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Mental Health Ask

1. How are you feeling today?

2. What is a positive thing that happened today?

3. Have you used a coping mechanism today and which one did you use?

4. Do you have a psych/therapist/mental health team?

5. Did you reach out today for mental health support?

6. What soothes you during and episode?

7. What is in your mental health survival kit?

8. Do your family/friends support you?

9. What are you diagnosed with?

10. Who is your go to person when you are struggling and need support?

11. Do you take medication?

12. Does having a Tumblr help your mental health?

13. What are your hobbies and when do you do them the most?

14. Do you have any pets/service animals?

15. How many days clean/sober are you if you struggling with addiction and if you arent what is one thing that makes you want to get clean/sober

16. What is your favorite comfort food

17. Who on Tumblr do you find the most supportive and helpful and tag them if you want to

18. What keeps you going in hard times

19. Which show is your favorite show to watch when having a hard time

20. Who is your favorite celebrity with mental health issue you look up to?

#ask games are fun! #so ask away!! #they are very much enjoyed #✒️

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Having seen somebody point out a common trend in positivity posts, it's come to my attention that people often point out how others can still be "good people" in spite of their mental illnesses. This isn't inherently bad or anything! It can be very comforting to be reminded that, even with the symptoms you're experiencing, there's still plenty of great things about you. Relating to others struggles, and feeling better in turn, is comforting. However, it can be tough when these reminders always come with a catch. The catch that you can still be good with a disorder. You can be good just because you're you. Because you want to be. So, I wanted to add some more full-on positivity. I think it's deserved.

(Note that, of course, everyone makes their own decisions. Someone being "good or bad" is up to the person, and not the disorder. This is a positivity post, don't add hate.)

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So, for those with:

ASPD, NPD: Using learned cognitive empathy in order to determine what others are feeling, and acting on that, means an incredible amount. You're doing something purely because you know you should, or that it would help somebody. You're choosing those actions, and that takes more effort and care than most people could imagine.

BPD, HPD, DPD: When you're commited to something, you're really committed. Not to mention you're probably super intuitive. You know how to look out for things! People are supposed to be there for each other, and asking questions is normal. You deserve to be able to make yourself known.

AVPD, PPD, STPD, SzPD: Taking time to yourself to feel secure and/or recharge is okay. You're more than capable of making connections at your own pace, just as you're capable of finding further joys, and allowing your passions to blossom.

OCPD: You know how to get things done, and you're intent on doing so. You're probably not bad at saving money, either! You have the capacity to continue healthy bonds.

In fact, all of you have the ability to create and maintain healthy bonds. The decision is up to you, and I believe in you.

#mental health #mental health positivity #positivity post #personality disorder #antisocial personality disorder #narcissistic personality disorder #borderline personality disorder #histrionic personality disorder #dependent personality disorder #avoidant personality disorder #paranoid personality disorder #schizoid personality disorder #schizotypal personality disorder #aspd #npd #bpd #hpd #dpd #avpd #ppd #stpd #szpd #spd #ocpd #✒️

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looked it up but explanation isnt enough so wanted to ask what splitting means exactly/ how do you know if the alter split?

In the simplest of terms, a split refers to the formation of a new alter. It is another part splitting off and forming in the brain.

This occurs in those with DID/OSDD in stressful situations in order to help cope with them. Each system has different levels of stress required for a this to occur, though this can vary, of course. Some end up having to experience more intense situations, whereas for others, such as polyfragmented systems, splitting comes especially easy, and even everyday stressors may be enough. Obviously, there's also the middle ground. The reason that people with these conditions can "split" new alters later in life, is because the brain has already developed to do so when it was young.

As for how to know if you've had a new split, it can be hard to tell, especially because the new alter is unlikely to be fully formed at first. It's usually something you have to give time to. Sometimes you know when it's happening, and sometimes you won't. It depends on the system and the occurrence itself. However, signs can include things such as headache, instability, fatigue, and for some, they may lose track of time and dissociate more.

If you believe a new split has occurred, be gentle with yourself, and try to reach out when you think you, and the new possible alter, would be ready.

-✒️

#osdd #osdd 1b #otherwise specified dissociative disorder #dissociative identity disorder #did tag #tw splitting #system ask #osdd system

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what are ways to get along or get to know alters better I’m close to some of them but feel like sometimes not sure how to talk to ones i’m not close with since they’re bit different with personality and some aren’t even sure what they like so its hard to find common things

Communication is usually key. If you guys can find a shared interest, that does tend to help like you said! But otherwise I suppose I'd recommend sticking to it and giving it time. Every companionship has to start somewhere, even if just with causal conversation or by using basic questions. Be willing to listen to their interests as well, maybe you can take turns discussing things. If somebody doesn't know, maybe you could try to help them find something they enjoy.

