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can we heal together? by being nice and honest? by being respectful and lovely? by healthy communication about our needs and thoughts? by having quality time together and me time? by kisses and touches? by supporting each other?

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My face is having uncontrollable spasms. Great. It hurts really, really, really bad.

I think part of why I have trouble explaining pain to the doctor is when they ask about the pain scale I always think “Well, if someone threw me down a flight of stairs right now or punched me a few times, it would definitely hurt a lot more” so I end up saying a low number. I was reading an article that said that “10” is the most commonly reported number and that is baffling to me. When I woke up from surgery with an 8" incision in my body and I could hardly even speak, I was in the most horrific pain of my life but I said “6” because I thought “Well, if you hit me in the stomach, it would be worse.”

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Hirsutism: body hair growth in a male-like distribution on female people (eg. afab people having coarse hair on their chin, chest, back, buttocks, thighs…). Caused by an increase in hormones called androgens, your body being more sensitive to them, or both. Source (derogatory)

Today I was thinking about that time my endocrinologist went on for 15 minutes about how the only way I’d ever be hairless would be by doing laser hair removal… Even after I’d told him several times I wasn’t interested in removing my body hair at all. Since I can’t go back in time to ask him this exact question, I thought I’d make a banner.

And because I know doctors, and people in general, love to assume so many other human characteristics are tragedies to the people who have them, here are a few more banners to go with it:

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Feel free to use these (credit appreciated) and to request a different banner if you want to!

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dear intersex people,

you don't have to be open about your type of or specific variation. you don't have to explain your identity. you don't have tell people about your body or its inner workings. if all you want to say is that you're intersex, that's okay.

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A great way to celebrate intersex people during pride is to put up some of these beautiful (free!) posters to advocate for ending intersex surgery. Wheatpaste them around your city, put them up in your workplace and school, pass them out at pride events–the sky is the limit! Intersex people deserve to be celebrated during pride and we deserve allies who are willing to fight for our rights. It’s especially crucial this year, with so many bills being passed targeting intersex youth. 

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Love to all the indigenous people out there 💕

to the ones who are reconnecting.

to the ones who grew up with and around their indigenous culture(s).

to the ones that didn’t.

to the Indigenous people with visibly indigenous features and dark skin.

to the indigenous people who don’t “look Indigenous.”

to LGBTQ+ indigenous people.

to Afro-Native people.

to disabled & neurodivergent indigenous people.

You are so loved. You are worth so much and you make this world a better place by existing in it. Indigienity is wonderful and you deserve to love yourself as the indigenous person you are.

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Indigenous people who use neopronouns are so very loved and deserve indigenous-safe places in gnc & nonbinary spaces. Know that I love you and you are welcome here. You matter so much.

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shout out to psychotic indigenous folks!

if your culture interacts with your psychosis, you’re so strong and you’ve got this!

if your psychosis causes beliefs outside of your culture or ones that are incompatible, that’s okay, and i love you

if you have delusions or hallucinations about your culture, that’s valid, and i know it’s confusing, but you’re brilliant and you can do this.

if there are any other interactions or non-interactions between your culture and your psychosis, that’s okay, whatever your brain is doing doesnt have to be what you believe.

be kind to yourselves.

i love you, and im here to talk.

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I love you, trans people with intellectual disabilities. You deserve to have the same opportunities as everybody else, and that's because you are a person. You deserve to be happy. Intellectually disabled trans people deserve the exact same respect, recognition, and love that (should be) afforded to everybody else.

Intellectually disabled trans people, you deserve to make your own decisions about your transness. You are allowed to want for transition or to change your name, clothes, hair, pronouns, or anything else. You deserve support and understanding. I hope you are able to receive that. You belong in this world as your true self. Your transness and your disability/disabilities are not bad things - they are good, and they are important.

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having breasts does not make you a woman. having a vagina, vulva, or ovaries does not make you a woman. having XX chromosomes or an estrogen-dominant body does not make you a woman. having a period or the capability to have children does not make you a woman.

having or not having these things can affirm your identity and make you feel more like yourself, for sure. but the point is your body does not decide who you are - you do. you are in control of your own gender, your own identity. you are you no matter the body you inhabit. and i hope that if you dont feel it now, someday your body feels truly like home.

💜 this post includes intersex people. don't forget your intersex peers! 💜

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Tall trans girl reading this: you aren't too tall for heels. If you want to wear them, wear them proud. There is nothing more spectacular than a tall woman in heels, and nobody can ever take that away from you, not even yourself 🩷🪻

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much love to it/its and neo pronoun users who know they can never use their pronouns in person, who never have them used irl, whose gender expression and identity are only respected online. i see y'all and i love y'all

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you deserve people in your life who care about you truly and have the best intentions

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Lesbian sex was invented as a way to pass the time on long train rides

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Me comin in after months:

"What is this booping business?"

#MAN i missed it! #women´s day too #sorry for the absense i was being a cripple #how are you all doin?

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there are not many posts like this out there but shoutout to trans women who like their voices, shoutout to trans women who like having a dick, shoutout to trans women who are butch, shoutout to trans women whose transition has been ‘unconventional’, shoutout to trans women who will never pass and dont care to, shoutout to trans women who are tall, shoutout to trans women who break the binary that was reinvented in progressive spaces. you people are so fucking incredible.

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at this stage i think its good to say, and i direct this to all of the trans women on this site:

you are loved. you are appreciated. your presence is valued.

ppl can do all they can to invalidate you, to drag you through the grime and do their best to make you nothing. and they can fucking try.

but it won't change the fact that we care about you. i care about you. and i appreciate you taking the effort to stick around in this world, especially as things turn awful.

big ass hugs for you girls.

we're still here 💙