#you can't judge me it's a fact

[thevoiceofdesertbluffs]

Hazbin fans will be like "my taste in men is so QUIRKY! I think Meanus Peanus is hot..." and then they will show you "Meanus Peanus" and he will literally be the most sexyman bait character you have ever laid eyes upon

#goosey rambles #sorry something got me pissed. still thinking about it #also this isn't to say ''WAA YOU CAN'T LIKE BASIC CONVENTIONALLY ATTRACTIVE CHARACTERS'' because who am i to judge #I'm moreso pissed about the fact that basic conventionally attractive characters are being treated like they're so quirky #like PLEASE THEY WERE MADE FOR YOU TO FIND THEM HOT #IT'S NORMAL TO LIKE THEM IT'S NOT QUIRKY PLEASE #ok that's it rant done. goodnight

[passthroughtime]

i love each and every scene where any man puts his hands around yagami's throat, because yeah, i feel that, BUT i haven't seen any mentions of how kuwana copies this parry attack

but instead of similarly grabbing yagami by his shoulder he does THIS:

#kuwagami #judge eyes #kwgm breath play... save me kwgm breath play #but yeah lol kuwana choking yagami during sex is like. universal fact to me. you can't convince me they don't.

[ieatnomnom9823]

enjoy a peice of shit i drew at 1 am last night

help

#it fucking sucks #i couldn't get the right lighting or concentration #i had to use crayola markers #also my handwriting changed for like the 4th time this year #don't read the jeans #i got carried away and started swearing and saying a lot of obscene shit #also i was too stupid to come up with an actual bad word so i keyboard smashed with my pencil #i bet you can tell the fact how old i am from this picture alone #this doesn't deserve to actually be tagged it's correct tags #i suck at art #btw idk how to use correct puncuation #traditional art #i hate it #why does it look like that #:( sigh #i stayed up so long and i can't even take the picture right #i even got a cut on my leg for stabbing myself with a pencil #it was dark don't judge me #send help #i dont know what to put here #drawing #my artwork #i'll let you try to fugure whatever the fuck is going on in this picuter #jokes on you it's too shitty #that's not even their actual designs #it just runs along with my weird ass teen headcanons i made up at 3 am a few weeks ago #failure

[ladyhavilliard]

tfw you realize you are aroace, but you're also a hopless romantic, so you decide you might be cupioromantic and would still want to be in a relationship even though you don't feel romantic or sexual attraction until someone texts you and suggests they might have some interest in you and suddenly you go into panic mode because the idea of anyone seeing you in any kind of non-platonic way makes you incredibly uncomfortable, especially if they don't know you well

#i never was the girl ppl glt crushes on #and i was fine with that #and now suddenly 2 ppl show the slightest bit of interest in me in the same year #and. i can't #no #i don't like this #ignoring the fact that one of them made me extremly uncomfortable and i just told myself “it's my social anxiety I'm sure it's actually fine #until i realized that no it was rrly him making me uncomfortable #but anyhow #i am not judging ppl who get crushes on ppl without knowing them well. no matter how severe the crush is #BUT WHEN IT COMES TO ME #it doesn't even have to mean you want to date me #if you have the slightest non-platonic interest in me WITHOUT KNOWING ME WELL #IT MAKES ME SO UNCOMFORTABLE #I DON'T WANT THIS #I AM NOT EVEN INTERESTING WHY ME #...i wonder if the same would be the case if a girl was into me #i do usually feel more comfortable around women than around men so i wonder what the difference would be #okay enough ranting in the tags #i am just going to scream more in my head #aromantic #asexual #aroace #cupioromantic

[pinacoladamatata]

drops rumarin fic in the middle of the night just because

#rumarin #but if rumarin was a parent #who's 17ish year old daughter is quickly realizing neither of them know what the fuck they're doing #bonding while bullshitting their way around skyrim #'he would not have kids' i hear some of you say #he like. literally will if you adopt them skyrim kids but anyway #have you considered that having a child gives him like unlimited things to complain about? #the feeding? the toys? the fact you can't take an infant to raid a bandit camp? #i mean. you *can* but not without everyone judging you #this is also such a funny concept to me bc like. on the one hand. your mother is dragonborn. hero of legend. awesome soundtrack. #meanwhile your dad is just like... some guy? #i am fucking vibrating in the corner over here i think this is funny as shit #''are you getting ahead of yourself by trying to make your tes6 character?'' #yes.

