#you’re strong

[bbyyxoxo]

How to be more confident 💖

1) Be proud of the small things.

Those with confidence believe in their goals and are dedicated to them. On your journey to achieving greater confidence, come up with a goal or several small goals. You can even use a journal to write down these goals and track your progress, it really helps.

2) Do not judge others.

Judging others tends to mean that they have something you are lacking. Rather than judging, acknowledge that everybody is a human being just like you. Everybody is different. Every person has a gift that makes them unique that they can offer the world. What you give into the world, you shall receive. For example, say you were commenting mean things about someone on their post. Those things you were saying about that person will project onto you. The same thing goes for if you were commenting nice things about someone on their post, those compliments will project onto you. Consider that the person you were going to judge might also lack confidence and a compliment from you may help them feel more confident.

3) Lean to say no.

Telling people no can be healthy, especially if it’s something that you do not want to be a part of. You do not have to help your bestfriend move if you already have plans with your children. You do not have to feel guilty about telling someone you cannot make it to an outing or a party because you want to rest on your day off. Learn to say no to things you do not want to do with confidence and avoid using phrases like “I will think about it” or “I will get back to you.”

4) Speak up.

Confident people are not afraid to speak up and make their opinions known. If they have something valuable to share, they do so with confidence. They are not afraid to be wrong and see input from others as an opportunity to learn. Be confident about your opinions and don’t take being wrong about something personal. Instead, use feedback as a way to improve.

5) Get to know yourself.

For example when people are going through trauma, pstd, anxiety, depression, etc; most of the time they don’t realize they have it. You need to get to know yourself and realize that your bad habits and bad thoughts are not normal. The sooner you realize that these negative things are not normal the sooner you will seek help, go to therapy, and heal. I’m not talking about getting these diagnosis’s cured, i’m talking about healing. Healing is a big part of confidence and overall just makes you feel better about yourself and your environment. Getting to know yourself isn’t just about mental illness though. Do you really think you can change your habits, love yourself, and heal yourself if you don’t even know who you are personally? I recommend shadow work. You can buy the shadow work journal but if you’re on a budget you can look up “shadow work questions” on google or Pinterest then write down all your answers to those questions. This will help you get to know yourself better.

6) Admit when you are wrong.

Stop thinking that you know everything and thinking that you don’t need to learn anything. The most confident people and the most intelligent people are willing to learn from their mistakes. A part of confidence is learning more about the world, yourself, the people around you, etc. No you don’t have to be the smartest person in the room or know everything about everything but you need to learn from mistakes and be willing to learn more about things you don’t know much about.

7) Positive affirmations.

Rewire your mind with positive affirmations. This really works. Positive affirmations will make you feel so much more confident and make you feel more attractive. When you feel confident and feel attractive other people will think you’re confident and attractive. What you believe in your mind is the most powerful thing. Our brains have been hardwired through evolution to focus on the negative before the positive. So by saying positive affirmations or even listening to positive affirmations it will be good for you, it will help you. It is not a bad thing and it is not something crazy. It will rewire your mind. Even if you do not believe the affirmations you are saying or hearing at first, by doing it everyday in the mirror you will start to believe it.

8) Be authentic and humble.

Truly confident people are themselves authentically and do not try to fit in. They just are the way they are and do their own thing. They don’t try to be someone else. They are also humble. If you think you are better than somebody else you are 100% insecure. Humble people also do not need to be only surrounded by “popular people” or only people with “big names.” A humble person can sit down and have a good conversation with somebody homeless, and can have the same conversation with somebody popular. They don’t have to prove themselves to anybody, because they are confident. If you think about all these popular people or famous people who will only hangout with popular or famous people, one day they will have nothing. Popularity and fame are nothing. There will be a day where that popularity and fame will disappear and if that’s the only thing you surrounded yourself with you will have nothing. Fame and popularity are temporary in most cases. Do not take your value from being “popular” or “famous” For example, if you are popular or famous your life should not change whether you have that fame or not. Do not take your value from being “an online personality.” You need to be strong in yourself with or without. You love yourself and that’s all that matters.

#modivation #confidence #girl blog #girl blogger #this is what makes us girls #fashion #self love #self care #blogging #blog #quiet life #quotes #be yourself #glow up #be your best self #youre enough #love yourself #fyp #foryoupage #foryou #tumblr fyp #tumblr friends #i love you #you are loved #you’re strong #main character

[lovekawaiidoll]

i’m proud of you ‹𝟥

#you’re strong #i’m proud of you #sending love and light

[jongrub]

Stand Proud. You’re Strong .

