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happy lesbian visibility week

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middle school lesbianism

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is there anyone who would like to take over this blog? because of personal reasons i can't really run it anymore but i wouldn't want it to just go dormant. i still want this to remain a safe space for lesbians

#ev.txt #the reason why i want to give it away is because a while ago i realized i'm bisexual #i wasn't sure what to do with this blog but i thought about it and i want to give it to someone who's a lesbian #so it can still provide a place for lesbians where they can be themselves

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To black femmes who’ve been told they need to be a “strong, black woman”. You shouldn’t have to be strong. You deserve rest. You deserve peace. You deserve softness.

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hey you guys do know you can hate terfs and criticize terfs and make posts teaching people how to spot terfs without just being blatantly lesbophobic right. like you guys do know that right

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I know there’s a widespread lack of understanding/context on this, but “butch” and “femme” are not a spectrum with every possible experience falling in between them somewhere. they are not just synonyms for “masculine and feminine”. it’s more than that. butch is not synonymous to “gender nonconforming” and femme is not the same thing as “gender conforming”. 

butch and femme are a distinct identity framework that developed around certain forms of expression, presentation and interactions between women who loved and had sex with each other and that remains true now. butch falls within the category of gnc womanhood, but there are things specific to butchness that are not shared by every gnc woman. likewise, femme women may be feminine, but are not gender conforming. there are gender nonconformances that femme women share, culturally indicated behaviors, markers of expression etc that femme women engage in that do not read as gender conforming - which is why I can often (not always but often) tell a femme woman from a straight woman. not to say that one can always read an identity from stereotypes, but indicators/signals are a thing.  

the “futch spectrum” post(s) that went ‘high femme, femme, futch, butch, stone butch’ or w/e, was brought up as a lesbian tumblr joke, but ended up confusing a lot of ppl about what butch and femme are. ppl who took that spectrum seriously got this perspective of it as “super girly, girly, in the middle, not girly, really masculine” which is… not at all how butch and femme work as identifiers. if you don’t identify as one or the other you don’t have to pick an awkward spot on a spectrum between them because those things aren’t a spectrum. you’re either butch, femme, or neither and being neither and not identifying with that framework is just fine and not uncommon. 

I think in order for ppl to understand more about how “butch” and “femme” came into use (especially in the gay bar scene among other related places in the 60′s), and what those identities entailed, it’s important to read literature, for example, like Stone Butch Blues. that’s only one title and there are others but that’s the first one that pops into my head. feel free to reblog with others. the way butch and femme developed in the time portrayed in that literature are not necessarily reflective of the exact way they are today, but it does give a background context, and introduces the concept that not every gay woman identifies as butch or femme and that’s been true since the start of their use.

summary: the butch/femme framework is a specific cultural dynamic. there’s variety within it, and sub-groups and labels that different femme and butch women use to describe themselves. but even with that variety, not every gnc woman is going to fit within a butch narrative (or want to at all). femme women are gnc to certain degrees. many women are not either. and u just can’t equate “femme” and “butch” with masculine and feminine, or with an all encompassing spectrum that everything falls in, because it doesn’t. 

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all black lesbians deserve happiness

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I haven't seen this version anywhere so I made one!

#lesbian tag #trans tag

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god we can never catch a break. for the last time lack of attraction to men is a defining part of lesbianism. it affects our identity and experiences just as much as our attraction to women. people who are attracted to men or are men cannot be lesbians. there are so many descriptors to use if you wanna express your preference/love for women such as sapphic, bi w a fem lean, etc. there's no need to take a whole identity that specifies lack of attraction to men and try to force that on yourself. if you're attracted to men and you're also attracted to women that's so cool and you should take pride and joy in your bisexuality/pansexuality bc it's genuinely a beautiful thing. but you can't really do that by calling yourself someone who isn't attracted to men

#ev.txt #// discourse

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hi, I'm here to tell you that lesbians should be way meaner, we're not nearly mean enough

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transmasc femmes and transfem butches literally fucking rule

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butch lesbians you are loved and adored and admired

#ev.txt #lesbian tag #butch lesbian #lesbian positivity

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there are not many posts like this out there but shoutout to trans women who like their voices, shoutout to trans women who like having a dick, shoutout to trans women who are butch, shoutout to trans women whose transition has been ‘unconventional’, shoutout to trans women who will never pass and dont care to, shoutout to trans women who are tall, shoutout to trans women who break the binary that was reinvented in progressive spaces. you people are so fucking incredible.

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Just thinking about how much I love stone butches and soft butches and studs and stems and femmes and leatherdykes and he/him lesbians and androdykes and chapstick lesbians and lesbians with neopronouns and bulldaggers and diesel dykes and pillow princesses and transfem lesbians and transmasc lesbians and disabled lesbians say it with me lesbians dykes lesbians dykes lesbians lesbians lesbians!!

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lesbianism is a gift and a virtue. sapphic love is wonderful. having a deep understanding of women is delightful.

sapphic sexual attraction is amazing, sapphic romantic attraction great, and sapphic alterous attraction is incredible.

being a lesbian is good and right, and I hope any lesbian reading this has a marvellous day

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Happy Pride to all lesbians who are Butch, Femme, Stud, Stone, High Femme and have reclaimed Dyke

You are all pillars of beauty and strength and grace and chivalry and honor and courage and love and pride

Your existence is essential and wanted and needed, and you are loved beyond measure !

❤️🧡🤍🩷💖

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what is something you’re good at?

falling for girls who don’t want me.