[lettersiarrange]

All of your "fun facts" are either outright brags, kind of weird and personal, or just kind of boring. That's why people don't like doing it.

I mean, I'm sorry you don't like sharing fun facts about yourself, that sucks esp when "fun facts" are a pretty common thing when getting to know people in a group setting.

IMO, the point of a "fun fact" is to help people get to know you a bit and to share something memorable about yourself so you stand out when getting to know a bunch of ppl at once. Sharing something weird or impressive is a good way to accomplish that.

I'm also confused about your logic here. So you're not allowed to say something cool/an accomplishment (that's bragging), you're not allowed to talk about your family (your # of siblings is apparently uncomfortably personal), god forbid you say something weird, and you can't say something normal because that's, apparently, boring. What exactly IS an acceptable thing to say? Kind of sounds like there's no correct answer.

Honestly, if someone hears me share a fun fact in a group setting and ends up thinking I'm weird/full of myself: cool. we've immediately established that we don't vibe. we don't have to awkwardly discover that 10 minutes into a conversation that's going increasingly downhill. we know our personalities clash and we've saved ourselves time. you don't have to vibe with everyone.

Personally, I'm not sitting around analyzing everyone's fun facts. I'll probably forget them in 10 seconds unless they're particularly cool/strange/unexpected. The point is just to get people talking and give them a chance to make an initial impression in a room full of strangers. Unless you say something wildly inappropriate, the worst case scenario is that you're forgettable, or people don't immediately vibe with 0.001% of your life. Pretty low stakes.

I don't know if I've ever initiated fun facts in a group setting, and it's certainly not a hill I care about dying on, but I do think it's pretty wild that you hate them so much that you felt compelled to tell me that mine suck. But, much like a fun fact, this short interaction gave us the opportunity to establish an initial impression of you: you're kind of rude!

Best of luck navigating the dreaded "fun facts" conversation in your future life. Hope you make a better first impression next time, lest strangers think of you unflatteringly for even a single moment.

#truly it is not that deep if your fact is boring #everyone will just forget 10 seconds later or think you're boring for a sec. ok. #if you're so afraid to say something interesting or unique for fear of being judged then feel free to tell us you have a dog #personally i am not looking for opportunities to think ill of others and am not lying in wait to form a negative opinion of them #based off of a single sentence they share about their life #i'm mostly just hoping someone says something that i can start a conversation with them about later #if you don't...ok. i'll have plenty of opportunities to get to know you better in whatever setting we're in. at least i feel introduced now #personally i am not super concerned about what other ppl think of me and am not analyzing the myriad of ways they might judge my personalit #i'm just being me and if that's not for you that's fine. we don't have to be besties. #now you have a quick snapshot of who *me* is at least and we can move on with our lives #shrug emoji #again i'm not here to say fun facts are the Best Icebreaker Ever #i'm just saying they're a fact of life so you should probably figure out a standard response #if you have nothing unique or interesting about yourself to share with strangers just share something boring #and try to listen for something to talk to someone else about later #but i just think it's sad to live your life in such fear of being judged that you can't find a single acceptable thing to share abt yoursel #you'll have time to make a 2nd impression. and a 3rd. and a 4th. don't get so hung up on the first. #asks #anon #anonymous #fun facts

[marklikely]

not going to lie them making the protagonist of anatomy of a fall bisexual was inspired

#like oh my god something that's on my mind constantly and i have never seen portrayed in any form of media before #the way bi women's sexuality takes forefront as a judge of their character bc they must all be treacherous and untrustworthy #and how many times I've watched bi celeb women get ripped to shreds and scrutinized on the public stage bc of that #avpost #im glad we're talking abt it lets talk about it... academy since you're all going to be watching this movie maybe you could issue apologies #movie diary #like god she gets so analyzed and picked apart and it just adds a whole new layer when the trial opens with her sexuality #and litigating every action she made towards another woman for some seduction tactic. #as if that's the single most important fact about her and its supposed to color the way she's viewed through the rest of the trial. #well. anyway the point of the movie is definitely that its ambiguous and from the snippets shown we can't possibly know the whole story #of their marriage of her as a person or of her husband's death #but i can't lie there was a certain high profile court fiasco in the last couple years that heavily affected how i felt toward the story. #so part of me was like free my girl she didnt do it . unless she did in which case he probably deserved it

