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Incredible how people will be like "trans men are being radicalized into tmras!!!" bc trans men have the audacity to talk about how bleak the stats on us are meanwhile on Twitter multiple accounts with 10k plus followers have openly admitted to being "trans radfems", being in a trans radfem groupchat, and being tirfs and no one is talking about that as radicalization

#transandrophobia

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why is the entire conversation about trans men's oppression about how trans men are treated when nobody knows we're trans men

#‘people treat you well when they falsely assume you’re part of the group they treat well’ well yes. but why is that relevant #that could apply to any marginalized identity that’s in some way concealable #but there’s a reason we don’t focus on it in any of those other cases #transandrophobia

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this genuinely might be the most unhinged series of asks i’ve ever gotten (almost definitely all from the same guy) and honestly i can’t stop laughing at it. none of these words are in the bible. how far into the deepest darkest pits of internet hell do you have to be to not only generate these words in your mind but then also actually type them out and send them to a real human being? i need to study this person under a microscope. i need to crack their head open like a coconut and see what the fuck is going on in there.

#untold amounts of brainrot in these images. if you look at them too long they start dealing 50 points of psychic damage per round #anon hate #examples of transandrophobia #transandrophobia #transandromisia #transmisandry #virilmisia #virilphobia #anti transmasculinity #transmascphobia

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i could honestly write a whole essay on how the internet’s obsession with romanticizing ‘girl dads’ while simultaneously making fun of ‘boy moms’ and gender reveal parties is directly related to a pervasive lack of care for trans men&mascs even among supposedly pro-trans people.

#if people cared about young transmascs at all #they would not be encouraging dads to make their whole identity as a parent based around their kid being a girl #because if they cared about us they would realize that some of those kids might not be girls #and that those kids will absolutely feel how their parent looks at them differently when they don’t fit that father-daughter image anymore #it’s also very much based in misogyny. that would be part of the essay too #we’re very comfortable making fun of moms and don’t care how the parenting we idealize might hurt daughters #tbh we need to start talking about benevolent sexism again #bc some of y’all really seem to think that as long as the surface content is positive it can’t possibly be harmful #and that’s simply not how any of this works and i thought we already knew that #transandrophobia #transandromisia #transmisandry #virilmisia #virilphobia #anti transmasculinity #transmascphobia

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if you can unironically present a genuine argument full of proof as to why you are a real male, i will unironically pay you 50000$.

but, seeing as i have yet to see a good argument that explains how and why trans"men" (aka pathetic females lol) are males, i think i'm gonna end up keeping my money.

oh, of course, i would be more than happy to provide a 100% indisputable argument as to why i am a real man:

i am as swift as a coursing river.

i have all the force of a great typhoon.

i have all the strength of a raging fire.

i am mysterious as the dark side of the moon.

i rest my case. i look forward to receiving your very generous gift of $50k.

#also ‘pathetic females’ i love when they don’t even try to hide the misogyny #anon hate #examples of transandrophobia #transandrophobia #transandromisia #transmisandry #virilmisia #virilphobia #anti transmasculinity #transmascphobia

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your frankenpenis will never be a real dick.

it doesn't look like a dick, it doesn't smell like a dick, it doesn't taste like a dick, it doesn't move like a dick, it doesn't function like a dick. it doesn't feel like a dick.

it's not a dick. cope and seethe.

you say all of this like you have any idea how my dick looks, smells, tastes, moves, functions, or feels. unfortunately for you, we all know that you don’t know any of that because you’ve made it painfully clear that you’re miles below the bar i’ve set for who gets the privilege of seeing my dick. so really, all you’re doing is admitting that you fantasize about what you think my dick is like, and that says a lot more about you than is does about me or my dick.

i don’t know man, it just seems to me like the only one seething here is you. i mean, the obsession y’all have with my genitals is just fucking weird. i don’t know when everyone collectively decided that my dick is a matter of public concern, but insisting upon speculating about it and throwing tantrums about it just makes you look pathetic. it doesn’t change anything. i’m still a man, my dick is still attached to my body, and you’re still a sad excuse for a person who doesn’t have anything better to do than imagine what a random trans man’s dick might taste like.

