#wife didn't change her name on marriage was a foreshadowing of her later murder of her husband and idk

[countess-of-edessa]

probably my least trad trait ever is how irrationally annoyed the idea of changing my name on marriage/giving my children someone else's name makes me

#i just feel like there's no good solution #except theoretically hyphenating but in reality it pretty much always looks stupid #and i would not do it #but like the idea that your children can carry the surnames of both of their parents is a nice idea even if it fails in execution #instead it's (1) take someone else's name which i hate it's not my name and it's not like im joining his family we are creating our own uni #(2) don't take his name. but you still have to give his name to your kids. and now you and your kids don't share a last name. #I don't know why this makes me so irrationally upset #i mean i do and it's because I have literally the exact same feelings as 100% of men do on both of these matters #but because they're men it doesn't matter and it works out for them either way. they can just feel like that and get what they want. #and because i am a woman I don't have a good solution available #I mean it's not like anyone wants to marry me so who even really cares i just heard a podcast where people debated whether the fact that th #wife didn't change her name on marriage was a foreshadowing of her later murder of her husband and idk