#it's not ''lol im stupid and shallow and vain'' for anyone and i wish people would stop talking about it like it is.

[kindnessoverperfection]

upset about the fact that people think it's cute and trendy to talk about ppl with EDs as if they're just like "haha im ugly lol i'm shallow and vain and fatphobic <3"

like please do 2 seconds of research on EDs and stop spitting vitriol at ppl with a life-threatening illness who hate themselves deeply and have a 10% death rate thanks

#ed discussion / #like yeah there are people who act cruelly to others and take their own stuff out on other people. it's like that with every mental illness #there's a whole range of experiences with eds that i just can not cover in the tags of a post #and one of my loved ones has an ed and internalized fatphobia from many years of deep trauma. and they DO struggle w/seeing other people #in certain ways & will occasionally make a judgmental comment #but it's something they're holding themself accountable for and feel guilty about and actively working on and addressing and challenging. #and they're really supportive of body positivity and are trying to get better. but when you grow up like that it doesn't happen overnight #and as for me i've never seen other people like that. it's not like that for me. i think fatphobia is stupid as fuck and know all the #reasons why it is. i think society and beauty standards are complete BS. at its core it isn't about the food or weight #it's about trying to avoid mistreatment & false associations with oppressive/capitalist beauty standards=love & #coping mechanisms & addiction & isolation & attempting to exert control over traumatic situations through self-destruction #it's not ''lol im stupid and shallow and vain'' for anyone and i wish people would stop talking about it like it is. #had someone talk about how their friend's mom LITERALLY starved her and now she makes self-deprecating comments about her own #body (but says nice things about other people). then they IMMEDIATELY went on to talk very angrily about that friend for doing that. #and i was like?????? oh my GOD??? #like if it's triggering to hear those comments that's totally understandable and please let her know. those comments can be triggering for #me too. but why do people treat people with EDs so horribly #it's terrible