#and that activists that focus on topics that majoritarily touch women and children often fail to get any help from their men counterparts

[thesmokinpossum]

I really just saw a post that said it was awful to refer to a man as 'one of the good man' because it imply that the neutral state of men is to be evil and like...Yes, gender essentialism is bad and no I don't think that men are inherently bad (I don't think any gender is inherently anything but like... 

I'm also a woman who has lived in patriarchal state all of her life and an historian who studied both the history of her own country in great detail AND european medieval history (which, for better or worst is the basis of the modern american society on a legal and cultural perspective) and I'm sorry but there's reasons for women to be suspicious of men by default and to take a while to trust them on an individual basis and not to be dramatic but I legit don't know how we're supposed to have any healthy discussion about gender if we're not willing to say anything at all about that because it’s ‘mean’ to men.

(and like...of course some radfems will just say the most heinous shits and being offended by often gratuitous violent threat is perfectly normal,especially since they often come from white cis women with no regard for how complex power dynamics and privileges are and of course men as individuals don’t all hold the same amount of power over all individual women since things like race, sexuality, class and a ton of others are also gonna have a huge impact but like...if as a dude you can’t hear some random woman being like ‘i don’t trust men’ without making it about you then you’re probably the problem tbh)

#like...not even gonna go into interpersonal heterosexual relationships because that's awildly complex topic but like... #you realize that governments that are like 90% + men are passing laws that fuck over women right now right? #and that activists that focus on topics that majoritarily touch women and children often fail to get any help from their men counterparts? #while the opposite is pretty much never true? #and that men still hold almost all the wealth in the world? as well as most of the position of power in governement and private compagnies? #like are we allowed to talk about this or is it too meanie mean mean for the poor men? #if it's apparently too fuckign mean to say that one specific man is better than most of them???? #why do i keep seeing such dumb 'feminist' takes lately? is it from tiktok? what's going on? #like my own grandmother had no rigth over the medical treatments of her disabled son because a bunch of men had decided so #my grandfather could very well had put him in an institution even if she didn't wanted it at all and she would have had next to no recourse #luckily for her her husband was one of the good man and i don't give a fuck if the concept is apparently offensive lmao #btw this whole thing was from the 60's to the 70's...about 50 years ago #but sure women should just inherently trust men in everything without any reservation ever that's the way of the future lmao