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hansoeii · 1 month

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irulancorrino · 2 months

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bene gesserit costuming + occult and religious imagery

#brought to you by me going down the 'I wonder if anyone has made a dune inspired tarot deck yet' rabbithole #dune #dune part two #irulan corrino #margot fenring #duneedit #the absolute joke of owning almost a dozen tarot decks and still going uhhhh when trying to figure out which cards to put up there #besides the classic rider-waite-smith #in my defense I didn't want them to be modern-looking otherwise I would've chucked the linestrider queen of swords in there #anyhow

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andthebeanstalk · 11 months

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Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need.#the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist.#the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28!#a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents.#they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong.#and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives.#you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead?#or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of.#no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow.#i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong.#just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

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nat-but-free · 6 months

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Just a little dude

#i love kankuro #and i really love this pre-shippuden gaara #he's still cold and menacing yet he's trying his best to be normal and is learning how to love people again that's a nice mix #sand siblings #naruto fanart #naruto #sabaku no gaara #gaara #gaara of the desert #gaara of the sand #kankuro #temari #ignore the kanji #my art

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comradekatara · 8 days

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azula as zuko’s evil advisor is so funny to me i actually fuck so hard w this concept. she gives zuko advice and then zuko looks across the room to sokka and sokka just discreetly gives him a thumbs up or thumbs down. one weekend sokka, aang, mai, toph, suki, katara, and anyone else who might have a modicum of common sense all go out of town for like. omashu coachella or smth. and when they come back the entire palace is in shambles, zuko’s just sitting on his throne shinji style, and he’s just like “i’m so sorry….. her advice seemed so cogent….. she made trickle down economics seem so reasonable……. why weren’t you there….. YOU SHOULD HAVE BEEN THERE, GODDAMMIT!!!!!!!” while azula slyly sips from a cunty chalice she had personally made just for moments like this.

#the fact that I literally corrected the typo 3 seconds later and yet ppl are still reblogging the original stupid fucking post this. is why #I don’t make posts at 2 :49 am. smh #zuko #azula #sokka #azula&zuko #postwargaang #<- barely #also the reason katara is listed last here is only bc I don’t think she would spend a lot of time in the fn #she mostly sees zuko during his bimonthly visit to the south pole #whereas sokka would die if he couldn’t micromanage him #so he and azula are rly fighting for their lives as they try to wrest control over zuko and by extension the country and by extension #the entire world #while zuko is just sitting there thinking ‘it’s so nice that sokka and azula are getting along so well these days 🥰’

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zaacoy · 1 year

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Short freenoodles focused comic inspired in part by takakmimi's freenoodles post on twt!!

#I don't think he believes him #Actually married freenoodles is great BUT #The friends > queerplatonic > actually acting like a romantic couple pipeline is so funny #a. They're already both so comfy with each other that neither of them notice or b. They're both heavy in denial and won't bring it up #Sandy has been trying to wingman them together for years and has probably mostly given up by now #Mei never stops discretely taking pictures so she has IMMENSE blackmail and bragging rights the day they actually do get married #Red son is just confused and thinks they're both dumb #Mk probably genuinely hasn't figured it out yet 💀#Do you see my vision they're great #lmk freenoodles #freenoodleshipping #lmk pigsy #lmk tang #lmk mk #lmk red son #lego monkie kid #monkie kid #Red son is so fun to draw actually I should draw him more often #Still have no idea how to draw MK's hair 💀#Zaacoy art💫

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turbo-tsundere · 11 months

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Kokichisake-onna

*Happy anime narrator voice*: “And thus, Kokichi has once again successfully evaded the dread of emotional openness!”

Also here’s a random selection of derpy concept doodles for this comic :)

Thank you byeeeeee

#gonta gokuhara #gokuhara gonta #kokichi ouma #ouma kokichi #kokichi oma #featuring shuichi xD #ougoku #awwgoku #my art #I wanted to post it on ougoku day but work and migraines piled up on me and I really wanted to give this one the time it needs!#If you know the legend you know why Shuichi is panicking XDD #Look into Kokichi's eyeballs in panel 3 and see the sad hope against hope and yet! he still actively sabotages any comfort coming his way!#Is Gonta just kind or is his compassion a warped mix of compulsive fawning and misplaced empathy that keeps inviting menace into his life?#there's a secret sadness to this silly comic lmao and it's those poor sods' autopilots #I say laughing but by god do they need help #anyway enjoy! I might try posting more of Gonta ships I like - like this one; or with Shuichi; and some others 8D #btw I LOVE Gonta's scariest sprite - fantastic detail bc it does look like a snarl and ofc a wild child would imitate animal expressions!#and 2 out of 3 times he uses it he's actually NOT angry but hyped or frustrated - both cases also smth I appreciate for certain reasons #his actual 'serious angry' sprite is far more toned down in comparison

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strrwbrrryjam · 24 days

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"we need more complex female characters," you guys can't handle molly o'shea, mary gillis, abigail roberts, sadie adler, tilly jackson, marybeth gaskill, karen jones or susan grimshaw.