#you're allowed to be upset but

[xoxoemynn]

I know it shouldn't surprise me, but it's frustrating af to step outside the fandom and read about OFMD's cancellation on more general entertainment sites and see the majority of reactions be along the lines of "oh well it was probably Taika being over it, he always gave me the ick anyway so, whatever," and then often devolving into comments about his personal life, or conspiracy theories that can be disproven if you use your brains for 30 seconds or maybe step outside and touch grass idk idk.

And this isn't me saying "omg how could you dislike Taika" bc truly unless you're being racist or antisemitic (which, let's be real, many are), I don't give a fuck what you think about him.

But the point remains that if you have a show that is all about celebrating queer joy and finding yourself later in life, that has a diverse cast of characters in terms of race, ethnicity, sexuality, and body type, that was WRITTEN by a diverse group of writers, that is receiving praise from critics and fans alike, that from all reports was one of Max's most successful shows despite them doing next to no promotion the first season, that had two successful seasons and the creator is on the record saying he had a plan to tell the entire story in three, and it gets CANCELED.

I don't give a fuck how you feel about Taika, or how you feel about OFMD. You SHOULD be concerned about that. Because your show is next.

And before you come at me with "it's just a show, have you seen what's happening in the world?" Yeah. I fucking have. And the arts matter. They have always mattered. It's how we've shared stories and fostered communities and passed down what's important to us as a society. And they've brought us joy. And I don't know about you, but I think we could all do with a fuckton more joy in our lives.

This is absolutely a huge loss, and unfortunately it's not going to be the last as streaming services continue to go deeper in crisis. If that doesn't concern you, idk, go enjoy yourself watching season 47 of The Bachelor.

#also truly if you're going to come on here and immediately start spouting the very nonsense I described above #kindly get fucked #and then do something productive with your life like calling your representatives or donating or going to a protest #you being a dick to people who are upset isn't going to do anything #your smug self-righteousness isn't going to save the world #the world sucks and people should be allowed to experience joy by watching a show where they feel represented #and anyway if you try it on this post or in my inbox I won't be engaging I'll just be blocking #so you're wasting both of our times #byeeeee!!! #ofmd

[azulashengrottospiano]

while playing the masquerade event i was hit with the realization that the students from nrc are quite literally the terrible tourists rollo was talking about. and im almost CERTAIN they've been just as bad every other event. like you have ruggie who was about to steal a shops hard earned money, you have epel and deuce that were saying their bread wasn't special before even trying it, you have ruggie AGAIN saying that the historic toys they make are just chunks of wood and don't have any value. these people suck and should not be permitted to travel. all they're doing is making a nuisance of themselves.

#auburn's rambles <3 #twst #twisted wonderland #disney twisted wonderland #glorious masquerade #not to be an asshole but it's starting to piss me off #like what happened to ENJOYING a trip with an OPEN MIND to EXPERIENCE THE CULTURE #instead of voicing all of your doubts and insults to your TOUR GUIDE while the shopkeepers are RIGHT THERE #nrc is so fucking annoying when they travel #and before anyone gets upset im not saying these characters should be cancelled or that you're not allowed to like them #im saying they're being rude to the people of fleur city

[possamble]

I have so many thoughts about the Touden family backstory comic portraying insanely realistic complicated family dynamics and the generational trauma that can come from hereditary neurodivergence (and the love that still persists in spite of the hurdles) but also like. Marcille's reaction to Falin off-handedly apologizing for her disappearance is a lot.

is it fine, Marcille?

is it really? are you sure?

#marcille donato #falin touden #dungeon meshi #dungeon meshi manga spoilers #i want to shake her like a chew toy. #girl your best friend and possibly the first person you opened up to since your dad died just disappeared and went no contact for four year #finding out that she had a good reason doesn't mean you're not allowed to be upset about it #she's literally screwing up her face like she's trying to keep the Bad Feelings out of her brain i hate it here #dunmeshi panel meta #marcilleposting

[sergle]

FOREWARNING FOR GROSS-OUT SKIN CLOSEUP SHIT DON'T YELL AT ME FOR SHOWING YOU has anyone else gotten this really weird phenomenon on youtube. I swear every algorithm on every website is actively and purposely worse now. Where you'll be scrolling through vids after searching for something (I was looking at crochet stuff) and SANDWICHED IN THE MIDDLE OF ACTUAL SEARCH RESULTS... YOU KNOW. LIKE THINGS RELEVANT TO THE KEYWORDS I TYPED

are a couple of completely out of left field SHOCK VALUE VIDS. like to intentionally be alarming. drama vids and things you're enticed to click on bc they're upsetting, and deep deep closeups on zits. what the fuck is going on. Sandwiched between videos about GRANNY SQUARES. crack? is it crack we're smoking????

