#and there's a perception that the only 'young people' (ie under 45) are military families

[grunge-mermaid]

tangential to previous rant

my parents keep trying to drag me to events with them because I don't go anywhere. there is nowhere for me to go. there is nothing interesting to do. they keep trying to drag me to Retired People Things with other Retired People. like, no, I do not want to go to a farm and listen to depressing mediocre folk music for an entire day.

and when I do decide to go somewhere, it's met with the most fucking patronizing "ohhh goooood" like I am thirty-fucking-four can you at least treat me like an adult

how long will it take for me to get through to them that it's not "I don't want to go anywhere or do things" it's "I want to go do things but there is nothing appealing to do"

I want to make friends and not be a hermit but there are no events where I could meet people roughly my age with things in common. where are the social events for 25-40 year old civilians that aren't Baby & Me groups or Romeo & Juliet dances at the legion? where are the year-round knitting groups that aren't addictions group counselling or MFRC-exclusive?

and it's not even just socializing, there's nowhere to really go at all if you don't have a car. except the hospital. the hospital is within walking distance.

walking *to* the library is doable but the hill is too steep to walk home if you're asthma is as bad and as unmedicated as mine but their book selection is kind of useless & last time I tried to do an interlibrary loan for something worth reading, it took so long I had moved to another province by the time the book came in.

even if the MFRC had civilian-friendly events (they do allow civilian gym memberships so I assume they allow civilians in other contexts idk?), I can't really get there.

#the median age of this county is one of the highest in the province #and there's a perception that the only 'young people' (ie under 45) are military families #so all activities are pretty much geared towards seniors & young families #if it were up to me & I had the means I'd still be in Ottawa where there were Things To Do #that were within walking distance #and I had transportational autonomy #all of the events that are happening are GOOD THINGS for the demographics they are open to and I am very happy that they exist #bc this town had fuck all like that 10-20 years ago so this is good! #I just wish there were *also* events that applied/appealed to me