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#nuanced answer - arospec #i only feel comfortable if the feelings are mutual

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being a gay aroacespec is so embarrassinggggg like yes i have a little crush but it's not a romantic crush and it's definitely not sexual either but it's also not platonic. it's a secret fourth thing

#a friend has been flirting with me for the past uhh week? and i'm giggling and kicking my feet #but in the most aromantic way possible. does anyone get it. does this make sense #nick talks #arospec #aro spectrum

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peace and aromanticism on planet earth

peace and aromanticism on planet earth!!!!!! :D

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peace and aromanticism on planet earth

peace and aromanticism on planet earth!!!!!! :D

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i think a lot about the loneliness of being aromantic. because it's something that's so profound, right? you're told your whole life that you need something to make you happy, to make you complete, to give you connection with other people, and when you realize you're aro, that's torn away from you. everything you've been raised to want is no longer something that will fulfill you. you are not built to be happy. and it gets better with time, it does! you restructure your world view, bit by bit, and the sting fades, but... i don't think it ever truly goes away. it's hard to express, because i love being aro, and i'm happy being aro, i wouldn't want to be any other way, but at the same time. there is such a profound heartbreak to knowing that you will never be someone's most important person in a society that values romance. that you'll never get the happy ever after that you were promised as a child. and you know you can be happy. but there's a lifetime of amatonormativity that lives in your brain and tells you that you can't.

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Arothacus Rubecula!

Birbuary is to raise awareness of Songbird Survival

Original reference photo by Francis C. Franklin

Happy Arotine's Day!

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"let ace people have sex" "let aro people be in romantic relationships"

how about you let ace people exist without sex and aro people exist without romance because some of you can't seem to do even just that

after you figure out how to have basic human decency, then we can talk, but it seems like so many people say that aro and/or ace people can do those things not for representation or awareness that sexuality is a fluid and also a spectrum but so that they can push it into characters they want to ship together or people they want to invalidate

because yes, they can, but that's not for you to force onto people for you own comfort

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my favorite youtube comment ive ever seen by far

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does anyone know any picrews with the aegosexual/aegoromantic flags? i've realized i don't really vibe with the aroace flag anymore (i like it but i don't think it represents me that well) so i'd like to change my pfp but i can't find any good picrews that include it :(

#aro #aromantic #arospec #aro spectrum #aromantic spectrum #ace #asexual #acespec #ace spectrum #asexual spectrum #aegosexual #aegoromantic

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honestly my advice for people questioning if they're aro is kind of the same as my advice for people questioning if they're trans which is do less worrying about whether or not you inherently fall into this arbitrary category and do more considering what you want in and from your life. like ultimately deconstructing societal ideals of what relationships (or gender) should be like and figuring out what you want them to look like in your life is what matters and whether or not you experience romantic attraction is kind of immaterial

#i think i needed to hear this

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poll idea for aros:

what does your dating history look like?

aro, dated before i knew

aro, never dated

aro, dated while i knew

aro, currently dating

in my experience i dated before i knew i was aro and that helped me actually realize i was aro (dating basically just felt like friendship premium) and i wanted to see if other aros share that experience

#dated before i knew #when i realized i broke things off #mostly cause i knew he had real feelings and it felt unfair

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Pastel Pride Flags! Pt. 3

(More to come)

We’ve got some on the aroace spectrum today

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someone needs to make a queerplatonic matchmaking app

like,,, that would be fire asf cmon

#THIS IS WHAT I'VE BEEN SAYING #if i knew how to code and make apps i'd already be working on it

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Anyone else happily aromantic but terrified that the world will eventually leave them behind

#literally this #i love being arospec. i'm terrified of being left alone

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yesterday i met with a friend who is also arospec for the first time since discovering i'm also somewhere on the spectrum, and when i told her that i'm arospec we started talking about our shared experiences and it was so nice <3

#it was also very relieving to be like. okay! i'm actually arospec this is also an experience that she had!! i'm not weird #like i love the online arospec community but knowing someone irl who is part of it is so. great #aro #arospec #aro pride #aromantic

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being a lovequeer aro is like. i genuinely cannot imagine falling in love with someone but i am so wildly in love with all the people i care about and i don’t exactly want or not want romance, but i crave intimacy on a level society has taught me only romance can have

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hey so i aro-ed your boyfriend. yeah he's rejected the concept of love and amatonormativity. no, no he's still your boyfriend, he's just aro now

#this happened to me