#ALSO sometimes there isn't actually enough merit for it to be worth swallowing the poison. but that has to be a personal decision.

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i will say, i get impatient sometimes with ppl who state [what should be] the obvious wrt -isms in a work in a way that feels designed to shut down engagement with it, rather than saying, right, okay, there's some real gristle here, let's chew on it; but the flip side of that is that like—there's something deeply and frankly violently crazy-making abt seeing ppl pass something around that's glaringly fucked up along a particular axis, and seeing none of them so much as acknowledge it??

#still thinking abt the way the witcher fandom discovered book!dandelion yelling at an elf woman on geralt's behalf and decided it was Cute #without any acknowledgment whatsoever of the *deeply misogynist* language he whipped out in this tirade #and then a BNF was like 'bold of you to assume we aren't all aware' and unfollowed me for mentioning it #like. idk. it is actually important to make sure some percentage of a public conversation acknowledges the Problematic Bits imo? #bc inevitably in a public forum there ARE people there who aren't actually clear on the fact that those bits are‚ in fact‚ problematic #and will in fact dismiss it and denigrate you for bringing it up and basically deploy all sorts of strategies to resist having to realize it #at the same time—i like lots of shit that's fucked up! but like. let's like it AND admit it's fucked up. #ALSO sometimes there isn't actually enough merit for it to be worth swallowing the poison. but that has to be a personal decision. #(even as i obviously think my personal choices wrt when to cut bait are objectively correct and everyone else should be guided by them lol) #bookblogging