#all jokes aside. we all agree that shit like this is sexual harassment right? #like we’re all in agreement that someone who spends their time imagining how a stranger’s dick moves is a Certified Creep right? #anon hate #examples of transandrophobia #transandrophobia #transandromisia #transmisandry #virilmisia #virilphobia #anti transmasculinity #transmascphobia

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“Transandrophobia doesn’t exist but I’m working hard on making it a thing now!”

“Transandrophobia exists, it’s me shoving you into lockers for thinking it exists!”

People really are out here advertising that they want to oppress trans men and mascs for talking about the oppression we face and think they’re cool and fun and edgy and right for it, huh.

#transandrophobia

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i think one of the reasons people have such a knee jerk reaction to transandrophobia as a concept is like… they see oppression as x VS y, like black vs white or men vs women or abled vs disabled. that doesnt work as well for us because we are all part of the same group. but because they cant see oppressed dynamics as more than x vs y, they assume we want to reverse it. instead of saying trans men, who only experience the base-line trans experience with no gendered overlapping oppressions, oppress trans women, who experience two overlapping groups in the gender category, they think what we want is to theorize that trans women oppress trans men. or they saw one small blogger say it and are convinced thats what we all believe.

and, like i just eluded to, theres an element of understanding oppression as separate categories like legos that can just stack on top of each other. transgender is +1 oppression, man is 0 oppression added(or -1), where trans is +1 and woman is +1 and therefor they have intersecting identities while we either a) have just transphobia to face or b) have privilege. they dont understand that two identities intersect and overlap and affect each other to create an entire and unique experience

#transandrophobia

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stop telling transmascs that terfs harrassing them is their fault. why the fuck did i just see a post imploring trans men to "examine why terfs feel comfortable" intruding in their spaces. It's because they're transphobic and have no respect for trans men's boundaries. How do you still not know this. fucking hell

#transandrophobia

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not to mention some of us couldn’t just “man up and inject” even if we wanted to because we’re allergic to the injection serums.

like obviously gel should be available to anyone who wants it, whether they could technically use injectable t instead or not, but also, some of us simply can’t inject t because our bodies can’t handle the ingredients in injectable t serums. i will not be living the rest of my life with perpetually sore, itchy, hive-covered thighs just so cis people who don’t know how gel works can feel better about existing in public alongside trans people, thank you very much. i’ll stick to the form of t that my immune system approves of.

i promise, even if a little bit gets on you, it’s not going to have any effect whatsoever. if tiny bits of t gel were that powerful, we’d be on much lower doses and using it much less frequently than we are. ask my boyfriend — we sleep shirtless in the same bed after i apply my gel sometimes, and the tiny bit that might transfer over to their skin isn’t doing shit to them. a little t isn’t gonna hurt you. (that being said, if you use gel, don’t let pets lick the areas you applied it to or pet them without washing your hands thoroughly after applying it! contact with it won’t hurt humans, but ingesting it can be toxic to animals.)

is it just me or does this feel like the same flavor of bullshit fearmongering as cops saying they overdosed on fentanyl by touching it? because it feels a whole lot like that to me.

Squirts my T gel directly into this persons eyes, blinding them due to its high alcohol content

#god knows i wish i could keep going with shots #they were so much more convenient and i honestly loved the ritual of doing them every week #and just being able to give myself a shot felt badass as hell #but alas my body said no and that’s that #and if yall try to take away the shit i Can use. well. i cannot be held responsible for the felonies i would commit #examples of transandrophobia #transandrophobia

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if you had to live even one day as a biological homosexual male (don't play dumb or smart, you know what i'm referring to), you'd fucking k!ll yourself once you realize how miserable it is.

right, because trans people have famously never had to survive being so miserable that we feel like we’d be better off dead, and transphobia totally doesn’t compound with homophobia to make life even harder. i mean, fuck intersectionality, right? obviously being trans on top of being gay would make things easier, not harder. silly me. my stupid little female brain just can’t possibly comprehend how hard your life must be. of course i would be too fragile and weak to survive the hardships that you and only you experience. really, we should all give you a standing ovation for surviving more suffering than anyone else on the entire earth has ever had to experience.