[hazeism]

hi!! wanted to ask if you have any favorite books, either that you've read recently or of all time. Your prose is insane and I need to broaden my own vocabulary so if you have any book recs, fiction or nonfiction, I'd love to know :')

Hii :D ! ahaha, what a well-timed question; lately I've become the kind of guy who just really wants to talk about what people are reading, or are planning to read, and responding in kind, so thanks for giving me an opportunity to indulge that, haha. What a wicked invention the printing press was!!! (Also--thank you!! I'm glad my prose is to your taste. I'm happy !💕)

If you don't mind, I'll put a cut on this right away, because I know I'm very talkative, but let me put a TLDR above for all the novels/authors I mention here. Disclaimer also that I am kind of a dunce (I think you know this) so I like silly shit a lot of times . please be nice to me adfhbjkdg. :D

(No nonfiction also because I'm a frivolous and unworldly little sprite or something but if you want straight philosophy [which counts] come back and I'll do my Top Ten Epic Platonic Dialogues Compilation for you .)

TLDR: Read any UKLG you get your hands on, Cain by Jose Saramago, or any Saramago (though maybe not Skylight, which is not a good introduction to Saramago), very much enjoyed Sartre's The Age of Reason recently, Shadow & Claw or The Fifth Head of Cerberus by Gene Wolfe. If you feel like it, come off anon and tell me what you like, so I can give more tailored recommendations!!

Now if you're asking for favorites, like just the particular and arbitrary objects of my partiality, that stir my stupid little heart, the true answer is probably UKLG's The Farthest Shore, just because it is very special to me. I can't, of course, in good conscience, recommend the third novel of a six-novel fantasy series to someone (but of course read Le Guin, everyone should be reading Le Guin, it's dire for universal soteriology that we all read Le Guin; You'll probably get told to start with Left Hand of Darkness, and that's pretty solid. I liked The Lathe of Heaven as well. And if you read any Le Guin it doesn't hurt to pick up a copy of the Tao. I love the Tao man.)

Some friendlier recommendations, though:

José Saramago is someone I really consider peerless; There's no way to pick up a Saramago and not know who's written it. Cain is a bit drier, a bit more abrasive (almost accusatory, in that particular way you'll find in a Buddhist parable) and bleak than some other Saramagos, but it's one I like (perhaps for the trite reason that I like bucolic atmospheres and Classical antiquity as a setting) so it's the one I'll put forward.

Uhh, I've also been enjoying Sartre's Roads to Freedom lately, starting with The Age Of Reason. I'm partway through the second novel and umm... despite all the other things you could say about Sartre, lmfao, let it not be said that he is not a serious literary force. Serious is maybe the only word for it. Dire, too. I keep a commonplace book, so usually I take excerpts, but this was the first time in memory that I felt compelled to commit entire pages, ahah (I just took pictures though, fuck copying all that).

If you're itching for esoteric language, Shadow of the Torturer (as usually collected with Claw of the Conciliator in a single omnibus edition titled Shadow & Claw; the first of the give-or-take five volume Urth series) by Gene Wolfe will scratch you BLOODY. If you're particularly fussy, you might be irritated by your compulsion to Google, but I find it really makes the experience when you type in a word and the only results are "what the fuck did Gene Wolfe mean by this?" hahaha; Honestly, though, those kinds of complaints are borne from a lack of immersion, but you'll notice pretty quickly that the verbiage is a pretty crucial vehicle OF the immersion.

It may or may not become a commitment, though, if you like Urth enough to want to read through, so if you want Wolfe without the strings--though less of the exciting vocabulary, which is pretty necessarily constrained to Urth--I'd really highly recommend The Fifth Head of Cerberus (the novella OR the novel, I mean the former is volumized in the latter so just start it and if you feel like stopping then stop, haha). Mr. Terminal E is incredible but I scrape enough time out of my daily life to gush about his crazy literary density so I won't do it again here (you should ask my coworker, lmfao, who one time went "stop, hold on, hold on." because my face started getting really red while I was explaining to him some Wolfean gesture). If you read any Wolfe, and I mean ANY Wolfe, because his permatypes and his manipulations of them are endlessly interesting, feel free to come back and chat with me over it!!!

