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[Text: This factive is from a childhood special interest/hyperfixation.]

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[Text: This fictive is from a childhood special interest/hyperfixation.]

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[Text: This alter is from a childhood special interest/hyperfixation.]

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I make myself laugh rlly

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[Text: This system won’t always clarify who’s fronting, but doesn’t mind being asked.]

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That moment when another alter said something really out of pocket and you reread the messages

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In-system ages are extremely subjective to each system

In some, they are completely accurate and very important

In others, they're virtually useless

That does not mean any one system can be a dick to another abput how they handle those things.

^^ exactly

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[Text ID: This user is the host of a subsystem.]

[Text ID: This user is a part of a subsystem. ]

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#userboxes #abyss #beary #deep blue #phantom #tricksys #boxes

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a reminder that the host isn’t the only person in the system who should be respected and made to feel comfortable.

the host is not ‘the important part’, we are all completely conscious and capable of our own thoughts, feelings and our own boundaries. our brain created us because it decided that we are all important and needed.

the host is not the only member of a system you should care about.

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JERITZA VON HRYM && system » requested by @5seraphim

#i love this so much actually #system content

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[Text: This alter is a Factive.]

[Text: This alter is a factroject.]

[Text: This alter is a factual introject.]

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#userboxes

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[Text ID: This system has OC fictives.]

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@ MINOR & ADULT Systems Still Living with Your Abusers / in an Abusive Environment — PLEASE READ IN FULL

Finding out about the inner workings of Your OSDDID when you still live with Your Abusers; is an excellent exercise in creating an inaccurate, or skewed view of yourself.

Attempting to document/detail system structures, triggers & trauma, indepth alter counts — without the help of supports like; medical professional(s) / your own place / cutting off abuser contact(s) / IRL found-family — is going to be incredibly difficult because your system is still being abused & triggered.

The combination of Your Brain & Body undergoing rapid growth changes; your system still being in a highly incognito state, and The Fact You Are Still Being Abused = You require a greater level of constant dissociative compartmentalization, and trauma responses, to survive your day-to-day.

Which makes it Damn Near Impossible to accurately assess whats going on inside; if your reaction was an fragment or an alter, if it was a cPTSD flashback, or any other Disordered Behaviours that are not indicative of OSDDID. (Psychosis, BPD states, Autism/ADHD behaviours, NPD states, etc)

Additionally; when living with your abusers, your mind is absolutely in survival mode. You are not going to accurately 100% understand when you are a different identity state VS when your having a temporary reaction to your environment. (ie; Fawn, Freeze, Flight, Fight, etc.)

Your understanding of yourself & your state of mind Will Change After Escaping your abusers/environment. EVEN IF you were able to be accurate- that is not going remain accurate.

Simply because; once you escape your Abusive Environment, your brain Will Just Start reordering its whole perception of Life & Your System, to adjust for how different life is when you are not reliant on your abusers.

Which Just to Clarify!! Ignoring this advice & and doing this the hard way; resulting in being wrong about your system- will not kill you. But like it IS a massive pain in the ass to have to choose between;

Ignoring your previous hard work & rediscover your system from scratch again

Wade up your big kid pants and start working through a swamp of teenage idiocy to find out if anything is remotely accurate to present day

Some insane mixture of the above.

The point of this is, Your DID/OSDD isn’t going to leave just because You start prioritizing Yourself.

To any Minor or Adult Systems stuck with Your Abusers, you are allowed to survive first and ask questions later. Your System means nothing if you aren’t safe enough to live as yourself- Please Prioritize Your Survival Over Understanding.

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Just fully realized that we dont really know who's fronting most of the time unless it's EXTREMELY obvious, and that's completely fine. We don't need to know who's fronting and we don't owe it to anyone to know. It's okay to just exist. To just be and not worry about who we are at the moment. It's okay for us to just live and not stress out about figuring out who we are so we can change our simplyplural or tell our friends or flock who is fronting. It's perfectly alright to not know. We're okay like this.

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Day 276 - THE SYSTEM BROTHERS

#milgram #doe #calico

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thank the alter who did the homework. tell the alter who cooked how much you liked the food. tell the alters who shower and clean your room and work out and drive home how much you appreciate them keeping things together, and tell them more when they mess up, because it's all about being there for each other.

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my identity has been dissociative disordered :(

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