#are you telling me I can search for crochet patterns and be fed videos of pimple popping and news about anorexic influencers? #THESE ARE NOT ADS!!!! they're just IN THERE. I have ublock I've got all that stuff. these are just completely irrelevant videos #in the search results after I typed like. granny square patterns. or something really basic like that #NASTY shit #and I know it's not the algorithm clocking me bc I can tell when they do that. but I hate hate hate pimple popping videos #so that's not gonna be it. #when mr. algorithm gets me I can smell it. because guess what. nail polish. it's always nail polish. #and I don't watch upsetting shit abt the starvation girl or anything either. and I don't follow drama clickbait channels #WHAT IS THIS. WHERE AM I. #why did they make me look at this!!!! #sergle.txt #you're not allowed to yell at me btw I gave you a warning. which was more than I got. we're in this together now. #i'm not sure what to tag this as bc if i tag it as body horror then ppl will bark at me bc zits are natural. is it natural to get #a camera this close to big irritated holes and boils on your face. lesions. cysts. is that natural. are we friends #do i need to be close enough to smell you. put my eyes directly into the holes in your face

[valyrfia]

i'm like n1 lecfosa but i have to say some of the anons i've seen in other people's inboxes because they think that charles could've driven better today or that carlos deserved the win....have not been it. if you have an opinion to say, please just post it on your own blog and put your own name to it rather than going to terrorise and spit on someone who doesn't agree with you while retaining the luxury of hiding behind an anonymous icon. or even better, if you're upset, stick to the blogs that you know share your opinions.

#do not give the lecfosi a bad name we may not be particularly ethical people but we are fair #bonus points if you get that reference #but seriously guys......i was as upset as the next person but at the end of the day it's one race and charles is still p2 in the standings #with a suzuka upgrade coming that will make the front pointier #and carlos did win after getting his appendix out literally two weeks ago it is an impressive narrative people are ALLOWED to be impressed #blogs you enjoy can have differing opinions from you and that's okay! #but if you're upset about it there is no reason to send those with differing opinions a barrage of “CHARLES DESERVED BETTER DON'T YOU SEE” #like do i think charles deserved better. yeah. am i going into the inboxes of people happy for carlos and taking that away from them. no #if you have something to say that could be controversial put your name to it #like i'm fully aware my opinions are not everybody's cup of tea and that's okay #i have mutuals i really enjoy content from celebrating carlos and that's also okay end of the day it's a SPORT #if you come into my askbox and tell me that charles leclerc is washed i will be snitty because that's my territory #but the beauty of tumblr is you can curate your space - USE THAT BEAUTY #okay rant over just a psa i have been a little upset seeing some ppl i like content from get upset

[moghedien]

wow guys, she really is the best water carrier ever

#you're all allowed to hunt me for sport now #egwene al'vere #wheel of time #wot on prime #wot show spoilers #i thought of the best water carrier ever thing when I was watching the epsiode and was IMMEDIATELY upset #and then immediately afterwards wanted to make everyone else upset

[dracolineinnit]

I wanted to make a post on here since I had someone in my dms asking for my thoughts on as they put it, the Wilbur soot 'allegations'

So, to start off with, It's not allegations, he did abuse shubble, and I think it is such a terrible thing for a human to do,

It's really important to stand with victims and not give the abusers a voice,

I think we should support Shelby and Wilbur soot is a terrible human being who made a community on lies on what he presented himself as online.