I don't know how many specific tips I can offer, as communication here still isn't very good, so it's hard to say what works/doesn't work from that experience. If you want to send an ask to a system with better communication, that might help as well. Sorry I couldn't be of more use, but don't be discouraged! You'll get this.

-✒️

#osdd 1b #osdd #osdd system #dissociative identity disorder #did tag

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when feeling like we are making this up and its not real dont know but are there things to know? make sure ? understand better ? just want to know if faking /also do know denial can part of osdd/did

It's very, very common to fear that you might not actually be a system with DID/OSDD. Denial is practically part of the symptoms list. A good way to look at it is this: DID/OSDD are disorders based in trauma, and the brain created dissociative barriers to block said trauma out. So of course, when trying to accept it, the brain is going to have a hard time doing so. Especially at first. It wants to deny that-- that's what it had to do for so long, after all. It's a very normal response.

Also, remember, people who are faking know they are faking. That saying goes around a lot, but it's true. There may be other conditions of experiences that are similar, but that wouldn't be making anything up. It's still what somebody is experiencing, and their struggle isn't any less real. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying your situation is anything else, just that if someone were to end up being wrong, they still weren't faking. Sorry if this sounds a little backwards, but I found this thought process comforting.

Also, I'm forever going to recommend seeking out the help of a professional if it's available to you. I'm always open to give advice where I can! Genuinely. But a therapist, psychologist, or psychiatrist, will be able to shine a brighter light on your situation. You could get clearer and more surefire answers.

-✒️ (just kinda... blurry now, haha.)

#osdd 1b #osdd #osdd alter #osdd system #did tag #dissociative identity disorder #otherwise specified dissociative disorder #did ask #osdd ask #system asks #✒️

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💋: Are Any Of The Alters Dating Anyone, Inside Or Outside The System?

The Host is in a relationship with somebody outside of the system. Nobody else is currently dating anyone, inside or outside, but nobody else has shown much interest in anyone specific, and we're trying to take things slow to balance mental health.

This is actually the first relationship any of us have had in years.

-✒️, ❔

#osdd #osdd 1b #osdd system #osdd alter #dissociative identity disorder #did tag #✒️ #❔ #otherwise specified dissociative disorder

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🏳️‍🌈🤔

🏳️‍🌈: Are Any Of Your System Members LGBTQIA+?

Yeah! A lot of us are. I'd honestly say the majority relate to a term under the LGBTQIA+ umbrella. Even if some of us are still trying to find the right label(s), or just don't feel like labeling things is best for them. Point being, most of us aren't CisHet.

🤔: How Many Alters Are In Your System?

We thought it was 8, but recent events have led us believe it might actually be 9 or 10. It's kind of murky waters, regarding a possibly long hidden alter making an appearance, and a possible new member as well. Life's been hectic, shall we say. Will update the carrd/intro when we know for sure!

-✒️, ❔

#osdd #osdd 1b #osdd system #otherwise specified dissociative disorder #dissociative identity disorder #did tag #osdd alter #✒️ #❔

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Get To Know Us!!!

(System Ask Meme)

Send An Ask With One Or More Emojis, And We’ll Answer!

🤔: How Many Alters Are In Your System?

🏳️‍🌈: Are Any Of Your System Members LGBTQIA+?

🐶: Any Non-Human Alters? If So, How Many?

🍼: Any Littles In Your System? If So, How Many?

🤫: Any Funny System Stories?

🤯: If You’re Comfortable Sharing, When Was Your “Oh Sh*t, I’m Not A Singlet” Moment?

🤩: Favorite Thing About Being Part Of A System?

😢: Least Favorite Thing About Being Part Of A System?

🥰: Any Wholesome System Stories?

🎨: Any Hobbies That Everyone In The System Enjoys?

👀: Does Anyone Know You’re A System?

💫: How Often Do You Switch In A Day/Week?

⭐️: How Many Fictives Do You Have, If Any At All?

🕶: How Many Factives Do You Have, If Any?

♾: Which Alter(s) Have Been Around The Longest?

💕: Do You Have Any Fictive Doubles Of Any Sort?

💋: Are Any Of Your Alters Dating Anyone, Inside Or Outside The System?

💄: Do You Have A Hard Time Agreeing On What To Wear?

❤️: How Many Caretakers Are There, If Any?

🖤: How Many Protectors Are There, If Any?

❓: (Ask Any Question Not On Here, That Isnt Regarding Trauma)

Send Some Asks In! ❤️❤️❤️

(Yes, This Is Free For Anyone To Reblog!)

