And if I say that I think this idea that Tommy will gladly “break in” Buck for Eddie is actually really gross and repugnant and borderline fetishistic and I love that Lou outright said that Tommy’s looking for love? I sure hope he gets it!
I want Tommy to have a gay friend he talks to about boys and the friend is like "you're going to a wedding with a guy who just came out yesterday!?? And tommy is like 'ya I know I know but he told his sister about me 🥹 and he's just really adorable ok"
Hope what I’m saying makes sense bc English it’s not my first language, but… I’ve been a Buddie shipper since I started the show back in 2021 and I would love for them to get together eventually. But I’m also bi and like… I’ve been Buck before. And it breaks my heart to see people over analyzing the coming out scene and saying things like: “Oh yeah, you can see on his face that Buck wanted for things between them to change” because, in my opinion, that’s simply not true. When I came out to my best friend, I was terrified. She was and is the best ally in the world and I knew that me coming out wasn’t going to change a thing between us, but at the same time I was fucking terrified because… it might. And I couldn’t be sure of it until I told here. So maybe I’m projecting too much into Buck, but I hate that his journey and his coming coming out tends to be seen only as a way to get Buddie canon, because it could be so much more than that
Don’t worry about your English, because you’ve expressed yourself very well!
I completely agree. Coming out to your friends and family is nerve-wracking, even if you’re 99% it will be fine, there’s always that creeping doubt- what if you’re wrong about them? What if they’re okay with lgbtq people as long as it’s only at arm’s length? What if they’re not exactly phobic about it, but they can’t help but be weird about it?
Tbh it’s part of why I’m not out to my friends and family. My situation is simplified by the fact that for personal reasons I haven’t dated since my early 20s, so it just never comes up anymore.
But I also remember when I was younger, being pressed about my relationships with both my male and female friends. There was one in particular who I was especially close to, who lived with me for a while, that I was asked about repeatedly. Our relationship was never sexual or romantic, but the speculation actually drove us apart. My flavor of queer usually bends more towards women than men. She’s asexual and has been clear about that since well before it was a a semi-well-known designation. I shouldn’t have had to out her to get people off our backs, and I never did, and eventually the damage was done.
I get why buddie shippers want to see things that support the ship. I do, I have worn the shipping goggles before myself. But making everything between two emotionally close people romantic and/or sexual can be really damaging in real life. I get that TV is not real life, but it is meant to be somewhat reflective of real life.
Buck’s coming out scenes were both wonderful on their own merits without needing to be read any deeper. Maddie was just talking about Buck feeling uncomfortable with lying, even though he has a right to want to take his own time with it. He didn’t even mean to come out to her, he just slipped up and she had to scramble to process it and also try to say the right things and give him good advice.
I don’t need to read any subtext into the scene with Eddie. This was the first time Buck has intentionally let anybody know he’s not straight. The way you can see him steel himself and decide to say it, choose to trust Eddie with this really important, really vulnerable thing. It was beautiful and emotional. Buck genuinely was happy and relieved that Eddie accepted this new information about him with barely a blink. Not everybody gets that. Especially between men.
That scene was perfect in my eyes and doesn’t need to be scrutinized for hints of romantic Buddie “evidence” or foreshadowing or whatever. It is actually important for straight male viewers to see these very masculine men have that kind of moment, and for Eddie to just easily accept his friend’s newfound queerness. Hopefully it gives some of them a reference for if one of their friends ever has something important to share.