I guess I have to disclaim that my habit is mostly to pick through an author's corpus over a course of, usually, a couple years, and then sometimes I'll read things that will inform my understanding of the genre conventions or currents that the author is writing in (been enjoying Golden Age sci-fi recently)--it's not really as deliberate of a process as it sounds, but I think if you were to map my habits, that's the landscape of it. This means, though, that my reading is actually pretty narrow in scope, and I am not very well read or very knowledgeable in general (who is, in this economy) but it does mean that of the authors I do like, I can probably find the novel that'll work best for your taste.

If you want to come off anon, or I guess just leave another message, haha, (or if someone else wants to, idgaf, we're all friends here at tumblr user hazeism) describing the things you like or look for in a novel I can probably give you a more relevant recommendation. I've been dosing people up a lot lately tbh, it's like a parlor trick I've been doing; I have a conversation with someone and afterwards they'll have a PDF with a relevant Asimov story in their messages, hahaha. I can't help myself sometimes.

Come back anyway, though, if you read anything I talked about, okay? I want to hear about it 🥺

And alsooo (turning to face the audience) if anyone ever wants to put recs in my inbox (or my dms : ) slow replies though sorry I'm a hermit) I'd be happy to take 'em down. Can't guarantee I'll read them in a timely manner, or that you'll ever find out if/when I do, but it's good for me to leave my comfort zone.

#also not what you asked but a thing that i find always pertinent is the fact that synonyms are a scam #no two words ''mean'' and by mean I mean Convey Meaning Serve Function Perform Their Obligations In Continuity Or Discontinuity etc the sam #thing. if two words meant the same thing they would be the same word and even that's a bit of a trap (though i guess there is allure in the #potential scenario in which you are able to so precisely construct the surrounding matter of a sentence that you can get a word to repeat #its exact sensibility when being reused--usually when you are reusing a word you are manipulating it to throw light into an alternate facet #i think maybe it seems like i have an extensive vocabulary (i can't say if I do or not) because I trot out all manner of words in all manne #of contexts. under that pretense. or maybe I am a douchebag who wants to live in the world of forms who knows #sorry for all my me btw your first mistake though was looking at me and going Yeah I bet he has both a meaningful answer AND the ability to #convey it. like no sorry. you'll have to pick through the charnel field again. one million words curse #anonymous #ask #mine #bet you were waiting for me to tell you to read asimov well no. don't feel compelled to do that. i mean don't let me stop you (at the momen #I need them to live so I won't judge you but dhfkudh) i mean if you're currently in a place where reading is difficult (we'veall been there #then his mission of clarity makes his books sublimely digestible impossibly easy to read they're comfortable novels without being totally #unstimulating andthey can in fact be very stimulating if you give them the room to proliferate in your brain . but the thing about asimov i #the best things I find are Daneel (who is a scam and will ruin your life) and HIS PERMATYPEESS guys I love permatypes lately but it's hard #to get the texture of the Asimovian permatypes (muttering about the continuum from fisher through terens) and really luxuriate in them unle #ss you read one fucking million novels . so if you feel like doing that do it but if you don't. don't. #i've been getting so many asks lately (i mean. three. but before that another three!) and it's ruining my icy and aloof image . because i a #a motormouth. and now I'm going to stop typing!!!!!!!!!

[fire-atwill]

oh my god how do people finish this book loving the main characters I'm ready to throw hands with both of them constantly I don't care if Andrew keeps knives in his sleeves

#all for the game #genuinely i hate them #side characters are carrying this for me #neil needs to stfu like all the time babe stop pushing your unhealthy trauma response on others it's not your job to communicate for andrew #he's an adult he can tell his brother shit for himself #also you can't judge aaron for making an assumption based on the facts he had??? #like andrew never communicates and they're all just supposed to fucking guess??? #genuinely have to stop every three seconds to get pissed off but I am almost finished book two

[gideonisms]

grits teeth this anxiety is just an excuse to treat myself better that's all this is telling me. It's just the sign to go on more walks and make myself my favorite tea and read more. Things that WILL feel good and luxurious so help me

