn't him being an incel. If that was the case any guy who disliked their ex-girlfriend would be an incel and that's just not true. Heck, Daemon's attitude toward his first wife would be considered incel behavior under that criteria.

So, like idk, maybe just say he's being a sexist jerk, instead of an incel.

#hotd #criston cole #sir criston cole #again he's not nice to Rhaenyra after she dumps him #but saying sexist stuff about ur ex isn't what being an incel is #and even if he was wrong to call her sexist names #he had every right to dislike her #or feel hurt by what she did #it's just his actions toward her afterwards that are sexist #like i defiantly feel like in modern day that he would be fine #he wouldn't be posting about how he hates all women on forums #he's a hot guy and would have just found someone else to date #i feel like people just call him an incel because because sexist jerk #doesn't have the same punch #i mean daemon says just as many sexist insults but people just shrug or ignore it #but people use incel to make it seem like criston just hates all women and like the guys who stalk and kill woman who turn them down #which he's just not #at worst he's one of those guys who can't stop calling his ex a bitch #and that's bad #but Daemon did that too #maybe Daemon's an incel too

[cinna-bunnie]

bleh

#having a bad morning tbhhhh #i envy the ppl who grew up here :| it's so much easier to make friends when u went to school w ppl and grew up with them #i have been here since 2016 and was just trying to get stability the first 3 years financially/housing-wise. #and when i was Finally ready to start making friends the pandemic happened. #the closest thing I've had to friends were made thru my ex and when we broke up they ghosted me. #to this day i have not made a single genuine friend and i can't articulate how hurtful that is to think about. #and i get excited when i might have a new friend but do the audhd balancing act where i tone myself down so i don't scare them away #but then idk. maybe i just come off as uninteresting or indifferent. idk what the perception of me is bc no one ever tells me anything lol. #i just get ghosted a lot 😭 it's Literally so much easier to find ppl to fuck than it is to find friends. idk why this is so hard but it's #frustrating. everyone has lukewarm interest in me at best and i have so much to offer when I've opened up to someone. #and i can't rly talk w ppl about how I'm feeling. and i can't do anything but keep trying over and over or else i WILL fr have no friends. #it's just. like. I'm not a normal person w normal circumstances and interacting w people who already have a ton of friends and stuff #going on is hard. there's like this burning desire for companionship in u as the person NEEDING it that no one else has #bc they already have it yk? ur just kind of a footnote on everyone's day/week. u don't have that kind of relationship where #u can Just Go Over or just have ppl over. ppl can hang like once a month maybe. i hate it here but also don't want to leave :| #everything is great except trying to make friends. idk i just wanted to vent lol I'm done ranting and might just delete #but this feeling wells up inside me and some days is so hard to ignore 😭 #'i have been here since 2016 and don't have a single genuine Friend' what the fuck 😭😭 #ik that wfh doesn't Help but i wouldn't be able to get anything done in person in my position lol. plus it's less about where ppl are #and more about how relationships (dont) develop past a certain point. #i have someone I've been talking with probs longest out of everyone so far and we're gonna hang this weekend #but I'm also perpetually afraid I'm gonna scare them away or something and be back at square 1 😭 #and idk im afraid that might translate into seeming shy or something and I'd hate for them to lose interest anyways ._. #but idk how much of that is valid vs my brain just being mean to me and paranoid over my other experiences. #anyways... yea thnx for reading if u did. i feel crazy 😮‍💨

[seamayweed]

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#saw a post where someone (affectionately) called someone else out for putting more nam seon-ho on their dash #pretty sure it was referring to my gifset #why not tag me directly and scream with me about it? #being willfully ignored like this wouldn't hurt so much if #i hadn't also recently found out that this person had me blocked on their main #and is hiding my notes whenever i like or reblog anything from them #i tend to forgive easily #and if anyone leaves me an open avenue i will take it #i will show them all my love and support #but it does get exhausting #and there's only so much i can take #is it that shameful to be seen associating with me? #is my presence that noxious just because of the things i ship in fiction? #i'm human too #i exist too #but sometimes i feel like a ghost in this fandom #i'll probably forgive again and be back soon #as i usually do #but for now i'll have to take a break from tumblr #personal #edit: #this is not to say that i will stop any of you from interacting with that person #or anyone else who has blocked me #it's already a small fandom and i don't want to cause a further divide #i just need to scream about this in a vent post every once in a while to preserve my sanity #and after some time away from tumblr i'm sure i'll be fine again