…anyway, this whole stolen valor angle of anti-transmasculinity is weird as hell. big “back in my day we had to walk to school up hill both ways in the snow” energy. have you ever considered that maybe, just maybe, you don’t have some sort of monopoly on suffering? because believe it or not, finding community with other people who have faced similar hardships is actually a really healing experience when you let yourself do it, and would definitely be far healthier than whatever the fuck you’ve got going on here. i’d strongly recommend trying it sometime. if you get the stick out of your ass, you’ll realize we’re in this together, and that’s an incredibly powerful thing.

#HEAVY sarcasm in the first paragraph if you couldn’t tell #anon hate #examples of transandrophobia #transandrophobia #transandromisia #transmisandry #virilmisia #virilphobia #anti transmasculinity #transmascphobia #tehmism #<- gonna start using that for posts highlighting this kind of anti-transmasculine cis gay man #i feel like it deserves its own tag

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how i sleep at night knowing my chest is naturally bone-flat, i don't have any disgusting lumps of fat on my chest AT ALL and all the p00ners get scars on their chests to imitate me, only to end up failing miserably and looking like a grotesque parody of my reality:

😴

😪

🌚

💤

putting the obvious anti-transmasculinity aside because i think it speaks for itself, i’d just like to point out the fatphobia (and general wrongness) of acting like “bone-flat” is the ideal and no real men have fat on their chests. like, i hate to break this to you but my very cis dad has a bigger chest than me now, as does pretty much every other cis man in my family, because it’s completely normal for cis men to have fat on their chests and the existence of that fat is not disgusting. “bone-flat” shouldn’t be the ideal for like…pretty much any part of the body because having some degree of muscle and fat tissue to pad out your skeleton is literally just part of having a body. if you really think having any fat whatsoever on a given part of your body is disgusting, i genuinely fear for your well-being because that’s…not good.

also, y’all really have to chill with the emojis if you want anyone to even remotely consider taking you say seriously. i refuse to believe you don’t see how silly it makes you look. you must know we’re all just laughing at you.

#y’all make it too damn EASY #anyway idk who you think is trying to imitate you but i promise none of us want to be you #anon hate #examples of transandrophobia #transandrophobia #transandromisia #transmisandry #virilmisia #virilphobia #anti transmasculinity #transmascphobia #fatphobia

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do you actually view nonbinary people as non-binary or as binary people too scared to come out

this is a wild thing to ask someone who’s very openly not binary. like what even prompted you to send this? even if you didn’t know that i’m not binary trans, what have i said that would lead you to think i don’t believe in nonbinary people? is it just the fact that i’m a trans man and talk about being one on here? because sometimes it really feels like that’s all it takes for some of y’all to just assume i hate nonbinary people, as if those are mutually exclusive categories (which is ironically an exorsexist assumption in itself).

anyway, if it needed to be said, of course i view nonbinary people as nonbinary. it would be very silly of me to feel differently given that i’m not a binary trans person myself and that most of the trans people i’m close to in real life are nonbinary. i would strongly encourage you to ask yourself what it is about me that made you feel the need to ask me this in the first place.

#i am. so tired #anon hate #<- idc if it wasn’t meant as that or doesn’t seem that way to other people bc at this point? i’m done treating these as genuine questions #like this is what i mean when i talk about how frustrating it is to be a trans man with a complex gender #bc it really feels like other nonbinary people will just. see that you’re a man and assume not only that you’re not part of the community #but that you must be actively hostile toward it #idk. maybe i’m reading too much into this question but it feels shitty and i’m not gonna pretend it doesn’t

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how can you claim to be a man when you never even grew up as a boy?

you were never raised a boy, you have no idea what it's like to grow up as a boy. you were raised as the female that you are.

by what standard did i not grow up as a boy? did i not get dirty enough or pull enough ponytails or play enough catch with my dad? is it that my hair was too long or that my clothes were too pink, or maybe that i was friends with too many girls or had crushes on too many other boys? should i have built with blocks instead of playing house, or liked dogs more than cats, or wanted to become a firefighter instead of a vet? if my grandpa gave me handshakes, not hugs, would that be better for you? if the tears bad been beaten out of me, would i get to be a man?

what of the men who grew up decades or even centuries ago, or somewhere across the world from you? surely, their boyhoods looked different than yours. have they lost their right to manhood too in your eyes, because they didn’t grow up quite right? or is it just us that you expect to live up to one stereotypical concept of what it means to grow up as a boy?

and what if you were right? what if my childhood was girlhood after all? i’m a 22 year old man with a partner of 6 years and a job in the same field as my degree and an adult life that i’m building for myself. how much of myself can you really expect me to define by who i was when i was a child? i would hope you don’t define your life by the way you grew up either; maybe your childhood was good enough to be worth basing the rest of your life on, but that would make you one of the lucky ones. the rest of us will be defining our adult lives for ourselves, thank you very much.