#going to win at self care something that is normal to want and possible to achieve #knowing for a fact i'm never anxious about the thing i think i am and i'll figure out 2 years from now what this was about #but still having random intrusive thoughts and judging myself for everything i've ever done is like. #guess i will just stew in this! until unspecified date my brain decides things are better. rolls eyes this shit again #>:/ #things that should feel fine do not feel fine i can't tell if they're really not or if i'm just having feelings at random #love to be the sherlock holmes of my own fucking life trying to figure out what's going on when the causes for this in the past have been #everything from actually horrible job to didn't read enough to too much noise in the morning to actual depression to not enough interaction #to too much interaction #like? give me a clue here #am i upset about insert event this fall or am i sad i got a b on a recent paper. hello?? #side note this is so funny i put more personal details into this recent paper bc the professor said we should #got a worse grade than my sterile infodumps. back to infodumping it is! experiment concluded #it was also 30 minutes late maybe that's why #she also just skipped grading a presentation i did? like just. wasn't on there #idk man i might just take the b for the class trying to decide if i care enough to email to be like #you have skipped. assignments

[raininyourblackeyes]

omg i have an ask that says "what's your favourite ancient civilization?" that i'm so anxious to answer actually because i don't think i'm qualified to have one...? like i did want to study archaeology but my plan was to catch up to fun stuff and detailed facts in uni once i was away from my family because that was an easier way to live since my dad only valued mathematics and physics as something i should've been spending my time on. so like to avoid being called stupid and useless and disappointment to him more than was necessary, my knowledge of history in general was restricted to basic stuff we learned in school and when i started uni i deleted most of that stuff from my memory because well turns out i won't need that and it's easier not to think of an alternate universe where the pandemic didn't happen and i got out, instead of remaining stuck with my family studying pharmacy... and even from the school stuff, we only focuesed on mesopotamia, persia, ancient egypt and then everything else was europe. so my knowledge of ancient civilizations beyong that is that they existed. i was planning to learn about as much suff as possible during that summer before starting university but that obviously didn't happen and now i feel so underqualified to actually answer that harmless little ask. like answering ancient egypt or ancient greece or ancient rome because i remember the most about them from school because we did study those the most sounds boring but i also literally would need to google english spelling and exact names for anything more fun that i remember. like my knowledge is that little. i shouldn't be getting this worked up over an ask lmao but i don't want to have this rant be an answer to it so i have to get it out before i eventually gather what little i remember and try to figure out an answer

#besties i had to get a license for judging skating for my dad to stop yelling at me for watching it #i read classics for school at home because those were acceptable books and usually discussed over dinner but any fantasy and sci-fi etc #had to be read on the bus to school (if i was going by the bus) so he wouldn't find out and deem me a waste of money and his time #i spent from august 2019 to february 2020 slowly explaining that studying archaeology abroad wouldn't be pointless and wouldn't be somethin #only people who can't get into any other faculty would study for him to reluctantly agree #to this day he is saying that the pandemic was actually perfect for me because i didn't throw away my life and potential #i was to my country's biggest museum thrice in my life. mandatory school visits. #okay but not to give you a wrong picture my parents really really aren't strict or anything #sure i do lie to my dad a lot but rn i am the only person who gets along with him at home #like yeah i have to be home by 22 at last but that's reasonable to me i see no reason to stay out that late #i have never been to a club sure but i also would rather eat my own arm than go to a club #yes they do ignore the fact that i hate drawing and painting in favour of boasting how talented i am and yeah my dad is complaining #how i should have studied architecture instead of pharmacy and i do hide the fact that i like to write from them but also #i did paint my cousin's book covers so it's kind of difficult for them to understand that i don't like that and writing is a silly hobby

[the-acid-pear]

I have yet to keep inspecting the sweepstakes, I need some air and food first, but I might as well share what I've been thinking about Mike today, because I heard of an interpretation saying Mike was a camera man for Spamton which ... Is very interesting. Like for me this makes me think of Mike as someone who admired Spamton, someone way smaller than him, definitely younger imo, who simply excitedly followed along with the orders given. I mean, up to a certain point. I mean this feeling is reinforced in the q&a when asked about Mike, that makes Spamton get very defensive, almost protective. In my eyes it almost creates this almost platonic familiar bond dynamic whatever. But like this is just a shot in the dark, bc what we know is, 3 lines, period. But if when chapter 3, 4 and 5 come out and Mike is there and I'm right about these things then I'm gonna feel like a god tbh.

