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Reblog if you ship Nesta Archeron with a self-help book

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I mostly pity Nesta, she’s coping the best way she can, but if I’m totally honest, I would be just as bitter about her as Rhys is. We were all really rooting for Nesta to realize how shitty she was before and make up for it. I love her as a character because she’s so complex, but I can’t say I don’t understand where Rhys is coming from, and I don’t think it has anything to do with her sex, but her behavior.

Rhysand and Benevolent Sexism

So, we were talking with @verifiefangirl and we started talking about Benevolent Sexism and how it’s somehow worse than Hostile Sexism and how that made her think of ACOFAS/ Rhys. But before I start sharing my thoughts with you, I want you to know that you can reblog and add whatever you want and analyse everything a bit further because I’ll stay superficial. You can share your own thoughts with me and tell me how right/wrong I am and I’d really appreciate that, as long as you stay polite and friendly. I’m by all means not here to tell you how to think or what to say, just please, again, stay kind. And this may be confusing, because my thoughts are all over the place, I hope you’ll understand what I mean. I still like Acofas-Rhys a bit but I’ll love Acomaf Rhys until the day I die.

What is Benevolent Sexism? - A short description:

We have Hostile and Benevolent Sexism. Hostile Sexism says, that it’s a Woman’s job to clean the house or to look after children. People, who say that a Man has to be above a Woman, that it’s okay for him to earn more money. Men, who show anger just because they’re challenged - their ego is challenged. They think for example that a Woman is trying to gain “power” by using her sex, that they try to control Men. They’re often called “Sluts” or “Whores” for saying “No” to a Man who advances them in a sexual way.

Then there’s Benevolent Sexism. This is not really like Hostile Sexism and it’s not about insulting in the first place. It’s taking those stereotypes and making them okay, praising them. And it’s also about holding Women on a pedestal and thinking they’re better than Men. Some examples: Man sets Woman on pedestal, Women are pure unlike Men, they’re better Leaders because they’re stronger and better as Men, etc. And when Women don’t match the image they have in mind, then those Men tend to be aggressive and despise them.

What does that have to do with Rhysand?

We all know how much Rhysand loves and adores Feyre. He’s practically holding her on a high pedestal and she’s the perfect Woman in his eyes. She’s good, she’s caring and fits into the stereotype he has of a Woman.

We call/ed him a Feminist, but look at him hating Nesta. A Woman, who could be a Leader. Who’s too “harsh”, too “bossy” and doesn’t fit into the image he has of a Woman who deserves to “stand on a pedestal”. Nesta’s nothing like Feyre. They’re sisters, but different. And Rhys reacts in a harsh and kind of aggressive way towards her. He hates her, not only because she was mean to Feyre, because if that were the point then he’d also be mean to Elain. So this whole thing, his temper and hate, is not only because she was mean to Feyre, it’s because he’s a Positive Sexist. Rhysand is nice to Elain, because “Elain is Elain.” She’s nice and kind. She fits into the Inner Circle perfectly. She adapts, cooks for them, talks to them and acts like a Woman (in his eyes) “should” act, that’s what makes her so “amazing” and kind of makes her deserve his kindness. Just like Feyre she got used to the IC, she meets his standards and is held on hands, even though she didn’t care for Feyre at all - just like Nesta. The Woman, who doesn’t do these things and avoids being a part of the Group. And Rhys just can’t deal with it.

Then we have Cassian, who didn’t really acknowledge Nesta. He sees her, he’s watching, but what about talking to her when she’s with the IC? When he’s alone with her he talks and cares, but with them he’s different and reserved, regarding her. We see that to Solstice, when Nesta’s in the room and he doesn’t reach out to her until she leaves and he follows.

Cassian for example can’t hold Nesta on a pedestal. Because he never had a real Mother Figure in his life to compare a Woman to. He doesn’t really know how a Woman should be to be held high above a Man. So I could say that he’s standing on the same ground as Nesta, they’re more like equals than Feyre and Rhys. When he looks at her he sees her pain, he sees her suffering just like he did and does. Even if it’s in a different way. He sees a Woman who’s not accepted, just like him. A bastard people spit on and ostracize. He kind of sees himself. She’s been pushed away the way he is/was pushed away. He knows how she feels and doesn’t praise her despite her flaws, the way Rhysand does with Feyre.

Rhys had a Mother. An amazing Mother, who created (dresses), took 2 bastard born Illyrians into her home. A Woman who cared and gave. And then there’s Feyre, a Woman who also creates, cares and gives. She fits more into his mental image than Nesta ever could, because she’s the opposite of what he’s used to praise, to compliment. And he shows his hate and rage towards her, just like a Benevolent Sexist would do.

I can’t really call Acofas-Rhys a Feminist, because in my opinion he’s more of a Positive Sexist than a Feminist. I’d rather call Acofas-Cassian more of a Feminist than Rhys.

