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I was called out, linked here. I think it's a fairly important read, especially for more vulnerable folk who might fall into the orbit of Woke Dudes What Have Good Politics™, and the kind of toxic power dynamics that might occur in such interactions.

Just to clarify: I don't think OP is wrong, and I do not condone any sort of behavior where you go and make trouble in their space.

I want to say thanks to all the folks who've pointed out my hurtful behavior and all who've checked in with me since the call out. My behaviors are a life-long work in progress of learning and doing better.

To those who have felt unsafe from the behaviors I've displayed, I sincerely apologize for the fear and uncertainty I caused. I'm going to be working on my personal boundaries and behavior as I never want others to feel unsafe from me. In whatever you do, I hope you stay well and safe.

The rest of this post is under the cut to spare the dash.

I've been taking some time off and will continue to introspect and work on some of the more toxic behaviors that have been been pointed out to me. And I'm focusing more on stuff related to family, my day job, and trying to survive this whole global pandemic thing.

I don't expect easy or fast results, truth be told, but addressing toxic habits and behaviors is something that I expect I'll have to work on all my life. Off the top of my head, I can see the implicit need for assumed emotional labor and some of my messed-up expectations with regards to the line between platonic and romantic attraction that need to be addressed, as well as respecting and honoring boundaries between me and others, specifically between folks younger and more vulnerable than me. These aren't easy or painless lessons to have, but they're vital, and I hope to keep doing and getting better.

I've said it once, and I'll say it again: If you've been subject to any of my toxic behavior and have been made to feel unsafe or threatened, I'm sincerely, deeply sorry that I have made you feel this way. Intentional or not, it can be painful to realize that someone you trusted may be unsafe, and doubly so if you have had a history of trauma and abuse. I'll be working on trying to unlearn the toxic behaviors and expectations that caused this, but I don't expect anything more from you, other than you be safe and well for you and those you care about.

Another reiteration: I really want to thank the people who have reached out to me, for urging me to fight the executive dysfunction caused by my anxiety when I first learned about the call out, to bury myself in work and avoid this topic altogether. In facing the callout, I've had time to listen to the people affected by this who spoke up, and have had time to reflect. I hope I'll find ways to be better.

For those who reached out, I know how often this act is a thankless task with uncertain pay-off, but the fact that you believe that I can do better means a lot to me. I'll try my best to live up to your expectations.

If you took the time to read this until the end, thank you for your attention. Stay safe out there.

#mea culpa #callout #toxic masculinity #power imbalance #programming notes #personal

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#kkkapitalizm

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bruce “i have 7 phds” banner

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hot take: the capitalist cultural construction of “humans are naturally greedy and self-centered” is just an attenuated version of the feudal christian construction of “humans are inherently sinful”; both are designed to make people internalize cultural problems and externalize morality.

#kkkapitalizm #lies we tell ourselves

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my favorite thing about welcome to night vale is how FAST it goes from “funny-cool” to “fucking creepy”. best example i can think of is in the episode ‘homecoming’ at this part

like the sudden jarring “wait what” is always omnipresent i love that so much

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Bottom academy vs top academy

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Be excellent to each other. https://www.instagram.com/p/B_qsgYXjkzm/?igshid=jaltlniros97

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I love Burnum Burnum ❤️💛🖤

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"The Bi Pride Flag is the only bisexual symbol not patented, trademarked or service marked.” - Michael Page, creator of the flag, who was a volunteer with BiNet at the time of it's creation.

Honestly, I think this is disgusting. It's valid for bi orgs to want more donations and financial support. However limiting who can use a pride flag? And going after small creators (like the original person was??) Is disgusting and horrible. To point of a flag is to be accessible and recognizable. This isn't going to help at all.

When they do this, do they not realize who they're targeting and hurting the most? Bi & queer people. The people they have set out to help are the ones they are directing funds from.

#PSA #BiNetUSA #why we copyfight #fuckery #kkkapitalizm

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Rhetoric I absolutely cannot stand and that popular media needs to abandon immediately before I started throwing rocks:

-oppressed people being violent as a response to their oppressors being violent to them is actually the same uwu

-heroes can’t kill the villain because that makes them just as evil and violent as the villain

-“the government blew up civilians and the rebels blew up a military post so they’re clearly the same”

-“bUt hOW cAn yOU cAlL yOUrsELf a PEACE KEEPER iF yOu uSe VIolEnce?¿?? 🤔🤔”

-basically any argument that attempts to dissuade oppressed people from fighting back and acts like self defense and attacking innocent people are the same thing

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“but the age of consent in other countries is…”

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#amurrikkka #the crimes of this guilty land #rendered [themselves] obnoxious

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