And their response was in support of him so I'm putting out these pieces of undeniable evidence and please everyone go watch Shelby's vod, support her and support other members of the community, I know this is upsetting to us as well,

He lied to everyone and Shelby is the one who deserves all the support but you're allowed to need personal support from those around you,

Wilbur soot was a man I looked up and adored,

Please watch shubbles vod,

There is quite a lot of undeniable evidence of witnesses stating they saw and some were also a victim of his actions

I stand with Shelby, she is articulate and brave and using the experience to give others advice about the signs

I understand really well it's hard to say he's a terrible person, he's been a very important and happy thing for me for the past year, but I don't believe there is any reason to support him after this.

He wasn't a good enough human to deserve the wonderful community he inspired.

Here is some of the evidence I have (Tumblr image limit), if you want to know more, feel free to message me, and please go and do some research and remember,

It's not about giving voice to abusers,

It's about standing with victims.

Even if the abuser was your hero.

Stand with Shelby. 💛

And all the other people he hurt, the ones I know of being Niki and rue, there may be others, please feel free to reblog and add more information, I want this to be informative to anyone who stumbles across looking for truth and evidence and would like to compile as much as possible.

Okay that's all, goodbye, I'll write a separate post on how I'll go about my art and writing with him.

#wilbur soot #wilbursoot #wilbur #fuck wilbur soot #shelby support #shelby grace #shubble #tw abuse #support victims #wilbur soot allegations #evidence #please keep yourself safe #and remember we are all a community and can help one another #everyone reading this have a good day and take care of yourself #you're allowed to be upset #sending love #💛 #mcyt #Youtube

[gorillawithautism]

i share my thoughts expecting to engage in genuine discussion. instead i get people misinterpreting my words, dismissing my feelings, and generally being dickish about it. thanks. very helpful.

#swingset #'yall i think it's okay to just take the win' i never said that wasn't allowed. i said i (me) (one person) (not talking about anyone else) #(literally just me) am having a hard time being optimistic. not that it's a fucking crime to be optimistic about it #just that i PERSONALLY am having difficulty being anything but cynical #and i straight up acknowledged that i was already in a bad mood which was affecting my perception #'im sorry but' <- top ten ways people start sentences when they actually think you're the fucking problem #i just wanted to share my thoughts why is that suddenly bad #why is it bad for me to have an emotional response #go fuck yourself #'i think there's better ways to focus our energy than being upset' DOES THAT FUCKING MEAN IM NOT ALLOWED TO BE UPSET ANSWER QUICKLY #i hate you

[drinkcrywrite]

ok so I keep seeing people saying they hope coach ben doesn't die because they don't want a gay character killed off and eaten, which I totally get, but I also feel like it's a little bit of the whole "any killing of a gay character is burying your gays" which disregards things like genre and what story they're actually in.

coach ben, like jackie, has been doomed from the start. we knew from episode one that he wasn't making it out of the woods, even before we knew he was gay. he is there in service of the girls' stories, and him happening to be gay, to me, is just about him being a well-rounded character. who, like jackie and the pit girl, needs to die

#yellowjackets #yellowjackets spoilers #ben scott #i don't mean this as a slight towards anyone who feels this #because we are all obviously entitled to our feelings #and it can get tiresome to only see yourself represented when you're there to be miserable and then die #but i also feel like complaints about any gay character dying end up doing part of what they're complaing about #which is reducing a character to their sexuality #also he's not the only queer character #if he was i would also be upset about him dying but seeing as we still have tai van and simone #it allows him to be more than just the 'gay representation' #they didn't make him gay because he's gonna die #he's gonna die and he happens to be gay #again i hope this makes sense

[writterings]

procastinating at work but here's my philosophy for today: it's okay to hate a behavior in someone else but also understand that this behavior does not make them a bad person. like i HATE when i'm venting or talking about a serious problem i have and then the person i'm talking to starts trying to relate by talking about a similar experience they've had. like absolutely hate it. make me feel like the focus is being taken off me and it genuinely is in some ways, regardless of your intent. yeah, i understand that's your way of trying to comfort me -- but that's not the way i need or want to be comforted, and that's what matters in a situation where i'm coming to you to be helped.

and that's okay! like. no one is in the wrong here unless i have explicitly asked you to support me in a different way and you're intentionally refusing, or if i lash out at you when i could just disengage. it just means you're not a person i should go to for help when talking about my problems. we can still be friends, you and i can probably support each other in different ways, but we're just incompatible in this regard. and that's like....okay. it's okay to be incompatible with people.

