#they dont see themselves as 'threatening' so theyre the ones who have most often grabbed me

[corvidaedream]

frequently I will say to myself, especially in tourist-heavy times, i would like a more serious job at a more serious museum where members of the public do not keep touching me inappropriately

but, unfortunately, my coworkers are so fun and kind and have created such a positive little pocket of queer community that idk if i could bear to leave unless something big changes

#messages from the ouija board #sadies day job #i didnt get touched inappropriately today dw i have the day off #but we have new people who ive been giving advice to and theyre like ??? thats so scary ??? and the best i can do is like. #'just know if u have to hit a guest u will not be fired probably. like u can do whatever u gotta do.' #its not even older men who are the worst! u would think and theres usually one or two a week who say something gross #but generally i find its middle aged or older typically white women who have been the worst to me & my coworkers #they dont see themselves as 'threatening' so theyre the ones who have most often grabbed me #every female-presenting fat or midsize person on site has a story of an older woman touching our stomach #to ask if its 'real' or how many layers of hoops/padding it is. and theyll panic when u tell them 'thats just my stomach' or 'im just fat' #i do enjoy that fear in their eyes #the most violated ive felt w a female guest is a woman a few months ago lifted up my petticoat to look at the pattern on my marseille #(she was seated and i was standing talking to a guest behind her) #and i know outside of work id be comfortable wearing less than what she saw but the act of it really freaked me out