#luly talks #not gonna put this one on main tag bc its a bit too vague and speculative and shit but im leaving rbs on in case some1 is like hm ur into #something here nemo im which case i will wag my tail and bat my eyelashes #but am i making sense anyway? #like just to make sure: my idea of mike is a camera man younger and smaller than Spamton who admired the guy #and spamton out of idk fondness bc he reminded him of his old self kinda took the guy under his wing in a way #that's why he's so protective and shit #although unrelated to this bc just. putting that there and NOT touching it but it's interesting what Spammy says right after name dropping #mike if you believe in the cameraman interpretation (which i saw in a video i then stopped watching bc i wanted to explore that shit myself) #bc he right after says to not believe anything you see on tv but this could easily imply mike did do his part but the editing team changed #shit. but its just very curious what involvement Mike could've had because. why would he be as targeted as he appears to be? #and what caused him to also abandone spamton? is mike even fucking alive? judging by Spammy's q&a dialogue you'd assume he is #but i mean that's official but not canon right so it's a bit hard to judge? #but Mike seems to be the only one he isn't really resentful towards for leaving him almost implying it wasn't Mike's choice? #i just can't wait to see more of this bc it's gonna reveal a whole side to this little puppet previously unknown #in fact i think that after breathing some air im gonna go look at the snowgrave neo fight flavor text and cry and piss and etc #I'm still not over spamton begs the audience to stop taking the furniture i can see the poor guy being evicted as he tries to plead not to #so vividly wugh. my poor little guy of questionable morals . . . 😢 #also don't get me started on the commemorative ring man what on earth is going on there.........

[hyuck-xix]

every time i show my mom any of my kpop fanart she just says "i really wish you'd branch out and draw something else for a change" 😐

#like wow mom thanks i was really proud of that one but i guess it means nothing to you 🧍 #i keep hearing stories like 'i took my mom to the nct dream movie and now she biases mark' or something #which is so cute and so sweet #i guess i just wish my family also did more than barely tolerate it #part of the reason I haven't come out to any of them yet #like if they judge me for liking a hugely popular music phenomenon then I can't imagine they'd be jazzed about me being queer #and i guess this is also just related to my mom trying to control me in general #like I'm in my 20s I'm an adult #and I've lived on my own for a while now #i know how to take care of myself #in fact in therapy I'm finally learning how to listen to myself and trust myself #which is something that my mom directly sabotages whenever I'm home #telling me she knows what's best for me and she knows me better than i know myself and that i could never survive without her #if you couldn't already tell I've just come home for the holidays and SOMEONE PLS GET ME OUT OF HERE #personal

[gorgraoroctoberforever]

How do people make friends?

All of the friends I made are people that thought I was lonely/mysterious and started talking to me. But I was literally just standing there.

I have never in my life made the first move to make friends and now I am paying the price by have shit memory when it comes to names.

#the fact that by first impression people tend to assume I am arrogant DOES NOT HELP AT ALL !!! #I AM SORRY YOU THOUGHT I WAS JUDGING YOU ! I THOUGHT I WAS STARING AT NOTHING :( #I can't talk to loudly too because apparently it sounds like I am being condescending ! I just want you to hear me better! I a so sorry! #AND MY TERRIBLE SOCIAL SKILLS ALSO TRANSLATE ON THE INTERNET BECAUSE HERE TOO I AM UNABLE TO TALK TO PEOPLE! :'( #just ranting #genuine question #I am soooooo grateful for the friends I have but I simply don't know how the fuck they became friends with me #social skills who ?

[italeean]

About what happened to @ kaerichan-yatta, she literally ruined her life. How can she be so stupid sometimes?

I already know she'll never come back unless she goes to someone who can treat high-level stupidity like hers

Okay, first things first, I don't like talking about someone else without them being present, but I'll reply to this ask to make things clear about Kaeri.