#i need to stop going on instagram sooooo many hot takes on there piss me the fuck off #ok going on a rant here but like. #soooo many 'neurodivergent' posters on there are like 'neurotypicals suck bc they dont realize im being comforting when i talk abt myself #when they're upset!!!' and its like my friend i can understand your plight but like #1. this is an easily changable behavior #that tbh does not require much change on your part aside from just like. not talking. #2. the so-called neurotypicals in ur life are allowed to have boundaries and accomodations to their needs and ur currently not doing that #3. not every neurodivergent person does that. and some also hate it like the so called neurotypicals. #4. why are you prioritizing your emotions when a loved one comes to you for help or comfort. are u just a dick. #this has nothing to do with you being neurodivergent i think you're just self centered lol #like genuinely if you do this you are not a bad person. it's not a bad thing. i thinnk im just mad at the people who insist #that it's the only way they can ever try to comfort someone and they act like asking them to change this behavior is ableist #and if they genuinely can't change this behavior then fine!! like they i wont go to you with my problems #and that's also fine #but yeah anyways these tags are so different from the message of the post lol but anyways just needed to rant

[runawaymarbles]

I do not understand Chimney haters. (Nobody attempt to explain Chimney haters to me, I don't want to understand them.)

#chimney Han #like I guess if you're coming at it from the perspective of #everyone who has ever made Buck feel bad no matter what is bad #then sure. however I am a cool and sexy person who understands that Buck can in fact do wrong and people are allowed to be upset #op #911 show

[amphibious-thing]

I wish fandom would learn what queerbaiting and bury your gays actually mean and the history behind these terms instead of throwing out accusations whenever a piece of queer media doesn't go the way they wanted. You can criticise a piece of queer media without accusing it of being homophobic.

#OFMD doesn't fit the bury your gays trope but you're allowed to be upset that Izzy died #WWDITS isn't queerbaiting but it might be shipbaiting and you're allowed to be annoyed by that #also queer coding has a specific meaning #I keep seeing people call textually queer characters queer coded and like??? #not history #idk I might delete this later

[tinytowns]

this loss has been felt across the community + you are allowed to grieve even if you did not stan the group.

#important. #i feel like i've seen a lot of people say they feel bad about being upset because they didn't stan #and i don't know. #this loss goes beyond what fandom you belong to. #you're allowed to feel sad.

[una-hive5]

When a women safe space get invaded by man, I feelings like k*lling myself.

#i was in prayer room for woman and a dude came in as if you're allowed to ca #*enter #THIS IS WOMAN ZONE F*CK OFF #I WANT TO SLEEP IN PRAYER ROOM FOR MUSLIMAH BUT THIS GUY JUST CAME IN AND THE WORKER WHOM IS A WOMAN JUST ALLOW HIM IN??? #THE F*CK??? #I'm still pissed #I'm still upset #I'm still mad #i hate everything #i was taking off my hijabis and laying on the floor #is this my fault you ask? #F*CK NO #IDC THAT MAN IS NON MUSLIM THEY STILL CAN'T SEE ME NOT WEARING HIJAB #f*****ccccckkkkkkk #rosa rambles

[welcometogrouchland]

I think as much as it can be important for marginalized traits to be portrayed positively in fiction due to the long history of them being villainized/portrayed as undesirable, I also think that like. If it's not in character for a character to love their marginalized traits, or if it's not befitting the tone of the story for people to be shining beacons of self love no matter what else is happening then like. Maybe that's also bad. Not as representation but as writing. Which also matters

#ramblings of a lunatic #if characters having complex or insecure relationships to their marginalized traits is tiring for you or is upsetting #then 100% you're allowed to not like seeing that in fiction...but that doesn't mean it's a bad writing move #esp if it tells us more about the character or the society they live in or the themes #sometimes characters have insecurities about x trait and that's not for you. but that's a personal dislike #we have got to stop treating representation like one day we'll find a one size fits all format

[lambsmain]

everyone in the ofmd fandom is out here pretending that season 2 was good or something?

#honestly its okay i just mourned that show so long ago that seeing people do it now feels weird #but i'm sorry that its over for those upset by it of course #like pls dont take this personally you're allowed to feel bad etc