Tips for Writing Healthy Romantic Relationships
Don’t base them exclusively on physical and/or sexual attraction. While these kinds of attraction can certainly strengthen relationships, they can’t create anything but a weak foundation for a relationship on their own.
Know how your characters like to show and be shown affection. Not everyone shows their interest in others the same way. Some people like to give gifts. Others like to cuddle. Still others like giving compliments. Different people like to receive different kinds of affection as well.
Remember that love at first sight is a myth. You can have lust at first sight and romantic interest at first sight, but true love takes time to develop.
Show the characters interacting and getting to know each other. This should be obvious, but it is all to common for a character to be given a love interest at the last minute or to be paired off with someone the reader hasn’t seen them interact with much. Remember, the reader doesn’t have to see every little thing they do together, but the relationship will feel forced to the reader if they don’t see the characters interacting and establishing that they genuinely care about each other in a significant way. If the reader views your character’s significant other as little more than a stranger, then you’re doing something wrong.
Have both characters do things for each other and contribute to the relationship in meaningful ways. Relationships are two way streets. While you don’t need to keep score of exactly who does what for who (Relationships are not a competitive sport!), the relationship should seem fairly balanced or, if it’s not, then the characters should be working to change that.
Don’t give your characters completely incompatible traits. While it’s healthy for people to differ from each other, there are some differences that even people that are otherwise perfect for each other probably can’t overcome. For example, a environmental activist would have a hard time having a healthy relationship with someone who wants to chop dow a forest. Basically, know your characters’ deal breakers so that you won’t try to match up characters who are simply incompatible with each other.
Have them share interests. This is a great way to add substance to relationships outside of physical attraction and compatible personalities. Maybe they both like fishing. Maybe they share a passion for baking. Whatever you decide to have them like, don’t be afraid to use your characters’ shared interests as opportunities for them to bond. Also, if your characters don’t share a lot of interests/hobbies, consider having one character introduce the other to their hobby or have one character take initiative to try something the other likes. This is a great way to show how much your characters care about each other because it demonstrates your characters’ genuine interest in what makes their partner happy.
Let the relationship experience at least a few bumps in the road. No relationships are perfect. Let your characters disagree, argue, and maybe even have a full on fight. Relationships that withstand obstacles seem stronger to readers, especially if the characters grow as people because of these hardships.
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When I Become King
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Prompt: Dreams of Tomorrow
Words: 292
I wrote about my own OC, Maes, from one of my WIPs. His perspective is very different from the rest of my characters.
Bonnie is naïve. She’s too trusting, too sweet.
Don’t get me wrong, I love my sister, but her views to me, are just all wrong. Why be complacent in a place where you obviously don’t belong? Why let any authority walk all over you, and tell you what you should become?
We differ in that way, me, and Bonnie. She lets the king tell her what to do, and I tell the king what I’m doing and when I’m doing it. He’s not king over me and he never will be.
I hate to slander her words, but Bonnie still has generic, cookie-cutter dreams for tomorrow. Her mind runs rampant with ideas of what she’ll do once she’s free from here, once she’s lost the suffocating grip of her parents. Little does she know, when I become King, things will take a turn in my favor.
See I have my own dreams for tomorrow; ones that are more realistic and much more liberating. When I have total power, I can have anything that I desire. There would be no more pining and restless daydreaming, because all my dreams will come true before I can even snap my fingers. To be feared, to be obeyed, to be in power is more liberating than any fairy tale dream Bonnie could ever create.
Everyone has dreams, right? I can’t blame anyone for finding what they truly desire while their asleep at night. But some dreams are more…. right than others. The dream, the ideology, the desire is right when you get what you want, and you break free of chains bound tightly.
When I become King, things will definitely change; and I believe that our lovely ruler, now, has seen the last of his days.
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Do you have any tips for writing developing or established romantic relationships? Alternatively, what's your favorite breed of cat?
Yes! I have some tips for developing romantic relationships. The key to writing any good relationship is answering two questions:
What is drawing them together? And
What is keeping them apart?
Some people refer to writing relationships as “weaving the roses.” Roses have thorns which are keeping them apart. People also have thorns, you just have to ask yourself, what part of their personalities or circumstances are keeping them apart?
Are they from rival families? Do their personalities clash? Is there a class divide?
And then, you have to weave the roses together. You have to bring them together after great conflict and overcoming many obstacles. That is the basics of any great romance.
Another aspect is writing fun banter and good chemistry, but that’s a post for another time.
I hope that helps! Best of luck with writing.
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How to Write Dialogue
Basic Structure
There are a few ways to structure dialogue. These are the most common ways to structure a line, although I haven’t seen 7 in a very long time.