#system ask game #osdd 1b #osdd system #otherwise specified dissociative disorder #did tag #dissociative identity disorder

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If you haven’t been diagnosed with any DID/OSDD you really have to no place to be answering questions like you truly know what you are talking about.

It astounds me that people that fake these disorders cherry pick what parts of the disorder they have and present it in a completely unrealistic manner, people that fake these disorders are disingenuous, and spread misinformation so every one and their mother thinks they have these disorders. And you don’t seem to be much different.

Huh, first fakeclaiming/hate ask. I figured this would happen eventually. It's a good marker, I guess?

But genuinely, I would never fake anything like this. It's a serious trauma disorder, not something to joke about. I'm sorry you see my experiences as unrealistic because I do not often share the darker, more intense aspects of my life, but that's not something I'm willing to be so public about. That is not cheery picking, that is having boundaries.

I shouldn't have to prove myself, but it hasn't been fun and games. Some days I am literally too dissociated to function on my own. Some days I'm too paranoid to leave my room. Some days I'm stuck watching as I can only copilot this body, and it's reassuring yet terrifying at the same time. Some days this-- and so much more.

Look, I agree that spreading misinformation and being disingenuous about DID/OSDD is absolutely disgusting. It makes me sick. However, that's not what I'm doing at all. I'm a responsible adult, and I know how to do my research. Not to mention I clearly state that if there is something I cannot understand, I will pass on answering it. Also, that my advice should be taken as that of a fellow person dealing with these kind of issues, not as a professional's.

Speaking of professionals, though. Yes, my therapist does believe I have OSDD. We have been working through this for a while, but the official diagnostic processes can take years, and can require multiple referrals.

I sincerely apologize that your view of the community has been tainted due to unfortunate circumstances, but please don't come here calling my situation fake and unrealistic. Comments such as yours often hurt more than they help, especially the way it was phrased.

-✒️ (kinda blurry hard to tell who else)

#dissociative identity disorder #did tag #osdd #osdd 1b #osdd alter #tw fakeclaiming #tw fakeclaiming mention #fake claiming tw #tw anon hate #paranoia #tw paranoia #other specified dissociative disorder #osdd system #dissociation #✒️ #❔

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hullo! interaction! would you like to be friends! /nf

Sure thing! I can be forgetful with contact sometimes, got that brain fog and such 😅

But if that doesn't ward you off, then yeah! You could feel free to send a message.

-✒️

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Is masking normal with osdd? If so any tips on stopping, most of us don’t really like acting as the host, if not are we faking because we do it?

It could depend on the system, so there may be some who are on the more overt end of things, but overall, I would say that masking is very normal. OSDD tends to be a covert disorder, meaning that masking as the host in order not to be noticed makes a lot of sense in that regard.

As for stopping, it can be hard to say. If it would put you in danger to be more expressive, I would unfortunately have to say to take it easy around those type of people. However, if you're just talking while you're alone, or while around trusted people, then maybe I can offer some tips.

If you're around said trusted individuals, you could makes note of yourself masking and practice being more open with them. Give yourself time, of course, but if you can tell them who you are, and they know what you're trying to do, it might allow you to be more truly yourself.

If that's not an option, and you just want to be more you while alone, then I suppose it's still worth taking note of those times you feel as if you're acting --only doing or saying something because that's what the host would do-- and allowing yourself to let loose.

Dress more how you want to, partake in your hobbies, eat foods you like, talk about things you enjoy, allow your specific speech patterns to flow. Things of the like!

And lastly, of course masking doesn't mean you're faking. Sometimes it's safer to act as the person you're expected to be. Even if that was only the case in the past, or is just an instinct from unrelated trauma, it's what you're inclined to do. And that's okay. You can work through it how you so choose.

-✒️

#dissociative identity disorder #osdd #osdd system #otherwise specified dissociative disorder #osdd ask #osdd 1b #tw food #tw trauma #tw masking #✒️

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I know this has been talked about before, but I still wanted to give my two cents.

Food sensitivities with Autism are very real, and they can seriously impact one's daily life.

For instance, just today I ran out of all of my routine breakfast items, and the only reason I was able to eat anything was because we had leftovers from a meal I really enjoyed, and I could reheat a portion of that.

People can, and will, go without, rather than "just eat something different." I've had to do it many times, as have many others.

It's more than a matter of preference. For some, they aren't as restricted by it, which is great! But for others, they have a limited number of safe foods, and eating anything outside of that list, can either be extremely unappealing/anxiety inducing, or cause disgust and panic to the point it's nearly impossible.

It's just something to keep in mind.

This post also goes out to those with ADHD, other sensory processing disorders, and ARFID! I know that a bunch of y'all also understand the struggle.

