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"nothing is real atoms never touch each other youve never touched anything in your life" ok. well when i pet my dog he is soft and when he licks my hand it is wet and that is far more real to me than whatevers going on at an atomic level

#sure ill reblog that

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y’all remember being 15? That was fucked up

#my friend told me about this post earlier this week. hi lucy.

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hello i am metaphorically givving you 275 boops bc you arent here :((((((

grem says hi (he is looking over my shoulder lmao)

thank you :( i'm so prince andrey coded

hi grem<3

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hiiiiii!!!!!!!!!! youre backkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk

well i'm not really unfortunately but. hi :)

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grackie you're back?

hi :)

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you seem like you have a lot of unresolved issues that really impact your life. do wanna go out sometime

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Co-signed

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Disco Enjolras the classic

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it rules to be a transgender writer because writing trans themes is easy as fuck. it's easy as fuck dude. trans themes basically write themselves. change is the fundamental motor of storytelling. guess what else is all about change bitch

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it rules to be a transgender writer because writing trans themes is easy as fuck. it's easy as fuck dude. trans themes basically write themselves. change is the fundamental motor of storytelling. guess what else is all about change bitch

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it rules to be a transgender writer because writing trans themes is easy as fuck. it's easy as fuck dude. trans themes basically write themselves. change is the fundamental motor of storytelling. guess what else is all about change bitch

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I have to be really careful to make sure that my friends are on the same page about my sense of humor because responding “pah! a pathetic display of human weakness!” to a buddy being vulnerable and expressing their love for me could go south really easily if it were not understood that sometimes I just compulsively roleplay an anime villain

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I made an isopod friend in blender!

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Vasily Khudyakov (Russian b.1983), February Lace, Oil on canvas

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CHARLIE BACK ON THE DASH HI !!!!!!!!

HI !!!!!!!!! i am back very temporarily hi :)

#idk if i've told the story on here but basically i can't access tumblr or discord or anything on my home wifi rn :/

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so kinda random but you see cool enough to know the answer maybe idk. but uh how do you know that you aren’t straight. like is there a magic fairy that visits you in the night and is like “✨yOuRe gAy✨” because that seems to be the easiest explanation but i wouldn’t know. also follow up question, should i tell my religious parents because i think i would simply die. anyway if you don’t have any answers no worries just thought it was worth asking. have a wonderful day <333

hi!! i am so flattered that you think i am cool enough to know and i will try my best to answer this o7

so the way i figured it out was kinda weird because i knew i was queer as soon as i decided that being queer is not a sin. so after minimal self reflection i kinda went "oh makes sense. cool" which i understand is not a universal experience (and then i dealt with specifics later but honestly who gives a shit)

the thing is it's like ... do i have any concrete evidence that i'm straight or is that just the "default"? and the other thing is. you can do whatever you want forever. you can define yourself a ton of ways and grow out of all of them and that is literally fine

anyway there's not a concrete answer to "how do you know you aren't straight" but there Also isn't a concrete answer to "how do you know you ARE straight" so it is truthfully all very blurry. basically you have to stare at a wall and think about it and then at some point pieces come together

talking to people about it helps too, if it's safe for you to do that, or something that helped me figure it out was reading about other people's experiences finding things out and going HEY THAT'S LIKE ME

anyway my best advice is to let yourself figure things out on your own time - i know i sound like somebody's mildly homophobic parents but there's no pressure to decide whether you're queer or not Right This Minute. eventually you'll be comfortable with whatever it is that's going on and i promise it'll be easier then. the self discovery is not fun but there is hope !!!

but yeah the truth is you can't rush it. it took me years to figure out i was trans after first knowing that i was queer and honestly i have questioned Everything that i at first thought for sure was true, and that's just how it is unfortunately. it's a process !! things change ! and as you keep figuring things out you're going to be more comfortable with a lot of it but it will NOT be fun to make that transition in the beginning. i believe in you though !!! you are already making good progress!!

about your parents - it really, really depends on your situation. if you don't feel safe telling them then YOU DO NOT HAVE TO. you don't owe anyone an explanation of your sexuality, particularly not if you know it will be poorly received. even if your parents are going to be okay with it, you don't have any obligation to tell them, especially if you're uncomfortable with it. talking about it is often really hard at first too, so the rules to live by here are (a) make sure you're safe and (b) you don't have to tell anyone anything you're not comfortable with!!

i don't know if any of this is coherent or anything but i hope it helps maybe somewhat? i hope you have a wonderful day too <33

#(hi [name redacted] btw) #also: if the restraint is 'it would be easier if i were straight' then there's a good chance you are queer #but - if you do turn out to be straight after questioning for a while that is totally fair and okay! #any way that it ends it means you have figured things out! yay self discovery!! #<3 #i don't feel super qualified to give advice on this but i hope this is something ???