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THRONE OF GLASS TITLES

“Even when this world is a forgotten whisper of dust between the stars, I will always love you.” 

Empire of Storms, Sarah J. Maas 

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Cassian~

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Just the typical bloody manon portrait

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Feysand mermaid AU for mermay :)

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Rhys and Feyre as merfolks for Mermay

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Me: Can I just say that I love Sarah J Maas and her writing—

Literally Any AntiSJM: ??? you’re so,,, hom0phobic. but despite me constantly hating on the books,,,, i will still make a fan account for sarah,,, and post textpost and fan art. i won’t leave the fandom,, because that doesn’t make any sense. why would i leave a fandom i most of the time hate,,, and insult???

Me:

Me: What the fuc—

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Pale Korean

Pale Iranian

Pale Yazidi children

Pale African/European

Pale Egyptian

Pale Mongolian

Pale Tajik

Pale POC

Although most of these people can’t be described as “alabaster” they’re still pale. Not to mention that none of them happen to live under a mountain and are consistently abused. Even I (Irish American) cannot be described as “alabaster” in the dead of winter. You’re going to staunchly stand by the descriptive language used until he’s described as “golden” and “tan”. Are you gonna need someone to hold your hand when you’re finally forced to step out of your little White Bubble and into the real world? Here’s some food for thought

*whispering in the distance with fingers crossed* don't let Rhys be white, don't make him white.

Wait is this in reference to the painting I’m doing? Because if you know me, you know I cannot STAND FUCKIN WHITE RHYS’S. don’t worry anon. This bitch don’t fuck with that. The sketch just happens to make him look white. I assure you, he’s not.

I’m usin Toni Mahfud as my reference. Pretty sure he’s mixed just as Rhys is. But again. I don’t fuck with white washing Rhys or any other character. As you may have seen by my post about Illyrians.

Reference as to why Rhys isnt white. (x)

And lastly, behold: Toni Mahfud. My Rhysand. 

edit to the comment that questioned Toni’s buffness:

#gotta love racist people #just kidding #they're all shitheads

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me @ book stores displaying the acotar trilogy in the YA section knowing damn well feyre gets dicked down at least once in each book

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friendly reminder that ACOMAF and beyond are not young adult lol. They are new adult and SJM has been writing adult fantasy for years

#they definitely moved past ya when they started featuring sex scenes #honestly they should stop advertising the series as ya

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@acotarnet​ event 5: locations

where ancient things dwell

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*whispering in the distance with fingers crossed* don't let Rhys be white, don't make him white.

Wait is this in reference to the painting I’m doing? Because if you know me, you know I cannot STAND FUCKIN WHITE RHYS’S. don’t worry anon. This bitch don’t fuck with that. The sketch just happens to make him look white. I assure you, he’s not.

I’m usin Toni Mahfud as my reference. Pretty sure he’s mixed just as Rhys is. But again. I don’t fuck with white washing Rhys or any other character. As you may have seen by my post about Illyrians.

Reference as to why Rhys isnt white. (x)

And lastly, behold: Toni Mahfud. My Rhysand. 

edit to the comment that questioned Toni’s buffness:

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Sorry, hon, Rhysand isn’t white. I know my words will fall on deaf ears, considering you referred to a black person as a “nignog”, but you’re definitely wrong. Believe it or not, a person tends to lose a lot of color when they’re trapped underground for 50 years. The last screenshot literally addresses the fact that he was only pale because he barely saw sunlight. My stepfather is Korean and there’s a noticeable difference in his skin color between summer and winter, and that’s only with a couple of months. As one white person to another: get the fuck over yourself. Your skin color means abso-fucking-lutely nothing in terms of superiority. Get off your high horse, because you obviously can’t ride, and you’re gonna get hurt.

*whispering in the distance with fingers crossed* don't let Rhys be white, don't make him white.

Wait is this in reference to the painting I’m doing? Because if you know me, you know I cannot STAND FUCKIN WHITE RHYS’S. don’t worry anon. This bitch don’t fuck with that. The sketch just happens to make him look white. I assure you, he’s not.

I’m usin Toni Mahfud as my reference. Pretty sure he’s mixed just as Rhys is. But again. I don’t fuck with white washing Rhys or any other character. As you may have seen by my post about Illyrians.

Reference as to why Rhys isnt white. (x)

And lastly, behold: Toni Mahfud. My Rhysand. 

edit to the comment that questioned Toni’s buffness:

#can i just apologize on the behalf of all white people #we dont claim this one #shes not ours #sorry to literally all poc who has to deal with this shit #rhysand #rhys

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“From now on until the Darkness claims us”

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Lorcan and Elide ❤️

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Sneak peek to my almost finished Tamlin ♥️🌹 @behindthepagesstore .