#atp this blog just runs itself. all i have to do is sit here and the examples start flooding in #before i was foraging for transphobia but now we’ve got transphobia agriculture. i grow my own crops now #anon hate #examples of transandrophobia #transandrophobia #transandromisia #transmisandry #virilmisia #virilphobia #anti transmasculinity #transmascphobia

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pinnochio! 🫵🤣 you will never be a real boy!

i mean pinnochio did become a real boy. that was a pretty significant part of the story. i understand that you’re just being transphobic but pinnochio did very much become a real boy.

#this is so silly to me on so many levels. like how did you expect me to be genuinely hurt by this #anon hate #examples of transandrophobia #transandrophobia #transandromisia #transmisandry #virilmisia #virilphobia #anti transmasculinity #transmascphobia

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a collection of anons that i’ve been hanging onto for archival purposes despite the fact that i simply cannot be bothered to reply to them. like what the fuck does politically impure mean. how can you possibly explain my blog "screaming female socialization" without sounding like a raging misogynist. why do you think i as a gay man am going to agree that men are subhuman and why did you think using the word girlboss unironically was going to do you any favors in that fight. do you think really think trans men don’t get beat up by cis men or that cis men who have never been beaten up by another man aren’t real men. why is everybody suddenly obsessed with my prostate. what happened to hello

#anon hate #examples of transandrophobia #transandrophobia #transandromisia #transmisandry #virilmisia #virilphobia #anti transmasculinity #transmascphobia

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reblogging for the addition — i focused more on the “how to move past the fear enough to get on t” side of things because that was the tone of this particular ask (or at least how i interpreted it) but this is all very true too! hair is a big deal for a lot of people; it’s a very visible thing that can play a big role in boosting or hurting your self-confidence, and there’s no wrong decisions when it comes to how you want your body to look. it’s good to have as many options as possible: ways to potentially lessen the negative associations with hair loss and ways to potentially lessen the hair loss itself, so you can figure out what works best for you! as long as your comfortable in your body or moving toward a place where you can be comfortable in it, you’re on the right path.

it's silly but the biggest reason why im not into t yet is bc im so afraid of losing my hair. do you have any solutions/tips for it?

first of all, i don’t think it’s silly — it’s natural to be worried when hair loss is talked about by so many people as like…one of the worst results of aging for men. listening to my dad talk about how much he hates balding definitely did not make me feel particularly good about the knowledge that i may very well be joining him someday. i’m not saying the fear is right, because i don’t think hair loss is something awful that we should avoid at all costs, but it’s an understandable fear given the beauty standards we’re working with, and it’s one that a lot of us (myself included) feel.

one thing that’s helped me is just…paying more attention to the guys that i interact with on a daily basis. i’ve learned two things from it: 1) hair loss is super fucking common. i’d say it’s much harder to find an adult man who isn’t balding at all than it is to find one who’s completely bald. and 2) if you forget everything you’ve been told about how bad hair loss is, you’ll realize that quite frankly, every single one of those guys looks totally fucking fine. it doesn’t ruin their appearance and make them ugly, it looks totally natural and isn’t really even something you’d notice if you weren’t looking for it. we put so much weight on it but it’s really just not that big of a deal. i’ll hear my parents talk shit about men in my family who are losing their hair when i didn’t even notice a difference last time i saw them. it’s one of those things (like so many other appearance-related things) that you really only notice at all because you’ve been taught that you’re supposed to care about it.

