thelovelessasexualstereotype

[thelovelessasexualstereotype]

Why do so many people seem to lose their minds at the thought of non-SAM asexuals? Like, you guys know they exist, right?

#non sam ace #non sam asexuality #non sam asexual

[thelovelessasexualstereotype]

Idk if this is very helpful for that anon but I identify as a non-SAM asexual because I don't see my lack of sexual attraction and lack of romantic attraction to be separate from each other, and, for me personally, I consider them to be the same. While I understand and support people who view them as separate for themselves and specifically identify as aroace, I don't like having to split pieces of myself apart just to make other people happier with how I identify. I also don't appreciate how it often seems like people make the term ace on its own to be synonymous with alloro-ace so I guess it's also partly a push against that

-Mod Ama

#non sam ace #ace #asexual #asexuality #non sam asexual #non split ace #non split asexual

[thelovelessasexualstereotype]

Hello everyone ! I'm sorry, I have not been very active here lately (again...). But this blog isn't dead ! I would like to write a small masterlist with non-SAM/non-split ace representation, so I'm currently reading books with ace characters. It's not easy to find, most of them turn to be split/SAM asexuals in the end...

If you know any, don't hesitate to recommend them to me! :D

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Bonjour tout le monde ! Je suis désolé(e), je n'ai pas été très actif(ve) récemment ici (encore…). Mais ce blogue n'est pas mort ! J'aimerais écrire un petit index avec de la représentation ace non-MAS/non-séparée, donc je lis actuellement des livres avec des personnages asexuels. Ce n'est pas facile à trouver, beaucoup se révèlent être des asexuel(le)s MAS/séparé(e)s au final...

Si vous en connaissez, n'hésitez pas à me les conseiller ! :D

#ace representation #représentation asexuelle

[thelovelessasexualstereotype]

“Why when people see that a character is repulsed by/not interested in romance they always say they're asexual?”

Maybe... because there really are people who are asexual because they are not interested in romance ? Crazy, I know :)

Why... why when people see that a character is repulsed by/not interested in romance they always say they're asexual?? That's aro thing, not ace thing. If a character isn't interested in romance [relationship] that's an aro thing! Ace is about sexual attraction not romantic attraction. I can't decide if people just assume every ace is also aro (without releasing it because they probably don't know what is aro) or just are very uneducated in the topic and are trying to be inclusive without fully understanding what they're talking about (I have noticed this happens A LOT when allo member of the LGBTQ+ community talks about aro/ace rep)

I feel so bad for saying this, especially since I'm grey aroace but sometimes... sometimes it feels like, in some way, (that is not necessary ace people's fault) the ace rep steals from the aro rep?? I just... The more I think about it, the more it bothers me

#ace #asexual #non sam ace #non sam asexual #non split asexual #non split ace #aphobia

[thelovelessasexualstereotype]

This might be rude to many people in the community but the concept of asexuality and aromanticism being entirely different with no connection with one other is seriously harming aroaces.

A few days ago I saw a meme with select your sexuality and has listed all sexualities except asexuality listed in it and an asexual asking where do they fit in and all someone in the reply is like just tick your romantic orientation (click heterosexual if you hetroromantic) completely ignoring asexual people who are aromantic also exist.

In another place where asexual people's experiences was asked, I saw someone complaining about aroace's experiences being incorrect because it included both asexual and aromantic experiences. Sorry, but for many aroaces their asexual and aromantic parts affect the same way and they find it difficult to distinguish from one other and that does not make their experience less asexual.

Many people, in their way to convince that asexual =/= aromantic, forget to mention that there are people who are both and a person first introduced to the concept will assume that people who are both aromantic and asexual don't exist. I have seen many instances of this.

Yes, the voices of people who are alloace or alloaro matters so does the experience of aroaces (and of non-SAM folks etc)

#ace #aro #aroace #asexual #aromantic #asexuality #aromanticism #aphobia

[thelovelessasexualstereotype]

would be very nice if both the aromantic and asexual communities would stop acting like any connection to the other is Literal Poison 

#acephobia in the aro community #arophobia in the ace community #aphobia

[thelovelessasexualstereotype]

Ace people love yourself challenge

#asexuals are great !

[thelovelessasexualstereotype]

What pleases u in bed?

sleep

#ahaha true #ace #asexual #asexuality

[thelovelessasexualstereotype]

Confession: I don't trust anybody who supports the "aces can have sex" move. I know that feelings vary, but this puts a lot of aces in potential danger. Aces are constantly devalued for not wanting sex. Now we're saying "we can have sex, too!!" Is nobody seeing a connection? How does this "aces can have sex" affect aces who want to be "normal"? Who wish they were allo? Who fear dying alone because "nobody wants a sexless marriage"? Vulnerable aces will not benefit from this, but allos will.

#amatonormativity #ace #asexual #asexuality

[thelovelessasexualstereotype]

My lack of romantic attraction has always felt part of my asexuality. While I do call myself aro, and my lack of romantic attraction feels very different from my lack of sexual attraction, the differentiation between my aro and ace identity doesn’t feel right to me. I understand why these are two separate labels, I just. Don’t like having to say I’m aro and ace, y’know? Alloaros and alloaces completely deserve having these as two separate labels, I just wish there was a term for aroaces that didn’t feel like they split the romantic and sexual non attraction apart.

#there is one : asexual

[thelovelessasexualstereotype]

Someone: I've fallen in love with you

Me:

#lol #romance #ace #asexual

[thelovelessasexualstereotype]

#asexual #asexuality #ace

[thelovelessasexualstereotype]

Age 8: Everyone has crushes and I don’t. I’m a freak

Age 11: LOL what was I thinking of course I get crushes! The other kids say you get butterflies in your stomach and my tummy feels weird whenever I’m around people… do I have a crush on everyone?

Age 16: So apparently that is called Social Anxiety

#amatonormativity

[thelovelessasexualstereotype]

we don't talk enough about aces that were made fun of for not understanding sexual jokes when they were younger, so now they see possible sexual meanings in every action or phrase, and are constantly second-guessing everything as a defense mechanism.

im really sorry your thoughts bother you that way, you don't deserve it. but please, don't feel bad for having them, it definitely does not make you any less asexual.

#ace #asexual #asexuality

[thelovelessasexualstereotype]

man and woman at the beginning of a movie: we are not dating each other and do not wish to date each other. we have verbally expressed that we do not like it when people assume we are dating just because we are friends.

man and woman by the end of the movie: oh haha silly us we were in love the whole time actually and everyone else was right to tease us. we are so much happier now that we are romantically involved. it is clearly impossible for men and women to have fulfilling platonic relationships.

#amatonormativity

[thelovelessasexualstereotype]

Why is the person who rejects another persons crush/love always the bad person? In movies as in real life. I don’t fucking get it, why am I the villan for not liking someone back? It makes me feel like shit too, having to reject someone I like as a person.

#amatonormativity

[thelovelessasexualstereotype]

Me: “I would like to see the fanfics for this fandom please”

Ao3: “223,459″

Me: “just the non romantic ones”

A03: “2″

#fanfictions #amatonormativity