Those fights were truly epic.

#jjk illustration #digital fanart #jjk fanart #jujutsu kaisen toji #sukuna #megumi fushiguro #jogo jjk #toji fushiguro #you’re strong

[pattysplaceofplaces]

Whatever you went through, you survived it. Mental or physical, internal or external. You’re still here with us and that says so much no matter how weak you think you are. 

Things might not get better in 2023 but that’s okay because you have made it so far already. You are not alone, you’ll find a way.

You are you and you lived another year. That’s worth celebrating. 

#2023 #You did it #im proud of you #You’re strong #youre worth it

[darkenedrose154]

If you saw who you were before, would you recognize yourself?

Probably.

If they saw you, would they know?

Maybe.

Or maybe, the world has changed you so much, that broken shell looks perfect next to you.

Nah.

You’re the perfect one, those aren’t cracks, they’re a story. You’re not empty, you’re waiting to be filled. You’re not faded, you’ve grown. What are scars? Proof you survived. So what if you made them yourself?

That means you can outlast yourself.

Take a moment. Appreciate how far you’ve come.

You’ve got this.

It gets better.

#you’ve got this #you’re strong #mental health #scars mean you survived #I stabbed myself with a fork today #nothing can stop you #it gets better

[violentlywriting]

Push through; It’s called painful, not fatal.

#quotes #pain #motivation #you’re strong #keep going

[adayinthelifeofafat]

Hey guys! This is an introductory post. My name is Viv, and my blogs are going to be about day to day experiences as a bigger girl in a world where being big, is frowned upon.

A little about myself; my name is Vivian and I live in a small town in the middle of nowhere. I’m twenty seven years young, and I’m a CEO of my own candle business, and a professional author.

I’ve always had weight issues since I was a young girl. Ever since then, it’s always been the same thing. “You’re so pretty for a big girl.”, “you’re so athletic for a big girl.”, “you really shouldn’t eat that sweet heart it’s not good for you.”

It’s been something I’ve heard my entire life, even before school. I’ve battled many eating disorders in my life, and I’m still battling. This blog has been made for those who experiences/experienced the same things. So you know you’re not alone.

#first blog #introductory post #fatty #self loyalty #self love #healing #road to recovery #not alone #fat to fit #fat life #self improvement #self impowerment #you are beautiful #you are a badass #you are home #yourenotalone #you’re strong #you are valid

[ace-no-isha]

rewatching one piece Again and luffy told sanji “dying isn’t how you repay kindness!” it took so much for that to sink in for sanji. he tried dying for zeff at the battle with don krieg at the baratie. he’s struck down by enel. he tried to jump in front of zoro before kuma. he sold himself to big mom. he sees his life as so worthless for too long until luffy comes to save him. he’s one of the wings of the pirate king. he’s a beloved son to a fighting cook. he is worth so much and has a home in this world and it took his whole life to figure it out. it’s insane how much luffy can heal people’s deepest traumas with his love

#oh sanji #you are so important to me #my damsel in distress trying to be strong #you are so incredibly strong and beautiful but your weaknesses were almost fatal #i’m glad you’re still here and learned your place in the world #there is always room for you #one piece #luffy #luffy one piece #isha speaks #monkey d luffy #monkey d. luffy #mugiwara no luffy #one piece luffy #op luffy #mugiwara #sanji #op sanji #sanji op #one piece sanji #sanji one piece #black foot sanji #kuro ashi no sanji

[xzazu2002]

<3

#technoblade #wilbur #wilbur soot #it’s 2am in the morning #but i’ve i’ve been wanting to draw this scene for so long #so here you go my secret tumblr friends #no more delay #stay strong guys #hope you’re good #take care of yourselves! #love ya! #*salutes* #sketches #mcyt #my art #dsmp fanarts

[traumasurvivors]

A lot of people focus on saying how strong you are. And they mean well. And sometimes it’s the reminder we need.

But sometimes… it’s the exact opposite of what we need to hear.

So, here’s a reminder if you need it. It’s okay to be weak. It’s okay to need to take a break. It’s okay to be tired. It’s okay to crumble. Your worth does not change. It’s okay if you don’t want to be strong. You are worthy whether you’re weak or strong.