“The dog’s outside. He’s finally stopped barking,” Anne said.
“The dog’s outside. He’s finally stopped barking,” said Anne.
“The dog’s outside,” Anne said. “He’s finally stopped barking.”
“The dog’s outside,” said Anne. “He’s finally stopped barking.”
Anne said, “The dog’s outside. He’s finally stopped barking.”
“The dog’s outside.” Anne sighed with relief. “He’s finally stopped barking.”
Said Anne, “The dog’s outside. He’s finally stopped barking.”
It’s a good idea to avoid using the same method twice. Two or three or four (!) straight lines of 1’s “X said” or 6’s sentences broken up by a dialogue will sound strange.
Notice how the dialogue tag (“Anna said” and variations thereof) only goes in an area that does not impede the flow of dialogue. In the case of 3, 4, and 6, the dialogue tag or action actually enhances the period’s long pause. Only place dialogue tags at the beginning or end of a phrase, or where there would normally be a period, semicolon, colon, comma, or other punctuation indicating rest.
Dialogue Tags
A dialogue tag is a word + the person saying it. “He said”, “she said”, “they said”, etc. are all dialogue tags. The most common verb in a dialogue tag is “to say” (said, says, say, etc.) A lot of authors like it for its simplicity and unobtrusiveness. For those who insist “said is dead” (implying “said” is so bland it shouldn’t be used anymore), there are a bajillion other dialogue tags to play with.
Some verbs should not be used as dialogue tags.
“I’m really grateful,” Kiandra smiled
“This is ridiculous,” Aelwen sighed.
A dialogue tag is there to tell the reader how the character says something. You cannot say something smilingly or sighingly. You might say it happily or regretfully.
“I’m really grateful,” Kiandra said with a smile // “I’m really grateful,” Kiandra said happily
“This is ridiculous,” Aelwen said. He sighed sadly // “This is ridiculous.” Aelwen sighed.
Actions are not dialogue tags.
Adverbs
Adverbs are the little “-ly” words you add at the end of dialogue tag to show how a character is saying something.
“I don’t know,” Vanhi said uncertainly.
“I can’t wait!” Quetzel said excitedly.
Excitedly and uncertainly are the adverbs in this case. There is a list of adverbs here and here. Don’t get too hooked on adverbs. They’re great for helping when the meaning of a line is unclear.
Take this sentence:
“I love you,” Mirage said.
By itself this sentence isn’t much. You have no idea how Mirage is saying it, and it could be hundreds of different ways. Now modify that.
“I love you,” Mirage said desperately.
“I love you,” Mirage said sarcastically.
“I love you,” Mirage said joyfully.
“I love you,” Mirage said defiantly.
Now you know exactly how Mirage is saying it.
Recently, there’s been a movement to do away with adverbs or to use adverbs sparingly. Most adverbs are unnecessary. You can guess how a character is saying something by context. For example,
Myrtle kissed Mirage’s cheek and pressed a chocolate into her hand.
“I love you,” Mirage said.
You can assume that Mirage is saying this in loving or affectionate voice without the adverb being there. You can also use different dialogue tags to express the same emotion.
“I love you,” Mirage yelled
Vs.
“I love you,” Mirage said loudly.
Finally, adverbs sound funny if you use them one after another.
“I despise you,” Makai said sharply.
“I don’t think you’re much to look at, either,” Hagan said fiercely.
“I can’t believe Falk put us on this stupid date,” Makai said crossly.
If you’re addicted to adverbs, restrict them to every ten dialogue tags. If you aren’t addicted to adverbs, then just use them whenever you feel you need them. You can always delete them later if you think they’re unnecessary.
Abandoning Your Dialogue Tags
There are some cases where you can forgo using dialogue tags altogether. When two people are speaking with each other in a natural give-and-take pattern, the audience knows that they are the ones speaking, and in what order they are speaking. See below.
“The dog’s outside,” Anne said. “He’s finally stopped barking.”
“I don’t understand why he’s so frightened of the vacuum,” said Brenda.
“If you were the size of a Chihuahua, I think a lot of things would frighten you,” Anne said.
“Was that a crack about my height?”
“Shorty!”
You can tell Brenda said, “Was that a crack about my height?” because Anne spoke before her, and you can tell Anne said, “Shorty!” because Brenda spoke before her. Do not use this trick if more than two people are speaking at a time. You could introduce a third person like this:
“Was that a crack about my height?”
“Shorty!”
“Cut it out,” Dan said crossly.
“Can’t we have a little fun?” Anne asked.
“You’re so annoying.”
Since we specified it’s Anne and Dan speaking in turn, it can only be Dan who says, “You’re so annoying.”
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