[constellationcrowned]

((It makes me sad that (especially coming from Roui) the severity of Kariom's duty is greatly diminished in both severity and importance. He's not just a star-reader he was chosen by the King to decipher them for all Tsourai. When he calls himself a savior it isn't entirely out of pride or hubris; he's telling the truth. It's a duty that can (and will, and has) potentially destroy him, even kill him, but one that he can't back down from or falter in because if Kariom makes a mistake?? Even one??? It's, to his understanding, completely over and he wouldn't be able to handle it. He cannot disappoint them, nor can he abandon them, and to fail in the slightest would be doing just that. It would be detrimental to the people that he loves and that, to say nothing of wider consequences, is unfathomable.))

#;;ooc: mun muttering #I emphasize the stress and pressure that this man is under in my writing because it's fucking true #it's one of ways the strength of his character and conviction shines through (evej if he's generally haughty about expressing those things) #he cannot give up and moreover REFUSES to; no matter how hurt; frightened; or confused he is and that takes real passion #I've said before that his obsession re; his duty is equal parts virtue and vice and that's always going to be the case #but I'm also sure that with the right support he'll find the space that he needs; not only to move in but to breathe in #because listen? this man isn't breathing; not in the full emotional sense and he needs that #the duality of this man is such a deep thing you guys; it really fuckin is #hopefully that comes across in my shit; i truly hope so because I've put so much thought behind it all (and again I barely have anything) #he's not perfect about it obviously (as I've said and written before) #but the heart behind what he does? that cannot and should not be ignored or diminished #and his flaws are just as compelling as his strengths and without those his growth and mindset wouldn't be as clear #he's very much a kid sometimes; just like Roui he was forced to grow up almost instantly so ofc he's stunted in places #but I feel that both of them will come to terms with that and each other and be ok #..... and in love.... like admit out loud in love lol #;;ooc: commentary (kariom)

[maraeffect]

not to be like that, but people reblogging this but like completely ironically kind of upsets/triggers me. i don't think he unironically deserves to be called a slur of course. but this man fully dated a 15 year old when he was in his twenties. and i see NO ONE ever bring it up. no one even trigger tags the band, which makes coming onto my dash a chore sometimes (i have great friends that rb related things and i don't want to unfollow them over one band). but you have to admit that if this was ANY other band, they'd be cancelled to hell and back.

people still enjoying their stuff after NO acknowledgement from either the band or community? it makes me feel like some of you are only performatively in support of CSA victims. it feels like a betrayal. it sucks.

#nothing against the op specifically obviously #i just thought maybe we were finally talking about It and was saddened when i realized otherwise. #I'm 23 and wouldn't step foot near a 15 year old that way. not even an 18 or 19 year old tbh. #it hurts bc I'm a csa victim and i hate that support for people like us is. conditional or selective #people are so willing to ignore it when it's their favorite singer or whatever. #chatter #csa tw

[maretriarch]

the "almond mom" trend is just making fun of your moms eating disorder which like is cool i guess if you dont see her as a human being

#like i get it my mom was the same way and it weighs (hah) on you and has an impact but like.. #idk i think my moms body image issues is for real part of what killed her so young and like while the comments she said hurt me like.... #i can step outside of myself now and see how much she was hurting her whole life and how her mother treated her and how that affected her #actions towards me #idk so many people dont see their moms as like #PEOPLE and not just their mothers and to be fair until my mom passed i didnt really but its hard to tell if it was just like teenage #ignorance or one of those many many things you only learn after someone is gone #like. theres a sort of inherent distance in the parent and child relationship like.i know my mom often like didnt want to worry me about #things so she wouldn't tell me abt major life events much less like. her internal logic and thought processes and feelings etc etc #its a lot of like. backwards engineering trying to understand her now