yes i'm rooting for m*leven breakup because byler is neat but mostly? i'm rooting for m*leven breakup for the sake of el and mike.
to me, their romance was always a puppy love born out of a combination of social pressures, naïve curiosity, and a lack of true understanding regarding intimacy and romantic love and what it really is. it was real in that they do truly, deeply care about each other and they are close friends, maybe even shared an attraction, but a maturing romance is so much more than that. they've grown up and out of being boyfriend/girlfriend, and that's okay! i think television/film needs to show more often that most of us don't have definite "soulmates" or first childhood loves that we spend our whole lives with. it doesn't mean these relationships meant nothing and didn't impact us, it just means they've run their course and that something else is in the cards, and this is part of life!
i've always felt el was at her best and most confident self when broken up with mike, discovering who she was and what she liked alongside another girl her age instead of just relying on mike for mentorship on how to live in the real world. she deserves more of an opportunity to find herself, her autonomy, and her independence, and to love who she is, and she's made it clear she's felt insecure in the relationship with mike because she isn't being loved and understood the way she wants, needs, and deserves from someone who is her partner.
also, it's okay if mike doesn't love her in "the way he should". he is not obligated to love her romantically and stay in a relationship with her just because she's a girl, because she "needed someone", or because he cares about her a lot. he shouldn't be pressured into a romance if it's not truly coming from his heart. he deserves freedom to find out and honour who he is, too, instead of just staying in his non-functional first relationship — one he got into as a child, essentially — and defining himself that way because it's what's expected when a boy and a girl are close. he loves her in some way, yes, but it's okay if he doesn't feel comfortable or secure being her boyfriend anymore, for whatever reason that is. he's felt insecure too, and that's valid and it matters.
they are their own people and are steadily growing and changing every day. they need time to figure out who those people are, and it's become clear (at least in my opinion) that those people aren't meant to be a couple at this stage.
they deserve freedom. they deserve to grow up and be authentic to themselves and not feel like they need to lie for the sake of a relationship. they deserve to move on from this version of their relationship that isn't making them happy and rekindle the best part of their bond: their strong, beautiful friendship. they don't have to be a couple if it doesn't make them stronger and better and happier people.
i think it would be healthy and wonderful for a show, especially one consumed frequently by young adults, to show a relationship starting, progressing, and ending on good terms in this way. sometimes things don't work out, and that is okay.
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i see ur “astarion’s partner dies before astarion” head canons and i raise u a “astarion goes behind his partner’s back to either find a cure for his immortality or a different route to make his darling immortal alongside with him”
just because he’s been softened by love doesn’t mean he’s not still a deceptive and incredibly selfish bastard. nothing happens without his partner’s consent, of course, but there is No Way spawn astarion would passively accept he would outlive his partner
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Someone say this is a joke rn💀💀💀
We deadass supposed to be out here calling ourself Avatards??? Naaah where’s the petition, where’s the manager I wanna make a new fandom name cause wtf is this?😩
We can do better than this COME ON TEAM! BRAIN STORMING TIME
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this might make some people Mad, but i don't think anything said in the book makes se hinton racist 😵💫 in fact (IMO) she clearly made a conscious choice to avoid discussing racism in the book bc she was an ignorant high schooler who didn't know any better and probs knew she would fuck it up even if she tried. i know many people say she is racist for certain comments two-bit and pony made, which yes! two-bit did use a slur! and pony did stereotype native americans! but like..i'm pretty sure that's just how people talked back then 😭 which doesn't excuse it, but if you think about it, people have only RECENTLY become mindful about that stuff!! like in 2020!! and you guys were all alive for that (if you are 3 years old dni). plus western films were basically Everything during the 60s too so...yeah just Please. this is why it's important to keep in mind that this book is almost 60 years old. things have changed. se hinton isn't racist for writing about a character who casually drops slurs bc that's literally how it Was
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