this isn’t something i’ve done personally, but if you really want to desensitize yourself to the idea of it, embrace the time-honored queer tradition of just shaving your whole damn head! find out what you’d look like without hair, find out how you feel about it and what you can do that makes you feel good about your appearance without hair, test the waters while it’s still a temporary change and not something permanent. that way, it won’t feel like this big scary unknown, and you’ll actually have a frame of reference for your feelings about how you look without hair rather than accepting the societal assumption that you’ll inevitably hate it. if you don’t want to actually shave your head, you could also just fuck around with bald filters or photoshop and see what happens.

oh, and if you’re attracted to men, keep an eye out for guys who are bald or balding and also hot as fuck. in my experience, there’s no insecurity or potential future insecurity that being gay for other men hasn’t helped me with. just off the top of my head, i can think of a couple actors who i think are absolutely fucking gorgeous who have helped me get over my fears about losing my hair. despite what our anti-aging-obsessed world might want you to think, there is no such thing as a physical feature that automatically makes someone less attractive, and while making attractiveness less of a priority in your life is good, it can’t hurt to also give yourself some proof that actually, you might lose your hair and look hot as hell doing it.

basically, entertain the possibility that it won’t be a bad thing at all! whether that’s just because it turns out to be a neutral thing for you or because you end up actually liking it, it’s not an inherently bad thing. i’ve ended up liking a lot of things that were “supposed to” be bad effects of t — i love the weight i’ve gained and the new shape it gives my body, i get a lot of gender euphoria from the fact that my acne is now on parts of my face that i saw a lot of guys in high school get it and i’m not complaining about the scars i get from it either because i’ve always liked the added texture that acne scars give my skin, and so on. i think there’s a lot of joy to be had in the changes we’re taught to fear, once we look past that conditioning and actually explore how we feel about it.

but if it’s something you really don’t want and you just want to improve your chances of not having to deal with it, it’s not like there’s nothing you can do! products like finasteride (oral) and minoxidil (usually topical but i think there might also be oral versions) are pretty commonly used among trans guys, for the purpose of avoiding hair loss and for other reasons, and there are plenty of other anti-hair loss products out there (though i don’t know how effective any one of them might be). if it’s a big enough deal for you, you can just decide that you’ll go off of t if/when you start noticing signs of it, since no longer having higher t levels would stop the process in its tracks. and if you don’t find prevention options that work for you so it ends up happening, you can always explore different hair styles (judging by the pattern of hair loss i see in my family, i suspect that keeping my hair long would make it less obvious if i started losing mine), find your preferred method of covering it when you don’t feel good about it (personally i love a good beanie generally and would probably wear them a lot more if i didn’t have hair to worry about because my main complaint is the way they press my hair onto my neck), or just shave it all off if you don’t like the look of the partial balding but don’t mind a shaved head. the point being — you have options!

at the end of the day, whether you go on t or not, you’re going to see your body change as you age in ways that aren’t always going to be attractive to others or aesthetically pleasing to you. that’s just the reality of having a body. even if you never went on t, you’d get older and you might see your hair thin out even if you don’t bald, you’ll see your skin start to wrinkle and sag in places that used to be smooth, your metabolism might slow or your body fat might start to gather in new places; hell, you might lose your hair for a totally different reason and end up in the same place but without the benefits of having been on t that whole time. life is full of bodily changes like that. transphobes will fearmonger about the permanent changes of testosterone all day long but the truth is, there is no escaping permanent bodily changes. whether or not you go on t, your body now isn’t the same as it will be in 1 or 5 or 10 or 20 or 50 years, just like it isn’t the same as it was at any point in your life before now. our bodies are never supposed to stop growing and aging and changing throughout our lives. there’s no guaranteeing that we’ll love every single change our bodies go through, but that’s okay! there are so many things in life that are more important than the way our bodies look. even if you go on t and lose your hair and don’t like how it looks, your life won’t be ruined; plenty of other things will bring you joy and more than make up for the insecurities.

just think about the gender euphoria and relief from dysphoria that t could give you. would losing your hair be bad enough to outweigh all of that? or is it just the pressure of a society that decided balding is bad that’s making you fear one single change despite how much joy you could have if you let that fear go? only you can decide if going on t is worth the potential downsides for you, but i suspect that for most of us, the benefits of going on t far outweigh the possibility of side effects like hair loss happening down the line.