#also #people will say you’re strong for even existing #but it just doesn’t resonate with us #and that’s okay! #you don’t have to feel strong or identify as strong #my post

[all-lee24]

Young Malenia doodles + headcanons

((A.K.A Malenia as Miquella always sees her even after she grew up and became a fierce warrior))

#elden ring #sweet and shy Malenia transforming into a deadly warrior #something something metamorphosis reference #anyway I think that the irony is that Miquella is cursed with eternal youth but actually his big bro genes are so strong that he also #just permanently associates Malenia with her baby self #she’s a grown adult with 5 kids like ‘bye Miq I’m going to war’ and he’s like ‘huh!? what!? you can’t do that you’re twelve!’ #Malenia is the baby to him #he’s an old man

[neverforgetyouremyfavorite]

holding paul matthews in my hands like a bug or perhaps a small frog

#he is SO #love that man #the guy who didn't like musicals #tgwdlm #paul matthews #starkid #if you’re on here actively watching the hyperfixation do fuckin donuts in my brain no you aren’t #been awhile since my last STRONG hyperfixation im thriving

[sp8sexual]

do not let the phrase “fresh baked” trick you. put your cakes in the fridge. ice them after they’ve cooled. assemble your cake at touchable temperatures. leave leftovers in your fridge. let the flavors mingle together. eat leftover cake 3 days later. 3 days later leftover cake is always better than cake straight from the oven.

#also shape your cakes when they’re cooled. i know the temptations of warm cutoffs is strong but you’re gonna have to trust me on this one.

[redhotarsenic]

@nowfallc PICTURE!! FOR YOU!! PLEASE TAKE IT!! <3

#agh I’m so so nervous but I’m big and strong and you all agree with me <3 #plus it’s nearly 6 in the morning and I pulled an all nighter to finish this. which I’m sure is not helping my stress levels At All! #ALSO! #I’m gonna do another one! #you will NEVER know which picture so get fuckin ready HELLLLLLLLL yeah!!! #<- as for those of you who were Present when I said which picture I was gonna do. ummmmm. shut up! say nothing!! #ALSO…..2!! #wanted to share how I did the scuff marks cuz I felt like it. and also I said I was gonna do it. anyway! #what you wanna do is get a real textured brush. ideally something pencil adjacent #and a mid grey color #and with LIGHT pressure you follow the edges of whatever metal bit you’re rendering #you can go a little heavier on the corners if you desire #from the corners you take a smudge tool and gently blend in the opposite direction of the corner if that makes sense #and then take an eraser (IDEALLY one that’s the same as your rendering brush) #and gently erase back towards the corner. but with a much smaller brush size #add little scratches and pick marks as you please #and that’s it #you know maybe this would make more sense with an actual diagram I’m so so bad at explaining stuff agh #I’m gonna shut the hell up now 🙏 #trigun #nicholas d. wolfwood #trigun stampede #trigun fanart

[troubldteenz]

what if puzzlevision took over smg4 and used him as a sort of vessel? What if puzzlevision used smg4 as a familiar figure to trick his friends??? :3 ??

#smg4 #art #digital art #smg4 fanart #smg4 puzzlevision #TEHEH #too bad you’re not as strong as the audience

[thranduel]

some thoughts about astarion because i'm tired of the internet reducing him to one thing

when bg3 came out in early access, astarion was always seen as the extremely flirty, confident guy who enjoyed sex (or so we thought) and spoke about it like it was his favourite thing. he was also kinda marketed as the “sexy vampire”, so you can understand why many people saw him that way based on the little amount of content we had. even while playing act 1 and act 2, many players still might think of him like that because he does have a very charismatic personality and he asks to sleep with you very early on, so it just automatically makes you think he’s genuinely happy doing that and being totally serious.

BUT!!!!!!! we end up finding out later on that’s NOT the case and it was all part of a plan to seduce us in order for him to gain protection. he opens up about his past and his trauma and how he was forced to use his body to lure people back to cazador. he struggles with intimacy and relationships in general because of this. that’s why i really hope that people stop reducing him to “hot sexy vampire that loves flirting and having sex with everyone” when that is not who he is, he’s literally traumatised because of sex due to being forced into it and he’s slowly trying to heal. he’s also so much more than just “the hot vampire”, ya know? if you actually put in the effort to get to know him, you will see who he truly is underneath and he has many loveable traits to appreciate.