She went on a break, which means she WILL come back when she feels ready. But I personally can't understand what you meant when you said "she ruined her life".

Narcolepsy (which caused her allucinations) is a disease, and she TOOK her medications, but they didn't work. It's a process called habituation (if I didn't translate it wrong), which means our body develops a tolerance to substances we take often, like medicaments. It happened to me as well with my painkillers. That's what's PROBABLY happening to her, but I'm not sure because I'm no doctor and I don't know her irl. But in any case, if the medicaments don't work, how is it her fault?

About her asthma, how can this be her fault? Trust me, when I was a kid I got sick almost every two weeks (literally 2 times every month) so I can tell you that you can't really choose to not get sick... Also, to treat that condition she's having 5 rounds per day of a machine called aerosol. As a kid, since I got sick so often and most of the time it was bronchitis or sinusitis, I got treated with that as well and I can tell you for sure that 1 or 2 rounds every day are already a PAIN. So, once more, what is she supposed to do when these are the instructions her doctors gave her?

About her problem with that bully... I can't say she handled that situation in the best way ever, but I'm gonna tell you this: neither did I. I kept everything to myself, about how much I suffered psychologically as a kid for almost 10 YEARS (and I'm 19, so do your calculations) and I can say that it affected my life. I grew up with trust issues, nonexistent self-esteem, no self-confidence at all, and sometimes I even stop reaching out to my friends if they don't make a move first because I can't help but think they're sick of having me around. This is how much bullying can mess with you in the long run.

I don't know if you've been bullied and, if you have, how it affected you, but nothing gives us the right to judge someone else who going through this. Since I have experience in this matter, I gave her some advice, like talking to an adult to handle the situation properly since that bully likes to mess with her mental condition and sends her triggering videos that cause her even more hallucinations. And she promised me she will talk to her parents, and focus on her health and her studies. So I'm sorry but I can't understand why you called her stupid.

This is all I'm going to say, and I'm gonna specify that she talked about all of this in her posts, so I didn't invade her privacy or anything. Since you, anon, took your time to say such a mean thing about her, find some time to read ALL of this, okay? Thanks.

I sincerely hope I didn't offend you, I don't like getting into fights, but I won't deny that this ask upset me a lot. So please, restrain yourself from talking like this about my friends because there are a lot of other ways and tones to ask about people's condition. And I can't guarantee I'll be able to keep a civil tone next time, and I really don't want to show my actually angry side. I almost never do that in real life (my dad is the only exception but that's another story) and I don't want to do that here.

Have a good day

#parliamo un po' (let's talk a bit) #anon #i'm sure you're a good person who just expressed their ideas in a wrong way #but please think better about the words you use and make sure to know all the facts before judging someone else #i'm genuinely sorry if my reply offended you #but there are some things that just get a reaction out of me #and i can't do anything more than trying to control said reaction

[coffee-bat]

ok this is a pretty random vent but. it's so frustrating having body dysmorphia and KNOWING it but at the same time being unable to break through it. so you look at yourself and know your perception is warped but you can't help it and feel the need to ask someone else for an unbiased opinion but you can't do that bc it'd come off as look-at-me attention seeking. you feel me

#i feel helpless i feel like i NEED someone to tell me unbiased facts so i could use their words to help break through my dysmorphia #but the only people who see me/pictures of me are either friends or family. and they won't tell me what they really think. #friends wouldn't want to upset me and family are aware of my eating disorder and probably scared of telling me anything that could make it #worse #(aside from my grandma who says i've 'gained weight' my 'ass is too fat' and when i was in the hospital in august #called me only to ask 'have you lost weight yet'. everyone is mad at her for this but i don't know if it's bc she's wrong or bc she's #upsetting me with facts) #but if i were to ask for unbiased judgement publicly (like shit on r/amiugly) everyone would say i'm just seeking attention/lying about #actually needing mental help #i feel. helpless man #trapped in my own mind and everything i see in the mirror is twisted and i don't know what 'normal' is supposed to look like anymore and i #can't rationally compare myself to others bc the only person i judge for weight is myself #so i'll look at a person no matter the weight think 'they're gorgeous' but then look at myself and just not see the reflection in the same #objective way #vent #personal #body dysmorphia tw #fatphobia tw (in tags) #eating disorder tw #ask to tag