-✒️

#autism spectrum disorder #asd #adhd #actually autistic #actually adhd #sensory processing disorder #sensory problems #tw arfid #tw food #autsim #autistic feels #adhd culture #adhd feels

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Finally downloaded Simply Plural!

(Mine is censored as it contains my real name and I'm not up for sharing that here.)

-✒️

#dissociative identity disorder #did tag #osdd 1b #osdd #osdd alter #osdd fictive #osdd system #did fictive #did system #dsmp fictive #dsmp introject #simply plural #osdd tag #✒️ #other specified dissociative disorder

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PRESENTATION EUPHORIA IS FUCKING WONDERFUL AND GETTING FULLY DECKED OUT WAS AMAZING. (That's what it's called, right?)

We didn't wanna take the outfit off at all holy fuck.

-✒️, ♣️ (Mostly Whisper now but he was so ecstatic I still had to share)

#dissociative identity disorder #osdd #osdd 1b #osdd alter #osdd fictive #otherwise specified dissociative disorder #did tag #osdd system #osdd tag #tw caps #tw swearing

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I don't know whether or not I have DID. I can't see a doctor, due to money and family issues, so that's out of the way untill I can do it myself. My friend is diagnosed with DID, and says I have many signs of it, but there's a lot of different things that sign to it being something else.

I don't fully forget things, and I have a 'alter' that has a somewhat similar personality then me, and they formed pretty quickly. I'm not trying to fake anything, I'm just really confused and concerned. It could easily be something else, but with my little 'alters' there are very different mindsets, emotions and everything. I am not saying at all that I do, because I'm not diagnosed, but I would like to hear from other perspectives! /Gen

Thank you for ur time if ya answer to this

Sorry it took a few days to get to this! I haven't been on here, my apologies.

And don't worry, I don't believe you're trying to fake anything at all! Doubt is totally normal for any symptoms like that.

Of course, you know I'm also not a psychologist or anything, I just wanted to add that again before continuing. I can't say anything for sure, especially not without mode details, but I can try and provide some advice.

If DID doesn't fit the bar, I'd recommend looking into OSDD-1a/b. The main differences between them is that OSDD1a has less distinct parts, to the point wherein they are more akin to fragments rather than fully developed alters, but amnesia is present. And OSDD1b has fully developed alters, but no complete amesnia regarding switches. (There is emotional amesnia, where one does not have a connection to the events that occurred when another alter was fronting, but I digress.)

If either of those sound more accurate, hopefully they can point you in the right direction in terms of dissociative disorders.

Note that some alters may be similar to one another, whereas some may be very different. Neither of these is an incorrect experience of the conditions, so if that's where your main worry lies, it's okay!

Splits can also occur quickly sometimes, it depends entirely on the system and the situation. I've heard of ones that occur over weeks, and ones that occur over meer hours. It's a huge spectrum. Similarly, it's possible for alters to have been around for a while, and to have simply chosen not to show themselves until recently.

Still, it is possible that you're experiencing something else, as you said. I can't rule that out. Even so, you shouldn't just put aside your concerns. Trust yourself and ask questions!

Look into those conditions, or others you may find fitting. Then, take a step back. See if the symptoms continue when you're away from having your mind on such things. And if they do? Look into communication and delve deeper.

Good luck! If you want to ask anything more specific I can do my best :)

-✒️ (And maybe somebody else..?)

#dissociative identity disorder #did tag #did questions #osdd 1b #osdd #osdd 1a #otherwise specified dissociative disorder #anonymous asks #✒️ #❔?

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Dream, staring at a trans flag on the wall: ...

Roommate: What, are you also that?

Dream, who has a male form in the headspace, but is in an AFAB body:

(Being a trans individual is a strangely different experience than being an alter who doesn't conform with the body's assigned gender. One day we'll talk about that, it's some interesting stuff that has gone mostly undiscussed.)

-✒️, 🟢

#osdd #osdd 1b #osdd alter #osdd fictive #osdd system #osdd memes #dissociative identity disorder #did memes #did tag #osdd tag #✒️ #🟢 #otherwise specified dissociative disorder

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Whenever I'm here it's a reminder that I really like fire and will mess with lighters and flames if someone lets me.

Not even to be harmful or anything. Despite struggles with that kind of shit, fire is just fun. I don't know why I enjoy it in that aspect.

-🟢, ✒️

#osdd 1b #osdd #osdd alter #osdd system #osdd fictive #dissociative identity disorder #osdd tag #did tag #tw fire #tw self harm mention #we're good nothing has happened for a long time :) #otherwise specified dissociative disorder #✒️ #🟢