#whereas what's done to girls is consistently some wire mother shit

[astraltrickster]

I find it genuinely fascinating and disturbing alike how the stereotype of autism, at least in many left-leaning spaces, has shifted in recent years from being a tragic, isolating white boys' disease, that tears families apart and is truly a fate worse than death for the sufferer, to a frivolous and #aesthetic white GIRLS' quirk that never has any ACTUALLY detrimental effects, not even any social difficulties, all these girls on TikTok can mask well and talk Normally and only flap cutely so what's YOUR excuse?

We spent maybe 5 figurative minutes talking about how autism mommy culture is abusively ableist in the way it simultaneously bends over backward to avoid teaching autistic kids - ESPECIALLY autistic boys - any meaningful coping skills, writing the whole concept off as just truly impossible (it's just the nature of The Autism Winning, these poor poor children are just tragically locked in their own heads, and if they're boys, well, Boys Will Be Boys, there's certainly nothing to be done for the meltdowns, stress reduction and clearer communication is a hopeless endeavor, he's just Acting Out completely arbitrarily, no I haven't actually TRIED I don't need to I Just Know), but simultaneously demands that kids learn these skills on their own because their parents just refuse to communicate with them on their own terms - then the fidget spinner trend happened, we got a whole stim toy industry, it blended with influencer and wannabe-influencer culture, and now...we just have a whole new stereotype that's no better; what it reduces in potential as eugenics propaganda, it makes up for in denial of support needs and misogynistic overtones.

In short, I fucking hate it.

#disability #serious tag #actually autistic #i mean not that there was ever significant support for autistic girls #just. on average girls get punished harder for *not* masking because no one writes it off as impossible #because Girls Are Supposed To Be People-Smart ((((((: #this is not better and i am not saying it is #but it's not as emblematic of the mindset around the older stereotype of the diagnosis y'know? #and tbh i think we should look at the differences in a way that's not about which is Worse #what's always been done to boys is like. tailor made to create disorganized attachment. it's hot and cold #whereas what's done to girls is consistently some wire mother shit #and both approaches FUCKING SUCK