When you want tumblr friends, but you remember you’re awkward so you just sit there like:
Y'know, despite finding labels I feel are right and describe me well, this little voice in my head won’t stop questioning. It’s very annoying and awful for my self worth, so I’m going to make list of arguments against the most common thoughts. This is for my personal use to look back on whenever I start to doubt again, or for anyone who might have similar struggles I guess.
Just as a reference, I identify as nonbinary, aromatic, and bisexual. A lot of the things used to invalidate such labels seems to revolve around a mixture of things. Like anything internalized due to societal standards and what I grew up expecting to be normal. Also, other LGBT members and their exclusion for whatever arbitrary reasons. Even those who are anti-LGBT and the arguments they make. Like I know that I shouldn’t care what other people think, and I kinda don’t, but it does effect how I think about all of this.
Anyway, since I tend to be really ramble-y, I’ll put everything under the read more link (nearly 2000 words, oof). Also as a kinda warning for transphobia, homophobia, and the likes. All of the words below are just me going off from my heart, so I rationalize with triggering talking points quite a bit. The last thing I want is to trigger someone, so please stay safe.
DON’T CALL STRANGERS ON THE INTERNET PET NAMES.
Look, I get it. Some cultures have this thing where it’s standard to refer to people as ‘sweetheart’ or ‘love’ or whatever. Some people have made a habit of it.
But this is the internet. The entire damn world isn’t Alabama. In MANY parts of the world, casual familiarity from strangers makes people VERY uncomfortable.
Unless you have spoken with the person extensively and know their verbal tics and have built up a repertoire, you need to STOP casually calling people ‘baby’ or ‘bitch’.
These are simple social boundaries.
Edit because it’s necessary: Some of you are saying “I’m not gonna change my speech habits, it’s a harmless cultural thing.” and obviously that’s up to you. I admire that - hanging on to your own identity, not being shamed of how you speak. There’s obviously weight to that.
But I also am seeing JUST AS MANY people in the tags/notes going “yes, this makes me EXTREMELY uncomfortable when people do this, I’m weirded out and I don’t know how to address it” so I just want to mention that even if it’s isn’t a huge deal, it isn’t technically ‘harmless’. It does affect other people negatively.
If you don’t care about it, then that’s on you, it’s fine. But as a twice-over immigrant who’s had to adjust my cultural norms to communicate with local people several times back and forth, I’m giving you a little bit of side-eye.
It’s not asking you to pretend to fit in. We’re not asking you to move mountains or change your entire ass accent. It’s literally just the acknowledgement that outside of your personal bubble of homegrown culture, your habits MAY be discomforting to others. It’s just common courtesy.
Can’t believe I’m a Canada bro now
Source: @somethingsomethingmisc on Insta
Oh, Always darling.
Rules: you can usually tell a lot about a person by the type of music they listen to. Put your favorite playlist on shuffle and list the first ten songs, then tag ten people. No skipping!
Thank you to Kylee ( @femstyles ) for tagging me.
I don’t exactly have playlists so I’m just gonna put my music on shuffle and see what happens.
1. All The Small Things - blink-182
2. The House Jack Built - Metallica
3. Teenage Dirtbag - Wheatus
4. Sippy Cup - Melanie Martinez
5. In The End - Black Veil Brides
6. Lingerie - Lizzo (I don’t even think I’ve listened to this song, I just have it)
7. Nothing To Lose But You - Three Days Grace
8. Story of My Life - 1D
9. Happier - Marshmellow & Bastille
10. Social Casualty - 5SOS
i tag the following people (if you don’t want to do this, or have already been tagged ignore this, but just know you’re one of my favs 💞🥴):
Witcher fans be like
Picked up a New Yorker magazine and I swear to god, opened it directly to this page.
I feel so called out right now. 😂
no problem! tumblr do be like that sometimes :^//
What if Tarrare didn’t eat the infant?
What if he was just giving the infant a vibe check and the infant simply failed?
On the outside:
“Fear me, fools. I am the Demon King of the Sixth Heaven, the dreaded, hated, yet totally lovable Oda Nobunaga. Surely you have heard of me and my ruthless, bloody campaign to unite all of Japan? The burning of Mt. Hiei and everyone in it? The carnage I wrought? The blood I’ve spilled? I marched my forces all through the country and burned it all to ash…
You should fear me. Tremble, even. For I have cast aside humanity and allowed my sinful existence to become that of a demon’s… be afraid.”
On the inside:
“I’m Oda Nobunaga, the Demon King of the Sixth Heaven… and I’m the kinkiest bondage-loving slut you’ll probably ever come across. Please tie me up, gag me, render me utterly helpless and lock me away as your bondage slave and make me and my body yours with whatever sorts of kinky plans you have in store for me while talking dirty to me while helpless and other weird stuff you wanna do to me. Oh, is all that rope for me? You shouldn’t have. I’m truly flattered~”
bunnylexicon replied to your post: …I could put a giant labyrinth in my fantasy world…
So IKEA: mall edition?
eden circa 2030 in her survivalist bunker
This song triggers the feral inside me
congratulations you broke us both down to our bare essentials