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yeah i never want to make fun of how people look and it’s truly not my intention here but elliot page does. not look happy especially on the time cover but really in any of their photoshoot pics liek. idk if that was their choice or the photographer’s but. idk saying “i am truthfully who i am” or w/e and then looking really miserable abt it does not seem to make a great statement

and i don’t want to get all conspiracy 👁👁 about it but what was the choice behind not even having a small smile on the cover? were they trying to look serious? distinguished? proud? bc i feel they didn’t hit any of those either tbh but that’s just my opinion here.......

#i'm obviously gonna see this differently than someone who is 100% supportive of transition anytime anywhere #but ya gotta admit page is not looking that thrilled to be there #personal

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Not to be rude, but how is your relationship with a man not a straight one? Obviously a bisexual person being in a relationship with someone of the opposite sex doesn’t make them straight, just like being in a same-sex relationship doesn’t make them gay, but a relationship between a man and a woman... that also isn’t gay regardless of people’s sexualities imo

This was inspired by two things: 

1- I’m a bisexual woman dating a cis straight man. That doesn’t make me straight, and that doesn’t make my relationship a straight one. That doesn’t mean I belong less in the LGBT+ community than a gay person. 

2- The fourth example was not a joke. I’m in a fandom where two genderless entities with a temporary human shape are paired together. I’ve seen artists get hate because they drew them “looking straight”. The characters are still non-binary, still in love, STILL NOT STRAIGHT. Do not allow this toxic rhetoric in your fandom. Protect artists. 

**Note– Forgot I meant to add aro and ace in there, sorry, but this TOTALLY INCLUDES ARO AND ACE PEOPLE.

THERE IS NO HIERARCHY OF WHAT IS MORE ACCEPTABLE IN THE LGBT+ COMMUNITY. 

#bisexuality

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as much as i love the idea of knowing there are no men outside and a curfew for men, i know practically that wouldn’t work. but even beyond that, most violence happens in the home. keeping men inside the home more can only exacerbate that. nothing feels like a win.

#radfems pls interact #radfems please touch #radfems please interact #terf safe #i mean i am open to hearing other perspectives of course #personal

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graceland too by phoebe bridgers 

#phoebe bridgers

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Dreamland by Sandra Lansue

#nature

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it’s a good night to consider donating to the new orleans abortion fund and supporting the fight for women’s reproductive freedom in louisiana ❤️

#abortion

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regardless of how high they ranked or if they made the top 5, i wanna know what everyone’s top listened to song from folklore was

#exile #was going through a breakup right when the album released

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i’m not actively looking to date at this point (though i have gone on a couple of dates in the last few months) but i’m really worried i won’t ever find a woman who i can truly connect with. i’ve dated a few women, but each of the relationships were short and in the first situation i entered the relationship largely because she was one of the first women that i knew to be into me, and ignored the fact that we weren’t totally compatible. i know i’m young and especially after this pandemic is over there will be more opportunities to meet women, and i need to be ready to do so anyway, but sometimes i just see women in really good relationships together and feel like i’ll never have that.

#i'm just worried #personal

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“girls don’t have inherently sexual bodies, just let them wear shorts and tank tops when it’s hot out!”

Yes of course but also let’s acknowledge that there’s a reason that teenage girls are wearing shorts cut so short that the pockets hang out and tank tops cut so low that her bra is visible

There’s a reason that teenage girls are wearing these things and not teenage boys. There’s a reason that it’s next to impossible to find thigh-and-knee-length shorts for girls. There’s a reason that girls are shamed for “looking like a lesbian” when they dress modestly. There’s a reason that teenage girls are meant to expose as much skin as possible in the clothing they buy and it’s because GROWN MEN who design the clothes are INTENTIONALLY creating clothing and marketing sexualized clothing to CHILDREN.

GROWN MEN run the fashion industry and decide the trends and looks and styles of clothing for CHILDREN and for some children it’s comfortable, cut to fit well, designed to show some personality and reflect the wearer’s interest and for some children it’s skintight, ripped, cropped, low-cut, low-riding, and designed to show as much skin and body shape as possible

No little girl grows up wanting to go to school wearing shorts that are slightly bigger than her underwear. It’s GROWN MEN deciding this for her because that’s what they want to see. That’s what grown men have deemed acceptable and appropriate for teenage girls.

#girlhood #fashion #sexualization

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yeah I’ll take a meat hater’s pizza please

#same

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Alone in the town III

#photography

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the “41% suicide rate” number is actually 40%, it comes from the most recent national transgender discrimination survey (page 116 is where you can find this) and it refers to the number of trans people who reported at least one suicide attempt in their lives. all respondents survived every attempt. when i exclude first attempts in adulthood, the number i get (28.8%, if my math is right, which who knows) is comparable to the number of gay, lesbian, and bi youth attempts (for example 32% of lesbian and bisexual teenage girls have attempted suicide according to another study)

this rate of suicide attempts absolutely speaks to sincere distress especially from discrimination (it’s higher in groups that face more stigma, the trans survey breaks that down), and to a higher than necessary risk of death or injury, but it’s frequently presented really dishonestly, in ways that strongly imply 40% of trans people die of suicide. in reality, the number comes from a survey filled out by living trans people over 18, and while it’s disturbingly high, it’s sadly not that unusual compared to the rate of LGB suicide attempts

telling a vulnerable group they only have 60% chance of not dying of suicide is really damaging and morally wrong to do. a 40% risk of attempting is bad enough. “40% of transgender adults responding to a survey reported they had attempted suicide at least once” would still communicate that this is a group that is discriminated against and suffers for it, and unlike “trans people have a 40% rate of suicide”, it doesn’t falsely imply things are worse than they are

#transgender #suicide mention #ref

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Extremely this.

#KHDKSLJD #YUP

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another piece of shit on reddit

#idk what to even tag this as #i hope he's getting roasted af like how can u not see you're an asshole #maleness

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Reading Times, Pennsylvania, October 14, 1926

#halloweenie

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Lovers

#art

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Neon uterus with boxing glove ovaries by artist Zoe Buckman

#art