you may not see the “soft” side of him very often because he hides it, but it’s there!! one thing i noticed that really stood out to me was that when i gave food to an orphan in act 3 and he approved. back when you first met him, he probably would’ve done the opposite or had no reaction at all. i also saw a clip of someone trying to romance karlach and astarion and he literally told tav to choose karlach over him because he can see that karlach loves her. he said normally an arrangement would work for him but after everything karlach has been through, he doesn’t want to get in the way or see her hurt. letting tav go is also hard for him as well but he still thought about someone else. he could’ve whined or been possessive or jealous but he didn’t do that at all. where are all those people who reduce astarion to “the guy that flirts and sleeps with everyone” now? seriously. that’s not what he does, and when he was forced into it by cazador, he was trying to survive, he didn’t do it for his own pleasure. it’s not a “hot” personality trait of his, it’s literally trauma. and because he did it so much, he got used to it, and that resulted in him disassociating and feeling empty.

apparently if you ask him to join you and sleep with the drows at the brothel (something i will never make him do in my playthroughs), he only says yes because he struggles to say no. but he disassociates. and if you’re in a high approval relationship with him and he loves you, he will feel safe enough to express his feelings and say he’s not comfortable. this happens before you fight cazador. i’m not sure if he gives the same response after, but either way, if he joins in, he will always disassociate and it’s not something he wants to do despite what he may say.

that being said, it’s obviously still okay to appreciate his beauty and attractiveness, because he is very beautiful. he appreciates it and even likes being called beautiful. calling him “hot” and “sexy” isn’t a bad thing either, we know he can be and i'm sure he knows it too! it’s just annoying when people act like that’s ALL he is and they don’t even mention anything else about his character. the love scenes are beautifully done too (i personally prefer the second one after you’ve stopped him from doing the ritual, because that’s the one where he decided he truly wanted it and felt safe and comfortable because he genuinely loves you), and i actually would’ve been fine if they didn’t have any scenes like that at all because it’s totally understandable and valid if he didn’t feel comfortable, but i just hope that people don’t take things too far and over-sexualise him just because of how he appeared to be in the first half of the game and the way he’s often marketed on social media. and yes i know he’s fictional and nothing on the internet is going to hurt his feelings!!!! it’s more about the fact that he canonically has sexual trauma and many people still say really disturbing stuff even AFTER they find out about that, and it just makes me uncomfortable to think that people are okay with treating someone like a sexual object especially when they've said they're traumatised and it makes them uncomfortable. idk if this makes sense 😭

but yeah he doesn't want to flirt and sleep with everyone as i've seen people claim. and if in an alternate universe he did, and he did it on his OWN terms, and the other people he had relationships with enjoyed it too, then good for them! absolutely nothing wrong with that if there's consent, respect and honesty. however, that's not the case with what happened with astarion, because 1. he was forced into using his body WHEN HE DID NOT WANT TO and 2. he misled people and lured them to a miserable fate. it's so horrible and devastating for everyone involved. sex was never something fun for him, and it certainly isn't a "personality trait" of his. it was a survival tactic. he was forced to. he didn’t want to.

obviously when he becomes more comfortable, then it's totally understandable to get excited when he flirts and shows physical affection. he can be so charming, funny, sweet and romantic and i love that. it’s so beautiful to see him heal, genuinely find comfort in someone for the first time and experience intimacy that he feels ready and comfortable for. he deserves to love and be loved on his own terms instead of being forced. but again, he is so much more than the guy we were introduced to at the beginning. the internet just sees one thing and sticks with it but i really hope people start to actually appreciate him for who he is and the complexity of his character.

aaaaand i just had to leave this here <3

#astarion #baldur’s gate 3 #bg3 #sorry for rambling i’ve just been very emotional about him recently 😭 #also i hope people remember that even if he NEVER EVER wanted to have sex again he is 100% valid #he does not have to change or force himself to feel a certain way #especially after everything he’s been through #and if you think he does then you’re gross. he doesn’t owe anyone ANYTHING #anyways #when he kept apologising for not sleeping with tav i wanted to cry #there is literally a scene where if you tell him halsin is interested in you he says it’s ok to go to him #but then he gets concerned and asks if it’s because he hasn’t slept with you for a while #and i wanted to cry #he should NEVER have to feel guilty for that #honestly the only reason why i think he might eventually feel comfortable with sex again is because -> #in act 3 after his genuine love confession after you help him defeat cazador he initiates it himself #and it feels like it’s something he truly wants after developing a strong emotional bond with someone for the first time #and i think that’s really beautiful that he chose to do it on his own terms when he felt ready #but also #for a while i wasn’t sure if he was repulsed and uncomfortable by sex in general and hated it entirely #or if he only feels comfortable after he develops a strong emotional bond #the only reason i think the second one now is because of what happened in act 3 #but regardless whatever it is i just want him to feel safe and comfortable and happy #my posts