#and my entire life I've hated disapproving adults who shake their heads and go tsk tsk when you talk about anything they deem inappropriate

[neverendingford]

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#tag talk #excuse me while I get drunk and ramble about the magic of human connection to my younger friend who hasn't had to deal with all this yet #when people talk about the importance of intergenerational friendships they're talking about me mentoring the gay kids I meet on minecraft #because no one should have to grow up alone. #and sure. “minors shouldn't interact with sex” is a pretty set in stone rule. but do you think the minors are following it? #do you think it benefits kids who are already having sex in high school if we clam up like puritans about the existence of cum? #I did get the chance to refer him to the scarleteen website though so thanks whatever tumblr post offered me that resource #but gay kids with Christian parents deserve the chance to have a safe space to make daddy jokes and talk about having a hard time #and my entire life I've hated disapproving adults who shake their heads and go tsk tsk when you talk about anything they deem inappropriate #I'm not about to turn into one. I'm not about to shut a kid up just because I think they shouldn't think about sex. #they're just going to find that info elsewhere. they're just going to find someone else to talk to. to confide in #no one should grow up alone. I want to be someone people can talk to #I needed someone I could talk about this shit with when I was twelve. you don't get to tell me minors can't ever think about sex #I needed someone when I was a kid and I had no one. I choose caring about others over a rule without context. #gay kids deserve to know that other gay people exist. they deserve to talk to someone who will resonate with their life experience #I do appreciate all the “hey watch out for grooming” PSAs though. I always make sure to steer clear of a lot of those things #cause like. I know I'm above board. but deniability and accountability and all that. but #but kids do deserve to be treated like humans. like beings capable of autonomous thought #which btw this particular friend is legit almost eighteen I'm not getting drunk and talking about sex with a nine year old don't kill me #plenty of seventeen year olds already know about sex and alcohol and drugs and politics and crime and shit #you don't turn eighteen and immediately eat from the tree of the knowledge of Good and Evil that's not how growing up works #anyway “people stop having a black and white view about the transition from childhood to adulthood” challenge. there's nuance and ambiguity #I wanted to be treated like a real human being when I was a child. I'm not about to deny that from someone else.