#smthn smthn gender and sexuality labels are social constructs that exist within the assumption of a 'normal' experience

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gender and sexuality labels are so fucking hard how am i supposed to know how what i experience (already hard to pin down) compares to what "normal people" experience (completely unknown to me)

#leologisms #smthn smthn gender and sexuality labels are social constructs that exist within the assumption of a 'normal' experience #and a) i have no idea what EXACTLY that experience is supposed to be like b) im not fully convinced it actually EXISTS #youre telling me 'normal' people all experience attraction/gender in this ONE particular way? for real? youve gotta be lying to me #even ''''''normal'''''' (allo cishet) people talk about how their experiences with romance dont align with how its commonly talked about #how am i (transgay autist) supposed to know exactly what a 'normal' experience is in order to categorise myself in relation to it #more and more i find myself attracted to ambiguous identities because i have no way of defining myself more precisely that feels right #not male or female or even nonbinary but simply transgender. if 'gay' didnt carry the meaning 'homosexual' id probably identify more #strongly with it too (rather than bi) #for a while ive been wondering about ace identities but ive been reluctant to actually explore them too deeply because a) im afraid of #stepping on toes (for some reason. i dont know why.) b) im sure these labels ARE useful for lots of people but man. considering right now i #in a sort of. 'dont look at it too hard' space wrt my identities i dont actually think id even feel very comfortable w any of them anyway #do i experience attraction in a normal way? maybe. define normal.